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Ginaz:
I rather waste my tears on a boring movie than on you. GROW UP boy!!!

Yeap you're right.

I have this feeling i don't wanna grow up.

But cheers anyway.

You went on a date, I understand that as the man you already feel that you should foot the bill, but honestly you don't just to prove your masculinity in that way. If she says she wants to go somewhere or have a certain dish, let her be free but politely tell her that she'll have to split the bill with you and tell her your reasons. Don't just seat there and frown.

The uber one off me sha, some naija babes dey like to dey embarrass themselves sometimes. But still voice out your complaints to her and let her know the things you were not okay with. I am hoping you did that first before coming on here to entertain us.

This is called communication which most are in lacking of, today. This is how all relationships (romantic or not) thrive.
Nowadays, it's sad that we just talked to be heard, we do not communicate.

2loadedguy:
Recently I had an encounter that made me to start thinking if demanding is a orientation mentality thing or its just inborn for Nigerian women. I was introduced to a lady by a friend at a wedding who happens to be her boss in one of the new generation banks in Nigeria. He was so proud of her and said many good things about her to push me to date her or even marry her, I got excited too and we started chatting and talking.
We scheduled a date over the weekend and the first thing that struck me was she insisting on a particular restaurant I said No and asked she come to another, she came over grudgingly and checked the menu only to demand for the most expensive prawn rice of about 10k I held my cool and stylishly called the waiter that she wont have that but it should be changed to another. When she asked i told her they dont have, eventually she finished eating and even got her a take away pack to take some food home like the hungry girl that she is.
The most ridiculous part of the whole meeting was when she told me she had issues with her phone and i should book uber for her back home. I booked the uber only for her to enter the car and start asking me for the uber fare, to say i was dissapointed is an understatement. Here is a girl i was supposed to take serious, who works in a bank and earns close to 200k monthly demanding for ridiculous food she can't use her money to buy and above all cannot spare 2k for uber and yet they wonder why guys won't take them serious.

Godoverevery:
the probs with you ladies is u all see everything has an attack...what is bad is bad ....u need to condemn or support D's act... let no ur stand.
Not ds write up .
D reason why we have failed marriage D's Days is women don't speak truth to demselves rather they see any complain from men as an attack and divorce everywhere.
how can a lady go on a date for the first time and order for the most expensive meal....come on which man will respect such a woman.

That's her problem. She chose that path with her own hands.

Because I also wonder how she would order a very expensive meal. Only she knows why.

As for me? Food is not my problem and by God's grace it won't be. I'm already over fed by myself and I share most times to close friends and neighbors. It's no biggie.

And funny enough most Nigerian guys with their myopic brains will see ladies like me and feel I'm too expensive to take out.
I will just smile, u Know why? I don't even eat much outside. I'm on the big side from waist up, so eating much means I won't be able to move around comfortable with my chest because I'm well fed already, so why stuff in more food?

It's only very few wise guys that knows this fact and people who are close to me. Anyways I'm not a hungry lady.

Headlesschicken:
How many times have you done that?

Several times with pretty ladies I like and want around me or handsome guys I like and find interesting.

I'm a sucker for beauties and Handsome looks but such persons must have good hearts. Then we are good to go.

It's no biggie, Infact it's relaxing sef to my nerves,mind and senses.

victorian:
That's her problem. She chose that path with her own hands.

Because I also wonder how she would order a very expensive meal. Only she knows why.

As for me? Food is not my problem and by God's grace it won't be. I'm already over fed by myself and I share most times to close friends and neighbors. It's no biggie.

I get u perfectly....u no we men are totally different from u women.
if a man mess up we tell him to is face but I notice women don't do dat cos of ego.
u ladies have lot of ego .....I cud remember while in school i dated a lady....she and her rommie have separate kitchen utensils....it was really weird despite dey look close.....all tru my time I never saw guys do dat.
it really hard to see ladies dat genuinely love demselves without boundary and limit.

successful35:
You are very stupid to say we don't have a choice. I swear most naija guys like you are failures.

If I knack you jazz

lol, abeg e never reach like that

Wat a thread, I wonder how many ladies the OP has dated to jump to that conclusion...

iLegendd:
Real men don't go on dates. The woman comes to their houses or hotel room FIRST.

SECONDLY,

If he deems it fit, then he will take her to go hang out with him outside and after that, they'll both come back home or he'll see her off. Next time, she'll come straight to his house or hotel room again.

This going on a date is what betamale oyibo men invented back then and it's outdated.

