lilwetdick:


if you have a sister, will your father allow a man earning 30k to marry your sister? pls be realistic

u r so fvckin myopic! how much was ur father earning when he married ur mother? ur type feels entitled to reap where they have not sown, u r infected with the spirit of stagnation, that is why u tink some earning 30k today will do so permanently, if u have a sister, bera tell her to develop herself. Even dangote still dey find money.

funmisticqueen:
that is [b]broke speech [/b]right there

You funny, Broke Speech indeed

lilwetdick:


a man with vision and focus wont be earning 30k. i believe in spousal support, both couples should work, combine income but 30k is nothing

how will this 30k earner pay for rent before they marry, who is bringing whom to the house, the man or the woman.

u spoilt everything from when you said a man with vision won’t earn 30k. I used to earn 30k from my teaching job before i moved to canada. i had vision then. If u say a man earning 30k should not get married, i understand but not that we didn’t have vision. please don’t make people earn that feel inferior. We all have our beginnings

wristbangle:
To be honest, I can't advise my sisters to settle for a man earning 30k except he has additional income and he is diligent, focused and got a big vision.

On the other hand, I can't settle for less. I can marry a lady with astute business concept, diligent and supportive even if her account is not bogus but to marry a lazy broke/hungry lady, that's a no go area for me.

@lilwetdick, I get your point but if you have a brother, can you agree he marries an unambitious and broke lady?

i like you thought, the reality is my brother cant marry an unambitious and broke lady.

Zinny25:
I can marry a man that earns 30k and support him as long as he meets the following criteria :

1. If He's a graduate
2. If He's hardworking
3. If He loves me so much, when I mean love, I mean genuine love
4. If He respects me
5. If He has a vision
6. If He has a mentor (like a spiritual father who he obeys and listens to)
7. If he's God fearing.

And who says the guys must always be the ones who earn more, work in shell, NNPC etc?? ladies can also work and earn good salary, they can make their husband rich, it shouldn't always have to be the man.

Some guys will only make it when they marry, and if you say you won't get married because you are earning 30k, then you will remain like that all your life.

What if the guy has been destined to make money at the age of 50

Hi..
Check your dm

OP, abeg no dey advice these ladies again. Many il come here now n say it is the words of a broke ass guy. Leave them let them go marry the rich guy na. Time il tell, let us know how many times they il keep divorcing and remarrying rich guys. Body go tell them. After all na baby mama many rich guys dey opt for now lol!

Pwettyella:

U r getting it wrong
A woman with a vision and goal can marry a man with vision and goals
But starting with a 30k income?
It's not a good start

so, do you talk about visions and goals at least one of the countless times when broke-ass women without jobs (not even a 10k job) get married?

akube34:
u spoilt everything from when you said a man with vision won’t earn 30k. I used to earn 30k from my teaching job before i moved to canada. i had vision then. If u say a man earning 30k should not get married, i understand but not that we didn’t have vision. please don’t make people earn that feel inferior. We all have our beginnings

ok but lets be realistic, many men dont have that vision you have, many are comfortable in their position..only the risk taker become successful.

CHoccolaTE:
Is it not in this same Nigeria people marry when earning peanuts, hoping God will turn them to millionaires overnight but decades later they are still struggling and now they have turned their hopes to their innocent children and are now hoping the kids will make it big and take them out of poverty in old age.

Vicious Circle??

You are quite unwise with the way you are reasoning and people are liking your comment. Is a pity. Somebody earning 100k went to add more value and you think he will be jobless. Thank God you are not the one to employ him. People like you can't see beyond the present comfort zone.

lilwetdick:


when did i say you dont deserve your fantasy love? but since you wanna comment lets comment.

so basically you dont have experience in lecturing but went for phd

your earn 10k as stipend and your only source of income and you think you can marry with 10k, because you think you have potential after 2 years

now what are the chances of you getting a job after doing your phd, dont forget you have no experience in teaching

most people i know doing phd are lecturers working in the system already.

i think you don enter one chance, a phd without teaching experience in the university is a waste of time.

have you seen recent job adverts for phd holders, a minimum of 10 years experience is required for you to get a teaching job.

to be fair a bachelor degree guy earning 100k is better than you even after you finish your program

nobody is gonna pay you a good pay if you dont have the experience and dont think, you can get good employment in the private sector because you will be over qualified. you will have the prestige of being a Dr but no cash.

people that follow where the money is are better off than people that follow their dreams

My sisters husband was earning less than 30k before they got married but now he earns close to 400k, always be rational in your decision, its not you that will be in the marriage but your sister , allow your sister to choose for herself ; you as a person should be more concern about the vision, aspirations, dreams of any man that your sister wants to marry not you coming up with the idea of whether or not to allow your sister marry someone who warns 30k.


