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Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by blissbliss: 10:54am On Feb 02, 2020
Hello friend,

One hack to longetivity is to seek peace. Naivety is what I can see in your wife; not like she wants to behave that way but she seems young and still willing to enjoy some more attention from other guys.

What can you do? Be the man; act like the father; tolerate her; give her some space; still spoil her, and seek your own peace and then live your life.

She’d most likely come around and if she doesn’t continue living and seeking peace of mind; else you’d develop high blood pressure.

Blessings!

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Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by sterlingD(m): 10:54am On Feb 02, 2020
iLegendd:
Weak men with money always think women are meant to be forced to marriage because they have money.

I have told men there are three things they need to master before marriage, else they will regret.

1. Handle women skill
2. Make money skill
3. Manage money skill

You probably have skill 2 and 3, but you lack skill 1 and trust me, any man who lacks skill 1 will live a life of regrets.

Allow her to go. The mistake is 100% from you, not her.

Though, if she goes, she'll come back in the future pleading. If she doesn't go, she'll cheat behind your back whether you like it or not.

So, choose what you want. Letting her go is the better option.
Wow,wow,wow
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Lovelyeyeballs: 11:00am On Feb 02, 2020
Dont listen to all the advice telling you to divorce her or that she does not love you.

From the screenshot of her message that you posted I can confidently tell you that she loves you and she is intelligent and smart too. You didnt marry a bad woman.

Try to listen to her and understand her grudges. She wants a friend and a partner and not a boss. Be her friend. Tell her about what you want to do and honestly seek her opinion. Tell her divorce is out of the equation and you genuinely want this marriage to work. Assure her of your love for her.

Start by calmly telling her what you liked about her and what attracted you to her. Ask her what she likes about you. Ask her what she doesn't like about you and tell her you will work on it.

If you want to enjoy your marriage you need to adopt the partnership style and not the lord, master relationship. Forget submission for now. A woman will willingly submit to a man who makes her feel loved and valued so if you find yourself asking for submission from your spouse then you are not doing something right.

She doesn't need to change to your family name. It's her name and she solely can decide to do what she likes with it. You just married her.You didnt buy her. Give her space to take decisions about herself and reason things with her if you want her to adopt your stand

She will be a good mother to your children. Atleast your children will not be dullard or push over. Support her to continue to be the strong woman that she is and she will worship you.

You can calmly tell her how much you hate her telling you that you forced her to marry you and how you guys should stop saying hurtful things to each other. If you are good to a woman,a woman will never abandon. You married a good woman. Dont let anyone tell you otherwise. Fight for your marriage.

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Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by AfroKnight: 11:09am On Feb 02, 2020
Hybrid77, contrary to my propensity to resist the antics of any overreacting selfish entitled Nigerian woman, I would actually ask you to share the authority in the home with her.

This is wife, not girlfriend, not your staff. For some reason, I don’t think her complaints are far fetched. Listen, contribute and then decide together, especially if it affects the family as a unit. Your case shouldn’t lead to separation in my opinion.

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Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Nobody: 11:35am On Feb 02, 2020
AfroKnight:
Hybrid77, contrary to my propensity to resist the antics of any overreacting selfish entitled Nigerian woman, I would actually ask you to share the authority in the home with her.

This is wife, not girlfriend, not your staff. For some reason, I don’t think her complaints are far fetched. Listen, contribute and then decide together, especially if it affects the family as a unit. Your case shouldn’t lead to separation in my opinion.
cos he paid her school fees and wedding he thinks he owns her lol

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Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by millionboi2: 12:03pm On Feb 02, 2020
MarianaTrench:


There is another niggar somewhere who has your wife's attention
gbam
This is d disadvantage of marrying this small small girls.


Maturity is important

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Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by millionboi2: 12:05pm On Feb 02, 2020
FairAdvocate:
Well bro, I will say that she is young and childish with her reaction to things... If she is not mentally ready, she shouldn't have consented to marrying you when you brought it up.
On your part Mister, you have to learn how to handle a woman, you need to know what she want and what she dislike...and stop reporting her to everyone. Go after her like her boyfriend and pamper her, you will surely get your wife back. She loves you anyways!
for how long sld he beg her to love him
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by AfroKnight: 12:15pm On Feb 02, 2020
Kekereekun123:
cos he paid her school fees and wedding he thinks he owns her lol

If that’s what you got from his story, then I have nothing to say to you. Kindly

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Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by victorian(f): 12:43pm On Feb 02, 2020
Some Men don't learn the easy way.
When a woman is not in love with you or not eager to marry you and she says so in the beginning, please thank your God and move on.
No. Money or love u give her will make her stay with you for a lifetime. If you end up marrying her with everything u have, one day she won't be able to keep up with charade of such marriage anymore. She will become fed-up, suffocated and wants to leave by all means possible.
If u are not careful, u will Meet a empty home when u get back from work with all her luggages gone and a note of IM SORRY I CANT DO THIS ANYMORE.

