If you need peace in your marriage, stop posing your nose unto what was not disclose to u or else you find what WILL not pleased you

My dear am happily married and blessed with a great husband but let me tell you something, he does tell me how he find himself crushing on other ladies and how ladies gives him green light. So my candid advice is no marriage is perfect, no wife or husband is perfect. But I guarantee you that when you keep praying, advising, encouraging him and play your part well as a wife then I promise you that you will love your home and your man. Don’t nag, don’t fight with him and don’t control him. A lot of things may hurt you no two ways about it but try and be strong for your marriage. The Lord will bring an end to it in Jesus. If you can pretend as if u don’t know what is happening he will be the one that will speak to you concerning his wrongs

You too package yourself so that your husband won't look outside again or maybe he has seen someone better than u in everything or he didn't love u but lust u. Hmmmm...marriage of nowadays dey scare me o!

emeijeh:
Wait, your brothers warned you about him?
Did u guys grow up in the same neighborhood or what ?

Her brothers were obviously more experienced than her.

They saw through the fake ways of the man.

When you dig so deep to gather information about your husband, you will end up hurting yourself. let me advise you, Never I repeat Never you try to search your husband's phone, wallet, pockets, bags, etc for something that will implicate him.....Try digging deep to gather information about real men of God......you will surely find something that will make you pay attention and staying curious about his daily activities. Even men of God have something to hide talk more of a man that used to hang out with friends. By the way, have you caught him red-handed sleeping with any woman? if not, just let him be.......with time he will stop looking at other women. Don't just end the marriage!!!

and you created new account just to tell us a story.....

franchasng:
una go make Naija ladies turn to Nuns oh, my hand no de

Offpoint:
Your husband is a public díck, he's got passion for boobs and big nyanshes, you've approached him to addressed the issue but his dîck is "bizy body"....

My piece of advice, don't wait until he comes home and give you free STD...
And don't think of leaving him for now, look for your ex or find a new man who can chat dirty and send you his dîck pictures (Don't send yours, you can sort)

Intentionally leave your phone for your husband go through, if he saw it... His reaction should let you know your next steps.
Let him feel what you've been feeling too. If he wants divorce, divorce him... Bible support divorce if adultery is involved.

If he lays hands on you, drug him and chop his dîck off....


Thank you...

By the way, who says Messi is not a Goat?

The only reasonable answer here

Lol. You are a woman, you are only going to get blamed or advised to tolerate. I hope you are not planning to divorce him?


I would never divorce a Nigerian horseband, not when so many men die of heart attack and brief illnesses.

He didnt do this to you.
You did it to yourself by not using your head.

pocohantas:
Lol. You are a woman, you are only going to get blamed or advised to tolerate. I hope you are not planning to divorce him?


I would never divorce a Nigerian horseband, not when[b] so many men die of heart attack and brief illnesses[/b].

Hmm...

Is this what I'm thinking?

TonyeBarcanista:

How come you conclude that the OP is a nag?

the % of women that do not nag is not significant. So it is safe to say so. Besides, from the long list of suspicions she built it was even made clearer.

Sweeetheart:



even though your husband doesn't have class, I must say you worry a lot, if you're working in cbn and nnpc you won't have for all this FBI work. like I said your husband doesn't have class In the sense that he got married to a Lady that doesn't have the physical attributes he want In a lady


this marriage of a thing is not a joke or emotionally restricted things. this is why I laughed at the ignorance of some churches rules on marriage, in their myopic rules they rule out taste and physical attributes in counselling and sensitizing couples to be


I love big yansh and I will never go on marriage with any lady that don't have it, this is class. to avoid extra marital affairs guys/men you should end up with a lady that had the physical attributes you want in a lady because extra marital affairs endangered men but some ignorant men see it as fun

Op, talk to someone he respect a lot about it, I hope he change. ladies should learn to studied what their guys loves most in a lady's outlook, if you don't have it and you're the jealous type abeg no go deep in the relationship

my dear brother, you are not completely correct oh lol.



Me I married a lady that surpasses the qualities I wanted in a wife; I love big ass and averagely standing breast (not big), flat tummy and full straight legs. I love fair skin ladies and chocolate skin too, guess what My wife is fair skin like a Caucasian woman with long hair to match. But to be honest with you, sometimes I see myself admiring other ladies that are not close to as cute as my wife, reason I can't tell.


Until you marry as a man, you won't understand this issue honestly. It's beyond marrying a pretty lady with all the physical features you fancy.


But one thing I am sure of is, I can only admire other ladies with good shape, but I cannot see myself cheating on my wife, not because of her physical beauty, but because she is too sweet and amazing as a woman. This lady can pass as an angel woman.

