I hate a girl suggesting what she wants on a first date....im the host, you're the guest, you eat whatever I order, not the other way round.

I dislike asking close ended questions like :What is your name, what is your favorite food, how many are you in your family, what's your age etc

SteveOfu:
Please which character do you dislike one not to possess on a first date?

Mine are: Handling your phone 24/7 and always reaching to hold my palm

SteveOfu:
what's wrong in asking how much your earn?

It's a very selfish question, and clear sign that you're interested only in what you can gain from him rather than what you both can benefit from each other.

The question should be What do you do for a living? From what he tells you, it won't be difficult to have a rough estimate of his income.

Back to the topic...mine is answering unnecessary calls and spending lots and lots of minutes on them. Nothing pissess me off than it. I'll just get up, settle the bills and take my leave.

Secondly, when a girl starts narrating all her life problems to me on a first date ..from how toxic her workplace is and how they're owing her 9months salary, to her family issues, how they're 12 in number, and she's the eldest and her salary isn't enough...etc. she's indirectly telling me the responsibilities I'm most likely going to shoulder for her if we give it a shot....I'm out.

Finally when she recieves a call from a bestie and starts telling me how he has and is always there for her...bla bla bla. Truth is no matter how she swears to me that they're just friends and nothing more, I'll just forget about her and move on cos I know better.

Divay22:
Talking too much; thereby telling me all your life history, achievements and the rest. Sorry o you ain't seeing me again.

All na wash...most ladies in nairaland like to claim alpha female and shit..but real life they ain't shit just another bunch of loudmouth tryna escape through the keyboards and play god by egosurfing...

Abeg we all know what it all about... make the guy just get money forget life stories it what most of you are after

midnighter:
On the first date? Thats quite rude and intrusive.

A more polite question which will help answer that one is "What do you do" or "where do you work"

Which can lead to how much you earn.

In fact one girl treated me like that. I ordered for drinks and she started castigating me for not asking her what her favorite drink was.

Ifakiland:
I hate a girl suggesting what she wants on a first date....im the host, you're the guest, you eat whatever I order, not the other way round.

I bet you will hate me if I did pay for the meal.

tee59:
Eating like an hungry hyena.

Thegamingorca:
Which can lead to how much you earn.

The point is that a sensible person wouldnt ask such a question outrightly

You can ask them where they work and then use your imagination to figure out the rest

Ifakiland:
I hate a girl suggesting what she wants on a first date....im the host, you're the guest, you eat whatever I order, not the other way round.

Are you joking? You want to dictate to the person what they should eat Smh

SteveOfu:
what's wrong in asking how much your earn?

Gold digging lazy youth opportunist spotted

Lexusgs430:
She wants to quickly know if you're for keeps or dump.......

Lol there are better ways to do that smh

OGwales:
Asking me for transport fare...

Lol. You funny o. How girl go ask you for transport money on a first date? She dey craze ni

happinezz110:
Unreasonable talk just like when I went on a date with one foolish guy, he told me I would live with his mom when we get married and she wld help me to chose the hospital for my Ante Natal wen I'm pregnant. All he could talk about was his mom, grandmom and sister. Since then, I hate dating only boy of d family especially those with 4sis

I'm an only boy with 5 sisters. And I'm definitely not a mummy's boy.

midnighter:


Are you joking? You want to dictate to the person what they should eat Smh

Na by force to eat

midnighter:


The point is that a sensible person wouldnt ask such a question outrightly

You can ask them where they work and then use your imagination to figure out the rest

Money hungry girls everywhere

midnighter:


Lol there are better ways to do that smh

She intends not to waste his time........

Riele:




Lol

I said it can't be controlled because I have an uncle that has tried to stop what you're complaining of .

Whenever it seems like he's stopped it , he resumes the annoying sound without knowing it .

I personally hum a rhyme while eating , I can't control it but people find my humming habit to be sweet and cute .

no matter how cute it is, is a no no for me and will tell you cute sound just for u to know the reason y i ignore u there after

midnighter:


Lol there are better ways to do that smh

Best to draw the lines, make fight no enter...... Imagine asking him for credit, and he sends her 200 naira voucher (and he expects her to call and chat with him everyday)...... Or she requires 25K for essentials, and he starts to quote minimum wage...........

zyzxx:
what will you now be talking about?

Or he should keep mute?