Betamale oyibo men are good at manufacturing, computer, ICT, technology, etc., but not relationship invention. These men invented going on a date and it's for other betamales to follow. Real men don't do that — they only hang out after she has known his abode.

gbam

this is just me. first date na sleep over for my house and u go cook and mop the house sef. then we hang out later.
if not, carry waka go far

Riele:
One experience with a girl and suddenly all Nigerian girls takes the blame.

OP , either you use A girl i met is greedy or you close the thread .

Smh !

pot calling kettle black. You are the king of generalization.

Riele:
One experience with a girl and suddenly all Nigerian girls takes the blame.

OP , either you use A girl i met is greedy or you close the thread .

Smh !

Yes! Oya u can now die

victorian:
Guys of these days? Lemme not say what's in my mind.

Anyways on whatsapp, I was browsing my friends and family's status.

Then my eyes caught one of cousin's status, I was like lemme see what this babe is up to.

She's a top executive in one of these banks. I tapped her status, she displayed pics of herself shopping in a mall abroad, I could see the environment is not naija. I was like Ufuoma! Big babe! Babe is spending money. There was definitely someone at the background taking her video. After shopping and paying, she waved, smiled at the camera.

Then next video, She was in a robe, dancing to a song playing at the background, in a posh room. I guess it's the hotel where she's staying. She held a bottle of Baileys. Poured in a glass, was miming a song, seeping the baileys looking at the camera with a determined look and smile, winked and seeping her drink.
Then shaking her head again, pouring more drink into the glass, dancing slowly and smiling.

I was like wow! This is what I call freedom and enjoyment!
No stress,No Stingy guy breathing down ones neck, no hassles. She was just feeling herself.


In mind I was like this video is for guys.

For guys to know she enjoying her money without stress.


Ufuoma is really balling.


Guys successful women no send una o

That's the truth out there ! We no send una one bit!

What's rice and chicken wey Op no allow us hear word this night!

Have eaten chicken, turkey, cow leg, ogunfe! Almost every day, that I can't even eat anymore Orelse I just want my heart to shut down. That's the honest truth. Food doesn't freak people like us.

Just yesterday, i sent an invite to a longtime friend I saw online. I chat the guy up. Guy what will u be doingthis weekend? He said nothing really. I was like u are looking very handsome these days o. Come over Lets catch up.
He asked what will I offer him? I smiled, I said some bottles of nice chilled wine ,with enough fried chicken and sauce.

He screamed and was like wow!

I smiled and I said its Nothing jare. He asked whats the merriment for?

I said nothing.. I'm just bored and I want to drink and dine with someone I'm familiar with, that's all. Nothing spectacular. And moreover u look good! He was all smiles, he said its deal.

So what's there in chicken and rice wey we no go hear word for nairaland.

Smhhhh!

Jesus Christ !
Just shut up already, please.

I dont do dating at all,na why I dey make sure say I Bleep Dem and dump their sorry ass...well I feel like most guys dont play their games right like most girls have been with are always demanding and feel entitled when I fvck them cos they think they have done you a favor and they deserve everything they put on you to do for them.... as for me that when I drop their sorry ass

any lady who embarrases herself on a date around food is a hungry girl .what is food? is it fried rice? is it jollof? is it chicken? abeg girls who do such make una no dey fall una hands again? u can even prepare fried rice at the comfort of ur home if such food is tripping u.all u need do is have the ingridients to do it.preparing fried rice is not difficult.i prepare it when i feel like eating it.stop acting like a bush girl when a guy takes u out because of food wey u never see b4 .this is why i said on another thread that we nigerians always embrass ourself with food and hinted poverty had something to do with it and someone was attacking me and saying i am insulting nigeria .anyway this thread vindicates me .if a guy takes u out be content with what he offers u.this is why i like some girls..u take them out and na ice cream una buy they are ok..u even offer to buy more food they will tell u they are ok with what they have and pay attention with what u have to say.not those ones u will take out and their eyeballs dey move in circles looking for the different type of food dem never chop before and while u talking to them all their attention na d food wey dey around the resturant.dem wan eat everything wey dey there .chai! poverty

iLegendd:
Real men don't go on dates. The woman comes to their houses or hotel room FIRST.

SECONDLY,

If he deems it fit, then he will take her to go hang out with him outside and after that, they'll both come back home or he'll see her off. Next time, she'll come straight to his house or hotel room again.

This going on a date is what betamale oyibo men invented back then and it's outdated.

