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Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by sisisioge: 3:39pm On Feb 02, 2020 |
Wow! But you forced her nau? The poor girl categorically stated that she wasn't mentally ready but you and her folks kept pushing! Na wa o...it is well. 1 Like |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by frugal(m): 3:40pm On Feb 02, 2020 |
hybrid77: Have you read this? I can't recommend it well enough. Use the rest of today to read it. You can read it in one sitting.
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Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Nobody: 3:41pm On Feb 02, 2020 |
eguarojeona: But Why? Shey school dey commot person sense ni? 2 Likes |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by GoodBoi1(m): 3:41pm On Feb 02, 2020 |
What is the age difference @OP? How old are you and how old is she? |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by WeRblessed(f): 3:43pm On Feb 02, 2020 |
Everything wrong in marriage should not end in divorce. Please you guys need to talk it out. Also, one partner doesn't make decisions in marriage as both of you are adults. Please work it out+ 1 Like |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by 77up(m): 3:44pm On Feb 02, 2020 |
Temptee101:#3million naira marriage in 3months going down like this God know why I forbid spending blindly and stupidly on marriage, I know many slow nigga won't like this . You are at fault in anyway guy. |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by OgogoroFreak(m): 3:45pm On Feb 02, 2020 |
How old is your wife sef? She go dey fvck boys anyhow for school o, since she no love you. Better to dump her now for your own good. |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by dheaven: 3:47pm On Feb 02, 2020 |
Pet her and get her pregnant, after delivery you divorce her and be sending her money for the upkeep of the baby. That's how u handle ingrates. 4 Likes |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Shancca: 3:48pm On Feb 02, 2020 |
You are a good man bro. Please exit this marriage. You offered her 3m naira wedding? Are you kidding me? You saw her through her education and she wants to boss you around. Be gentle and leave bro. You spend your money and your life at the same time. You need peace. Take a bow bro 5 Likes |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by jaxxy(m): 3:48pm On Feb 02, 2020 |
hybrid77: I’m not an expert bt I don’t see any exact issue with what ur wife has said and she never said she doesn’t love u either. That’s only in ur head cos she won’t have married u if she didn’t unless she materialistic which I’m not yet sure she is despite asking for a bigger wedding tho that is a concern. U guys have 2 issues from what I see, an ideology issue and timing issue. Timing: she got married as a student and probably that wasn’t her intial plan and that’s what she means by the forcing stuff and not about love. Also she cud be referring to how long u dated I don’t know the duration of that. Ideology: She wants more of the frnd like husband who doesn’t look down on her on important family issues bt contributes her own little part however. However she sees u as more of the bossy husband who talks and everybody has to listen probably cos u foot her bills and all bt that’s not how love grows. Work on this and u guys will be fine. Make sure u explore all options b4 ending a good marriage. If she’s rude point that out and address it, if she sensible she will see her mistakes and u also will correct ur mistakes cos I’m sure everyone has made mistakes here. Cheers 1 Like |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Prognose: 3:49pm On Feb 02, 2020 |
Kenoxman: @hybrid77 Nothing more to add. Except, you should know that the courts do not grant divorce until 2yrs after the marriage. This is to give you the opportunity to make things work or scatter the thing irrevocably. I will be the first to tell you that the first few years aren't easy. You are both adjusting to living together in close quarters. Not easy at all but for the marriage to work both of you must adapt. Ignore whatever she said. Women have a way of saying the worst things. If you follow their mouth you will just get bp for nothing. If u turn into the man she loves tomorrow you will see how her mouth will change. Na so Dem be. From the text messages you posted these are the issues. 1. You are bossy. You like having things your way or not at all. This cannot work in marriage, let me just tell you. Even if you're talking that she should submit , you want your wife to submit with love, not because she feels she must. It is better for you on the long run. Humility never hurt anyone and experience from making mistake is the best teacher. Allow her do things her way (be humble) and if it doesn't work she will learn (experience). 2. She is rude and uncouth. The tone from her message shows a rude person. Unfortunately girls can be like this too. And it is very very annoying for the man especially when she feels entitled and you have done so much for her. Let her know that you have heard what she said and will make changes but you dont like her tone of voice. She should be more polite, more respectful in her utterances. Women don't understand that men enjoy sweet words too. Teach her with play how to use sweet words to pass her message across. Most of all be patient. Give her her space and you too chill a bit. You guys can work it out. Cheers. 2 Likes |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Nobody: 3:49pm On Feb 02, 2020 |
Op You did force her into marriage. ...you didn't know her she didn't know you ...now you are feeling so entitled bossing her up and down. You spend 3M on wedding nobody send you na, owambe people came to eat your rice.Please treat the lady right stop your Myself and I attitude. Be a Prince Charming for once. 2 Likes |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by sammirano: 3:50pm On Feb 02, 2020 |
I think you forced her truly. Prospective married guys, marry the person that loves you. Period 1 Like |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Deepthoughts: 3:50pm On Feb 02, 2020 |
