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Bola146:
Exactly.. Also there is nothing like. " honest man" especially in Nigeria. Use your brain

That's how they behave when they don't trust themselves

Heroclitus:
I'm looking forward to that day when I'll start seeing things from this particular point of view... I really need this kinda mentality badly

You dont need that point of view trust me. Its a path to misery. Ironically people with that mindset end up with the dishonest ones.

Davash222:
There’s nothing like a ‘Honest Girl’, especially in Nigeria.
She’s just manipulating you emotionally. Don’t fall for all these blackmails from Nigerian girls.

Imagine, she said she has forgiven you?? For what??
Obviously, you’re too immature to be in a relationship with a Nigerian girl.

And this part is clearly a red flag! What guy? What are they discussing? How did it start and get to the present stage?

That there is no connection between her and the guy.

So, if there is connection between them (which might already be there), it means that you're done for.
Wake up. Then again, are you really ready to face all these challenges?

Copied Logan95

like it's time to quit reading relationship stuffs here, some comments here can make you dislike/distrust your own girlfriend for no reason....

10mobile:
You are the most reasonable guy on Nairaland... after me

Real recognize real my bro , chop knuckle

Oreofepeters:
Get this right, there's nothing like "Honest girl" in Nigeria, the guy above me has said it all

Btw why should you beg a girl? What have you done wrong? All these pvssy niggás matter sef dey tire person

Don't beg your girl when you offend her
Advance a little
Don't beg your wife when you offend her

Thats when you will know why some men pets and begs their wives when they offend them for peace to reign at home

Guys guys...listen carefully and let me tell you a secret about women........

mperornero:
like it's time to quit reading relationship stuffs here, some comments here can make you dislike/distrust your own girlfriend for no reason....

Bitter truth, hard facts. People are posting based on the real life experience.

She will still come back.

That is what they all do.

Logan95:
My people, Something really terrible just occurred now.

I have dated my girlfriend for about 6 months, she is the most open individual I've ever met... She has told me most of her secrets. She is a very beautiful and intelligent girl and what really made us thick is that I was there when she had seizures in the past.

To the issue, She answered a call today and I felt suspicious and I decided to confront her immediately, but as she was trying to explain, I cut in and acted with mistrust and accusations that I suspect cheating. This was a major catalyst and it triggered her seizure. I started apologizing immediately to calm her down, she passed out for some minutes after she tried to use her clothes to suffocate herself.

She woke up irritated and I asked her to explain what is happening in her social world. She said it was really nothing and that she feels I don't trust her that's why she reduced telling me personal stuff. That there is no connection between her and the guy.

She said she has forgiven me but she has to leave my house that moment. I asked that I drop her but she refused and packed her belongings that has been here. She later accepted that I'd drop her because I could not stand the shame of her going alone but my car battery decided to die and she eventually entered bike home.

She left by saying she needs space but I feel I've lost her because I'll be once guilty of inducing her seuzures.

Ladies and gentlemen, red pillers, kindly advice me on how to handle this issue.

N:B kindly put into consideration that she is really emotional and her peculiar challenge.

Op you did the right thing by confronting her since she
answered the call in your presence but at same time you were too quick to drop your charges against her, believe me all the acting up she is doing is to see or test you and once you fail her test she will take over leadership in the relationship, since she said she needs space give it to her and wait for her next move, you can call her atimes just to check on her health but don't go begging her over anything I repeat don't beg her over anything but make sure you call to check on her health (once you beg her to come back and she eventually accepts you have automatically given up control of the relationship to her).

And one more thing......

BEFORE YOU TRUST ANY GIRL THERE HAS TO BE SOME KIND OF SCIENTIFIC DEVICE TO TEST HER FAITHFULNESS OR ELS NEVER TRUST A GIRL.

Ariza:
Hmmmmm You are a man, the Real Man. You know when I opened the thread and read some comments my heark was broken and moved to tears, then I asked "are these posts really made by humans?" I couldn't imagine the level of cruelty displayed by some mentally disturbed individuals who were so daft enough to assume she faked her siezures.Does red pills take people's reasonings too? . At some point I intended to advice/suggest you let the poor lady be and face your fellow Alfa idi.ots holding their stupid meetings on this thread. But seeing your response to the sensible comments here I believe there's hope.