It's about striking a balance. Do you want to hear your date talk nonstop about how great they are, tell you everything they accomplished since winning the running race in primary school?
Say No to Verbal Diarrhoea. Let the other person talk too! And save some information about yourself to entertain your date with, next time you meet.

seunmohmoh:
Never been on a date so let me learn from experienced people.

You don’t mean it? Even pastor piking don dey get date from secondary school. Anyway, think you are an introvert

Alexaonfleek:
Tbh that was a shitty and cowardly attitude of your friend.Hes honestly one of the problems of Nigeria.
If you can't afford what your partner is ordering,SAY IT!!!!!!!!
Las Las they will just hiss and leave the restaurant.
As much as those girls were rude for ordering anyhow,he's actually the more stupid one here

A glutton spotted

seunmohmoh:
I also regret on your behalf.

Haha! Just because of 200naira

Ifakiland:
I hate a girl suggesting what she wants on a first date....im the host, you're the guest, you eat whatever I order, not the other way round.

Lol. You must be kidding. What if she is allergic to or dislikes what you order her?
My sister hates jollof rice with passion and is a very strict vegetarian.
You go order Jollof rice and Chicken and still complain say she waste your money as she no eat am.
Be sensible jare. I know you are joking sha

eni4real:
Are you intimidated??

No. But irritated

The lady coming along with a friend. I will just call off the date or restrain myself from spending to their taste. I can limit drastically what can be ordered, or I will recommend OYO spending (order and pay your bill all alone).

WaywardSon:
unintelligent conversations, most ladies will just be moping like they got nothing to say, just eat, press phone and laugh like hyena.

Hyena? You don see where Hyena dey laugh before?

Estellie:
Anything ooo..
That's what I usually say... I let u do the ordering because it's your picket and you alone know what's in there...

So if it's water you can afford, no wahala. I won't get mad or something.

Because If I order wetin really dey my mind we go wash plate tayaa...

Lol....u no chop come from house abi?

It can go both ways:
FOR HER:
1. She brings a friend. (Gurl, He is not running a charity for hungry friends)
2. She is on her phone. (Very unladylike)
3. She orders the most expensive, never tried item on the menu. (It shows just how cheap you are and sets you up to be asked for a payback - kiss/smooch/sex/rape)
4. She slurps and acts gluttonous on the meal (He is a prospect not your father)
5. She insists on takeaways (Gurl are you really that poor)
6. She has nothing valuable to talk about (past accomplishments, future goals, current objectives etc) rather, she knows how much that phone is, that lace wig, etc
7. She is known and greets or greeted by more than 2 different men while on the date with you (actually leaving you to speak with them without an awareness of brevity)
8. She wants to come home with me
9. She wants to be noticed and claiming Girlfriend rather than date status

FOR HIM:
1. He expects affectionate display on a first date.
2. He expects to pay for everything and get a hug/kiss/sex at the end of the date.
3. He shows off his material and intellectual level instead of being himself.
4. He is rude to the conductor, waiter etc (to impress me)
5. He is Ogling other gals while with me
6. He talks too much about himself (remember the line in Big Poppa where Biggie says "... I just creep up from behind And ask what your interests are, who you be with Things to make you smile, what numbers to dial...You gon' be here for a while...)
7. He is late, does not apologize, acts like "Its no big deal".
8. He is disrespectful by hugging and talking to other women while on our date.
9.) He does not allow me, at least, pay for something (the water, 20percent of the meal, something)
10.) He does not ensure I get home safe.

I mean the things to dislike (red flags) on a first date are many (if you re not looking for free food if you are a girl) or (sex if you re a guy)

SteveOfu:
Please which character do you dislike one not to possess on a first date?

Mine are: Handling your phone 24/7 and always reaching to hold my palm

As if them wan pray for you... Make person look stoopid

SteveOfu:
what's wrong in asking how much your earn?

Gold diggers question.

I can't tell any girl how much I earn.

Didi2d:
The only thing I hate in first date is when the girl brings another girl, it pisses me off big time

You are here complaining about one?

A girl I knew even invited two of her
friends to come,on our first and that
was the last.

Hunger is everywhere.

willy2000:

This is so true. If you maintain eye contact when talking to African parents or elders, it is seen as been rude and disrespectful.

So, I should be looking at the sky when
an older person is talking to me?

Na big lie...