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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by A305: 3:59pm On Jan 06, 2020
Diego1989:

Hey Oga! Take time with this ur Corolla wahalla o. How much u go sale am last ?
Better talk my guy, How much you wan pay? Happy new year.
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by mudiana(m): 3:59pm On Jan 06, 2020
asahnwaKC:


Thnx ohhh....bn trying to figure out those abbreviation sad sad.
.....made ne not to read the story finish....
same here
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by Lerumo: 3:59pm On Jan 06, 2020
Let her go. A word is enough for the wise.
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by darlenese(f): 4:00pm On Jan 06, 2020
the only reason you are writing this long epistle is because of your own selfish reasons.


so long a letter . madam imagine your daughter in-law doing nanny job in your neighbourhood for another landlord or landlady , I am sure one of the reasons they said she is stubborn is because they asked her to stop working for you but she refused .

madam stay away from that family .


do your chores yourself till u find someone else

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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by Diego1989(m): 4:02pm On Jan 06, 2020
A305:
Better talk my guy, How much you wan pay? Happy new year.
2million so U go let us rest. My sister birthday dey come up on d 15th so, Dis car go dey perfect as her first car.
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by vincentjk(m): 4:03pm On Jan 06, 2020
D1zion:

MIL mother in-LAW
DIL Daughter in-law

Ok thanks
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by TobyeCole: 4:03pm On Jan 06, 2020
darlenese:
the only reason who are writing this long epistle is because your own selfish reasons.


so long a letter . madam imagine your daughter in-law doing nanny job in your neighbourhood for another landlord or landlady , I am sure one of the reasons they said she is stubborn is because they asked and to stop working for you but she refused .

madam stay away from that family .


do your chores yourself till u find someone else





That is what happened. Look at how she came to the Internet to blackmail my family









The young girl had become rebellious and would stand to curse my mother to my face.


This has been happening repeatedly. The girl isn't her nanny. We only attended the same church and my mother said she couldn't teach the girl assignments and the girl should go to her house and in turn help her do her house work









This is a girl I picked from the street mentored and trained her for almost 10 years.















But she started becoming rebellious and acting against every instructions given. When we saw she has grown and doesn't want to stay with the family as she even threatened us a few times the gather stayed in a three bedroom and we stayed in a small house along with many of such issues we noticed we had lost her and before she got pregnant we asked her to go home so she won't get pregnant untimely nor do harm to our family as she had turned covetous always beating our own kids for no reasons cause she.. Oh my God. It was good I did o.










The girls mother threw her away to the street some years ago









I picked the girl up clothed her fed her trained her. Even today she left if you saw her skin its spotless clean. She eats 4 to 5 times a day














She then started receiving attention from all boys around and turned prideful and arrogant.







I took her to various pastors to speak with her different people. Before rebellion became another thing we then called this woman the OP with the aim of trying to talk to her several times
















She's just a neighbor we allowed our kid go visit and help take care of her kids. It was good we were doing






















She's only speaking from the loss of having the freedom to leave her home and her kids while the girl does the chores.



















God almighty will judge you mummy Lekan for all these lies you've spoken about me today. Heaven bears witness that you won't go unpunished for tarnishing my family's good will like this.





Can you guys now see part of the reason we had to decide that the girl go. Can you see how the girl's disloyalty opens the door for this to my family















Nairalanders be careful whom you open your family and home to



























I double dear you mummy Lekan to come speak all you typed here to my face. I'm at home

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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by A305: 4:09pm On Jan 06, 2020
Diego1989:

2million so U go let us rest. My sister birthday dey come up on d 15th so, Dis car go dey perfect as her first car.
Bros, market no dey, base on January, i don too spend for baby mama, I still get 4 baby mamas to settle otherwise na world war 4 (Trump - Iran own dey learn). Abeg make we leave the price for 2.1 make we run the deal. Make I for nor dey disturb the house.
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by nan1: 4:14pm On Jan 06, 2020
People saying get another maid really know nothing about having a trusted Nanny and children bonding pls here is my advise let her go back to the village as agreed by her people ask her if she truly want to continue working then arrange a new accomodation for her in another neighborhood where she can come daily for work by so doing you will be exempted from any backlash all the best
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by TobyeCole: 4:15pm On Jan 06, 2020
Let us all be careful with one sided stories people tell to absolve themselves of guilt.



