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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by omonikiba(f): 2:33am On Jan 07, 2020
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@TobyeCole, It is almost 9pm. Since you say the op is unemployed, she should have been in her house since. Have you had a discussion with her yet?

As in ehh


Did you have a meeting with me @tobyecole?

All typed isn't related at all with his claims.

And your story, you picked a girl from the street 10years ago, how old is she now? And you leave with your mother, I see, you are not married and probably training her to wife her or already sleeping with her?

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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by omonikiba(f): 2:41am On Jan 07, 2020
TobyeCole:






You are wise. Husband was reported to this evening and was in shock. My entire family has been summoned and we're discussing on these issues. Thanks for being an objective person.




And this is why I've always respected you despite your satires. Your seer's eyes. Ability to see the truth as it is. I wasn't just shocked seeing my family being burnt on the burner with lies. I know understand why people who are bullied take their lives. I felt deep hurt in my heart and for hours couldn't get myself.


I'll take some time off to let it simmer. The shock still unsettles me. BTW, you are 100% accurate on the entire picture you painted. This is all that transpired.

See how hasty you are to conclude it's mama lekan. Omg, did you first show her my post? Eya, maybe she's not even a Nairalander now oo.

This is 2020 o, go make peace with your neighbor.

My conclusion on you, the way you concluded am mama lekan, it's the same way you concluded the real mama lekan negatively influenced your girl and it's too bad.

You owe her an apology. And if you're intelligent enough, the first thing would be to check my past posts and try to relate it with her. You don't just conclude.

Make peace with that woman and apologize.


Good night

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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by Shokoloko(f): 2:53am On Jan 07, 2020
asahnwaKC:


Thnx ohhh....bn trying to figure out those abbreviation sad sad.
.....made ne not to read the story finish....
You are also murdering english
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by Shokoloko(f): 3:08am On Jan 07, 2020
DavidEsq:

How can I say dis thing on my mind now? Is someone kpanshing the girl in that house, but has lost the chance to continue kpanshing because she has someone else's (an area boy's) attention? The emphasis on the girl's glowing skin is becoming too much to pass unnoticed sha
Aha! Someone else noticed that too
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by zolajpower: 6:10am On Jan 07, 2020
mofedamijo:


I don't know who you're Sir, but i will beg, handle this issue with the highest maturity in you, if what you're saying is true, which i want to believe, don't let that woman make you look like a bad person in the said estate, be calm, state your facts, talk to her husband, nd if he is not matured enough, leave the matter to God, you raised the girl right until she went gaga, leave mama lekan, time, karma and God will be the final judge., Shalom.
Sir either u like it or not for saying he should leave the matter to God makes ur comment the dumbest in this thread . U know y bcus God never allow slandering ask pastor mattew ibieoyemi what he did to kemi olunloyo who slander is name on the internet . Besides , we are talking about a woman who goes about lying , do u now justify what she did to be right by coming to the public glare and view to slander this man and his poor mom ? Wtf u saying bro Will u allow ur mom be called a psycho ?
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by mofedamijo(m): 6:17am On Jan 07, 2020
zolajpower:

Sir either u like it or not for saying he should leave the matter to God makes ur comment the dumbest in this thread . U know y bcus God never allow slandering ask pastor mattew ibieoyemi what he did to kemi olunloyo who slander is name on the internet . Besides , we are talking about a woman who goes about lying , do u now justify what she did to be right by coming to the public glare and view to slander this man and his poor mom ? Wtf u saying bro Will u allow ur mom be called a psycho ?

Lol... What should he do Go to the supreme court?? Report to the police?? My friend, in certain situations in life, especially when it's not life threatening, just talk to the right person, and if they are not responding, leave the matter, i said that most especially because this is a faceless forum, i have told him to present his facts to whoever cares to listen, thats enough..... Be guided.
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by zolajpower: 6:21am On Jan 07, 2020
omonikiba:


See how hasty you are to conclude it's mama lekan. Omg, did you first show her my post? Eya, maybe she's not even a Nairalander now oo.

This is 2020 o, go make peace with your neighbor.

My conclusion on you, the way you concluded am mama lekan, it's the same way you concluded the real mama lekan negatively influenced your girl and it's too bad.

You owe her an apology. And if you're intelligent enough, the first thing would be to check my past posts and try to relate it with her. You don't just conclude.

Make peace with that woman and apologize.