The way she talks, the way she behaves, her countenance, the way she treat other people and the way she carries herself makes my head spin, not even her physical beauty but her entire personality is enchanting

Kemight15:
This is why I'm scared of marriage
I'm 25 and I don't think of marrying anybody


Please leave that man ASAP before it's too late

so if a man has a boob pics in his phone or a pretty girl pics you will leave the marriage,very funny,so if you leave and marry another man he will be perfect,nobody is perfect without sin,but why do you go looking in the first instance, remember if you are peeping your head will be exposed.

It’s normal I also do

Kemight15:
This is why I'm scared of marriage
I'm 25 and I don't think of marrying anybody


Please leave that man ASAP before it's too late

hmmm

you're 25+10=35years

thank me later

You are just here complaining complaining complaining about him

How about your own wrong side

Please think twice

Before a man cheats on a woman or go wrong on her he must have found something wrong

Please be wise and call him to a seat at midnight

And tell him what’s happening

You will see he will bring out your wrong side of the story

Shalom sister

For the sake of your marriage. keep away from some "friends".

I havent seen where you mentioned you caught him cheating...

Just some random boob pics ...

See.. this is normal for guys who love boobs ...

Doesnt make him a cheat ...

You havent seen a chat that confirmed that hes had sex with another woman since youve been checking his phone and seems there isnt...

Dont lose your marriage to these flimsy guy thingy which most men see as exploring ...

Him having those pics and chats doesnt make him love you less... the problem started when the phone snooping and confrontations was getting too much...

Like someone said, u went checking cos you hoped to find something dirty and it means you dont trust him... so these little things you found has escalated your fears

Lady, move to an island with your husband, that way it will be only two of u.

Young woman,
From your narration, it seem to me that you're relatively new couple ( still young in marriage).

I'll advise you to take things easy.
In marriage, the woman matures earlier than the man. She more often than her spouse, easily detaches from the past and focuses on the future.
The young man is not so! Exuberance wanes gradually in him and it takes time and some life experiences to 'bring him home'...

You will have need to learn to be patient, while your husband will need to learn maturity and responsibility in marriage.

I can give you a 70% assurance that if you can be patient with him, the one you fell in love with will return. I may however, have to caution that your Patience may bring along with its reward, some scars...

NaijaOlosho:

Why showing your rotten teeth Naija olosho!! What a monicker

Awoleesu:
Young woman,
From your narration, it seem to me that you're relatively new couple ( still young in marriage).

I'll advise you to take things easy.
In marriage, the woman matures earlier than the man. She more often than her spouse, easily detaches from the past and focuses on the future.
The young man is not so! Exuberance wanes gradually in him and it takes time and some life experiences to 'bring him home'...

You will have need to learn to be patient, while your husband will need to learn maturity and responsibility in marriage.

I can give you a 70% assurance that if you can be patient with him, the one you fell in love with will return. I may however, have to caution that your Patience may bring along with its reward, some scars...

delishpot:


At least, una Don dey know how e dey pain for body when una do am to una wives. See how heartbreaking cheating is? That is what women have been forced to accept as normal in their marriages.
The man should go and pray, he should not let Satan tear his home. After all, it rains everywhere.

I just wanted to add the bold of this advice below here for OP. It is from a woman and I really got hooked on it.


She should take both of them and be strong.

EJanni:
it doesn't apply to only men you know? What would you do if you catch your wife admiring other men?
See my brother, why there are too much problems today on earth is due to lack of EMPATHY. Wrong is wrong. No gender has the sole right of doing wrong.

Again from the op's narrative, don't you think the man is cheating? It's clearly obvious.

see sis let me tell you something lol, I am around 5ft8, my wife like 6ft guys which I am aware from the get go lol....sometimes during our courtship days, she would taunt me with; if only you were 6ft like this guy, and I will jokingly fire back; if only the guy is as rich as me

Or I will taunt her back that you know you nearly escaped being albino and she will laugh out loud and we will turn it to jokes lol


I have seen life enough to go bothering myself about who my wife admires lol, when I know that every human have other humans they do fancy even if they are dating or married to the finest man or woman.


To tell u my kind of person again, my wife is a medic, I don't like doctors in the past, maybe till now lol, I do tell her that I hear that male doctors do fvck female doctors on duty, that make una de use protection oh, and my wife will laugh like this man you are not well at all, and we will laugh over it. ....so me don't really give a flying Bleep about those stuffs, if she want cheat, na she sabi oh, but sha make I no catch her

So you ladies should free your minds, life is not that hard na, allow your husbands to have some freedom, stop choking your men, men don't like being choked oh, hmmm

womanscorned:
Before I got married to my husband we had a kind of perfect relationship. I just thought he was the perfect guy. He always checked on me. I did feel like he was marrying me for ulterior motives and everyone else just thought so too. My brothers warned me that he is not going to treat me right but I just feel drawn to him. I thought he just really cared about me. He seemed different.

