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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by permit(m): 1:32pm On Jan 07, 2020
Nwamaikpe have nailed it. You see that last advice, only the op should be able to understand what he meant shikena... grin grin
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by permit(m): 1:56pm On Jan 07, 2020
Kai nairaland has become a compound forum undecided undecided
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by Catchfirez: 2:30pm On Jan 07, 2020
zolajpower:

Well it seems to me you don't have an elderly mans picture in your clan and or family. Your statement says otherwise . slowpoke

Lol no be only elderly. When you write like someone is destiny as been taking without common sense. Thats how you relate with your elders in your family. Brother wey mumu abeg borrow sense. I know your type.

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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by zolajpower: 2:45pm On Jan 07, 2020
Catchfirez:


Lol no be only elderly. When you write like someone is destiny as been taking without common sense. Thats how you relate with your elders in your family. Brother wey mumu abeg borrow sense. I know your type.

The stupidity in your family is unprecedented and bae . Reason why it was easy for old man(father) to die by hanging bcus of #30 snuff e bought on credit . Please do not transfer the aggression of your wayward life caused by your family on me. Now I have noticed u , so move on . "Notice me "
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by nwakaibe(m): 2:55pm On Jan 07, 2020
TobyeCole:

You are wise. Husband was reported to this evening and was in shock. My entire family has been summoned and we're discussing on these issues. Thanks for being an objective person.
And this is why I've always respected you despite your satires. Your seer's eyes. Ability to see the truth as it is. I wasn't just shocked seeing my family being burnt on the burner with lies. I know understand why people who are bullied take their lives. I felt deep hurt in my heart and for hours couldn't get myself.
I'll take some time off to let it simmer. The shock still unsettles me. BTW, you are 100% accurate on the entire picture you painted. This is all that transpired.

Bros, how far na? Is OP the same as Mama Lekan? Don't hide oh.

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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by zolajpower: 3:09pm On Jan 07, 2020
Catchfirez:


Lol no be only elderly. When you write like someone is destiny as been taking without common sense. Thats how you relate with your elders in your family. Brother wey mumu abeg borrow sense. I know your type.
If u reply my mention again , then I will admit that you are an illegitimate child of your parents . I'm sure u will honorably respect that , or do you describe your father's house with your left hand ? grin omo ale ti o fi owo osi ju we ile baba re ni e ni?
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by Catchfirez: 3:17pm On Jan 07, 2020
zolajpower:

If u reply my mention again , then I will admit that you are an illegitimate child of your parents . I'm sure u will honorably respect that , or do you describe your father's house with your left hand ? grin omo ale ti o fi owo osi ju we ile baba re ni e ni?

Even your papa for house no fit talk wetin talk so. As be like say common sense no dey your head. I get your time. If me bi Omo ale, you be oloriburuku wey dem suppose don take you do menses. When I say you no get sense, I believe say you go understand, I know say na so your father take be too. Na wetin dey for your family heritage be that, psychos. If you like mention me again. Na thunder go fire you.

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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by Catchfirez: 3:18pm On Jan 07, 2020
zolajpower:

If u reply my mention again , then I will admit that you are an illegitimate child of your parents . I'm sure u will honorably respect that , or do you describe your father's house with your left hand ? grin omo ale ti o fi owo osi ju we ile baba re ni e ni?

I don reply you. Wetin you fit do beyond this forum. Because you think say na your papa get nairaland. The stupid man wey you dey even side, get mental issue. I believe you got issues, no kill yourself over another person matter. Na small take dey start, na the first symptoms of psycho be that. Remember to take your drugs. My Elder or old Man.
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by zolajpower: 3:42pm On Jan 07, 2020
Catchfirez:


I don reply you. Wetin you fit do beyond this forum. Because you think say na your papa get nairaland. The stupid man wey you dey even side, get mental issue. I believe you got issues, no kill yourself over another person matter. Na small take dey start, na the first symptoms of psycho be that. Remember to take your drugs. My Elder or old Man.
Omo ale ni lotan. U are an illegitimate child to be honest . Bcus it is only an illegitimate child that will put his hand in fire if he's told to do so . Mumu pikin.
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by zolajpower: 3:46pm On Jan 07, 2020
Catchfirez:


Even your papa for house no fit talk wetin talk so. As be like say common sense no dey your head. I get your time. If me bi Omo ale, you be oloriburuku wey dem suppose don take you do menses. When I say you no get sense, I believe say you go understand, I know say na so your father take be too. Na wetin dey for your family heritage be that, psychos. If you like mention me again. Na thunder go fire you.
You need tramadol to high so for that reason ...... ....

Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by blank(f): 3:46pm On Jan 07, 2020
Interesting turn of events. i thought as much.

I wonder if @tobyecole will return to let us know that he made a mistake. I am pretty certain that if Mama Lekan was same as the op, he would have returned to let us know how they sent her packing from her husband's house.

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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by busar(m): 3:53pm On Jan 07, 2020
nwakaibe:


Bros, how far na? Is OP the same as Mama Lekan? Don't hide oh.
mama lekan don pour early morning piss for bros head after finding out it was false cheesy

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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by Catchfirez: 3:54pm On Jan 07, 2020
zolajpower:

Omo ale ni lotan. U are an illegitimate child to be honest . Bcus it is only an illegitimate child that will put his hand in fire if he's told to do so . Mumu pikin.

Lol abeg inside me and you, who mumu pass. Mr Psycho no die for another person matter, you and Mr Toby na thesame. This is 2020, better change.

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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by Catchfirez: 3:57pm On Jan 07, 2020
blank:
Interesting turn of events. i thought as much.

I wonder if @tobyecole will return to let us know that he made a mistake. I am pretty certain that if Mama Lekan was same as the op, he would have returned to let us know how they sent her packing from her husband's house.

I doubt if he will ever return. The best thing na silence. Wetin he won talk??
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by zolajpower: 8:28pm On Jan 07, 2020
Catchfirez:


Lol abeg inside me and you, who mumu pass. Mr Psycho no die for another person matter, you and Mr Toby na thesame. This is 2020, better change.
U wan die so early

Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by zolajpower: 8:31pm On Jan 07, 2020
Catchfirez:


I doubt if he will ever return. The best thing na silence. Wetin he won talk??
U are going about being an advocate to a shamaless woman . You go die by thunder omo ale

Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by Catchfirez: 8:55pm On Jan 07, 2020
zolajpower:

U are going about being an advocate to a shamaless woman . You go die by thunder omo ale

Elder Na you go die before me. You don forget say na your papa na him be ripper. You fit go join am.

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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by Siscooh: 11:50pm On Jan 07, 2020
baby124:
Who got the job for her? Did she come to you for the job herself or did MIL approach you for the job? You should not have gone begging psychos, it’s a waste of time, just wait for them to do their worst and stay out of it. Shebi their worst is that they don’t want her as wife anymore? Ok! But she is your employee. Her private business should not be your concern.

It’s strictly business and your kids come first. Ask her if she wants to go back to the village... if she doesn’t, try to rent her a room in another neighborhood where she will be coming to work from. If they ask you questions, tell them she came back by herself and she begged for her job back. Also, as it’s difficult to get help, your kids have refused to cooperate with anyone but her. So you had to rehire her. Besides you don’t want to get involved in her private affair. Shikena.
Good one
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by Gandollar(f): 9:36am On Jan 08, 2020
NwaAmaikpe:
shocked




I was almost starting to think you were selfish about your decision to keep her but reading further it became clearer that you have a genuine bond with her, are empathetic to her plight and wants just the best for her.

But this is a very tricky issue and you would never know the lenght it will go when the tales are spurn in the neighborhood about how you housed a cast-away to spite her husband's people.
I will feel bad if I were her husband and even worse if I am her mother-in-law.

Life is easy.
This lady is extremely good to your kids and is a perfect fit in your house.
Your kids see her as family too.
Your husband is willing to house her despite knowing her husband is just a breadth away.

Most importantly, you see the good in her that not even her husband who married her and her mother-in-law who lives with her sees.
You apparently have concluded that this lady is indispensable to the life of your kids and the bliss of your family.