Betamale oyibo men are good at manufacturing, computer, ICT, technology, etc., but not relationship invention. These men invented going on a date and it's for other betamales to follow. Real men don't do that — they only hang out after she has known his abode.

over here u can take a girl on a normal date and u two could buy ice cream and u can say what u have to say.u dont need to buy the whole house on a date.u can imagine on a typical nigerian date the girl will be ordering for rice,pounded yam,bush meat,pizza,cake,red wine etc.. and wen she consume all that her stomach will be overfilled and she will be uncomfortable...na eating expedition una go do ? anyway na poverty cause am.

victorian:
I doubt if she spend on guys

Her show offs is on her banking job, abroad trips with black and white friends and their families abroad, eating and dinning with them, then on herself,pampering herself.

I don't blame her. Nigerian guys are just too selfish and cruel these days. No woman would want to spend on any guy except if he has a heart of gold or he's worth it.

If not forget spending on naija guys. That's the honest truth.

I like the aspect of you being plain..... you're good...

What makes you think Naija guys are not worth it.....

2loadedguy:
Recently I had an encounter that made me to start thinking if demanding is a orientation mentality thing or its just inborn for Nigerian women. I was introduced to a lady by a friend at a wedding who happens to be her boss in one of the new generation banks in Nigeria. He was so proud of her and said many good things about her to push me to date her or even marry her, I got excited too and we started chatting and talking.
We scheduled a date over the weekend and the first thing that struck me was she insisting on a particular restaurant I said No and asked she come to another, she came over grudgingly and checked the menu only to demand for the most expensive prawn rice of about 10k I held my cool and stylishly called the waiter that she wont have that but it should be changed to another. When she asked i told her they dont have, eventually she finished eating and even got her a take away pack to take some food home like the hungry girl that she is.
The most ridiculous part of the whole meeting was when she told me she had issues with her phone and i should book uber for her back home. I booked the uber only for her to enter the car and start asking me for the uber fare, to say i was dissapointed is an understatement. Here is a girl i was supposed to take serious, who works in a bank and earns close to 200k monthly demanding for ridiculous food she can't use her money to buy and above all cannot spare 2k for uber and yet they wonder why guys won't take them serious.

By prawn do you mean shrimp.

2loadedguy:
Recently I had an encounter that made me to start thinking if demanding is a orientation mentality thing or its just inborn for Nigerian women. I was introduced to a lady by a friend at a wedding who happens to be her boss in one of the new generation banks in Nigeria. He was so proud of her and said many good things about her to push me to date her or even marry her, I got excited too and we started chatting and talking.
We scheduled a date over the weekend and the first thing that struck me was she insisting on a particular restaurant I said No and asked she come to another, she came over grudgingly and checked the menu only to demand for the most expensive prawn rice of about 10k I held my cool and stylishly called the waiter that she wont have that but it should be changed to another. When she asked i told her they dont have, eventually she finished eating and even got her a take away pack to take some food home like the hungry girl that she is.
The most ridiculous part of the whole meeting was when she told me she had issues with her phone and i should book uber for her back home. I booked the uber only for her to enter the car and start asking me for the uber fare, to say i was dissapointed is an understatement. Here is a girl i was supposed to take serious, who works in a bank and earns close to 200k monthly demanding for ridiculous food she can't use her money to buy and above all cannot spare 2k for uber and yet they wonder why guys won't take them serious.

My brother no need to fight with the woman. Whatever she wanted to eat ,you should have allow her .. This is the time you learn the type of woman she is.. Your approach was very wrong..

If I was in your shoe, I will allow her to go to any restaurant and eat whatever she wants. The uber thing I will pay for it ,without making a fuss about it After the date is done and over .. I will than delete her number and move on .. She has just proven to me that she is either greedy or self center or both.. Have been in similar situations like this before.. I just dealt with it with a smile and when it was all done and well .. I deleted the girl's number and that was the end of .. I was Ghost after that encounter .....

Another example that happen to me recently.. My co worker is well know for going around and asking people to borrow her money .. She tells you she needs $20.00 or so. It has become a habit of hers..And she does not pay back the money she borrows. So she called me few days ago and the conversation went like this..... Phone rings at 8:30am

Co worker.. Hi dru this is Bleep, am in the hospital now and I need some money. And I over drawn my account.. I normally don't ask for things like this outside work .. Can you borrow me so money and pay you back ...


Dru23.... How much do you need .....

