TemmyT002:



Well, this is nonsense, inconvenient and unfair, all because of money

I won a case on Gbari custom of inheritance and marriage for a widow who was a wife to a late councilor. Her in-laws threw her out of the matrimonial home and took everything from her, with the aid of the chief of her village. They claimed she wasn't properly married according to Gbari custom. I showed the chief serious shege in court and all her in-laws. It was a vigorous trial and the chief went about slaughtering Rams and calling my name in several shrines, according to the woman and her ppl who were also doing their own shrine activities. Now why am I saying this?
Idbthe woman and her late husband had done court marriage, much of this would have been avoided. That is not say that in-laws drama doesn't happen in court marriage, but it is reduced, especially if the family has a lawyer.
BTW, marriage is not a must ehn. u can be having baby mamas upandan.

See this Oga. By the time you are 65 -70 years of age, you will come back here and change this your story. By that time it would be too late and you would regret not knowing the value of building companionship with a woman who has known you for years. By that time , the freedom you so cherish today will turn to a prison which you are running from now.

Better get your ass up and go out there to look for a good woman with true love and build your future.

bluefilm:


I like my freedom and Marriage sounds like prison to me.

There's nothing you can do within marriage that you cannot do outside marriage.

Marriage gives outsiders the "right" to have some say in how you run your own personal life.

I don't want any woman to feel like she and her damn family is rightfully entitled to my earnings.

I don't want to be accused of cheating on any bitch.

I don't have time to be listening to women and their nonsense stories about nonsense things.

Neither do I have the time or wish to be in a position to be dealing with women and their ever unending insecurities and jealousies.

I like making and taking decisions by myself without necessarily consulting anyone else so I don't really need to put myself in a position where I will always have to be considering and/or consulting someone else before making those decisions.

So as you can see, marriage is definitely not for me at all!!!

QuickStandard:
Which one is legally and illegally?

There are 3 types of marriages in Nigeria.

Tradition
Religion
And of course court marriage.

All of the above are legal.

You can't expect someone to marry traditionally and Church and still go do court marriage. It's stupidity.

the law does not recognise the traditional and religion marriage, they only recognise the court marriage(which is done in the ministry)because they are the only institution that is licensed to give marriage certificates.. the marriage certificate the church gives must come from the ministry

cerpvad:
See this Oga. By the time you are 65 -70 years of age, you will come back here and change this your story. By that time it would be too late and you would regret not knowing the value of building companionship with a woman who has known you for years. By that time , the freedom you so cherish today will turn to a prison which you are running from now.

Better get your ass up and go out there to look for a good woman with true love and build your future.

By the time I am 65 - 70 years, I might as well as be dead.

So why bother?!!!

cerpvad:
See this Oga. By the time you are 65 -70 years of age, you will come back here and change this your story. By that time it would be too late and you would regret not knowing the value of building companionship with a woman who has known you for years. By that time , the freedom you so cherish today will turn to a prison which you are running from now.

Better get your ass up and go out there to look for a good woman with true love and build your future.

dont mind him,, until his mates start inviting him to their children's weddings, that is wen he will say his village people are after him

cerpvad:
See this Oga. By the time you are 65 -70 years of age, you will come back here and change this your story. By that time it would be too late and you would regret not knowing the value of building companionship with a woman who has known you for years. By that time , the freedom you so cherish today will turn to a prison which you are running from now.

Better get your ass up and go out there to look for a good woman with true love and build your future.

dont mind him,, until his mates start inviting him to their children's weddings, that is wen he will say his village people are after him....

DavidEsq:

I won a case on Gbari custom of inheritance and marriage for a widow who was a wife to a late councilor. Her in-laws threw her out of the matrimonial home and took everything from her, with the aid of the chief of her village. They claimed she wasn't properly married according to Gbari custom. I showed the chief serious shege in court and all her in-laws. It was a vigorous trial and the chief went about slaughtering Rams and calling my name in several shrines, according to the woman and her ppl who were also doing their own shrine activities. Now why am I saying this?
Idbthe woman and her late husband had done court marriage, much of this would have been avoided. That is not say that in-laws drama doesn't happen in court marriage, but it is reduced, especially if the family has a lawyer.
BTW, marriage is not a must ehn. u can be having baby mamas upandan.

