Good day nairalanders.. I hardly do this but I just want your opinions. I'll make it brief as possible.


I've been in a relationship with this girl for five months though we have known eachother for awhile now.. She told me her ex left her then for no reason so we decided to start dating.

I'm always busy with work tho I still find time for us to hang out whenever she's in town for holidays (she's a student).

Everything was going great till first week of this year.. She told me her aunt got her a phone which at a time I believed. Her previous phone has been faulty and i wanted to get her one last year but i couldn't because my company had a set back financially.

I stumbled upon her chat with a contact named 'friend' and i got to find out that the phone was bought by her ex. She even lied to her family that her former boss got it for her. I approached her and asked her why she didnt tell me the truth about the phone. She said she knew it will hurt me but she doesn't mean any harm.. She was reassuring me that she loves me that her ex just did it out of kindness..I was disappointed so I stopped communicating with her.. She left alot of messages, voicenotes and missed calls on my phone.

We all know Okafor's law..I wanna let her go so i wont waste her time, my resources and at the end get disappointed. I've been in several relationships in the past which didnt end well cuz i lose interest easily especially on matters like this..
Am I overreacting?
Your opinions are welcomed

Let her go bro...u made the right decision.

You might actually be overacting, cos obviously from your narration this is the first time she's doing something like this.

You should watch out for how her communication with the ex is like and possibly ask her to stop.

Tell her about your fears and watch if she changes or not.

Not all exes are monsters

If you were her and your 'ex' bought you a brand new phone when your boyfriend offered you none won't you accept the gift? I mean its not like you've paid her dowry.

Women always try to choose the highest "honest" bidder. And to be fair we the men do the same.

I rest my case.

Let her go for what.....bro I learnt something recently...."it's time for every one to make up their minds,..if u lov her pls stay n fight but no die...if I knew u earlier , would have encourage u to get her d phone from Ur last penny.
..now ask her to return the phone....try n buy her one ASAP....don't make d mistake I made....if u wanna talk to me will drop my number on Ur request

Iammelvin:
Good day nairalanders.. I hardly do this but I just want your opinions. I'll make it brief as possible.


I've been in a relationship with this girl for five months though we have known eachother for awhile now.. She told me her ex left her then for no reason so we decided to start dating.

I'm always busy with work tho I still find time for us to hang out whenever she's in town for holidays (she's a student).

Everything was going great till first week of this year.. She told me her aunt got her a phone which at a time I believed. Her previous phone has been faulty and i wanted to get her one last year but i couldn't because my company had a set back financially.

I stumbled upon her chat with a contact named 'friend' and i got to find out that the phone was bought by her ex. She even lied to her family that her former boss got it for her. I approached her and asked her why she didnt tell me the truth about the phone. She said she knew it will hurt me but she doesn't mean any harm.. She was reassuring me that she loves me that her ex just did it out of kindness..I was disappointed so I stopped communicating with her.. She left alot of messages, voicenotes and missed calls on my phone.

We all know Okafor's law..I wanna let her go so i wont waste her time, my resources and at the end get disappointed. I've been in several relationships in the past which didnt end well cuz i lose interest easily especially on matters like this..
Am I overreacting?
Your opinions are welcomed

I am telling you the truth bro, don't even give any lady a second chance, it has thought me a serious lesson in life

She'll promise you heaven and earth that her heart is with you but bro, she spreading legs for some MF elsewhere honestly! And lemme tell you this Ladies never tell you the full stories, there are darker sides to everything they tell you Don't get easy on these girls, you will regret it aswear!



But if you doubt me, give it a try and let experience deal with you as they call it the very best teacher!

Bro, from what you narrated you have to let her go. You're working so go get yourself a girl above 26 years that's ready to settle down. I dont know how you guys manage to date students who, most times, are not ready for any commitment but just there for the flair , fun and whatever material benefits they can end up extracting from you. If you continue with this relationship and dont end up losing resources , time and effort I'll personally give you 100k.

Let her go or u will spend the rest of your life sniffing on her phone like a rat. Honestly i feel very angry seeing young guys like this holding onto and being clingy to girls like this. Once you see things have gone out of your terms you simply let her go and be useful to urself first.

All these girls going back to their ex and collecting material things, just as you spend money on her and expects to enter her london in return, so is her ex's intention as well. That's how it works, exes are great oppurtunists

In as much as I personally think one shouldn't tie the other down, depriving them of chances to get what they like or getting married yet i still think you should forget about women now and hustle bro. Try again when you're more balanced

Rider007:
Let her go for what.....bro I learnt something recently...."it's time for every one to make up their minds,..if u lov her pls stay n fight but no die...if I knew u earlier , would have encourage u to get her d phone from Ur last penny.
..now ask her to return the phone....try n buy her one ASAP....don't make d mistake I made....if u wanna talk to me will drop my number on Ur request

”you are a mumu man”

stupidity:
”you are a mumu man”

Yes capital mumu man

Yhure obviously over reacting but it's yhur....if yhu really loved her yhu wouldn't be acting like this...

Since yhu don't...let her go..

How bro

Irony!...Ur name suggests otherwise

Follow your own mind.

Iammelvin:
Good day nairalanders.. I hardly do this but I just want your opinions. I'll make it brief as possible.


I've been in a relationship with this girl for five months though we have known eachother for awhile now.. She told me her ex left her then for no reason so we decided to start dating.

I'm always busy with work tho I still find time for us to hang out whenever she's in town for holidays (she's a student).

Everything was going great till first week of this year.. She told me her aunt got her a phone which at a time I believed. Her previous phone has been faulty and i wanted to get her one last year but i couldn't because my company had a set back financially.