Co worker.... $20 or $30 dollars and can u send the money via an app ....

Dru23.... I don't use that app you talking about ,but I use zelle app ..


Co worker... how do I use zelle...

Dru23.. Just download the app and you can receive money via phone number or email ...


Co worker... I will download it now ....
.............5 minutes later

Co worker ....very easy app, I think I prefer this app

Dru23... So how do you want me to send the money ? Email or phone number


Co worker... email

Dru23... send me your email


Co worker... email sent


Dru23.. I than proceeded to send her money ...but wait I just got a txt from her

Co worker... txt ... I prefer u send $30.00, but if you can't $20.00 will be ok ....


Dru23.... Thinking and smh ...this bi@ch is funny .. I than wire her $20.00 knowing that chances are I will never get that money back ......

Few seconds later .......

Coworker... thanks dru I got the money...


Dru... no problem.....


My conclusion..... I said well this is the first time she is asking me for money.. And I would use this opportunity to make it the last... I said to myself the next time she calls me asking for money... I will just hang up the phone on her and block her ... this will give me more of a reason to put her in her place....

2loadedguy:
Recently I had an encounter that made me to start thinking if demanding is a orientation mentality thing or its just inborn for Nigerian women. I was introduced to a lady by a friend at a wedding who happens to be her boss in one of the new generation banks in Nigeria. He was so proud of her and said many good things about her to push me to date her or even marry her, I got excited too and we started chatting and talking.
We scheduled a date over the weekend and the first thing that struck me was she insisting on a particular restaurant I said No and asked she come to another, she came over grudgingly and checked the menu only to demand for the most expensive prawn rice of about 10k I held my cool and stylishly called the waiter that she wont have that but it should be changed to another. When she asked i told her they dont have, eventually she finished eating and even got her a take away pack to take some food home like the hungry girl that she is.
The most ridiculous part of the whole meeting was when she told me she had issues with her phone and i should book uber for her back home. I booked the uber only for her to enter the car and start asking me for the uber fare, to say i was dissapointed is an understatement. Here is a girl i was supposed to take serious, who works in a bank and earns close to 200k monthly demanding for ridiculous food she can't use her money to buy and above all cannot spare 2k for uber and yet they wonder why guys won't take them serious.

No, Nigerian ladies are not wired to act hungrily. Whatever behaviour nigerian girls are expressing, american, english, indian, japanese, italian, arabic etc girls, are also expressing it. You would not know this because, you don't live in those countries.

BigJoe19:
Nigerian women are useless to the society and themselves.

please don't generalise.

bankulizer:
Bro I feel you. I wonder why some ladies do that.
Money that she can't afford to spend anyhow
Market women wey them suppose dash money, them go price price the goods
But they can order 10k food with takeaway and Uber Money.
Most ladies lose good men because of this rubbish syndrome.
I feel your friend gave her your pass.
Bro, there are over 1 Billion girls in the world.
Move past it


Personal Experience : Met this babe through a friend at his restaurant, I saw raw sketches for her Fashion Design whatever, complimented her and exchanged contacts. Visited her few days later but couldn't spend much time as I had to travel. Second visit, she came with a friend but I did not complain and did not even think about it because I had no sexual intentions. I was actually interested in her Fashion Design stuff and thought it nice to buy her an Igbalode sewing machine. I went to a supermarket to get few things before they close. They sha use style follow me enter. Na so them start to dey pick things. Funny thing, I wasn't even upset. Total bill; #21500. I bough stuff of 5200. We got into the car to the date venue, Dominos, they ordered, ate and still took takeaway. I wasn't upset because it was funny to me, dropped them at home with big tight hugs that made me start wondering if I have changed her life. Fast Foward; 5 more date after that at restaurants, slept over at mine thrice. Did not touch her. Made no sexual move. I was out of town for a while till last December. Got a call from her; ehn where are you? I'm hungry, you know I have ulcer. The babe call me tire, finally took her to a nice club. She ordered for #8400 food plus takeaway. While we waited, she started ranting about her Ulcer. I finally "masked off" told her right there and then that I'm leaving and as i was driving out. She asked that i drop her which i did. She called me next morning threatening me with words like "you, you will see what I will do to you" I'm like gerrarahia. I did not See it as a loss, just good riddance to bad rubbish.
See babes it's not about the money or anything. It's just common sense. Courtesy.