I'm not related to the op nor my mum. We only knew ourselves in a church we both attended for a short while











Because I'm always busy with work and my mum is old my.






Mum permitted the girl to go help this woman with chores everyday after school and that she will be tutuored in assignment at the same time













We didn't throw the child to the street. The father now works unlike when he was about to kill himself a decade ago when we picked her.












Out of how she was transformed the father let her leave with my family. Especially since I was the one who consoled him when he wanted to kill himself ten years back and asked him to bring the two kids. Housed trained and feed them alongside my brother in law and sisters
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by TobyeCole: 4:18pm On Jan 06, 2020
This woman only knows this girl for some months o. Not even long. But because when the girl works she has freedom to go around the neighborhood up and down.








Doesn't attend to her family nor return home till. Midnight. Doesn't cook for her kids and husband





















Seeing all the freedom lost to her frolicking the neighborhood like an unmarried woman is why she resorted. To this blackmail











I am still in good terms and talking terms with the father. And I promise to show him this thread mummy lekan. So he will judge your character against what happened.
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by alizma: 4:18pm On Jan 06, 2020
omonikiba:
This is so urgent now.

This woman is so nice to us, my kids love her and am heart broken she's leaving today.

I have being trying to manage her marriage, she has issues with the MIL and hubby, they don't want to see her around. Her husband wants to take her back to the village, we've done all our best, I knelt down with other elderly people to beg but the MIL insist she's rude and want her to leave.

I will really be hurt to see her go, who else can I trust my kids with? I leave my rooms open with no fear, she doesn't steal and obey all instructions to the letter. In fact, am soooo free with her around my kids.

I have two vacant rooms around, we don't mind housing her, my husband want her to stay with us but I said no, I thought about it carefully and so said no. My reasons are;

* I don't want to have issues with the MIL, we are both house owners, not just tenants that will depart sooner or latter so I don't want any issue with a fellow landlady.

* She is way older than me, I call her mama. So I hate to hurt an elderly person. Taking her DIL in will surely hurt her. And she might think so instigated the DIL against her.

* I don't want other landlords to see me as a bad person.

* What if something happens to this girl or what of if she starts to misbehave?

*My sister and older relations advise against it.

* Her MIL will do everything possible to tarnish my image in our estate.


This girl isn't a bad girl, she is this village girls that if you manage well, you'll get the best out of them but her MIL n hubby are phycos. Very difficult to be with. She's highly unforgiving. She insist this girl must go because she doesn't fit her status. But they saw the kind of person she is before marrying her.

Enough of too much talk.

What do I do to keep her without hurting her MIL.

If she leaves, the stress will be too much for me and I don't think I'll get someone else due to trust.

I need help.

Ignore my typos pls


Allow her to send the girl to the village first. Giver her like two week and then approach her and the husband to know why they are angry with the girl and then plead on her behalf and promise to coach her rightly to respect each of them according to who they are to her.
They want to prove something to her and no amount of pressure you apply now will change their mind. I hope my advise helps
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by TobyeCole: 4:20pm On Jan 06, 2020
God will judge your household for tarnishing the image of my family and for this libel. You betraying woman
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by vonxe: 4:21pm On Jan 06, 2020
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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by iamJ(m): 4:21pm On Jan 06, 2020
iHart:
MIL- Mother in-law
DIL - Daughter in-law

hahaha cheesy

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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by golddare: 4:22pm On Jan 06, 2020
omonikiba:
This is so urgent now.

This woman is so nice to us, my kids love her and am heart broken she's leaving today.

I have being trying to manage her marriage, she has issues with the MIL and hubby, they don't want to see her around. Her husband wants to take her back to the village, we've done all our best, I knelt down with other elderly people to beg but the MIL insist she's rude and want her to leave.

I will really be hurt to see her go, who else can I trust my kids with? I leave my rooms open with no fear, she doesn't steal and obey all instructions to the letter. In fact, am soooo free with her around my kids.

I have two vacant rooms around, we don't mind housing her, my husband want her to stay with us but I said no, I thought about it carefully and so said no. My reasons are;

* I don't want to have issues with the MIL, we are both house owners, not just tenants that will depart sooner or latter so I don't want any issue with a fellow landlady.