Sir, your girl is going through a lot right now. The best you can give to her is peace of mind. Go to her, apologize and convince her that you made a mistake. Tell her you are sorry for not giving her a chance to explain herself but don't apologise for suspecting her wrongly ( she might think you are doing this out of pity i.e her condition) Let her know what you passed through with your ex, and your fear of it happening again. In fact tell her how scared you are to pass through it again or you losing her. This will restore some esteem that she's important to someone.

If she insist on space, don't feel bad about it.Some things need time to build back but let her realize that it's her decision and not yours. The future of the relationship depends on her. Let her decide. But please Brother, if you ever overcome this situation, never accuse your woman just because you want to put her on her toes. It's very wrong to emotionally instigate people for no reason. Very callous thing to do to a fellow human. Very callous!

You're another real man on this thread.
I'm beginning to think that those red pilled guys are mentally ill somehow. Red pill doesn't rob one of human feeling neither does it kill human feeling.
Your contribution shows there's hope for afterall

frozen70:
Don't beg your girl when you offend her
Advance a little
Don't beg your wife when you offend her

Thats when you will know why some men pets and begs their wives when they offend them for peace to reign at home

The guy asked a question, may be you didn't see it.

What have you done wrong?

Logan95, I'm really interested in the end.

Whichever, looks like it's gonna take time to build back that trust on her part.

Good luck.



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Logan95:
My people, Something really terrible just occurred now.

I have dated my girlfriend for about 6 months, she is the most open individual I've ever met... She has told me most of her secrets. She is a very beautiful and intelligent girl and what really made us thick is that I was there when she had seizures in the past.

To the issue, She answered a call today and I felt suspicious and I decided to confront her immediately, but as she was trying to explain, I cut in and acted with mistrust and accusations that I suspect cheating. This was a major catalyst and it triggered her seizure. I started apologizing immediately to calm her down, she passed out for some minutes after she tried to use her clothes to suffocate herself.

She woke up irritated and I asked her to explain what is happening in her social world. She said it was really nothing and that she feels I don't trust her that's why she reduced telling me personal stuff. That there is no connection between her and the guy.

She said she has forgiven me but she has to leave my house that moment. I asked that I drop her but she refused and packed her belongings that has been here. She later accepted that I'd drop her because I could not stand the shame of her going alone but my car battery decided to die and she eventually entered bike home.

She left by saying she needs space but I feel I've lost her because I'll be once guilty of inducing her seuzures.

Ladies and gentlemen, red pillers, kindly advice me on how to handle this issue.

N:B kindly put into consideration that she is really emotional and her peculiar challenge.

I do understand ur Feeling man.
No man won't to see his woman with another man. But for the fact dat she stay with you in ur bunk & also tells u everything. You supposed trust her & not to suspect her in this small issue. If to she dey pick guys calls all the time you fit confront her that way.

Show her you will change & trust her again. Show her much love & she will see how far you have blame urself for wat u did.

& don't expect quick change. Jus give her sometimes.

Remember it is very easy to spoil but very difficult to fix.

All the best man.

Bless you man!! I hope the OP understand you better

chigoizie7:
She is really scared.

All that happened wasn’t because of the trust issues.

She is only scared that you blew something that has no significance out of proportion.

In her mind, you are only finding a flimsy excuse to break up with her because you can not stay with her based on her conditions. I know that wasn’t what you were thinking.

But trust me, from the onset of that relationship, she already had it at the back of her mind that you will leave her , not because she is not a good person or beautiful enough to date , but because of her conditions, she already prepared her mind towards that and when you did what you did, she only saw it as an indicator.


Brother, if you really want to be with her, go and get her.

A friends younger brother was having same issues, but after a medical trip to India last year, it has stopped, this guys case is not responsive to drugs.

Then my younger sister too, she do have seizures too. But she is married with three kids, the husband knew about it but it never stopped him from marrying her, and she got married at 22. Once I am back, I am arranging for her to go to India and get it sorted out.


So bro, if you really love this girl, please go back and win her back.

Davash222:
There’s nothing like a ‘Honest Girl’, especially in Nigeria.
She’s just manipulating you emotionally. Don’t fall for all these blackmails from Nigerian girls.

Imagine, she said she has forgiven you?? For what??
Obviously, you’re too immature to be in a relationship with a Nigerian girl.

