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Depressedkidd:
Broo. If you know how I broke up in some of my relationships you'll call me a boss. If a girl does something and I confront her and she starts crying and trying to turn herself into the victim, she'll just cry her way out of the relationship. I hate that manipulative rubbish with my life. How will I vex with you and then still be the one to apologize for your own wrongdoing?

galadima77:
You even get time to confront...

hahahahahahaha

placeofallure:
.. Did you just say if i were intelligent? I find that impulsively insulting! Is that the best you can do?
Besides, I said "If" you have more than one.... "If" in grammatical structure connotes probability. It's conditional clause .. meaning the condition in which one will exist or not exist is largely dependent on another variable.
You want to lecture me about tense abi? I feel like giving you back in your own coin but because of civility, I'll let this one pass. Thank God today is Sunday, I'm also using my church mind.
And just like AfroKnight said, you lack basic comprehension skills.

Onetimepost:
maybe I didn't think it through...
besides,she didn't got pregnant. it was just a glitch on her circle

your point was taken you shouldn't have insulted

zed7:
You're obviously not smart, I wouldn't bother.

Onetimepost:
Admin Front Page please

Hello everyone.. please I need your advice

So,I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for over three years now (since my year1 in school) and I just found out she was cheating with me with our caretaker.. He(the caretaker) and my girlfriend are of same tribe, I guess they kinda blend. Am older than the guy he is 23 and am 24.

My girlfriend and I are currently roommate in year 3). We moved in together late October last year.
She also cheating on me with another dude from her town where she resides. Before our academic break (22 Dec 2019) she frequent our caretakers room too often,I try tell her to stop that am not comfortable with it, of which she shrug off saying she is only being friends with him because the speak same dialet,and we all live in the same compound. She would stay late at his room,I had to tell her(sternly) not to visit his room again and she agreed. But she still visit him.





When we return from our academic break,she started to visit him again. She stayed late again with our caretaker Just outside our room and I asked her nicely to to get inside because it's late and she entered and bid caretaker goodnight. She got the bed after taking her bath,and we got talking I told her not to stay out past 9pm. She got angry saying I simply don't like him that and I hate seeing him with her,she started crying. I had to apologize. But she said she won't forgive me because I hurt her.
The next day she refused to talk to me before going to class.
When we got home later that day,we just found ourselves Talking . A mutual friend (female)of our visited, we were eating and my eyes just got a glimpse of her WhatsApp message telling our caretaker that I almost attack her yesterday because I saw them together. I didn't react then,I had to keep my cool. Later that day I told my friend what I just saw (my girlfriend message to our caretaker) she said I should ignore,but anger got the best of me.i was angry because she told him I nearly attacked her.

When we got home,I asked her for her phone which she gave me reluctantly,I went through her WhatsApp messages with the guy. And I found out she do tell the guy our personal things ( including when I told her not to visit him) she shouldn't tell anyone. She must have told the guy am controlling her because he asked if am still controling her that I have no shame for trying to attack her the previous day. I went further into their chat and I saw where he told the boy that she missed her period and the boy told her they would do pregnancy test.

I know she might have told a very good friend of her about the guy,so I went to their chat. She told her friend about the guy and she told her she lived him and they had sex already.but her friend told her not to destroy her relationship for just a crush or is she willing to leave me for the boy,she said NO.

I had to check if she still cheating on me with others guys. I got to a chat and my suspicion was right.
She was telling this guy she was pregnant and this dude was ignoring he messages and chats. She later went on saying is is because she was forcing herself on him.

She had sex with this dude 25 December,had sex with caretaker 27december.
After I must have read all chats,I went home and confronted her she denied at first I later told her i read her chats and she started crying saying it was a mistake that it won't happen again ,that she was drunk when the second guy had sex with her and having sex with our caretaker was a mistake. I called her mother and told her what has happened she was disappointed in her but she also begged me to forgive her.
I keep wondering where I got it all wrong and asked her but she said i have been nothing but faithful that she can't explain something what came over her. I have been good to the caretaker I painted his room for Free. He do call me "BRO" when addressing me

To cut the story short. I told her I have forgiven her,but deep down,I haven't..

I don't know what to do..
Please help...

NOTE
I have Never cheated on her.
I believe in equality in relationship. I don't control her. I never Never check her phone all through our relationship. I guess that's why she didn't had to delete her chats.

Kindly ignore my grammatical errors