* She is way older than me, I call her mama. So I hate to hurt an elderly person. Taking her DIL in will surely hurt her. And she might think so instigated the DIL against her.

* I don't want other landlords to see me as a bad person.

* What if something happens to this girl or what of if she starts to misbehave?

*My sister and older relations advise against it.

* Her MIL will do everything possible to tarnish my image in our estate.


This girl isn't a bad girl, she is this village girls that if you manage well, you'll get the best out of them but her MIL n hubby are phycos. Very difficult to be with. She's highly unforgiving. She insist this girl must go because she doesn't fit her status. But they saw the kind of person she is before marrying her.

Enough of too much talk.

What do I do to keep her without hurting her MIL.

If she leaves, the stress will be too much for me and I don't think I'll get someone else due to trust.

I need help.

Ignore my typos pls



Let her go, keep her contact or give her your number, tell her you may call her back when the dust settles then pray about it. If you are led to take her back please ask for wisdom and be ready to be at alert physically and spiritually.
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by TobyeCole: 4:22pm On Jan 06, 2020
Be careful of one sided stories on the Internet people













Careful to give counsel as people who are devil's will paint themselves in form of angels














Tell the OP to stop the late night's. A woman who stays up till midnight 1am.and doesn't cook for her husband




All of a sudden a girl you know nothing off becomes your nanny.



I dare you to come and meet me at home or respond here.











































Let's all take it up from here from there we shall escalate issues you traitor
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by TobyeCole: 4:24pm On Jan 06, 2020
I am waiting for you to confront me here and prove to everyone that the kid was ever maltreated.

























































I'm daring you to lift just one occasion where the kid was maltreated.





God will judge you.


































Thank God its a matter the police officers at the station know about and adopted her seeing how spotless her skin was and how we took care of her. Come and say this to my face in person or reply me here you traitor and backstabber
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by mukthar2000(m): 4:26pm On Jan 06, 2020
chase her away, employ me
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by TobyeCole: 4:26pm On Jan 06, 2020
I am waiting for you.



God and all neighbors from all four houses besides and opposite and church members are witnesses to how we took care of the girl.













































I have over the 100 witness that can attest to this fact against your libel

























Respond o. A fi bi san re
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by TobyeCole: 4:28pm On Jan 06, 2020
I can drop your phone number so people can call and ask what time you get home even as a married woman and mother of two kids if you get home earlier than 11 pm to 1am despite being an unemployed married woman




You evil soul. If my family didn't open the doors to you, would we have ended with a knife at our backs. You traitor
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by Usihyelda(m): 4:30pm On Jan 06, 2020
iHart:
MIL- Mother in-law DIL - Daughter in-law
hmm thanks

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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by TobyeCole: 4:31pm On Jan 06, 2020
Nairalanders careful people you bring to your home










I was with this woman till past 11 with my mum and she was pleading on her behalf as she did in so many occasions and we said our entire family concluded the girl was unrepentant and before she Co. Mitted acts that would cause trouble it was better she went to her father










Little did we know this girl planned behind to go pick the girl at the bus stop to her place hence why she posted this past 2 am despite being part of the meeting last night. Upon seeing us she became startled because she intended on blocking her in between and carrying her to her own house. For a girl who left her parents ten years ago with a living father o.
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by TobyeCole: 4:33pm On Jan 06, 2020
I await her to come here and say one single maltreatment we did to a girl. Who only wakes bath wash plate go to school come back then go assist this woman till nite








So what time does she spend with us for us to maltreat her Iya Lekan. God OF Abraham will judge you and your family for this betrayer

It's because we open our home to you
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by osaweseforme(m): 4:42pm On Jan 06, 2020
Mama Lekan come and reply her cos you said the said girl was married and was your nanny...this woman has disputed you....please reply her somethings are not adding up from your story
TobyeCole:






That is what happened. Look at how she came to the Internet to blackmail my family









The young girl had become rebellious and would stand to curse my mother to my face.


This has been happening repeatedly. The girl isn't her nanny. We only attended the same church and my mother said she couldn't teach the girl assignments and the girl should go to her house and in turn help her do her house work









This is a girl I picked from the street mentored and trained her for almost 10 years.