hybrid77:Personally I can't n don't support the idea of sponsoring any girl in school to marry her later,I can relate with n support you at the level of dating but anything marriage will be after graduating that's if I'm still convinced about you n certainly if I'm to marry you at all then we must have Frank talk on issues like employment n financial control n management in the family, rights n previledges of in-laws,gender equality n authority etc,if you are too shy or lacks the confidence to engage your lady frankly about these issues then your are certainly laying the foundation for problem, imagine a girl insisting on a type of wedding for me to sponsor!,I will rather let you go than allow any woman to turn me to a woman wrapper,sorry ops if not for the millions spent I would have ask you to let her go as it's clear she only wanted to use you but if you are bouyant enough you can still let her go n start afresh but this time very wisely. 1 Like |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Chapter1vs6(m): 3:52pm On Feb 02, 2020 |
abluck:How the hell do you people come across this meme |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Hedonisst: 3:52pm On Feb 02, 2020 |
There are some kind of women that are not fit for marriage. You only Bleep them and play around with them at your convenience. You don't seriousify or wife them. Too many guys keep making this stupid mistake. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Kay25(m): 3:52pm On Feb 02, 2020 |
3months after marriage..jesus help this man ooo u r not even considering the money you spent haba that's too early na try work it out abegi 1 Like |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Omeife2: 3:53pm On Feb 02, 2020 |
If you sincerely need professional counselling and not comments from people who probably are not married, I can refer you. 1 Like |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by scarybeeeee: 3:53pm On Feb 02, 2020 |
femalecobra:God bless you. |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by onyi2016(m): 3:55pm On Feb 02, 2020 |
You said you dated her for 5 years. Some girls can hide their characters ooo. From that time till now, you have not known her too well. May God help you bro. |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by lexy2014: 3:55pm On Feb 02, 2020 |
AshiraWealthy: What is there to sit and discuss when u have already said that there was no love in d first place? |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Tamakay(m): 3:56pm On Feb 02, 2020 |
I feel for you bro! She actually don't love you. She just wanted you to sponsor her education but along the line you were little bit clever to tie her down. But right now, her initial evil plan is disturbing her and she is coming out open by saying some rubbish. My advice, you're a nice guy and i hate deceit. Kick her out and move on. I know it's gonna be hard if you consider the money you have spent. Pls do the needful and walk away if not not will regret this union. You never forced her into marriage but you were very clever to tie her down. 1 Like |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by GamalNasser: 3:56pm On Feb 02, 2020 |
hybrid77: Bro the truth is that she never loved you and she feels there is still somebody out there for her ..she only needed you for her education , you used her family's lack of finance to force her in duress into a loveless relationship and marriage ..let that girl go if you want to live long 2 Likes |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Punchline33: 3:56pm On Feb 02, 2020 |
Bros just take it easy. When young girls who are not working grt married they usually misbehave. Just go soft on her for now, then get her pregnant as fast as possible, pamper her more till she gives birth. After the first child don't give her much space let her a second. Then you can relax and see how she will listen when you talk. You have money, but native intelligence is what you lack. Until she gives you a child your investment will be a waste. Even if you divorce now and marry again you will face the same problems so don't think it will be better with another young woman, they have a lot in common. Just be patient and pamper her, you will laugh at last. 3 Likes |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by cactusland(m): 3:57pm On Feb 02, 2020 |
You should not have married her while she was still in school. Just because she's an adult doesn't mean she's quite ready for marriage. Also, she never loved you. |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by ultimatekint(m): 3:57pm On Feb 02, 2020 |
Don't be stupid my friend ; yes, you shouldn't be stupid. She might likely kill you with bottle. Let her go! |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by ollypass: 3:57pm On Feb 02, 2020 |
StarUp: Hate to admit this to you bro..but seems your girl may be donking a classmate behind you and you don't measure up In bed,and now she is rebellious cos you shackled her conscience through the marriage, and mark my words the more sexual frustrated she gets..the more hell you bout to see! |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by ofoka: 3:58pm On Feb 02, 2020 |
Please talk to a marriage counselor within reach. The counselor will help you guys to clean up gray areas in your union. 2 Likes |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by Mindlesskid: 3:59pm On Feb 02, 2020 |
hybrid77: So what if the was nothing like divorce won't you guys look for a way to make ur marriage work. Boss forget that divorce thing sit her down you guys should start all over again. I feel like you people did not discuss certain important issues while dating and agree on certain things. 1 Like |
Re: Im Thinking Of Divorce Just Few Months Into Marriage by lexy2014: 3:59pm On Feb 02, 2020 |
hybrid77: D girl has a family u then decided to be her sponsor. U are really a father Christmas. Well done. Am sure u didn't help ur family members d way u helped this lady. Pls carry ur cross& stop disturbing d public with ur self inflicted problems 1 Like |
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