Injera:

Now I believe that Yoruba's are superior to ibos. What obsession with Yoruba's??

What makes u think I’m not Yoruba also. I only said that cos of a trend nothing to do with superior. Lol

But how do you guys end up giving these women so much liberty that they start feeling like it is their god given right to control you guys?

God knows no woman on earth in the name of a wife can try that shît with me.

The kain beating she go receive the first time she tries it will be a constant reminder to her that there's always a bound that even the so called marriage of a thing cannot cross...

Nonsense.

BiggyB242:


Hmm, you're praying for a jealous woman, Na your death sentence you wan sign so. Check out those women who killed their husband 80 percent thought their husband was cheating.

Funny. When she have access to everything you do. Bro I will gladly accept hmm. Women who kill their hubby have trust issues and they kill with practical or real deals of what there hubby is doing. Always date before marriage and you say no. Know what you can manage or live with hmm jealous partner I can live with

Emodeee:




You now making me feel like I am the op.


Anyway. Kudos to your hubby.

Her Superman Mr. Perfect hubby. I hope she ain't feeding us lies

you and your wife has no issue. she just have this hot and raw love for you


another one is on the way means she's pregnant? and you're proposing to runaway for a week? it shows you don't really love this lady perhaps you she was the only option left for you. at her conditions she need much love, attention and care. continue doing that bro, when she delivered then you both can addressed this issue or you both visit a counsellor


this is not an issue, more pillar of trust and communication is what's lacking behind when she delivered, you can easily addressed it

Cheato64:
I got married in 2018, I love my wife so much and I know she loves me too but my wife is too dramatic.

She always claim she trusts me but mehn she doesn't let me out of her sight. I do everything and it's affecting me, we have a son and another is on the way, she has refused to learn how to drive on purpose, I take her everywhere, antenatal, market (hate this one the most), I drop and pick her from work, am forced to go church or other programs which I wouldn't like to go.

She goes through my phone every 3 days most especially at night. She noticed I snore I asked for a separate room, she will never let me, she Insists we sleep with light on.

Sometimes I pray for Nepa to take light. The day I called an ex that works in bank to assist me with transaction due to crowd, she went through my phone saw it, I had to explain out of anger she smashed my phone she does this very often she has smashed hers b4.

I feel like running away for a week but I can't leave my work or our son and she might go to my parents which I wouldn't want.

Pls I need help on how to tackle this wahala

She will Kill u soon

Cheato64:
I got married in 2018, I love my wife so much and I know she loves me too but my wife is too dramatic.

She always claim she trusts me but mehn she doesn't let me out of her sight. I do everything and it's affecting me, we have a son and another is on the way, she has refused to learn how to drive on purpose, I take her everywhere, antenatal, market (hate this one the most), I drop and pick her from work, am forced to go church or other programs which I wouldn't like to go.

She goes through my phone every 3 days most especially at night. She noticed I snore I asked for a separate room, she will never let me, she Insists we sleep with light on.

Sometimes I pray for Nepa to take light. The day I called an ex that works in bank to assist me with transaction due to crowd, she went through my phone saw it, I had to explain out of anger she smashed my phone she does this very often she has smashed hers b4.

I feel like running away for a week but I can't leave my work or our son and she might go to my parents which I wouldn't want.

Pls I need help on how to tackle this wahala

Man! Of all you said, sleeping with light on is a deal breaker for me, can’t sleep with light on.

Your wife has serious anger issues and it’s just as bad as physical abuse. See a physician! Talk to someone! (Honestly, talk to your wife)

Ebidosia o na ato oo... Darling darling!!

oldtruth:


...Got married in 2018. Had a son and another on the way. He was so specific about the marriage and forgot to tell us if she gave birth out of wedlock or even dated.