But she started becoming rebellious and acting against every instructions given. When we saw she has grown and doesn't want to stay with the family as she even threatened us a few times the gather stayed in a three bedroom and we stayed in a small house along with many of such issues we noticed we had lost her and before she got pregnant we asked her to go home so she won't get pregnant untimely nor do harm to our family as she had turned covetous always beating our own kids for no reasons cause she.. Oh my God. It was good I did o.










The girls mother threw her away to the street some years ago









I picked the girl up clothed her fed her trained her. Even today she left if you saw her skin its spotless clean. She eats 4 to 5 times a day














She then started receiving attention from all boys around and turned prideful and arrogant.







I took her to various pastors to speak with her different people. Before rebellion became another thing we then called this woman the OP with the aim of trying to talk to her several times
















She's just a neighbor we allowed our kid go visit and help take care of her kids. It was good we were doing






















She's only speaking from the loss of having the freedom to leave her home and her kids while the girl does the chores.



















God almighty will judge you mummy Lekan for all these lies you've spoken about me today. Heaven bears witness that you won't go unpunished for tarnishing my family's good will like this.





Can you guys now see part of the reason we had to decide that the girl go. Can you see how the girl's disloyalty opens the door for this to my family















Nairalanders be careful whom you open your family and home to



























I double dear you mummy Lekan to come speak all you typed here to my face. I'm at home

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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by Nobody: 4:42pm On Jan 06, 2020
Explain your concerns ro her and let her go for 6 months.

After 6 months if you can not cope without her you can inform the ex MIL and Ex Inlaw that you are hiring her and will not be an inconvenience to them.

The common sense laws will be on your side
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by TobyeCole: 4:44pm On Jan 06, 2020
osaweseforme:
Mama Lekan come and reply her cos you said the said girl was married and was your nanny...this woman has disputed you....please reply her somethings are not adding up from your story





I just showed our neighbors this thread and gave them the link

Everyone in the compound is waiting for you. Come and meet us in person or. Come here and defend your claims
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by dalass(f): 4:45pm On Jan 06, 2020
You could be the reason she's being sent away

The reason being that the woman is a landlady and her daughter in Law is your maid! Abeg that one is no1 disqualification for her.

1. Did she seek her husband's consent or even her MIL's consent before working for you?
2. They will definitely not want their wife/ DIL to be working for a fellow house owner. Like what will neighbors say that they couldn't take care of her?
3. They will believe that all their secrets have been leaked out. People love their own privacy abeg

Please let her go. She must not stay with you.
Best is to help her relocate and get another job elsewhere if she doesn't want to go back to their village

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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by TobyeCole: 4:46pm On Jan 06, 2020
I am. Waiting online and offline you traitor.



It's my. Mother you're calling a psycho.







I'm a psycho for refusing to have a kid who would constantly hate on our kids continue to stay because she does your chores











I should wait till she poisons our kids. Because we wanted to please you by given her continous stay to come do your chores.






I am waiting for you o.
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by TobyeCole: 4:49pm On Jan 06, 2020
A girl that had close to 400 clothes eats 4 to 5.times.daily is a. Girl we treat abi. That's how psychos treat children


A girl that has never been used for any form of work nor sent to do any form. Of work in exchange for work is a. Maltreated child abi.


Does she not look cleaner than your kids. Would that have bee. Achieved if she was treated how you depicted. My neighbors have all seen your lies. Everyone around us will know of your deeds.






Just because we opened our home/family to you has turned us to psychos abi. People with status who don't want to see the poor girl. Did you tell them I picked her where the girls original. Mother threw her into the street where she was tattered couldn't talk. Washed her trained her mentored her. Trained her for a decade. Today the girl me picked on the street after a decade care doesn't fit our status abi



God will judge you.
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by dalass(f): 4:51pm On Jan 06, 2020
TobyeCole:






I just showed our neighbors this thread and gave them the link

Everyone in the compound is waiting for you. Come and meet us in person or. Come here and defend your claims

Please take it easy o. She didn't mention any name. Don't you think it may not be you that the OP mentioned or it may not be mama Lekan... Sofry sofry o

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