Good night
Madam regardless of whether she is mama lekan or not u are a fucking liar and a wicked person as well . Can u mom be called psycho Or can ur children neighbor call u psycho mother inlaw let's assume the man ( tobycole ) is not refering to you ? What if d lady inquestion dies today will u move or not move on ?
If anyone believes ur rooster and brood stories I won't believe it for a piece or fading, I see u like a home breaker .

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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by NoToPile: 7:36am On Jan 07, 2020
Loool anybody with some level of intelligence would know the stories are different.



I just hope Mr Toby won't go and hurt the other lady this one they have called family and community meeting on the matter that he didn't confirm the identity of the poster.

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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by CoolJul: 7:49am On Jan 07, 2020
fear women.
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by grafixdon: 7:50am On Jan 07, 2020
DavidEsq:

Yet, Alaye earlier stated that the essence of pushing for a return to her roots is to avoid untimely pregnancy, which would imply that the possibilities of her having sex with area boys (wey baba done dey envy) is high. How does this reconcile with the certainty that she is a virgin? This cross-examination don dey make sense o

Oga leave this guy alone. If you don't have any reasonable things to say just shut the fvvck up
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by lolaluv1(f): 8:02am On Jan 07, 2020
Mr TobyeCole,

I hope you have not accused an innocent woman wrongly. A search of her previous posts would tell you if it is the same woman, because she has been posting as far back as 2012 and there are personal events she has posted that will easily unravel her identity (I checked).

The way you said you informed all the neighbours who are mad and waiting for her was somehow to me. That is how lynching/mob action starts. Also informed her husband, all these in her absence when she'd not had a chance to defend herself. It seemed like an overkill, but I kept quiet to watch, especially as the stories are not quite the same.

Please check her old posts and verify for real. There is nothing new under the sun and I have once seen a situation online, I could have sworn my person posted it about me. That was why i chose to remain silent in this thread. All around us, nannies and helps are leaving, women are trying to get things in place before resumption.

At this point, i am not judging you. But do due diligence before you turn people against the wrong woman.

P.S
You sound a little uptight and need to offload in za oza room.

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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by Catchfirez: 8:19am On Jan 07, 2020
zolajpower:

Madam regardless of whether she is mama lekan or not u are a fucking liar and a wicked person as well . Can u mom be called psycho Or can ur children neighbor call u psycho mother inlaw let's assume the man ( tobycole ) is not refering to you ? What if d lady inquestion dies today will u move or not move on ?
If anyone believes ur rooster and brood stories I won't believe it for a piece or fading, I see u like a home breaker .


You just don't have sense. Is the story thesame. You don't take time to read and comprehend. You just jump to conclusions. Na your mama she call psycho. If you don't have something to contribute then shut the fuvck up and keep reading comments.

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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by usoroakpan(m): 8:25am On Jan 07, 2020
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by busar(m): 8:38am On Jan 07, 2020
lolaluv1:
Mr TobyeCole,

I hope you have not accused an innocent woman wrongly. A search of her previous posts would tell you if it is the same woman, because she has been posting as far back as 2012 and there are personal events she has posted that will easily unravel her identity (I checked).

The way you said you informed all the neighbours who are mad and waiting for her was somehow to me. That is how lynching/mob action starts. Also informed her husband, all these in her absence when she'd not had a chance to defend herself. It seemed like an overkill, but I kept quiet to watch, especially as the stories are not quite the same.

Please check her old posts and verify for real. There is nothing new under the sun and I have once seen a situation online, I could have sworn my person posted it about me. That was why i chose to remain silent in this thread. All around us, nannies and helps are leaving, women are trying to get things in place before resumption.

At this point, i am not judging you. But do due diligence before you turn people against the wrong woman.

P.S
You sound a little uptight and need to offload in za oza room.
as in! The man has just turned to nuisance in his area o... People might think he is crazy or so. One thing is the said Mama Lekan will never forgive you. You just tarnished her name in your area, you even reported her to her husband.. Boda "soji" e ma fara bale... Big for nothing, nothing upstairs

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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by Graxie(f): 8:58am On Jan 07, 2020
I said it, the both stories are not the same. I wonder how reasonable person can't see this.

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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by baby124: 9:02am On Jan 07, 2020
Lmao... I think the Tobyecole is suffering from guilty conscience. So he’s seeing his problems everywhere. You better go and lie down and beg the mummy Lekan.