Lol

What if you are no yet dead by then? Or are telling us that you have a concrete plan to die by 65-70?

It is true that life does not have a map when it comes to the issue of death. Nobody knows when his/her death will come. However, one deserves to live a better life at old age and the companionship offered by marriage is one of those major things that spice up your old age life. If you look around you today, you will see many old people who are lonely in their old age because they refused to plan for old age companionship.

bluefilm:


By the time I am 65 - 70 years, I might as well as be dead.

So why bother?!!!

Who will make a post about getting a cheap divorce. I got married at ikoyi registry but the marriage is dead.

bluefilm:
Na for those wey still dey interested in the scam called marriage.

you have a point though and probably speaking from experience. Enlighten me more

bluefilm:


I like my freedom and Marriage sounds like prison to me.

There's nothing you can do within marriage that you cannot do outside marriage.

Marriage gives outsiders the "right" to have some say in how you run your own personal life.

I don't want any woman to feel like she and her damn family is rightfully entitled to my earnings.

I don't want to be accused of cheating on any bitch.

I don't have time to be listening to women and their nonsense stories about nonsense things.

Neither do I have the time or wish to be in a position to be dealing with women and their ever unending insecurities and jealousies.

I like making and taking decisions by myself without necessarily consulting anyone else so I don't really need to put myself in a position where I will always have to be considering and/or consulting someone else before making those decisions.

So as you can see, marriage is definitely not for me at all!!!

what about pressure

Liposure:
what about pressure

Pressure how?

Pressure from who?

bluefilm:

Pressure how?
Pressure from who?

pressure 2 get married of course. From u know who

Jestin:
Illegal cohabitating and baby mama saga is the order of the day. For more information, contact Airforce1

Face what's facing you bro

Calling me out day after day won't help your situation .

cerpvad:
What if you are no yet dead by then? Or are telling us that you have a concrete plan to die by 65-70?

It is true that life does not have a map when it comes to the issue of death. Nobody knows when his/her death will come. However, one deserves to live a better life at old age and the companionship offered by marriage is one of those major things that spice up your old age life. If you look around you today, you will see many old people who are lonely in their old age because they refused to plan for old age companionship.

Companionship will not be a problem for me at all, if that is what you are worried about.

I will still have lots and lots of my good ol' friends who are equally old like me to keep each other company in our old age.

Liposure:
pressure 2 get married of course. From u know who

The pressure is there but it's left for me to either give in or continue with the status quo.

Even those pressurizing you to get married already know that their efforts will amount to nothing if you don't agree with them.

At the end of the day, life is an individual thing.

Reelmii:
no wen the reach embassy, them go tell them say 'we are married by our tradition' instead of them to learn now and do the right thing

You dey mind them..

Emidbest:


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Don't try it,run for your dear life please

What about those that married in an Anglican church? Does the law recognize it?

MoonandStar:


In regards to this how will the court know that one of the party is legally married before?

Cc
Doctor92
happney65
DavidEsq
ADSGall
NofiuFade
Reelmii

the court can find out if ur partner makes a complain...in a case of u taking a second wife or doing a contract wedding with another woman, ur wife can sue u to court....

MoonandStar:


In regards to this how will the court know that one of the party is legally married before?

Cc
Doctor92
happney65
DavidEsq
ADSGall
NofiuFade
Reelmii

the court can find out if ur partner makes a complain...in a case of u taking a second wife or doing a contract wedding with another woman, ur wife can sue u to court.... and that is why part of the procedure of doing a court wedding is that, 21days notice of ur new marriage will be made known where by the photograph of u and ur new spouse will be uploaded on the notice board in the registry so that anyone that that sees the pictures of the couples and have a good reason why the couple should not be joined together can make their complaint and that marriage will be stopped

MoonandStar:


In regards to this how will the court know that one of the party is legally married before?