I stumbled upon her chat with a contact named 'friend' and i got to find out that the phone was bought by her ex. She even lied to her family that her former boss got it for her. I approached her and asked her why she didnt tell me the truth about the phone. She said she knew it will hurt me but she doesn't mean any harm.. She was reassuring me that she loves me that her ex just did it out of kindness..I was disappointed so I stopped communicating with her.. She left alot of messages, voicenotes and missed calls on my phone.

We all know Okafor's law..I wanna let her go so i wont waste her time, my resources and at the end get disappointed. I've been in several relationships in the past which didnt end well cuz i lose interest easily especially on matters like this..
Am I overreacting?
Your opinions are welcomed

You have to exercise patient when dealing with women

If you continue to develop lose interest easily in relationships, you will not have the opportunity to learn from it

It will get to a stage, your mind will tell you that relationships doesn't want it

The worst is tgat you can't remain with out a woman for the rest of your life

Women are full of attitudes that will scare you, but the ability to remain in the relationship and learn is your key to succeed the next relationship

nuelsam:
Let her go bro...u made the right decision.

Thanks bro for your opinion

2SWT:
You might actually be overacting, cos obviously from your narration this is the first time she's doing something like this.

You should watch out for how her communication with the ex is like and possibly ask her to stop.

Tell her about your fears and watch if she changes or not.

Not all exes are monsters

True tho. Not all exes are monsters
I'm too busy to monitor a partner. This is 2020.. We should be able to differentiate right from left..Thanks for your opinion tho

GraGra247:
If you were her and your 'ex' bought you a brand new phone when your boyfriend offered you none won't you accept the gift? I mean its not like you've paid her dowry.

Women always try to choose the highest "honest" bidder. And to be fair we the men do the same.

I rest my case.

I'm not totally against her accepting the gift but why lie to my face and her family? The fact that I've not married her doesnt mean I should condone acts like this while in courtship..Thanks for your opinion tho

My only submission


Why do you guys date students and plan to marry them?

I find this confusing.

50% of these students have hostel bfs (aside school bfs) if they live outside the school campus...


My 2%

if you plan to marry, find a babe that's out of school....

Rider007:
Let her go for what.....bro I learnt something recently...."it's time for every one to make up their minds,..if u lov her pls stay n fight but no die...if I knew u earlier , would have encourage u to get her d phone from Ur last penny.
..now ask her to return the phone....try n buy her one ASAP....don't make d mistake I made....if u wanna talk to me will drop my number on Ur request

Lol I can't get her one in a hurry just because her ex did.. It's not a competition.. Thanks for your opinion

MiVida:
I am telling you the truth bro, don't even give any lady a second chance, it has thought me a serious lesson in life

She'll promise you heaven and earth that her heart is with you but bro, she spreading legs for some MF elsewhere honestly! And lemme tell you this Ladies never tell you the full stories, there are darker sides to everything they tell you Don't get easy on these girls, you will regret it aswear!



But if you doubt me, give it a try and let experience deal with you as they call it the very best teacher!

Lollzz.. I've been through alot too.. Thanks for your opinion

smeag0l:
Bro, from what you narrated you have to let her go. You're working so go get yourself a girl above 26 years that's ready to settle down. I dont know how you guys manage to date students who, most times, are not ready for any commitment but just there for the flair , fun and whatever material benefits they can end up extracting from you. If you continue with this relationship and dont end up losing resources , time and effort I'll personally give you 100k.

Lol.. Some students are down to earth tho.. Maybe i just met the wrong one.. Thanks for your opinion.. I will lose more than the 100k you are offering me

MedicH:
Let her go or u will spend the rest of your life sniffing on her phone like a rat. Honestly i feel very angry seeing young guys like this holding onto and being clingy to girls like this. Once you see things have gone out of your terms you simply let her go and be useful to urself first.

I got no time for sniffing.. Its not a do or die affair
Dont get angry at me lol.. Thanks for your opinion

vincentjk:
All these girls going back to their ex and collecting material things, just as you spend money on her and expects to enter her london in return, so is her ex's intention as well. That's how it works, exes are great oppurtunists

In as much as I personally think one shouldn't tie the other down, depriving them of chances to get what they like or getting married yet i still think you should forget about women now and hustle bro. Try again when you're more balanced

Noted. Thanks for your advice

Jodha:
Yhure obviously over reacting but it's yhur....if yhu really loved her yhu wouldn't be acting like this...

Since yhu don't...let her go..

Love shouldn't cloud anyone's sense of reasoning. The fact that I love her doesnt mean i should ignore red flags.
Thanks for your opinion

christiandating:
Follow your own mind.

Thank you

frozen70:


You have to exercise patient when dealing with women

If you continue to develop lose interest easily in relationships, you will not have the opportunity to learn from it

It will get to a stage, your mind will tell you that relationships doesn't want it

The worst is tgat you can't remain with out a woman for the rest of your life

Women are full of attitudes that will scare you, but the ability to remain in the relationship and learn is your key to succeed the next relationship

Hmm.. My mind has already gotten to that stage.. Thanks for your opinion

Iammelvin:


Hmm.. My mind has already gotten to that stage.. Thanks for your opinion

Thanks too

No p bro...

Rider007:
Let her go for what.....bro I learnt something recently...."it's time for every one to make up their minds,..if u lov her pls stay n fight but no die...if I knew u earlier , would have encourage u to get her d phone from Ur last penny.
..now ask her to return the phone....try n buy her one ASAP....don't make d mistake I made....if u wanna talk to me will drop my number on Ur request

OP
Don’t take this advise, you subconsciously start competing to impress her. Some ladies don’t handle this well, it’s a recipe for blackmail and manipulation.

Okafors law is real bro. You already know the rest