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missimelda01:
I don't think making her hate you would work, what if she blackmails you? You could loose your fiancée and even your job. Have you tried having a conversation with her? Also try acting cold towards her with the excuse of being professional since it's a work environment. I also think you should confess to your fiancée, it's funny how women have it somewhere at the back of their heads that a man would always cheat in a long distance relationship, she might forgive you, don't begin your marriage on a foundation of lies.. good luck.

StrikeBack:
Find a way to make her stumble on your wedding invitation


Thank me later

dmgr:
Don't u think it will a bad idea confessing to his fiancee at this point in time,u know some secrets re better left secrets to avoid drama.

dmgr:
Alot has been said up their in which u could pick one or two and apply..

Firstly don't run because of the situation on ground, if not for anything stay and tackle the problem for the sake of your upcoming wedding and the wonderful woman u have, because running won't even solve the problem and it might end bring problem btw u and your woman.

I believe all that has happened, happened because u gave consent to it so start by gradually redrawing your self from that lady and make the relationship u have with her completely professional, and make sure u stand on your ground coz its not going to be easy but it's very much possible .

missimelda01:
I don't think making her hate you would work, what if she blackmails you? You could loose your fiancée and even your job. Have you tried having a conversation with her? Also try acting cold towards her with the excuse of being professional since it's a work environment. I also think you should confess to your fiancée, it's funny how women have it somewhere at the back of their heads that a man would always cheat in a long distance relationship, she might forgive you, don't begin your marriage on a foundation of lies.. good luck.

olorinina:
Pleasure and business never go together.. Left for me i would advice you to postpone the wedding and actually think.. This marriage thing is one time o its not just about the wedding not when you guys start leaving together you'll start thinking about your escapades with the office girl and bla bla bla you'll just blow everything
Reason yourself well the fact you easily fell for that sexcapade means you wanted it so understand yourself first no go rush put another person for gbese

HarunaWest:
I hope she is aware that your getting married on. If she is, then no wahala, continue shining her Congo, even after wedding, continue. Just make sure your wife doesn't find out. Marriage is a different ball game trust me, if you loose this kinda crazy chick, you will definitely regret it.. She's a keeper don't dump her except she's ready to walk away.

dmgr:
Don't u think it will a bad idea confessing to his fiancee at this point in time,u know some secrets re better left secrets to avoid drama.

proclinician:
Use knife and stab the living hell out of her. Once she dies your problems are solved. You can then live happily everafter.

Mayhem999:
Bro I get you.
I am committed to my woman for life. Let me explain if anyone had told me I will do like this I will just tell the person to carry his fake prophesy n leave. I did not plan it. I did not want it. I was not thinking at all. It was as if I was on adrenaline rush. I would do anything she asked me to do without thinking. I wasn't bewitched but the feeling for this girl is not whole, I fell for her so fast but she does not own my heart. I'm not confused just got carried away. I am my woman's man

Gaggi:
I had a similar experience also. The adventure was so wild and fun that I even started thinking of replacing her with my babe. However, after a while the flaws started coming out. This girl now became a burden and a liability. And we worked in the same office. Fortunately for me she was an intern.
I had to manage her till she left the office then I ghosted her. As for your case, just start withdrawing. Become distant and decline any after office engagement. It wouldn't be easy but she will gradually get the message.
For those who think dating an office girl is all about enjoying quickie etc, please think twice. Office romance should be avoided at all cost.

fanmilk:
OK. Like you rightly said, you want imperfect people to advice you... Good, am one so let me drop my one cent here.

You see, what you feel right now for your colleague at work is complete LUST!
Apart from the adventurous nature of how she wants you to do the do in places u never envisage, you did not state any other thing about her, like being smart , intelligent, e. t. c. See bro, this thing you are seeing in her now is SHORT TERM! But your bae on the other hand has Qualities that may last a lifetime. Its obvious u are an adventurous person, so why don't you show your Bae what you want, you will be surprise she may even be more adventurous than you! She may have been hiding that part from you so that you don't see her as a loose Girl!! Try it.

As for that misisi at your work place, you have gat to use your head bro, to gradually withdraw from her and show professionalism in your work!!! Office romance often time end in DISASTER!!!! Because when the matter go CAST!! , You will regret ever having that ADVENTURE!