The best reply.so.far.

A honest girl then na Naija. Lmao
My guy just know and.accept she is in.her slut phase. Most girls last in that slut phase even after marriage.

Just Laugh and be quiet now if she comes back. Dey chop with constant or double protection. Enjoy as long.as you want. Dont argue, dont.complain, dont invest financially and emotionally.

Anyday she talks about the future of the relationship or marriage, laugh and then go silent again. Then continue, I.realise this is the.best way.to handle cunning, conniving and manipulating babe like her.

Simple.

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Logan95:
My people, Something really terrible just occurred now.

I have dated my girlfriend for about 6 months, she is the most open individual I've ever met... She has told me most of her secrets. She is a very beautiful and intelligent girl and what really made us thick is that I was there when she had seizures in the past.

To the issue, She answered a call today and I felt suspicious and I decided to confront her immediately, but as she was trying to explain, I cut in and acted with mistrust and accusations that I suspect cheating. This was a major catalyst and it triggered her seizure. I started apologizing immediately to calm her down, she passed out for some minutes after she tried to use her clothes to suffocate herself.

She woke up irritated and I asked her to explain what is happening in her social world. She said it was really nothing and that she feels I don't trust her that's why she reduced telling me personal stuff. That there is no connection between her and the guy.

She said she has forgiven me but she has to leave my house that moment. I asked that I drop her but she refused and packed her belongings that has been here. She later accepted that I'd drop her because I could not stand the shame of her going alone but my car battery decided to die and she eventually entered bike home.

She left by saying she needs space but I feel I've lost her because I'll be once guilty of inducing her seuzures.

Ladies and gentlemen, red pillers, kindly advice me on how to handle this issue.

N:B kindly put into consideration that she is really emotional and her peculiar challenge.

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You are not a man for allowing emotional blackmail manipulate you.

Yes, she owes you explanation who the guy IS! From your narrative I suspect foul play in the part of the girl!

NB: She will be laughing at you wherever she is now

Logan95:
My people, Something really terrible just occurred now.

I have dated my girlfriend for about 6 months, she is the most open individual I've ever met... She has told me most of her secrets. She is a very beautiful and intelligent girl and what really made us thick is that I was there when she had seizures in the past.

To the issue, She answered a call today and I felt suspicious and I decided to confront her immediately, but as she was trying to explain, I cut in and acted with mistrust and accusations that I suspect cheating. This was a major catalyst and it triggered her seizure. I started apologizing immediately to calm her down, she passed out for some minutes after she tried to use her clothes to suffocate herself.

She woke up irritated and I asked her to explain what is happening in her social world. She said it was really nothing and that she feels I don't trust her that's why she reduced telling me personal stuff. That there is no connection between her and the guy.

She said she has forgiven me but she has to leave my house that moment. I asked that I drop her but she refused and packed her belongings that has been here. She later accepted that I'd drop her because I could not stand the shame of her going alone but my car battery decided to die and she eventually entered bike home.

She left by saying she needs space but I feel I've lost her because I'll be once guilty of inducing her seuzures.

Ladies and gentlemen, red pillers, kindly advice me on how to handle this issue.

N:B kindly put into consideration that she is really emotional and her peculiar challenge.

I don't think you did anything bad.. fine you confronted her , and you later apologize , if she's truly yours she won't get mad that much..if she really want the relationship it won't end up in such way... she might b looking for a way to leave you n now she use this as an advantage.... gals are so funny

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DexterousOne:
Answer the fvcking question

Does it mean your mum is not honest with your dad and is sucking the d*ck of an undergrad for extra cash?

Does it mean that your sister And cousins are hoes?

Or your future daughter is already a certified slut even before birth?


When talking, learn to use your brain.

They're daft . Bitter and angry boys all forming red pill.

Davash222:
There’s nothing like a ‘Honest Girl’, especially in Nigeria.
She’s just manipulating you emotionally. Don’t fall for all these blackmails from Nigerian girls.

Imagine, she said she has forgiven you?? For what??
Obviously, you’re too immature to be in a relationship with a Nigerian girl.

Best comment

Are you saying that she willing triggered her epilepsy?

Some of you do not
have sense

AfroKnight:
Everything you have just written does not tell you if she’s faithful or not. Isn‘t that the bone of contention?

