sassysure:

Yes o.
Everything u can think off.
He didn't go to antenatal during my first pregnancy. I didnt go at all but all the hospital visits he was there asking questions. Subsequent, he attended.

I only talked about the pregnancy and antenatal.
But, I can as well talk about her obsession.
Either that 1, she is afraid she will lose you as she never expected somebody like u will come her way,
2, she has insecurity problem. Refer to 1. People she trusted has been disappointing her.
3, she has low self esteem, still refer to 1.
And u are making her fear come true by contacting your ex.
As for the aggression, refer to her background.
In all its about, communication, assurance and promise.

Good luck.

You now making me feel like I am the op.


Anyway. Kudos to your hubby.

You both need to discuss critically about the breaking phones ish before she upgrade to the tv, mirror, or smash the car window, she loves attention and has anger issues.

sassysure:

Yes o.
Everything u can think off.
He didn't go to antenatal during my first pregnancy. I didnt go at all but all the hospital visits he was there asking questions. Subsequent, he attended.

I only talked about the pregnancy and antenatal.
But, I can as well talk about her obsession.
Either that 1, she is afraid she will lose you as she never expected somebody like u will come her way,

you got it with this your no 1, her colleagues at work place use to talk about me with her, how lucky she is. She married a handsome guy that adores her, drop and pick her from work everyday etc and my head will be swelling initially but not anymore am tired

Humans are really trying their best to reduce marriage to a joke.

Cheato64:
I got married in 2018, I love my wife so much and I know she loves me too but my wife is too dramatic, she always claim she trust me but mehn she doesn't let me out of her site, I do everything and it's affecting me, we have a son and another is on the way, she has refuse to learn how to drive on purpose, I take her everywhere antenatal, market (hate this one the most), I drop and pick her from work, am forced to go church or other programs which I wouldn't like to go. She goes through my phone every 3days most especially at night. She noticed I snore I asked for a separate room, she will never let me, she insist we sleep with light on, Sometimes I pray for Nepa to take light. The day I called an ex that works in bank to assist me with transaction due to crowd, she went through my phone saw it, I had to explain out of anger she smashed my phone she does this very often she has smashed hers b4. I feel like running away for a week but I can't leave my work or our son and she will might go to my parents which I wouldn't want. Pls I need help on how to tackle this wahala

Are you that weak or you are too soft to take a decision that will give you freedom and happiness

I laugh when men says women don't have brains

Am average woman knows how to handle her man

She choses not to drive so that you will always be there for her

Smart woman, that's what she is

If you can't take a bold decision now, once those kids gets to teenage age, it will be extremely difficult to pull out

You think you are doing favour to her, Mr man, you are creating burden for yourself not yer

She is on her game and she has mastered the act

Why are you afraid of her reporting you to your family

Is it that you want to remain with it or that your family will disown you

Use your brain that's why it's in your head

If you don't know, fear women, they must do things to their advantage

not when your moniker says you are a cheater, i dont believe you, she have her reasons

Most ladies who slept with married men that exactly what they do afraid dey husband will sleep with young sisters

Here is my advice for you: divorce your wife. She will kill you before your time.

U DON BUY MARKET
LOOL

Weak man, coming here to ask for advice. Don't you know how to manage a woman?
Your woman knows you're weak, that's why she's taking you for granted.

A woman is like a baby. She needs love, attention, care, disciple and leadership. If you can't provide the last 2, she can't respect you.

Small time now, your kids would join in messing you up.

Divorce her...One day she go soon stab you with knife..Nonesense!

Lol i dey read this stuff dey laff, no worry, na only time, she go tire, maybe when you knack her third belle now, she'll pipe down but seriously the smashing stuff is serious issue, she has to stop o!

Be the man you are and take charge!