PEACE!

PrimadonnaO:
If I were his fianceé, I may consider forgiving him if he opens up and tells me everything himself. That shows a contrite heart... and accountability.

But if I find out on my own... engaged and doing shit like that, I'll leave.
People tend to repeat things when they think no one is watching...

Cc: Mayhemm999

dmgr:
Don't u think it will a bad idea confessing to his fiancee at this point in time,u know some secrets re better left secrets to avoid drama.

Mayhem999:
Let me be brief and politely add that I don't need kids jumping on this thread pliz.
We all mess up every now and then. Nobody is perfect. So I need only imperfect people advising me on how to go about this and not holistic and self righteous peeps.
I have been with my girl for 3years and we are getting married this April. So Last year July a new girl joined my office and we were just at hello-hi until towards d end of last yr.
Weeks ago we started talking and she started teasing me, sit on my laps when no one is around and quick kisses.
Same week we started talking, we ended in a hotel room after work.
She came wearing this see through jumpsuit with no bra and a jean jacket over. We did less talking and did the do and I, afterwards drove her to this fast food because she was hungry and on getting there the hand of her jumpsuit cut, so we found ourselves giggling and making jokes out of the situation and long story short I became intimate with her.
She was taking over my mind. Work was making it difficult, because I have to face her everyday.

She's crazy and alluring. Wild and adventurous. So we started chatting and effortlessly she became a part of me in a short period of time. We talk till 2-3am in the night. We even made a list of places to have sex in (she had practically done all. In a car, office etc and I haven't so it seemed fun to try out)
Now my girl is awesome and everything yhu will want in a woman. Prettier, loyal, funny, about to get a third degree, sound and intelligent, from a well to do home.
Yes obviously my village people are at work for me to suddenly forget every good thing in my woman and start looking for adventures with the new temp girl.
She wasn't making it any easy for me either. She has PhD in intense teasing.

So my foolish third leg that I have successfully controlled for 29years will always react whenever she starts teasing.
Somehow the list of places we want to have sex has played out as we wrote them... Sex in her friends room and sex in the office.
Like I have no control over myself.

Well, Guilt caught up with me after I took a trip over the weekend with my woman for her cousins wedding. Tears filled my eyes as I realised I was ruining something God gave me freely.
I have come back to my senses if I should put it that way and I don't want anything to do with the temp girl.
Question is how can I end this disastrous relationship? Making her hate me is the idea I really want to go with, but we work together which will make the office seem like a war zone.
Then I recently am applying and have even interview for another job in another state.

Is she worth the stress of running that far away from cos I will have to come back on the weekends to my woman if that works out?


***** My brother said I should not ask for advice here but Nairaland is not bad after all. God bless you guys so much just a few advice and I feel motivated to be a better person ********

HarunaWest:
I hope she is aware that your getting married on. If she is, then no wahala, continue shining her Congo, even after wedding, continue. Just make sure your wife doesn't find out. Marriage is a different ball game trust me, if you loose this kinda crazy chick, you will definitely regret it.. She's a keeper don't dump her except she's ready to walk away.

Mayhem999:
Let me be brief and politely add that I don't need kids jumping on this thread pliz.
We all mess up every now and then. Nobody is perfect. So I need only imperfect people advising me on how to go about this and not holistic and self righteous peeps.
I have been with my girl for 3years and we are getting married this April. So Last year July a new girl joined my office and we were just at hello-hi until towards d end of last yr.
Weeks ago we started talking and she started teasing me, sit on my laps when no one is around and quick kisses.
Same week we started talking, we ended in a hotel room after work.
She came wearing this see through jumpsuit with no bra and a jean jacket over. We did less talking and did the do and I, afterwards drove her to this fast food because she was hungry and on getting there the hand of her jumpsuit cut, so we found ourselves giggling and making jokes out of the situation and long story short I became intimate with her.
She was taking over my mind. Work was making it difficult, because I have to face her everyday.