But some Men will never learn the easy way. Op may God help u but what u need Is a divorce from your wife. If u don't free her, she will eventually free herself from u.

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Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by solmus: 12:59pm On Feb 02, 2020
all am seeing in her text is me, me ,me that lady thinks to highly of herself

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Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Shugavee(f): 1:58pm On Feb 02, 2020
AfroKnight:
Hybrid77, contrary to my propensity to resist the antics of any overreacting selfish entitled Nigerian woman, I would actually ask you to share the authority in the home with her.

This is wife, not girlfriend, not your staff. For some reason, I don’t think her complaints are far fetched. Listen, contribute and then decide together, especially if it affects the family as a unit. Your case shouldn’t lead to separation in my opinion.
isnt even a serious issue , just normal lovi dovi fight to me

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Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Shugavee(f): 1:59pm On Feb 02, 2020
solmus:
all am seeing in her text is me, me ,me that lady thinks to highly of herself
how?? Please don’t say rubbish!! She thinks so highly of herself n she got married at a time she didn’t want to just to make the man happy?? Don’t advise rubbish I beg you

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Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by fireback: 2:36pm On Feb 02, 2020
Petyprincess:
The truth is your wife doesn't love you no more or never loved you!! Moreover why did you forced her into marriage with you? That's where the problem started.Nw the best way is to go your separate ways since the marriage is even early nd she's already gotten fed up with you,nw that you have no kids you still can still divorce nd let her continue her single life since that's what she always wanted!! If you dnt divorce she will keep on blaming you for forcing her into marriage when she wasn't ready.Its better divorcing that getting stalked in marriage that love isnt mutual!!
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by solmus: 2:51pm On Feb 02, 2020
Shugavee:
how?? Please don’t say rubbish!! She thinks so highly of herself n she got married at a time she didn’t want to just to make the man happy?? Don’t advise rubbish I beg you

since you sell jarumi's product to manipulate men, then you would also think marriage is a favour to a man lol typical selfish human would not complain while she was being trained by him, with his money all through the school, the self entitle prick even insisted on a lavish 3 million marriage paying nothing yet she wants to have the useless me me me atitude.. well most of you have never worked or spent your 5 naira for others so, you are living in a buble

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Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Michelle55: 3:07pm On Feb 02, 2020
3 months into marriage and you guys are already thinking of divorce? Unbelievable!! lipsrsealed

To the singles, please let's learn from this.. Get married only when you are super ready to stay married and grow old with your respective spouses

Do not rush into marriage due to societal pressure or outta gratitude for an assistance rendered to you.

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Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Kollami007: 3:17pm On Feb 02, 2020
solmus:


since you sell jarumi's product to manipulate men, then you would also think marriage is a favour to a man lol typical selfish human would not complain while she was being trained by him, with his money all through the school, the self entitle prick even insisted on a lavish 3 million marriage paying nothing yet she wants to have the useless me me me atitude.. well most of you have never worked or spent your 5 naira for others so, you are living in a buble
That's women for you ooo. Everything must be about them. How many ladies can give a guy 100k talk more of training a guy through school for 4 or 5 years even if they have the money.
That guy go don spend close to 6 million ontop of her, but what did the guy get in return? Nothing. If the guy put the money into business, the guy go don know how much he go don earn. But the advice I'm seeing is how the guy should continue worshipping her. Abeg who needs to be worshipped and pampered between both of them?

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Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by eguarojeona: 3:28pm On Feb 02, 2020
Lol , marrying a student.Mostly end in tears.

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Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Abfinest007(m): 3:28pm On Feb 02, 2020
wati happen
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by midnighter(f): 3:29pm On Feb 02, 2020
The write-up doesn't have enough information but this is not a divorce kind of issue.

If you dated for 5 years, you should have grown past this kind of problem by now. The whole thing is sounding like you hardly know each other at all.

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Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by eguarojeona: 3:29pm On Feb 02, 2020
Baba that woman nobi your wife.Na force you force.Left for her she no for marry you.Sorry

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Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by H2ho(m): 3:30pm On Feb 02, 2020
Can you imagine? I'm sure one of your family members warned you not to go ahead but you insisted. Chai!! See your life? I'm boiling angry angry

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Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by eguarojeona: 3:31pm On Feb 02, 2020
AshiraWealthy:
Hmmm...
You tot she loved you while she was only using you to aquire her education, and you being deceived decided to take it to next level even when that was not her mission (get married to you).
Who knows, prolly she has seen someone she plans to get married to after using you to complete her education. reason she was postponing the wedding.