Her condition does not take away your privilege to expect honesty from her. There are many diversionary tactics to employ when in a tight corner and guilt tripping, using one’s health condition as an excuse, is not far down that list.

Davash222:
There’s nothing like a ‘Honest Girl’, especially in Nigeria.
She’s just manipulating you emotionally. Don’t fall for all these blackmails from Nigerian girls.

Imagine, she said she has forgiven you?? For what??
Obviously, you’re too immature to be in a relationship with a Nigerian girl.

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All I can contribute is God bless u.

maasoap:
Bitter truth, hard facts. People are posting based on the real life experience.

. I know, have met alot of them. but aren't they good ones? cause with this kind of mindset , it'll be hard to notice them.

AfroKnight:
Everything you have just written does not tell you if she’s faithful or not. Isn‘t that the bone of contention?

Her condition does not take away your privilege to expect honesty from her. There are many diversionary tactics to employ when in a tight corner and guilt tripping, using one’s health condition as an excuse, is not far down that list.

I want to have an orgy with your brain till it births me three daughters

Damn this is a red Piller her

excessmon:
Everyone can’t be like you brother....alpha male with nothing to show for it

Thanks for this comment! You're a man... He's not even interested in the girl's health. He went on to spew trash. He's only an alpha male on NL. At home he bends down to mop the toilet while wifey is chatting on whatsApp. Tueh!!

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Ariza:
Hmmmmm You are a man, the Real Man. You know when I opened the thread and read some comments my heark was broken and moved to tears, then I asked "are these posts really made by humans?" I couldn't imagine the level of cruelty displayed by some mentally disturbed individuals who were so daft enough to assume she faked her siezures.Does red pills take people's reasonings too? . At some point I intended to advice/suggest you let the poor lady be and face your fellow Alfa idi.ots holding their stupid meetings on this thread. But seeing your response to the sensible comments here I believe there's hope.


Sir, your girl is going through a lot right now. The best you can give to her is peace of mind. Go to her, apologize and convince her that you made a mistake. Tell her you are sorry for not giving her a chance to explain herself but don't apologise for suspecting her wrongly ( she might think you are doing this out of pity i.e her condition) Let her know what you passed through with your ex, and your fear of it happening again. In fact tell her how scared you are to pass through it again or you losing her. This will restore some esteem that she's important to someone.

If she insist on space, don't feel bad about it.Some things need time to build back but let her realize that it's her decision and not yours. The future of the relationship depends on her. Let her decide. But please Brother, if you ever overcome this situation, never accuse your woman just because you want to put her on her toes. It's very wrong to emotionally instigate people for no reason. Very callous thing to do to a fellow human. Very callous!

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Typical feminine manipulating narrative

FrLukas:
I learnt that Cannabis oil can be used to treat epilepsy.

Why don't both of you do the research together instead of stressing the life out of each other?

Logan95 this is true.

Also she can instantly get heal when she attend The Lord's Chosen Program. We are having a crusade 8th and 9th titled, "From Sorrow to Joy". People like her are desired in this program for God to demonstrate his power.

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Davash222:
There’s nothing like a ‘Honest Girl’, especially in Nigeria.
She’s just manipulating you emotionally. Don’t fall for all these blackmails from Nigerian girls.

Imagine, she said she has forgiven you?? For what??
Obviously, you’re too immature to be in a relationship with a Nigerian girl.

I'm still looking to find where the op mentioned 'honest girl' in his post.
Stupid alpha male with zero kobo!

My guy... U did what's right by confronting her... If she's sensible... She will know its guys who love that get jealous.... Meanwhile if she doesn't come back.... Then God is taking u away from one big future problem.... Considering her health too bro. Love shouldn't be blind anymore.

kaywhy09:
My ex sometimes back acted suicide attempt when she thought I wanna leave. She always threat to kill herself if I leave her.

She left months back, yet I never heard of such attempt.

Don't bite more than you can chew for any reason.

Think far beyond now...

Mad man!!!

mperornero:
. I know, have met alot of them. but aren't they good ones? cause with this kind of mindset , it'll be hard to notice them.

Of course, there are good ones. People like me came across all sorts of girls, too many headaches, heartaches. But by not being discouraged, you will surely meet one who knows what she really wants.