Be guided.............

lilwetdick:


if you have a sister, will your father allow a man earning 30k to marry your sister? pls be realistic

I don’t think lts ideal bt it depends on what their plans are also.

lilwetdick:


ok but lets be realistic, many men dont have that vision you have, many are comfortable in their position..only the risk taker become successful.

bro i support every thing you say. my own issue was just about the vision thing.

A person can only marry when earning 30k only when he is above 35. if you are between 25-34 and you wan go rush marry with 30k, that person must be stupid

themaestro08:
was the eatery/restaurant in Nigeria? I mean where exactly is it located?

Sinoni restaurant...its in abuja

What a pity? Some people don't know "people are suffering" a good woman should server her father when she is young, serve her husband once married, serve her child(ren) when her husband dies.... Someone said he can't advise his sister to marry a man earning 30k/month ... You have your own point but if you're born with silver spoon please ask your parents how they started, did you think this life is easy like that?
Remember riches also cry ..... Girls want to marry a rich man, did you think a man want to marry a poor girl too?
Use your brain before you talk here

gevnet:
You are quite unwise with the way you are reasoning and people are liking your comment. Is a pity. Somebody earning 100k went to add more value and you think he will be jobless. Thank God you are not the one to employ him. People like you can't see beyond the present comfort zone.

sorry you are dumb

phd is for those doing research not those working in the private sector

with experience, certification and a master degree you can move forward fast in the private sector,if you like after that you can have a phd just for pride

if you wanna be a lecturer, it important you get the lecturer job first and then proceed to do your phd

if you think because you have a phd then automatically you will move up the ladder in the private sector, you are joking..infact nobody will employ you

Babaheekmat:
Am earning less than 20k. So, I won't marry abi.. I need wife too..

it depends on ur age bro. if you are young, leave am now

ChieduJoshua081:

Get away from me

Go get a job broh.

akube34:
it depends on ur age bro. if you are young, leave am now

pls tell them

ola9ja:
My sisters husband was earning less than 30k before they got married but now he earns close to 400k, always be rational in your decision, its not you that will be in the marriage but your sister , allow your sister to choose for herself ; you as a person should be more concern about the vision, aspirations, dreams of any man that your sister wants to marry not you coming up with the idea of whether or not to allow your sister marry someone who warns 30k.


Be guided.............

how do you know your sister's husband salary like he told you?? who goes about telling family members their salary

everybody has a brother that earn 250k now because they married when he was earning 12k

akube34:
it depends on ur age bro. if you are young, leave am now

Leave am and do what? You got better job for me?

Gandollaar:
Go get a job broh.

I don't need a job. Am building a company. Am a CEO. You think it's everybody u see here that are jobless? I am far richer than you or anybody in your generation from you till the 10th one will ever be. Please stop talking to me.

Babaheekmat:


Leave am and do what? You got better job for me?

na advice
take am or leave am

i no get strength

There are females that can manage a broke negroe earning 30k. But the question is do you like them in return? Will the broke negroe cherish such one even when they finally earn more change? If you look closely at all these broke negroes, you will discover that they themselves have longer throat for where woman dey. That is when you will discover than most of these negroes don't have good morals.

'I want working class, I want a beautiful woman with big nyash and breasts, I want a good cook, I want a bed freak, I want a prayer warrior, I want a loyal woman, I want a quiet woman, I want a virgin, I want a never grow old girl, I want flat tummy girl, I want girl that can make me rich, I want this , I want that'.......all these criteria, only you want them. But you don't want the poor females to have their own criteria. Are you OK?

Op, carry your leg waka go street and pick your mate. Stop all these trash talk. E no dey enter person head because this is late 2019
. No single invention from you.

You are in an era where some females only want your $perm and believe me when I say they are fast increasing.

Go and marry your mate and stop crying here, you hear? Longer throat.

sladimeji:

it's your sister's choice...may be unlike you, she sees more than what is in front of her

She sees Nothing!
Other than the Normal Blindness that Love comes with.

This topic can never be exhausted but nevertheless let me correct an impression.

The poor will always be there in this world. Are you now saying that they should not procreate.