Don't bother yourself responding to stories like this

got married 27 Jan 2018 had my son Nov 14, second is coming around April 2020.

vickydankal:
As much as many here will applaud you for your patience, I think you are emotionally being abused. With time you will become toxic and bitter and love will start dying. One of the major reasons you have not reacted yet is due t her pregnancy and your baby.

I think you should man up. Let me tell you what you may not know. We, women like to control our men but when we begin to, we hate them for being push about.

Take your stand, enforce your decision. Reading your sms or answering your calls.... I don't think thjs js necessary oooo.... But indomi generation will come here and be shouting love and understanding. There are things we shouldn't know as to remain sane without hbp, because we women can easily misunderstand things. Once in a long way create room for jealousy and do your underground searching but when a man wants to cheat... Even his phone will help him to hid his sms and calls when you pick it up.

Have you heard from her side before 'thinking' he may be abused?

What is 'we women.....'? Please, speak for yourself.

Some couples look at each others phones. Some don't. Whatever rocks their boat.

Cheato64:
I got married in 2018, I love my wife so much and I know she loves me too but my wife is too dramatic.

She always claim she trusts me but mehn she doesn't let me out of her sight. I do everything and it's affecting me, we have a son and another is on the way, she has refused to learn how to drive on purpose, I take her everywhere, antenatal, market (hate this one the most), I drop and pick her from work, am forced to go church or other programs which I wouldn't like to go.

She goes through my phone every 3 days most especially at night. She noticed I snore I asked for a separate room, she will never let me, she Insists we sleep with light on.

Sometimes I pray for Nepa to take light. The day I called an ex that works in bank to assist me with transaction due to crowd, she went through my phone saw it, I had to explain out of anger she smashed my phone she does this very often she has smashed hers b4.

[/b]I feel like running away for a week but I can't leave my work or our son and she might go to my parents which I wouldn't want. [b]

Pls I need help on how to tackle this wahala

On a serious note its quite heartbreaking you are experience this nightmares from your wife, sorry about that.

My advice

Have a heart to heart discussion with her regarding this issue (be dead serious)

Consult a marriage therapist.

if all seems not to work involve her elders.

olril17:

I am not responsible for your misery...
otherwise you will make your point cogently without having to insult another unknown individual....peleee

Guy if u want to advice, advice... Don't spoil someone's home.... If u use man authority fully like a dictator in ur home... Walahi, even ur children will hate u for life...

So u can keep the man in control advice to urself...
Some marital issues deals with total compromise, if not... U are on a long thing

Better stick to ur wife like that cause if she change same you will still complain

Anybody who smashes stuff where angry is sick very sick

bluefilm:
But how do you guys end up giving these women so much liberty that they start feeling like it is their god given right to control you guys?

God knows no woman on earth in the name of a wofe can try that shît with me.

The kain beating she go receive the first time she tries it will be a constant reminder to her that there's always a bound that even the so called marriage of a thing cannot cross...

Nonsense.

Pray you marry a cool headed lady as wife oh lol....you will never understand until you wed them lol....they are commander in chief of battalion armed forces oh even without a single rifle they can do and undo


I use to think its gragra when I was single, but my brother, wife get power oh.....remember you have entrusted your whole life with this singular woman, which means she can even kill you without anybody knowing....she can poison you without a trace, she can stab you while asleep, she can do anything she likes.....so fear them lol

frozen70:


Are you that weak or you are too soft to take a decision that will give you freedom and happiness

I laugh when men says women don't have brains

Am average woman knows how to handle her man

She choses not to drive so that you will always be there for her

Smart woman, that's what she is

If you can't take a bold decision now, once those kids gets to teenage age, it will be extremely difficult to pull out

You think you are doing favour to her, Mr man, you are creating burden for yourself not yer

She is on her game and she has mastered the act

Why are you afraid of her reporting you to your family

Is it that you want to remain with it or that your family will disown you

Use your brain that's why it's in your head

If you don't know, fear women, they must do things to their advantage

Hmm. Are you sure you are a woman

vickydankal:
As much as many here will applaud you for your patience, I think you are emotionally being abused. With time you will become toxic and bitter and love will start dying. One of the major reasons you have not reacted yet is due t her pregnancy and your baby.