All these yoruba men and their problems with women...everyday problem and post. Learn how to set boundaries like Igbo men. No Igbo woman or any woman can look the phone of her Igbo husband if dey born 'am well. Fear no go allow her; she will be sent packing immediately and Umunna meeting called. Igbo men no dey tolerate nonsense which is why Igbo family structure is intact. If you allow women run your home or family, what you see in Yorubaland and Dahomey will be the result....family problems, infidelity, high divorce rate, polyandry(women with multiple men or husbands) and bastard children everywhere from multiple fathers with same woman...just chaos! No race or society can thrive with such disorder. I may not agree with Adeyinka Grandson but he delved on this issue big time and how its destroying Yorubas.

Please, let me ask, are you the husband or the wife
Because ayam not understating....

Have u thought of what could happen if she finds out that u posted this online

Hehhh.....God o

Sounds like Nigerian film....
Anyways try the silent treatment

Warning: Am no marriage expact....Obviously..... I mean just look at my advice

Cheato64:
I got married in 2018, I love my wife so much and I know she loves me too but my wife is too dramatic.

She always claim she trusts me but mehn she doesn't let me out of her sight. I do everything and it's affecting me, we have a son and another is on the way, she has refused to learn how to drive on purpose, I take her everywhere, antenatal, market (hate this one the most), I drop and pick her from work, am forced to go church or other programs which I wouldn't like to go.

She goes through my phone every 3 days most especially at night. She noticed I snore I asked for a separate room, she will never let me, she Insists we sleep with light on.

Sometimes I pray for Nepa to take light. The day I called an ex that works in bank to assist me with transaction due to crowd, she went through my phone saw it, I had to explain out of anger she smashed my phone she does this very often she has smashed hers b4.

I feel like running away for a week but I can't leave my work or our son and she might go to my parents which I wouldn't want.

Pls I need help on how to tackle this wahala

U came to the wrong place, na kids full here

SMASHED YOUR PHONE PHONE JUST LIKE THAT, YOU MEAN YOU WILL FOLD YOUR ARMS AND BE WATCHING HER? IS SHE AN ALAKADA?. YOU MEAN SMASHED YOUR PHONES UP TO FOUR TIMES AND YOU WILL BE LIKE LOOKING AT HER, INFACT OGA, YOU WORTH TO BE GIVEN A MEDAL.

Sir u are a gud man and it is obvious that u love ur wife pls keep it up. Dnt mind some of d people giving advice here, some of them dnt even hav girlfriend.

daddytime:
Lol

Una no date before marriage? You couldn't have missed some of these traits even though some people are good at hiding their true characters while dating.

...Got married in 2018. Had a son and another on the way. He was so specific about the marriage and forgot to tell us if she gave birth out of wedlock or even dated.

Don't bother yourself responding to stories like this

OP becareful. Most advisers here are not married. Your wife loves you so be open to her. If you don’t have anything to hide then you’re a free man and if you run things then get ready to do it without her total consent. I understand it all bro.

Women dont knw wat d want

LOGOBELT:
You have really tried discovering her faults.

The next thing is to study her... Like what are the things that makes her angry? What are the things i do that piss her off? Most importantly, what does she want?

The matrimonial bedroom is not just a sleeping room... Wake her up at night, talk to her solemnly, once again i said solemnly...

As for your chat with your ex Biko, end it "its better to stay off Ex especially when you are married, to prevent Family Palava"

As for driving her to the market, antenatal and church, boss its your RESPONSIBILITY as the husband.

We men only show love to our partner before marriage, once she is in, you find it difficult to continue what you started.

Like I said, yoy have discovered her faults, next is to study her......

After that, next is to wake her up at night, say sweet and emotion capturing words to her, then when she fall for it.... Hit her with the words " Dear, i want to discuss something with you" while you caress her. Talk to her about it, and am sure she will listen.

Women aren't that DIFFICULT you just need to ADJUST a little, so that ONE TROUSER CAN FIT YOU TOO

Cheato64:
I got married in 2018, I love my wife so much and I know she loves me too but my wife is too dramatic.