NB : I did not correct anything o, if you understand, you understand noniye! Peace

What exactly is Nigerian guys problem, low self esteem or what. This is getting so unbearable and causing serious problems for ordinary guys who can’t afford to spend this way and end up becoming yahoo boys.
Are you all too scared of being alone or is this a mental disorder. Ask a girl out and take her out on a simple ice cream date, you shouldn’t have to buy her love and later claim you don’t really care about the money, you are skewing the dating market with your mentality.

A guy once told me he took white lady for a date,after the date the lady paid hers and he paid his too. But in Naija the man carry the whole cross.

phorget:
The problem with most Nigerians ladies is the mentality that man must be the soul provider of ladies need. What makes it so disheartening is the fact that they regard sex as their only weapon but unfortunately for them,they refuse to understand the fact that most men look beyond sex in a lady. Sex is the cheapest thing to get so why would ladies think it's such a great asset in a relationship?

but na some of our foolish men make dem feel say we can't live widouut their tttooto,,,imagine paying 20k for already ravished ttoto ,

Aaahhhh...she prolly doesn't know you're a nairalander. She wouldnt have tried such with you Hahahahaaa.

You know you're not ready to part with your cash, why go into a relationship? Just free the girl for men that know better .

Nobody should mention me please I'm busy

She is balling but someone else is taking videos in the background.
Balling noni

victorian:
Guys of these days? Lemme not say what's in my mind.

Anyways on whatsapp, I was browsing my friends and family's status.

Then my eyes caught one of cousin's status, I was like lemme see what this babe is up to.

She's a top executive in one of these banks. I tapped her status, she displayed pics of herself shopping in a mall abroad, I could see the environment is not naija. I was like Ufuoma! Big babe! Babe is spending money. There was definitely someone at the background taking her video. After shopping and paying, she waved, smiled at the camera.

Then next video, She was in a robe, dancing to a song playing at the background, in a posh room. I guess it's the hotel where she's staying. She held a bottle of Baileys. Poured in a glass, was miming a song, seeping the baileys looking at the camera with a determined look and smile, winked and seeping her drink.
Then shaking her head again, pouring more drink into the glass, dancing slowly and smiling.

I was like wow! This is what I call freedom and enjoyment!
No stress,No Stingy guy breathing down ones neck, no hassles. She was just feeling herself.


In mind I was like this video is for guys.

For guys to know she enjoying her money without stress.


Ufuoma is really balling.


Guys successful women no send una o

That's the truth out there ! We no send una one bit!

What's rice and chicken wey Op no allow us hear word this night!

Have eaten chicken, turkey, cow leg, ogunfe! Almost every day, that I can't even eat anymore Orelse I just want my heart to shut down. That's the honest truth. Food doesn't freak people like us.

Just yesterday, i sent an invite to a longtime friend I saw online. I chat the guy up. Guy what will u be doingthis weekend? He said nothing really. I was like u are looking very handsome these days o. Come over Lets catch up.
He asked what will I offer him? I smiled, I said some bottles of nice chilled wine ,with enough fried chicken and sauce.

He screamed and was like wow!

I smiled and I said its Nothing jare. He asked whats the merriment for?

I said nothing.. I'm just bored and I want to drink and dine with someone I'm familiar with, that's all. Nothing spectacular. And moreover u look good! He was all smiles, he said its deal.

So what's there in chicken and rice wey we no go hear word for nairaland.

Smhhhh!

DNSPro:
are you tired?

Of course No .

I'm waiting for you to think up a brilliant insult .

Are you done ?

DavidEsq:
Yes! Oya u can now die

I'll die . After you're dead .

manGODDED:
pot calling kettle black. You are the king of generalization.

Queen .

femi4:
you ve done worse abeg

And you're no different .

Wetin be date?
Me wey be say na Bar i go carry you go highest you chop N500 Nkwobi and 2 bottles for normal girls.
But if its abit classy girl, it is just to be talking on phone till we spark up, then maybe invite you over to my place or to a rave/party.

Riele:
Of course No .

I'm waiting for you to think up a brilliant insult .

Are you done ?

huh? like you any? So u could not bear the thought dragging your parents into this but thought 8t was fun to that on another's? Says a lot about your psyche.

Run along puppy

DNSPro:
huh? like you any? So u could not bear the thought dragging your parents into this but thought 8t was fun to that on another's? Says a lot about your psyche.

Run along puppy

Aww . You're improving .

You still need a lot of improvement . Come on try harder .

Riele:
Aww . You're improving .

You still need a lot of improvement . Come on try harder .

ashi weyre oshi