I think you should man up. Let me tell you what you may not know. We, women like to control our men but when we begin to, we hate them for being push about.

Take your stand, enforce your decision. Reading your sms or answering your calls.... I don't think thjs js necessary oooo.... But indomi generation will come here and be shouting love and understanding. There are things we shouldn't know as to remain sane without hbp, because we women can easily misunderstand things. Once in a long way create room for jealousy and do your underground searching but when a man wants to cheat... Even his phone will help him to hid his sms and calls when you pick it up.

Have you heard from her side before 'thinking' he may be facing abuse?

What is 'we women.....'? Please, speak for yourself.

Some couples look at each others phones. Some don't. Whatever rocks their boat.

She might get suicidal if you cheat on her so you better not. Whenever you make decisions stand by it and don’t worry she won’t have miscarriage many women go by bikes or keke to market etc

fredrick9:

Funny. When she have access to everything you do. Bro I will gladly accept hmm. Women who kill their hubby have trust issues and they kill with practical or real deals of what there hubby is doing. Always date before marriage and you say no. Know what you can manage or live with hmm jealous partner I can live with

"Jealous" and "trust issues" are interwoven.

Cheato64:
I got married in 2018, I love my wife so much and I know she loves me too but my wife is too dramatic.

She always claim she trusts me but mehn she doesn't let me out of her sight. I do everything and it's affecting me, we have a son and another is on the way, she has refused to learn how to drive on purpose, I take her everywhere, antenatal, market (hate this one the most), I drop and pick her from work, am forced to go church or other programs which I wouldn't like to go.

She goes through my phone every 3 days most especially at night. She noticed I snore I asked for a separate room, she will never let me, she Insists we sleep with light on.

Sometimes I pray for Nepa to take light. The day I called an ex that works in bank to assist me with transaction due to crowd, she went through my phone saw it, I had to explain out of anger she smashed my phone she does this very often she has smashed hers b4.

I feel like running away for a week but I can't leave my work or our son and she might go to my parents which I wouldn't want.

Pls I need help on how to tackle this wahala

You don buy market.........

daddytime:
Lol

Una no date before marriage? You couldn't have missed some of these traits even though some people are good at hiding their true characters while dating.

lol
I am sure he saw this. But either (1) "when we marry, she will stop" or (2) physical attraction and beauty made him ignore this character traits.

TheFacelessMan:
Deep down...you wouldn't find it amusing if she was in contact with her EX.

EVERY man knows this, let's put pretence aside.

Disclaimer - haven't read your post.

Modified - I wouldn't take phone smashing lightly.... but man, 2 kids in the space of how long ?

You need to be neutered.

neutered lmao is he a nama nama?

You should have notice that during your courtship days, since it's like that, I don't advice you to leave your home for a week, keep talking to her to let her know you are not cheating on her and be firm on your decisions since it won't have any adverse effects on the family.

koyyess:


Have you heard from her side before 'thinking' he may be abused?

What is 'we women.....'? Please, speak for yourself.

Some couples look at each others phones. Some don't. Whatever rocks their boat.

vickydankal is just too naive. vickydankal are you married?

Cheato64:
I got married in 2018, I love my wife so much and I know she loves me too but my wife is too dramatic.

She always claim she trusts me but mehn she doesn't let me out of her sight. I do everything and it's affecting me, we have a son and another is on the way, she has refused to learn how to drive on purpose, I take her everywhere, antenatal, market (hate this one the most), I drop and pick her from work, am forced to go church or other programs which I wouldn't like to go.

She goes through my phone every 3 days most especially at night. She noticed I snore I asked for a separate room, she will never let me, she Insists we sleep with light on.

