zolajpower:

Well it seems to me you don't have an elderly mans picture in your clan and or family. Your statement says otherwise . slowpoke

Catchfirez:


Lol no be only elderly. When you write like someone is destiny as been taking without common sense. Thats how you relate with your elders in your family. Brother wey mumu abeg borrow sense. I know your type.

TobyeCole:

You are wise. Husband was reported to this evening and was in shock. My entire family has been summoned and we're discussing on these issues. Thanks for being an objective person.
And this is why I've always respected you despite your satires. Your seer's eyes. Ability to see the truth as it is. I wasn't just shocked seeing my family being burnt on the burner with lies. I know understand why people who are bullied take their lives. I felt deep hurt in my heart and for hours couldn't get myself.
I'll take some time off to let it simmer. The shock still unsettles me. BTW, you are 100% accurate on the entire picture you painted. This is all that transpired.

Catchfirez:


Lol no be only elderly. When you write like someone is destiny as been taking without common sense. Thats how you relate with your elders in your family. Brother wey mumu abeg borrow sense. I know your type.

zolajpower:

If u reply my mention again , then I will admit that you are an illegitimate child of your parents . I'm sure u will honorably respect that , or do you describe your father's house with your left hand ? omo ale ti o fi owo osi ju we ile baba re ni e ni?

zolajpower:

If u reply my mention again , then I will admit that you are an illegitimate child of your parents . I'm sure u will honorably respect that , or do you describe your father's house with your left hand ? omo ale ti o fi owo osi ju we ile baba re ni e ni?

Catchfirez:


I don reply you. Wetin you fit do beyond this forum. Because you think say na your papa get nairaland. The stupid man wey you dey even side, get mental issue. I believe you got issues, no kill yourself over another person matter. Na small take dey start, na the first symptoms of psycho be that. Remember to take your drugs. My Elder or old Man.

Catchfirez:


Even your papa for house no fit talk wetin talk so. As be like say common sense no dey your head. I get your time. If me bi Omo ale, you be oloriburuku wey dem suppose don take you do menses. When I say you no get sense, I believe say you go understand, I know say na so your father take be too. Na wetin dey for your family heritage be that, psychos. If you like mention me again. Na thunder go fire you.

nwakaibe:


Bros, how far na? Is OP the same as Mama Lekan? Don't hide oh.

zolajpower:

Omo ale ni lotan. U are an illegitimate child to be honest . Bcus it is only an illegitimate child that will put his hand in fire if he's told to do so . Mumu pikin.

blank:
Interesting turn of events. i thought as much.

I wonder if @tobyecole will return to let us know that he made a mistake. I am pretty certain that if Mama Lekan was same as the op, he would have returned to let us know how they sent her packing from her husband's house.

Catchfirez:


Lol abeg inside me and you, who mumu pass. Mr Psycho no die for another person matter, you and Mr Toby na thesame. This is 2020, better change.

Catchfirez:


I doubt if he will ever return. The best thing na silence. Wetin he won talk??

zolajpower:

U are going about being an advocate to a shamaless woman . You go die by thunder omo ale

baby124:
Who got the job for her? Did she come to you for the job herself or did MIL approach you for the job? You should not have gone begging psychos, it’s a waste of time, just wait for them to do their worst and stay out of it. Shebi their worst is that they don’t want her as wife anymore? Ok! But she is your employee. Her private business should not be your concern.

It’s strictly business and your kids come first. Ask her if she wants to go back to the village... if she doesn’t, try to rent her a room in another neighborhood where she will be coming to work from. If they ask you questions, tell them she came back by herself and she begged for her job back. Also, as it’s difficult to get help, your kids have refused to cooperate with anyone but her. So you had to rehire her. Besides you don’t want to get involved in her private affair. Shikena.

NwaAmaikpe:





I was almost starting to think you were selfish about your decision to keep her but reading further it became clearer that you have a genuine bond with her, are empathetic to her plight and wants just the best for her.

But this is a very tricky issue and you would never know the lenght it will go when the tales are spurn in the neighborhood about how you housed a cast-away to spite her husband's people.
I will feel bad if I were her husband and even worse if I am her mother-in-law.

Life is easy.
This lady is extremely good to your kids and is a perfect fit in your house.
Your kids see her as family too.
Your husband is willing to house her despite knowing her husband is just a breadth away.

Most importantly, you see the good in her that not even her husband who married her and her mother-in-law who lives with her sees.
You apparently have concluded that this lady is indispensable to the life of your kids and the bliss of your family.

Hanty, there is only one way to keep her without hurting both yourself and her mother-in-law.
Just tell your husband to marry her, that way she will become you people's property and you will not feel so bad when your husband starts screwing her.

Because definitely, water must find it's level this one that Broda wants her sleeping under his roof.

Over to Lalast.iclala and the other elders.

iHart:
MIL- Mother in-law
DIL - Daughter in-law

Gandollar:
Is that all?

omonikiba:
This is so urgent now.

This woman is so nice to us, my kids love her and am heart broken she's leaving today.

I have being trying to manage her marriage, she has issues with the MIL and hubby, they don't want to see her around. Her husband wants to take her back to the village, we've done all our best, I knelt down with other elderly people to beg but the MIL insist she's rude and want her to leave.

I will really be hurt to see her go, who else can I trust my kids with? I leave my rooms open with no fear, she doesn't steal and obey all instructions to the letter. In fact, am soooo free with her around my kids.

I have two vacant rooms around, we don't mind housing her, my husband want her to stay with us but I said no, I thought about it carefully and so said no. My reasons are;

* I don't want to have issues with the MIL, we are both house owners, not just tenants that will depart sooner or latter so I don't want any issue with a fellow landlady.

* She is way older than me, I call her mama. So I hate to hurt an elderly person. Taking her DIL in will surely hurt her. And she might think so instigated the DIL against her.

* I don't want other landlords to see me as a bad person.

* What if something happens to this girl or what of if she starts to misbehave?

*My sister and older relations advise against it.

* Her MIL will do everything possible to tarnish my image in our estate.


This girl isn't a bad girl, she is this village girls that if you manage well, you'll get the best out of them but her MIL n hubby are phycos. Very difficult to be with. She's highly unforgiving. She insist this girl must go because she doesn't fit her status. But they saw the kind of person she is before marrying her.

Enough of too much talk.

What do I do to keep her without hurting her MIL.

If she leaves, the stress will be too much for me and I don't think I'll get someone else due to trust.

I need help.

Ignore my typos pls

DavidEsq:

Guy ur story for make sense pass so, if only ur English correct. I don bite my tongue because of this your English, no be say I dey follow u speak am sef. Abeg no vex o, ur English teacher die ni?
wetin be "she spinned the identity to cover up identities"? ;DChineke nna.

NoToPile:
And thats how mr Toby didnt respond again..