Hanty, there is only one way to keep her without hurting both yourself and her mother-in-law.
Just tell your husband to marry her, that way she will become you people's property and you will not feel so bad when your husband starts screwing her.

Because definitely, water must find it's level this one that Broda wants her sleeping under his roof.

Over to Lalast.iclala and the other elders.
NwaAmaikpe, please I don't know, but anytime I come accros your posts, for the ones I bother to read, I always read with adrenaline pumping so hard because, your own particular situation makes me cry, laugh, think, hiss and sigh all at the same time.

I don't know how you manage to do that, by my gut feeling is that you are evil.
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by Gandollar(f): 9:38am On Jan 08, 2020
iHart:
MIL- Mother in-law
DIL - Daughter in-law

Is that all?
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by iHart(m): 10:37am On Jan 08, 2020
Gandollar:
Is that all?
this is new year
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by Nobody: 3:40pm On Jan 08, 2020
omonikiba:
This is so urgent now.

This woman is so nice to us, my kids love her and am heart broken she's leaving today.

I have being trying to manage her marriage, she has issues with the MIL and hubby, they don't want to see her around. Her husband wants to take her back to the village, we've done all our best, I knelt down with other elderly people to beg but the MIL insist she's rude and want her to leave.

I will really be hurt to see her go, who else can I trust my kids with? I leave my rooms open with no fear, she doesn't steal and obey all instructions to the letter. In fact, am soooo free with her around my kids.

I have two vacant rooms around, we don't mind housing her, my husband want her to stay with us but I said no, I thought about it carefully and so said no. My reasons are;

* I don't want to have issues with the MIL, we are both house owners, not just tenants that will depart sooner or latter so I don't want any issue with a fellow landlady.

* She is way older than me, I call her mama. So I hate to hurt an elderly person. Taking her DIL in will surely hurt her. And she might think so instigated the DIL against her.

* I don't want other landlords to see me as a bad person.

* What if something happens to this girl or what of if she starts to misbehave?

*My sister and older relations advise against it.

* Her MIL will do everything possible to tarnish my image in our estate.


This girl isn't a bad girl, she is this village girls that if you manage well, you'll get the best out of them but her MIL n hubby are phycos. Very difficult to be with. She's highly unforgiving. She insist this girl must go because she doesn't fit her status. But they saw the kind of person she is before marrying her.

Enough of too much talk.

What do I do to keep her without hurting her MIL.

If she leaves, the stress will be too much for me and I don't think I'll get someone else due to trust.

I need help.

Ignore my typos pls



Give her an offer letter well typed, and signed that you are offering her a job as a Nanny.

In her offer letter state her work hours, also state that you are also offering her accommodation if she intends to stay with your family.

State her salary.

State the conditions of her employment, make everything official. Once the lady is above 18 years, get her to sign the letter, while you her employer co-signs.

Chikena.

Anybody who talks rubbish, show the person the letter. No long talk

Smh. No time...
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by Catchfirez: 10:30am On Jan 10, 2020
Mr Tobyecole never came back to tells what happened to iya Lekan.

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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by kelcy1: 2:38pm On Jan 10, 2020
Please send her my way as long as she is a Christian (born again Christian)......... need a nanny and will pay her well
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by NoToPile: 9:03pm On Feb 01, 2020
And thats how mr Toby didnt respond again..

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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by Shallypop(f): 4:56am On Feb 02, 2020
DavidEsq:

Guy ur story for make sense pass so, if only ur English correct. I don bite my tongue because of this your English, no be say I dey follow u speak am sef. Abeg no vex o, ur English teacher die ni?
wetin be "she spinned the identity to cover up identities"? grin grin ;DChineke nna.
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by Catchfirez: 7:53am On Feb 02, 2020
NoToPile:
And thats how mr Toby didnt respond again..

Maybe the guy dey jail by now. With the anger wey he dey take write for this thread about it's Lekan. He fit don go beat the woman because he call his mother physcho . Because na that day be the last Time he came online.

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