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Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by joachi: 10:46am On Dec 30, 2019 |
Give him space. He will soon get tired. |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by healthserve(m): 11:23am On Dec 30, 2019 |
Bahddo: Didn't read it trust me from your first comment I took your mental snapshot and discern immediately not to waste time and energy on back and forths.Best of luck 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by Angrymode: 11:40am On Dec 30, 2019 |
richie240: Perfectly said. All He-diots should take note of this sermon because u won't hear such even in holy houses. |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by Babara1994(m): 11:57am On Dec 30, 2019 |
doitforyou: 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by DonMekino(m): 11:57am On Dec 30, 2019 |
my annoyance with the man is beating the wife in front of the kids.... he is mentally scaring those children 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by Babara1994(m): 11:59am On Dec 30, 2019 |
LilMissFavvy:She should apologize to him instead. Please don't promote and encourage evil. We are humans. |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by Babara1994(m): 12:01pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
Mrsprissy:You don't know how to talk. You insulted him. Don't put down a man especially in the presence of his children. Silly you!! |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by Wettoid123: 12:23pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
midnighter: I believe you are that same type of woman that don't have self respect what I mine even saying there is no need typing wasting my time with you cos u can never learn. Bye! |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by Zing85: 12:51pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
LilMissFavvy:Best response in the history of nairaland, see mummy Jr there is this Yoruba saying that when a husband has finished doing what he wants to do he will now use agidi to enter. PS if you beg him or try to talk to him or try to appear to friends and family that you are good your children, God will not make them motherless babies. Nobody is perfect especially in this Nigeria but when you are wrong you need to make up for it Merry Christmas and Happy New Year 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by Nobody: 1:21pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
In fact, right now I'm sitting inside my car backed under a tree at the airport, cos my wife offended me and I needed to get out of the house ASAP. I'll still eat her food, answer her but casually though until she "apologize". But if she refuses to apologize, I don't have a choice but to make peace. I'll be doing myself more harm than going to bed in this mood.. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by healthserve(m): 1:37pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
sitepricila: Na wa o. Women worldwide must be holding meeting to frustrate men this season 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by emonis88: 2:25pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
doitforyou:U who knows it all il one day get married and something might happen and u slap ur husband or pour water or tea on him and he decides that he wants a divorce, would you be happy about that? At least from ur own idea he is right to do so. Olodo! Learn from those with experience u so no, that u know more at the end of the day u mess things up with ur I too know. U mentioning my family here shows how inexperienced, myopic and daft that u r. So the olodo clearly defines u. Mumu |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by Pere123: 2:35pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
MADAM THE PROBLEM IS U DENIED HIM OF SEX DIRECTLY OR INDIRECTLY. |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by doitforyou(f): 2:36pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
emonis88:lol so why are you so triggered?! If you believe the idea of marriage is to be beaten to a pulp in front of your children on the day most families are celebrating, then I see no reason why you shouldn’t want that for the women in your family. Don’t you want good things for your family? 8 Likes |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by emonis88: 4:28pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
doitforyou:The best answer for those like you is silence. Which is to leave you to experience. When you r married for at least 10yrs, then we can ve a conversation. Marriage is a journey, those who know, know. Go n ask for the meaning. Bye see u when you are married for 10yrs remember. |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by LilMissFavvy(f): 5:05pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
Merry Christmas to you too. Happy New year in advance. Zing85: |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by tammie24: 5:29pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
Plead:aswear |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by BRATISLAVA: 6:06am On Dec 31, 2019 |
midnighter: Lol. Because she's told you she did nothing wrong, you've even imagined the tone she used. What tone can one use to ask for a family picture? She already agreed to his bad dressing by asking him for a picture, still, knowing that he didn't change his clothes and was looking unpresentable. Can you not simply assess the information provided? Why must you invent the other part to satisfy the narrative that all women are trouble makers? Madam, what tone do you want her to use? Is her husband a God that he cannot be spoken to because he is her husband? Should she live in perpetual fear of speaking to him because of "tone"? You can make any type of excuse for domestic violence. Your world of innocent abusers and fearful slaves tells us that you have issues with women. If you are one, you are either living in extreme servitude or you make up these things to please men even when you can see there's no reason (which is still justification) for brutality. What if each time men did something to annoy women, they had the physical strength and bone density to beat them up? What if each time a man opened his mouth and another person picked "offense" they decided to beat them up? Can you now see why it's madness to support men beating women for speaking? 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by BRATISLAVA: 6:14am On Dec 31, 2019 |
Glorygrace: Why? Is she living with a beast or with her husband? Has he watched his words with her first? It's not as if he watches his actions with her. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by BRATISLAVA: 6:17am On Dec 31, 2019 |
Jewessgratitude: What if each time men did something to annoy women, they had the physical strength and bone density to beat them up? What if each time a man opened his mouth and another person picked "offense" they decided to beat them up? Can you now see why it's madness to support men beating women for speaking? 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by BRATISLAVA: 6:19am On Dec 31, 2019 |