I introduced him to my dad and my dad asked if I was sure and yes at that moment I was. Then shortly before the wedding his true colors started to come out. I never checked his phone but then a friend caught her boyfriend cheating so I decided to just check it. Guys I understand people say that if you go looking you will find something but I actually don't really believe that why is there always something that is the main point. I checked his phone and found one boob pic and pics of his old exes. I was SO shocked. Honestly, I never thought I would find anything. He told me that he recently got his phone updated and the pic was a pic of a celebrity. But I was smarter than that I saw that it was actually an "Auntie" that sent the pic so basically one of his contacts. I was so shocked, didn't know what to do. I told my brother he told me to just pray and I did and I felt like he was still the one he apologized and assured me that he was going to change.

Fast forward to a few months later I see a girl's pic in his phone his good friend's girlfriend and he was commenting on her looks very gross-like. I lost it and we fought but he assured me it was just guy talk.

Then again I recently found him talking to his good friend about another girl's boobs and he never tells me he loves me any longer. Never really truly cares. He even brought up divorce if I wanted to do it. So I am just kind of stuck. I do want to get a divorce honestly if my parents and his would not get involved. But we have a child together. I am not sure what to do right now. Why would he do this to me? Why get married if you don't love the person. I understand that people say guys will be guys and locker room talk but if you don't love that person deeply and truly then why marry them and make a vow before God.

Now I don't know what to do. He is always so rude in the way he talks. I can't remember the last time he took me out and even if he did I am sure it would be a dry conversation. I think he really is just worried about what people say and not really losing me any longer. He has this thing where he wants to always look like a nice guy. So my question is if you were in this position how would you leave? Oh he also looks at my friends and claims he never was when it is pretty obvious. He drank a little and then started winking at my friend.

make yourself look good so that your husband will stop looking at other people.
also ask your husband for a threesum

healthserve:
@Womanscorned.



Prior to marriage how was his finances like?



How did the marriage impact his financial resoures personally?



What ulterior motives did you suspect before marriage?


Have you tried discussing this with any member of your family?


What's eating you up this badly?



Whatbdo you want out of this situationship?



Have you tried confronting him directly eother you or your family on your behalf?



Have you tried saving these pictures you saw as evidence just incase?



How is your sex life atm?



Have you tried to engage his friends or pastor to express your concerns?




What would you like to change anout the situation?


Would you like my honest counsel on this matter?




Cc Franchasng

I have talking my own since na, you is there asked questions, we is dropped our contributing hot hot

Have you told your pops or any of the elders you know and that you can trust to keep silent because believe me the elderly one knows better. Your dad might have noticed and he would still keep quiet.

This is too flimsy.... he looks at women... he doesn't complement you any more... enh big boobs...

Aunty did you catch your husband cheating

Does your husband abuse you

Abeg rest jare...

Find a way to warm your place back to his heart.. so he can adore you.


Do you think marriage is a bed of roses?? Lol

You are free to walk away... and land your self in another man's fry pan or even fire.

Kemight15:
This is why I'm scared of marriage
I'm 25 and I don't think of marrying anybody


Please leave that man ASAP before it's too late

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womanscorned:
Before I got married to my husband we had a kind of perfect relationship. I just thought he was the perfect guy. He always checked on me. I did feel like he was marrying me for ulterior motives and everyone else just thought so too. My brothers warned me that he is not going to treat me right but I just feel drawn to him. I thought he just really cared about me. He seemed different.

I introduced him to my dad and my dad asked if I was sure and yes at that moment I was. Then shortly before the wedding his true colors started to come out. I never checked his phone but then a friend caught her boyfriend cheating so I decided to just check it. Guys I understand people say that if you go looking you will find something but I actually don't really believe that why is there always something that is the main point. I checked his phone and found one boob pic and pics of his old exes. I was SO shocked. Honestly, I never thought I would find anything. He told me that he recently got his phone updated and the pic was a pic of a celebrity. But I was smarter than that I saw that it was actually an "Auntie" that sent the pic so basically one of his contacts. I was so shocked, didn't know what to do. I told my brother he told me to just pray and I did and I felt like he was still the one he apologized and assured me that he was going to change.

Fast forward to a few months later I see a girl's pic in his phone his good friend's girlfriend and he was commenting on her looks very gross-like. I lost it and we fought but he assured me it was just guy talk.

Then again I recently found him talking to his good friend about another girl's boobs and he never tells me he loves me any longer. Never really truly cares. He even brought up divorce if I wanted to do it. So I am just kind of stuck. I do want to get a divorce honestly if my parents and his would not get involved. But we have a child together. I am not sure what to do right now. Why would he do this to me? Why get married if you don't love the person. I understand that people say guys will be guys and locker room talk but if you don't love that person deeply and truly then why marry them and make a vow before God.

Now I don't know what to do. He is always so rude in the way he talks. I can't remember the last time he took me out and even if he did I am sure it would be a dry conversation. I think he really is just worried about what people say and not really losing me any longer. He has this thing where he wants to always look like a nice guy. So my question is if you were in this position how would you leave? Oh he also looks at my friends and claims he never was when it is pretty obvious. He drank a little and then started winking at my friend.

This is "one chance" for sure.