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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by Graxie(f): 9:11am On Jan 07, 2020
Toby the minister, that picks only virgins to nurture. 5 has gone and this is going back to the village because boys are admiring her. Good morning sir, please come and continue your story.

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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by rain21(f): 9:16am On Jan 07, 2020
@Graxie was insisting the stories were not the same but that boy wouldn't hear.
op mentioned she was a house owner and so was the mil of the nanny..


OP, if the nanny is that good to ur kids find a way to keep her because good nannies are very difficult to get these days... moreover ur kids are already used to her

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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by DavidEsq(m): 9:18am On Jan 07, 2020
Graxie:
Toby the minister, that picks only virgins to nurture. 5 has gone and this is going back to the village because boys are admiring her. Good morning sir, please come and continue your story.
grin grin angry angry angry grin

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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by Catchfirez: 9:26am On Jan 07, 2020
Graxie:
Toby the minister, that picks only virgins to nurture. 5 has gone and this is going back to the village because boys are admiring her. Good morning sir, please come and continue your story.
Lol
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by Catchfirez: 9:28am On Jan 07, 2020
Mama lekan have suffered. I dey wonder what the innocent woman will be going through now.

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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by DavidEsq(m): 9:35am On Jan 07, 2020
omonikiba:


See how hasty you are to conclude it's mama lekan. Omg, did you first show her my post? Eya, maybe she's not even a Nairalander now oo.

This is 2020 o, go make peace with your neighbor.

My conclusion on you, the way you concluded am mama lekan, it's the same way youconcluded the real mama lekan negatively influenced your girl and it's too bad.

You owe her an apology. And if you're intelligent enough, the first thing would be to check my past posts and try to relate it with her. You don't just conclude.

Make peace with that woman and apologize.


Good night
The OP has cleared mataz o
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by eyinjuege: 10:03am On Jan 07, 2020
zolajpower:

Madam regardless of whether she is mama lekan or not u are a fucking liar and a wicked person as well . Can u mom be called psycho Or can ur children neighbor call u psycho mother inlaw let's assume the man ( tobycole ) is not refering to you ? What if d lady inquestion dies today will u move or not move on ?
If anyone believes ur rooster and brood stories I won't believe it for a piece or fading, I see u like a home breaker .

Anybody can be a psycho or act like one, regardless of age or social status.
For a minute, I believed the stories were the same because the man that came to counter OP was truly behaving as she described them...
Mr minister TobyeCole, you're too emotional. You need to always settle down and analyse situations you find yourself. Dont be too quick to show others the hand you want to deal. Avoid being too reactive to situations. Always take a step back and ponder before posting anything on the internet. Perhaps if you had taken 10minutes to read what you typed before posting, you would have deleted it .
There is nothing new under the sun. The thing your family is experiencing is being experienced by hundreds of thousands or perhaps even millions of other people, in this same Nigeria of over 200million people.

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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by DavidEsq(m): 10:10am On Jan 07, 2020
Since the OP has cleared matters, replying to all TobyeCole's posts, we can see that it is very necessary for us all to be cautious before replying on matters we do not the full facts of. It was all the more shameful, when we consider this supposed status of this Tobycole: a minister; a man of the cloth. Would the scriptures have properly guided his actions, if the scriptures is anything to go by with ministers? These two scriptures are worthy of note:
Proverbs 18:13: "When anyone replies to a matter before he hears the facts, it is foolish and humiliating". If TobyeCole had allowed himself to be guided scripturally he would not have stirred up an unnecessary storm. Proverbs 14:29 says: "The one who is slow to anger has great discernment but the impatient one DISPLAYS HIS FOOLISHNESS". He calls himself a minister. Really? What exactly does he he preach and to whom does he really minister? Romans 2:21 says: "do you, however, the one teaching someone else, not teach yourself? You, the one preaching". He said he has told his neighbors all about the story. Oya go goan calm the storm u have stirred up. See how u have shamed urself, ur family and the god u claim to be a minister of. Continue in not heeding to the scriptures which are written for ur own good.

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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by kayourcome: 10:33am On Jan 07, 2020
kodyx:
Tell her to agree along with the plans of the MIL and hubby, when they might have taken her back home, she can always find her way back and by then you might have gotten her an alternative accomodation. It just for you to make the whole arrangements with her, that way those guys won't hold anything against you.
Nice advice. I support this
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by Metooreal: 10:35am On Jan 07, 2020
But stories are different now.