Cc
Doctor92
happney65
DavidEsq
ADSGall
NofiuFade
Reelmii

so someone that knows that u have been married before can see ur picture and he/she can report u to the authority

bluefilm:


Companionship will not be a problem for me at all, if that is what you are worried about.

I will still have lots and lots of my good ol' friends who are equally old like me to keep each other company in our old age.

and u think they will be the once to bury u wen u die.... or u think they will not prefer to spent time wirh their children and grandchildren,, u better change ir mindset

bluefilm:


Companionship will not be a problem for me at all, if that is what you are worried about.

I will still have lots and lots of my good ol' friends who are equally old like me to keep each other company in our old age.

and u think they will be the once to bury u wen u die.... or u think they will not prefer to spent time wirh their children and grandchildren,, u better change ir mindset...u are to young to think like this

Authoreety:
Arrant nonsense..


Without the parents traditional blessings,marriage in the court is total bullshit


Nonsense Nigerian courts.

Shut up.

Your problem is that you don't know the difference between companionship in marriage and ordinary friendship. As you are growing, many of the friends you keep today will be dropping because of change of interests,locations etc, Many will desert you because they find new interests e. g they no longer belief in things you share together, while many will leave you because of change of location. If you look back to 20years ago, can you say all of the friends back then still remain with you today? The same thing will happen when in your 60s, 70s 80s, not all the friends you frolick with today will be there by your old age. You may claim you will make new friends but it can never be the same like someone who has known you all your life. And that someone is the WIFE OF YOUR YOUTH. Better stop being lazy and go out there and find her now that you are still young.

bluefilm:


Companionship will not be a problem for me at all, if that is what you are worried about.

I will still have lots and lots of my good ol' friends who are equally old like me to keep each other company in our old age.

Na man dey benefit no be woman,with the authentic white wedding a woman can never ever marry another till she got divorced but a man can take another wife traditionally but will not wed her. and if the man no give you divorce you siddon there and chained down except you go court speak better grammar and get divorce, women are disadvantaged in white wedding and not the other way round.

NaijadrivaCars:


If you like, do a 20 million Naira traditional marriage and *white* wedding (except maybe you wedded in Catholic or Anglican), without a government recognised marriage, you aren't married before the law.


They will tell you not to contract any marriage after that, without ending the first legal one.

Some men do not like it because the woman benefits from such arrangement. You can't send the women away just like that without settling her, save maybe in case of adultery.


But we don't get married only to have irreconcilable differences or part.

Jestin:
Illegal cohabitating and baby mama saga is the order of the day. For more information, contact Airforce1

you are wicked

MoonandStar:


The truth I was impregnated by a man that's legally married to a foreign older woman though we lost the baby, but he want to be legally married to me because he said I deserve better, want to us to be going to his church in matching outfits and doesn't want to have a child outside wedlock though we did a traditional wedding without his church and members awareness but I've been discouraging him because I don't want him to go to jail and I don't the foreign lady to be hurt as well but as the same time I deeply love him and I don't want to lose him to Nigeria ladies because all his ex are not willing to let go of him

Btw
I don't want to create a topic for this because we met here through dm and all his side chicks are nairalanders as well (always stalking me). I opened this new y account for this purpose
Cc
Healthserve
Cutehector
Doctor92
happney65
DavidEsq
ADSGall
NofiuFade
Reelmii

if he was legally married then he has to legally divorce her only if their marriage has passed 2yrs(that is if he got legally married in nigeria) but if he married outside the country, i will advise u and ur go to ikoyi registry and make proper findings before u continue with the marriage so that u will not have any issue in future because his former wifr can sue him,, u will get all the answers u need and they will also put u tru on what and what not to do.