Sometimes I pray for Nepa to take light. The day I called an ex that works in bank to assist me with transaction due to crowd, she went through my phone saw it, I had to explain out of anger she smashed my phone she does this very often she has smashed hers b4.

I feel like running away for a week but I can't leave my work or our son and she might go to my parents which I wouldn't want.

Pls I need help on how to tackle this wahala

may God help you to cope with her..... Nagging wife

themaestro08:




On a serious note its quite heartbreaking you are experience this nightmares from your wife, sorry about that.

My advice

Have a heart to heart discussion with her regarding this issue (be dead serious)

Consult a marriage therapist.

if all seems not to work involve her elders.

No be only marriage therapist, na marriage herbalist ....marriage therapist for a Nigerian wife hehe


The man has to find a way to make himself happy....and maybe get another secret phone and always lock that phone in the car.....spend more time at the office or business premises...or start hanging out but make sure you are providing every necessary things at home oh....but just find a way to be happy and ignore her wahala....don't make trouble with her oh before she mud you

Wifeys are lik Hitler in their marriages, only UN peace keeping negotiators can tame them, if you apply force you loose, if you deploy soldiers, you may die in the war lolz

Na tactical war you can only win by tactics, perseverance and patience

Just give her some time to deliver, she will come back to her senses. Some women can act "crazy" when they are pregnant.

Biodun1929:


Hmm. Are you sure you are a woman

Why did you ask ❓

LOGOBELT:
You have really tried discovering her faults.

The next thing is to study her... Like what are the things that makes her angry? What are the things i do that piss her off? Most importantly, what does she want?

The matrimonial bedroom is not just a sleeping room... Wake her up at night, talk to her solemnly, once again i said solemnly...

As for your chat with your ex Biko, end it "its better to stay off Ex especially when you are married, to prevent Family Palava"

As for driving her to the market, antenatal and church, boss its your RESPONSIBILITY as the husband.

We men only show love to our partner before marriage, once she is in, you find it difficult to continue what you started.

Like I said, yoy have discovered her faults, next is to study her......

After that, next is to wake her up at night, say sweet and emotion capturing words to her, then when she fall for it.... Hit her with the words " Dear, i want to discuss something with you" while you caress her. Talk to her about it, and am sure she will listen.

Women aren't that DIFFICULT you just need to ADJUST a little, so that ONE TROUSER CAN FIT YOU TOO

Even women will tell you women are difficult.

franchasng:
Pray you marry a cool headed lady as wife oh lol....you will never understand until you wed them lol....they are commander in chief of battalion armed forces oh even without a single rifle they can do and undo


I use to think its gragra when I was single, but my brother, wife get power oh.....remember you have entrusted your whole life with this singular woman, which means she can even kill you without anybody knowing....she can poison you without a trace, she can stab you while asleep, she can do anything she likes.....so fear them lol

Not me bro.

I define the rules of engagement from ab initio.

If you ever make the mistake of letting your wife know that she can exercise certain controlling techniques on you, and you are okay with it, then be prepared for whatever you get.

I know I will never make that mistake.

God forbid.

franchasng:
No be only marriage therapist, na marriage herbalist ....marriage therapist for a Nigerian wife hehe


The man has to find a way to make himself happy....and maybe get another secret phone and always lock that phone in the car.....spend more time at the office or business premises...or start hanging out but make sure you are providing every necessary things at home oh....but just find a way to be happy and ignore her wahala...[/b].don't make trouble with her oh before she mud you [b]

[b][/b]Wifeys are lik Hitler in their marriages, only UN peace keeping negotiators can tame them, if you apply force you loose, if you deploy soldiers, you may die in the war lolz

Na tactical war you can only win by tactics, perseverance and patience

Guy you wicked oo.

But op he is on point aha...

Cheato64:
got married 27 Jan 2018 had my son Nov 14, second is coming around April 2020.

Guy you try. Keep it up