Sit her down and ask her to tell you the truth if she has someone else, that you'll let her go if she wants. Then hear what she has to say cos whether you like it or not, both of you have lost interest and things might not be the same. So its better to ask, let everyone know their stand.
Marrying students ehn dey end in tears.The things we see for school and service year.Plenty plenty married women wey dey date other guys steady .

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Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by IranianSea: 3:31pm On Feb 02, 2020
hybrid77:
Pls i need a sincere advice here.

Im 3 months old in marriage and im so unhappy about the set up (my wife too)

My wife is a student and she tried everything to shift the marriage until easter this year but i refused due to many projects for the year. so we got married 3 months ago.

I took care of her bills since she got admission and we dated for 5 years

But she is so disrespectful and want to make important decisions in marriage which ive refused to allow.

Now, she claims i forced her into marriage and she is not mentally ready because i asked her to change to my family's name.

She has been good then bad then worse..And i think her words about forcing her into marriage has irreparably hurt me.

I spent over 3m of my cash to give her the wedding she wanted (Without any support from her family) against my wish for a 1m wedding.

And despite getting the big wedding she wants before consenting to marry last year, she claims she is not mentally ready and was forced into marriage.

she has repeated this over and over and its making me go crazy..in fact im tired already

Right now she wants more time to be a wife..but im beginning to feel there is a love issue here..I feel she does not love me as she always claims

Though weve settled but we dont talk as usual..we dont even want to hear from each other...

it seems i nolonger love her like i used to..And worst still, continuing with the marriage when she claims she was forced is degrading and disreputable.

My question is, at what point should anyone seriously consider a divorce?
I don't know what the Bleep wrong with some dumb guys or men nowadays. The fact is that.. those guys who don't spend on girls, they like, love and get marry to. Take your time to check out carefully.. those who don't spend dime on girls, they love. No girl will ever love you dearly deep down her heart when you spend on her. I repeat check it carefully... A girl who don't take a thing from you really do love you and it's from the bottom of her heart. The moment you start to spend on girl, the love she has for you starts to depreciate till she totally have no love for you. Only kid still believe money tie any girl down. Got two girls on my neck now wants me for marriage. One, a graduate the other one is a 400L students. I spend Chichi on them, they are the one sends me card to call them. In fact the moment a girl tell me she love me, I start to hate her. I'm sorry ok

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Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by NaijadrivaCars: 3:32pm On Feb 02, 2020
Op, are you not the person who wrote (with another moniker) about how you sent your wife millions for wedding from abroad only for the wedding to turn out poor and that she steals


Make una no de bring stories from websites come post here as if na una get the problem. undecided
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by 2shure: 3:32pm On Feb 02, 2020
Wen man see pekus. He will be shouting. I love u,i wont leave u,u r mine 4eva. I will marry u. Baby,baby,ah,ah,i want to cum,i want to cum.
Ahhhhhhhhhhhh. Af cum.
After cuming,u still went ahead to marry her. So u wasted a whole 3m on an undergraduate.
No be every gal,u dey dream her pekus u must marry. Marrying a student,like using a leaking cylinder and smoking cigarette . Na explosion remain. Better run far from her. Quick

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Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Kendroid: 3:32pm On Feb 02, 2020
Marriage is becoming something else these days oOo. To be honest, I think I will have to suspend any thoughts of it till at least I start hearing positive about it.
My friend who we escorted to get married on 13 Jan is already complaining too!
#Sad

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Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Wealthoptulent(m): 3:33pm On Feb 02, 2020
hybrid77:
Pls i need a sincere advice here.

Im 3 months old in marriage and im so unhappy about the set up (my wife too)
If u had court section marriage certificate, sorry bro till after two years bfr can file divorce, but can go separate ways before then, bt none of u must marry or run another relationships with other party having evidence. If not na jail ooo. Sorry bro, know how you feel. Truth is that's
How first year of marriage looks like, I married my own 10 yrs bestie n was heading ur direction as well back then. Steadfast u get over it. Good luck

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Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Nobody: 3:34pm On Feb 02, 2020
hybrid77:
Pls i need a sincere advice here.

Im 3 months old in marriage and im so unhappy about the set up (my wife too)

My wife is a student and she tried everything to shift the marriage until easter this year but i refused due to many projects for the year. so we got married 3 months ago.

I took care of her bills since she got admission and we dated for 5 years

But she is so disrespectful and want to make important decisions in marriage which ive refused to allow.

Now, she claims i forced her into marriage and she is not mentally ready because i asked her to change to my family's name.

She has been good then bad then worse..And i think her words about forcing her into marriage has irreparably hurt me.