She always claim she trusts me but mehn she doesn't let me out of her sight. I do everything and it's affecting me, we have a son and another is on the way, she has refused to learn how to drive on purpose, I take her everywhere, antenatal, market (hate this one the most), I drop and pick her from work, am forced to go church or other programs which I wouldn't like to go.

She goes through my phone every 3 days most especially at night. She noticed I snore I asked for a separate room, she will never let me, she Insists we sleep with light on.

Sometimes I pray for Nepa to take light. The day I called an ex that works in bank to assist me with transaction due to crowd, she went through my phone saw it, I had to explain out of anger she smashed my phone she does this very often she has smashed hers b4.

I feel like running away for a week but I can't leave my work or our son and she might go to my parents which I wouldn't want.

Pls I need help on how to tackle this wahala

I don’t like people who overreact for anything. U need to let her know she can’t behave just anyhow because of minor issues, that her overreaction and jealousy is becoming an obsession which isn’t healthy. Ure probably a good guy husband. Sm Yoruba demons wudnt make it funny for her at all. She will get tired and relax unless she doesn’t like her peace of mind.

See I Can Tolorate Anything, Smashing phone or Forcing to Do Things I Don Want to Do, by The Time I Give Her Flying Nording, I'll Forget She Was Pregnant... The Fact That She's Pregnant or She Freedom Doesn't Mean She should Do Anything or Come And checking My Phone

She is carrying your second child. It could be a partial cause.

Communication, Communication, Communication...

Take your issues off this forum before ugly touts and chronic , broke w@nkers from dysfunctional homes give you animalistic advice that will turn your home that is barely 2years old to a jungle.

I am certain if your wife gives her side of the story, jaws will drop.

Would you want your wife to contact her ex for any help?

Think!!!!!

You are married to someone who might kill you someday.

catoluy:
All these yoruba men and their problems with women...everyday problem. No Igbo woman can look the phone of her husband if dey born 'am well. Fear no go allow her; she will be sent packing immediately and Umunna meeting called. Igbo men no dey tolerate nonsense.

Abu m onye igbo

As much as many here will applaud you for your patience, I think you are emotionally being abused. With time you will become toxic and bitter and love will start dying. One of the major reasons you have not reacted yet is due t her pregnancy and your baby.

I think you should man up. Let me tell you what you may not know. We, women like to control our men but when we begin to, we hate them for being push about.

Take your stand, enforce your decision. Reading your sms or answering your calls.... I don't think thjs js necessary oooo.... But indomi generation will come here and be shouting love and understanding. There are things we shouldn't know as to remain sane without hbp, because we women can easily misunderstand things. Once in a long way create room for jealousy and do your underground searching but when a man wants to cheat... Even his phone will help him to hid his sms and calls when you pick it up.

Sigh

Cheato64:
I got married in 2018, I love my wife so much and I know she loves me too but my wife is too dramatic.

She always claim she trusts me but mehn she doesn't let me out of her sight. I do everything and it's affecting me, we have a son and another is on the way, she has refused to learn how to drive on purpose, I take her everywhere, antenatal, market (hate this one the most), I drop and pick her from work, am forced to go church or other programs which I wouldn't like to go.

She goes through my phone every 3 days most especially at night. She noticed I snore I asked for a separate room, she will never let me, she Insists we sleep with light on.

Sometimes I pray for Nepa to take light. The day I called an ex that works in bank to assist me with transaction due to crowd, she went through my phone saw it, I had to explain out of anger she smashed my phone she does this very often she has smashed hers b4.

I feel like running away for a week but I can't leave my work or our son and she might go to my parents which I wouldn't want.

Pls I need help on how to tackle this wahala

Well, you must have done something that made her to distrust you my brother.
My last born plays his game on my phone next to my wife when I am relaxing in my room
The most important thing is your admission that you both love one another. So, try to get her to feel secure around.

Op the only two things you complained about that I think is over reaching is the part where you have to drive her to the market and sleeping with the lights on, every other point she is line.

I'm very sure your wife have very good reasons why she's monitoring you closely and if I were in her shoes I'll do same, even your moniker gives you away as a suspect.