I hate men who behave like women.

TobyeCole is not a real man. I can imagine how he called emergency family and area meeting. How he'll run around to discredit the so called mama lekan. Real men don't make hasty decisions.

And you call yoursef a minister? You love jokes right? Who are you ministering to? Maybe to virgins.

You have embarrassed yoursef here and in your area.

Mama lekan, yoruba women are not ode, am sure she will dish out to you hot hot.

If she has an understanding hubby, he will last last force you to apologise to his wife.

This is how they go tagging innocent woman as bad, your attitude as a man is highly questionable.

Hide your face, you even love NwaAmaikpe's post and you call yourself minister, shame shame on you.

Minister for virgins!

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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by Metooreal: 10:39am On Jan 07, 2020
NoToPile:
Loool anybody with some level of intelligence would know the stories are different.



I just hope Mr Toby won't go and hurt the other lady this one they have called family and community meeting on the matter that he didn't confirm the identity of the poster.

Yah the stories are not the same at allll.
TobyeCole is definitely sleeping with the girl. Cps op said married nanny, and Toby's girl according to him isn't married.

How come he is relating ops post as his.
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by Saintmary(f): 10:56am On Jan 07, 2020
CoolJul:
fear women.
Fear Mr Tobyecole who has rounded up the entire community against an unsuspecting woman over a misunderstanding. I will ensure not to live in an estate if this is a glimpse of what estate dwellers do.

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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by waistbead: 11:51am On Jan 07, 2020
NwaAmaikpe:
shocked




I was almost starting to think you were selfish about your decision to keep her but reading further it became clearer that you have a genuine bond with her, are empathetic to her plight and wants just the best for her.

But this is a very tricky issue and you would never know the lenght it will go when the tales are spurn in the neighborhood about how you housed a cast-away to spite her husband's people.
I will feel bad if I were her husband and even worse if I am her mother-in-law.

Life is easy.
This lady is extremely good to your kids and is a perfect fit in your house.
Your kids see her as family too.
Your husband is willing to house her despite knowing her husband is just a breadth away.

Most importantly, you see the good in her that not even her husband who married her and her mother-in-law who lives with her sees.
You apparently have concluded that this lady is indispensable to the life of your kids and the bliss of your family.

Hanty, there is only one way to keep her without hurting both yourself and her mother-in-law.
Just tell your husband to marry her, that way she will become you people's property and you will not feel so bad when your husband starts screwing her.

Because definitely, water must find it's level this one that Broda wants her sleeping under his roof.

Over to Lalast.iclala and the other elders.






You no der disappoint atall.. I don laugh break my glass here oo!!
Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by lolaluv1(f): 11:54am On Jan 07, 2020
Even if it was same story, has it really gotten to rounding up the neighbours and riling them up to descend on Mama Lanre?
Or informing her hubby so he appears 'shocked' and is also left to stew in anger, so he can give Mama Lanre hot-hot when she gets back?

Inasmuch as we say you can't tell someone how to react, we should learn not to over react. To master our emotions. Assuming it is a crime you wrongly accused her of, they would have thrown tire on her enemy's neck and struck the matches and all because of what?

What would you say about me who got to hear my bosom friend say derogatory lies about me? About 15 years now, she doesn't know I know. But that singular event has taught me where and how to place her in her rightful place(she is not my true friend).

You even talked of her late nights, she doesnt cook, bla bla. How do you know so much? Is it same girl that has furnished you with this information abi it is neighbourly gossip?
I am currently at home a lot and I don't recognise 70% of my neighbours, talk more of knowing what goes on with them.
This is a lesson to always try to keep a friendly distance in the hood. No help from your close vicinity. Else your house business will be made the neighbourhood business. They will know every. And sell you out.

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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by cococandy(f): 12:23pm On Jan 07, 2020
Glad to see that others have decoded his posts and the weirdness in them.

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Re: My Kids Nanny Is Leaving - Urgent Advise by zolajpower: 12:43pm On Jan 07, 2020
Catchfirez:



You just don't have sense. Is the story thesame. You don't take time to read and comprehend. You just jump to conclusions. Na your mama she call psycho. If you don't have something to contribute then shut the fuvck up and keep reading comments.
Well it seems to me you don't have an elderly mans picture in your clan and or family. Your statement says otherwise . slowpoke

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