The thought alone places you shoulder to shoulder with 'Hitler' who gased the Jews and tried to dominate the world.

lilwetdick:


man i am not living in poverty

i will use this bible passage to illustrate my condition

Proverbs 13:22: “A good man leaves an inheritance to his children's children.

By your analysis, Sani Abacha was a good man because he left inheritance for them.

I am happily married...... how much I dey earn 30k plus he no reach 40, but thank God for the kind of wife I have...... ladies you guys have the key to a happy home and a fast marriage.

akube34:
na advice
take am or leave am

i no get strength

Laughing. No problem bro
. If job show. No forget me o

IyaTola:
After seeing the post https://www.nairaland.com/5456607/ladies-marry-guy-earns-n30k of a man earning 30k shouldn't consider marriage Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy That Earns N30k? by ejitest1(m): 6:04pm On Oct 06 - felt I needed to post my opinion so others can learn.

If your idea of a good marraige is to get a man or woman with a good source of income from both parties and a comfortable lifestyle..

It's fine BUT>>>>

let me tell u the truth..

All those things can be wiped in days.. e.g job's good lifestyle wiped in a matter of days...

So what if he or she was a multi billionaire b4 you decided to marry them.

After few months or years, demons of parking everything appears and parks everything? Oh you forgot 1 bad loan gone south can cripple everything?

We focus on one thing, always related to money gain.. nobody talks about the spiritual aspect of marriage.. everyone always goes with - he must be working in shell or NNPC.. We have seen people who retired from those places and went back to square minus 0.

I told my sisters, never should a man bulk salary or business profits energize you to be a reason to want to marry him because if anything happens to that job or business - you will lose interests in the marriage - then divorce...

Marry a man who got a purpose, drive, vision, someone you can support to be something.. from scratch so that even if he crashed you can always advice him back to the top.

Those kinda marriages last long, majority of those men will love you till death.. even if they cheat, you will never find out... and they can never say "where were you wen I was building my wealth?"

When my uncle's friend (Now working in NNPC) a muslim was told to add another wife, I was in that room - he said in Hausa and I quote "you guys were not there when this lady (his wife) had to sell akara to sponsor his transport fares looking for jobs, so I don't want anyone competing Me with her."

If it was all about the money, you think faith Oyedepo would have married David Oyedepo? Am sure he wasn't seeing 30k monthly salary when he started Living faith church...

Btw, ladies - am not implying you should go marry a lazy broke man, rather marry a man who is starting little with dreams and strong visions, such that if everything crashed, he can pickup again and fight back.

I find that kind of girl but I no see so I decide to remain single

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IyaTola:
After seeing the post https://www.nairaland.com/5456607/ladies-marry-guy-earns-n30k of a man earning 30k shouldn't consider marriage Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy That Earns N30k? by ejitest1(m): 6:04pm On Oct 06 - felt I needed to post my opinion so others can learn.

If your idea of a good marraige is to get a man or woman with a good source of income from both parties and a comfortable lifestyle..

It's fine BUT>>>>

let me tell u the truth..

All those things can be wiped in days.. e.g job's good lifestyle wiped in a matter of days...

So what if he or she was a multi billionaire b4 you decided to marry them.

After few months or years, demons of parking everything appears and parks everything? Oh you forgot 1 bad loan gone south can cripple everything?

We focus on one thing, always related to money gain.. nobody talks about the spiritual aspect of marriage.. everyone always goes with - he must be working in shell or NNPC.. We have seen people who retired from those places and went back to square minus 0.

I told my sisters, never should a man bulk salary or business profits energize you to be a reason to want to marry him because if anything happens to that job or business - you will lose interests in the marriage - then divorce...

Marry a man who got a purpose, drive, vision, someone you can support to be something.. from scratch so that even if he crashed you can always advice him back to the top.

Those kinda marriages last long, majority of those men will love you till death.. even if they cheat, you will never find out... and they can never say "where were you wen I was building my wealth?"

When my uncle's friend (Now working in NNPC) a muslim was told to add another wife, I was in that room - he said in Hausa and I quote "you guys were not there when this lady (his wife) had to sell akara to sponsor his transport fares looking for jobs, so I don't want anyone competing Me with her."

If it was all about the money, you think faith Oyedepo would have married David Oyedepo? Am sure he wasn't seeing 30k monthly salary when he started Living faith church...

Btw, ladies - am not implying you should go marry a lazy broke man, rather marry a man who is starting little with dreams and strong visions, such that if everything crashed, he can pickup again and fight back.