I spent over 3m of my cash to give her the wedding she wanted (Without any support from her family) against my wish for a 1m wedding.

And despite getting the big wedding she wants before consenting to marry last year, she claims she is not mentally ready and was forced into marriage.

she has repeated this over and over and its making me go crazy..in fact im tired already

Right now she wants more time to be a wife..but im beginning to feel there is a love issue here..I feel she does not love me as she always claims

Though weve settled but we dont talk as usual..we dont even want to hear from each other...

it seems i nolonger love her like i used to..And worst still, continuing with the marriage when she claims she was forced is degrading and disreputable.

My question is, at what point should anyone seriously consider a divorce?

Your wife acts that way because you FEEL she's that way. I guess apart confronting her, you've also been having mental arguments with her in your head. Calling her names or even telling how how ungrateful she is in your quiet periods, a period between u and yourself. And the result she acts the way you suspected when you meet her.

Here's the solution, change your perspective of her, imagine her loving and caring and the best wife you ever had. And I promise after weeks or months you'll see changes.
PS: If it's still not working, Pray and believe. And Believing the unseen is what you really need now.

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Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by godfrey01(m): 3:35pm On Feb 02, 2020
Petyprincess:
The truth is your wife doesn't love you no more or never loved you!! Moreover why did you forced her into marriage with you? That's where the problem started.Nw the best way is to go your separate ways since the marriage is even early nd she's already gotten fed up with you,nw that you have no kids you still can still divorce nd let her continue her single life since that's what she always wanted!! If you dnt divorce she will keep on blaming you for forcing her into marriage when she wasn't ready.Its better divorcing that getting stalked in marriage that love isnt mutual!!



this one heavy oh.. this is the reason why early marriage for girls are bad, especially those girls way never go face the four wall of the institutions
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Nobody: 3:35pm On Feb 02, 2020
So she admitted pretending to be submissive, it clearly was a hard job.

A woman must be submissive o not fake it on that note let her go cos even if you guys "iron" it out she would still be pretending on that.

Its a life time journey o, you cant fake
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Dshocker(m): 3:36pm On Feb 02, 2020
hybrid77:
Pls i need a sincere advice here.

Im 3 months old in marriage and im so unhappy about the set up (my wife too)

My wife is a student and she tried everything to shift the marriage until easter this year but i refused due to many projects for the year. so we got married 3 months ago.

I took care of her bills since she got admission and we dated for 5 years

But she is so disrespectful and want to make important decisions in marriage which ive refused to allow.

Now, she claims i forced her into marriage and she is not mentally ready because i asked her to change to my family's name.

She has been good then bad then worse..And i think her words about forcing her into marriage has irreparably hurt me.

I spent over 3m of my cash to give her the wedding she wanted (Without any support from her family) against my wish for a 1m wedding.

And despite getting the big wedding she wants before consenting to marry last year, she claims she is not mentally ready and was forced into marriage.

she has repeated this over and over and its making me go crazy..in fact im tired already

Right now she wants more time to be a wife..but im beginning to feel there is a love issue here..I feel she does not love me as she always claims

Though weve settled but we dont talk as usual..we dont even want to hear from each other...

it seems i nolonger love her like i used to..And worst still, continuing with the marriage when she claims she was forced is degrading and disreputable.

My question is, at what point should anyone seriously consider a divorce?

It has always been difficult dating a student,talk more of marrying her....

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Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by bnmbv: 3:37pm On Feb 02, 2020
hybrid77:
Pls i need a sincere advice here.

Im 3 months old in marriage and im so unhappy about the set up (my wife too)

My wife is a student and she tried everything to shift the marriage until easter this year but i refused due to many projects for the year. so we got married 3 months ago.

I took care of her bills since she got admission and we dated for 5 years

But she is so disrespectful and want to make important decisions in marriage which ive refused to allow.

Now, she claims i forced her into marriage and she is not mentally ready because i asked her to change to my family's name.

She has been good then bad then worse..And i think her words about forcing her into marriage has irreparably hurt me.

I spent over 3m of my cash to give her the wedding she wanted (Without any support from her family) against my wish for a 1m wedding.

And despite getting the big wedding she wants before consenting to marry last year, she claims she is not mentally ready and was forced into marriage.

she has repeated this over and over and its making me go crazy..in fact im tired already

Right now she wants more time to be a wife..but im beginning to feel there is a love issue here..I feel she does not love me as she always claims

Though weve settled but we dont talk as usual..we dont even want to hear from each other...

it seems i nolonger love her like i used to..And worst still, continuing with the marriage when she claims she was forced is degrading and disreputable.

My question is, at what point should anyone seriously consider a divorce?
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