baby124: This is likely the case. But people have even invented the tone she is using. Maybe there's one "submissive and humble" lady out there who needs to pay her bills and is using him for food, so he's now seeing her as a pest. |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by BRATISLAVA: 6:21am On Dec 31, 2019 |
MariaAngeles:But you know that male and female domestic violence apologists in Nigeria are more than the rational ones. And they will tell you they have done a great analysis when they never address the issue of the battery on the victim. The aggressor is always right. The person who is crying with a bloody mouth should go apologize. Crazy violent people 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by BRATISLAVA: 6:26am On Dec 31, 2019 |
Enwhen: She must act fast? Lol. He's suddenly under a spell? Thought she used the wrong tone when speaking to her master. Slaves mustn't do that, you know. Funny how he is depressed, but what about her, she cannot be? The excuses for domestic violence are funny, because only a batterer or victim suffering Stockholm syndrome can come up with them 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by BRATISLAVA: 6:32am On Dec 31, 2019 |
Plead: I've been saying it. And they told me that it's a level playing field. That if she must talk he must beat her, until she holds silence so that he won't beat her so that peace will reign. Isn't that modern slavery? It's sounds like blacks on cotton fields with their white Masters. Just look at some responses I got, and if you follow that thread you will see more twisted reasoning: https://www.nairaland.com/5583214/hit-wife/20#84959801 https://www.nairaland.com/5583214/hit-wife/22#84963347 https://www.nairaland.com/5583214/hit-wife/28#84987879 These are the sort of creatures you're responding to. https://www.nairaland.com/5583214/hit-wife/28#84987203 They masquerade in human skin. If you call out their support for violence, they call you a woman! Some faceless men will tell you that your parents were deadbeats! They will make foolish, baseless allegations (about themselves). Then go into hiding. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by emonis88: 7:21am On Dec 31, 2019 |
What of verbal abuse men suffer from women? |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by midnighter(f): 8:47am On Dec 31, 2019 |
BRATISLAVA: You need to understand the difference between the words "justification" and "reason" before quoting me again my sweet I have noticed that in these kinds of threads, you tend to jump through hoops just to extricate the woman instead of calling a spade a spade. Women are not innocent 100% of the time just because they are women. Is it impossible for you to imagine that she used a harsh tone on the man when telling him to go and change or take the picture? Because all women are saints and never shout at people right? And all men are just monsters who go about beating and slapping the innocent, seraphic womenfolk because they feel like it smh You also ignore all the contextual information in a post and pick out one sentence that the person wrote and use it to begin a pointless argument, which makes trying to reason with you quite futile. All these exaggerated terms like "fearful slaves" and "innocent abusers" is just you projecting your misplaced indulgence onto a situation that doesnt relate with what youre saying. You think youre helping womens rights by doing this, but youre actually making the situation for women much worse. If you want women to be treated better then give them respect they deserve by holding them accountable for their actions instead of overprotecting and babying them all the time just to prove a point. |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by BRATISLAVA: 9:03am On Dec 31, 2019 |
midnighter: When you discovered there is no justification for beating women, you now called it reason. But you know there is no reason to beat another human up just because you don't like what they're saying. My aim isn't to help women rights. I want men to be responsible for their actions and to realize that there is no "reason" to beat about person for what ever it is they said. Otherwise men should prepare to be beaten for speaking. You will disagree with that, but you know that it is the same thing. What do you mean babying? For the sake of sanity, you do not baby a person when you tell them that they have freedom of speech and freedom not to be beaten for it. But can I blame you? You live in a place where nobody has any human rights. You've rationalized abuse and given it "reasons". That is why you see domestic battery as okay. This is how men were supporting infidelity and battery until their daughters called them crying with the same issues that they did to women themselves. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by midnighter(f): 9:04am On Dec 31, 2019 |
BRATISLAVA: What is the difference between a justification and a reason....? That is what I asked you. |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by midnighter(f): 9:08am On Dec 31, 2019 |
BRATISLAVA: You have asserted this exact argument before and you didnt respond when I countered it; no need to keep repeating this tired spiel because we both know that you are unable to defend it Im happy to see that you have posted the link up there so that anybody reading it can see how irrational your arguments are. |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by BRATISLAVA: 9:14am On Dec 31, 2019 |
midnighter: But, sweets, how did you determine the tone the woman used that warranted the beating? Were you there to hear this tone of which you speak? She's given you her own account, why isn't that enough for you? Why are you trying to incriminate her by all means? You don't want to baby her, right? Is that why you invented her tone? Does she have the right to freedom of speech or not? Oh, you are the one who argued that beating her up and her speaking are a level ground with that crack house. No need to discuss this any further. Your stand is to support domestic violence and other violence by looking for "reasons" why it happened. He could as well have killed her and you will still find "reasons"and "tone". Do you think the police care for your "reasons"? He will be arrested for crime, not for what she said to him. Why? Because what she said is not a crime. Beating her is. Let's not baby him. No "reason" you give will free him from jail if she decides to press charges. So of what use are your "reasons"/excuses? 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by midnighter(f): 9:15am On Dec 31, 2019 |
BRATISLAVA: Whats the difference between a reason and a justification? |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by BRATISLAVA: 9:16am On Dec 31, 2019 |
midnighter: I didn't have to answer you once I saw that you don't understand human rights to begin with. If you don't understand that talking to your husband isn't a violation of any law, then why should I understand your perspective that she can be beaten for expressing herself? 1 Like |
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