She's crazy and alluring. Wild and adventurous. So we started chatting and effortlessly she became a part of me in a short period of time. We talk till 2-3am in the night. We even made a list of places to have sex in (she had practically done all. In a car, office etc and I haven't so it seemed fun to try out)
Now my girl is awesome and everything yhu will want in a woman. Prettier, loyal, funny, about to get a third degree, sound and intelligent, from a well to do home.
Yes obviously my village people are at work for me to suddenly forget every good thing in my woman and start looking for adventures with the new temp girl.
She wasn't making it any easy for me either. She has PhD in intense teasing.

So my foolish third leg that I have successfully controlled for 29years will always react whenever she starts teasing.
Somehow the list of places we want to have sex has played out as we wrote them... Sex in her friends room and sex in the office.
Like I have no control over myself.

Well, Guilt caught up with me after I took a trip over the weekend with my woman for her cousins wedding. Tears filled my eyes as I realised I was ruining something God gave me freely.
I have come back to my senses if I should put it that way and I don't want anything to do with the temp girl.
Question is how can I end this disastrous relationship? Making her hate me is the idea I really want to go with, but we work together which will make the office seem like a war zone.
Then I recently am applying and have even interview for another job in another state.

Is she worth the stress of running that far away from cos I will have to come back on the weekends to my woman if that works out?


***** My brother said I should not ask for advice here but Nairaland is not bad after all. God bless you guys so much just a few advice and I feel motivated to be a better person ********

captainking:
This same thing happened to my friend..thank God he got back his senses 2 months to his wedding and stuck to his woman

Clinghton:
This is where you have to reset your mind set avoid intimacy and lonely places with her, she would surely get mad with you.


you got to focus on the bigger picture.

punisha:
Seconded.
Anything kept secret in a relationship tends to develop deep roots and hunt the future of that relationship...sooner he tells his babe, the quicker he'd have a partner to battle this with.

Mayhem999:
Wait o. So I am reliving your friends life? How did he handle it?

Mayhem999:
Let me be brief and politely add that I don't need kids jumping on this thread pliz.
We all mess up every now and then. Nobody is perfect. So I need only imperfect people advising me on how to go about this and not holistic and self righteous peeps.
I have been with my girl for 3years and we are getting married this April. So Last year July a new girl joined my office and we were just at hello-hi until towards d end of last yr.
Weeks ago we started talking and she started teasing me, sit on my laps when no one is around and quick kisses.
Same week we started talking, we ended in a hotel room after work.
She came wearing this see through jumpsuit with no bra and a jean jacket over. We did less talking and did the do and I, afterwards drove her to this fast food because she was hungry and on getting there the hand of her jumpsuit cut, so we found ourselves giggling and making jokes out of the situation and long story short I became intimate with her.
She was taking over my mind. Work was making it difficult, because I have to face her everyday.

She's crazy and alluring. Wild and adventurous. So we started chatting and effortlessly she became a part of me in a short period of time. We talk till 2-3am in the night. We even made a list of places to have sex in (she had practically done all. In a car, office etc and I haven't so it seemed fun to try out)
Now my girl is awesome and everything yhu will want in a woman. Prettier, loyal, funny, about to get a third degree, sound and intelligent, from a well to do home.
Yes obviously my village people are at work for me to suddenly forget every good thing in my woman and start looking for adventures with the new temp girl.
She wasn't making it any easy for me either. She has PhD in intense teasing.

So my foolish third leg that I have successfully controlled for 29years will always react whenever she starts teasing.
Somehow the list of places we want to have sex has played out as we wrote them... Sex in her friends room and sex in the office.
Like I have no control over myself.

Well, Guilt caught up with me after I took a trip over the weekend with my woman for her cousins wedding. Tears filled my eyes as I realised I was ruining something God gave me freely.
I have come back to my senses if I should put it that way and I don't want anything to do with the temp girl.
Question is how can I end this disastrous relationship? Making her hate me is the idea I really want to go with, but we work together which will make the office seem like a war zone.
Then I recently am applying and have even interview for another job in another state.

Is she worth the stress of running that far away from cos I will have to come back on the weekends to my woman if that works out?


***** My brother said I should not ask for advice here but Nairaland is not bad after all. God bless you guys so much just a few advice and I feel motivated to be a better person ********