₦airaland Forum

ejimatic:
. This man will never marry you...You asked him he said he would not marry you but he loves you...He even asked u what would happen if he did not marry you.At a function three others girlfriends came....If he had never said and done the above I would say may be he is not ready yet for marriage with you but he would still marry you...Now do this: Call him and tell him how you feel again and let him know that you want to leave him now.End your relationship officially.If he still needs you he will call you back...You have endured enough for him.

Jonathan39:
Have you heard of the word "elastic limit" before? The male and female are different. Protect that thing for the man that will pay your bride price, if not ......

Oblitz:
Tell him to his face. If he doesn't want to propose, he should let you go. Time is running...............

Mizwisdom:
15 years of fornication? will you like this kind of destiny for your daughter?

Candycrushy:
How do pple stay 5 years in a relationship??
God please help me...

Ineedtoheal:
No one says it must lead to marriage oga. why keep what you don't need? If You really don't see yourself in few years time with someone, why waste their time? did you really read all I wrote? coz if you did, you wouldn't have make this comment.
I have begged him on several occasions to end things with me if he knows we don't have a future together but he refused. Mind you, it's not just a Nigerian thing. you guys are so quick in calling Nigerian girls out.

Ineedtoheal:
No one says it must lead to marriage oga. why keep what you don't need? If You really don't see yourself in few years time with someone, why waste their time? did you really read all I wrote? coz if you did, you wouldn't have make this comment.
I have begged him on several occasions to end things with me if he knows we don't have a future together but he refused. Mind you, it's not just a Nigerian thing. you guys are so quick in calling Nigerian girls out.

Ineedtoheal:
I wish he will let me be and not try sweet talking me into opening my heart to him again.

Ineedtoheal:
Hi Famlanders, Please I need your advice. I beg you all to save a sister. I have to bring this here coz I know it's where I will get wonderful contributions. Again, I am using this new account coz I have friends and customers here. I don't want to blow my cover. Please this is real and not fiction. This will be quite lengthy, please bear with me.

I met this guy in 2013 when I was in year one. It was not a steady relationship coz we barely call nor see so I didn't take him serious. And whenever we see, it was always at one friends house or another. I accused him of being married but he vehemently denied it. Later on I figured out he had accommodation issue after he lost his job. He later rented a house when he got another job with one of our prestigious federal universities here in Nigeria and that was when things became serious (kinda).

We became very serious around 2016 that is why I count it as 5 years instead of 7. But then during one of my visits, I was sleeping in the room when I overheard him talking to someone but the only thing that caught my attention was when he said "I don't even have a girlfriend". Though I didn't confront him, but I thought about it deeply.

Two nights ago, I had a dream where he was getting married to another lady. I was crying while he was still saying he loves me but can't marry me. I confronted him yesterday, he said I am pressurizing him to marry me that was after he first asked what will happen if we don't end up together. He hasn't told me where the relationship is leading to after 5 years. We have been living for the moment. Just for the moment!

Few info about the relationship
1) He will be 40 this November while I am 27.
2. He has always had numerous girlfriends that when he's with them, he doesn't pick my calls though he always apologizes and he's trying his best this year.

3. He always send pictures of other women to his friends to let them know they are the people he wish to marry but never has he sent mine. Though he claims he's not doing it again.

4. From the look of things he's still searching while he wants to have me all to himself. Maybe a second option since the others are not accepting him and I love him foolishly.

5. The relationship is 50 -50 .We spend on each other. He believes it's the woman's duty to do all the house chores but not the man's duty to take care of the woman.

6. On his Fathers burial last year, 3 of his girlfriends came (me inclusive) and we all wore the burial uniform. Together, we served his guests even when we realized we are dating same man. His neighbors were giggling and gossiping but we all decided to be matured and work together.

7. When my sister that raised me died, he didn't come for the burial. his reason was he had supervision that day in school,same person that calls his colleague to cover for him during exam supervision so he could do other things. He also didn't send me any money but he questioned me for not giving him any money for his Father's burial. Even when I paid him excess for the burial uniform. I know why I did that. Mind you, he has asked me before if he can give one of his ex 10k during her Father's burial which I agreed and he sent her the money.

8. I have rejected some suitors who were willing to marry me coz of him. Though he has never encouraged me to accept any of them. In fact he gets angry hearing that another man is coming close to me.

9. He doesn't call often, I do more of the calling though he always return my calls. He can stay for days without calling unless I call. I know I have been the one holding the relationship coz I thought he will change.

10. Sine 2017 till last year, all I did was forgive him coz I love him. He keeps bringing new / different ladies into the picture. I have gone through a lot of emotional stress. He keeps asking me to stay that he loves me but he's confused.

His good side: He's understanding, motivates me to do my best, he doesn't hit me, he is gentle.

Me on the other hand is sometimes stubborn though very faithful coz I love him to a fault. I easily get angry but forgives easily. When I'm angry I talk so much but I don't abuse him. He is simply the cause of all my anger. He always say I am very understanding, a good girl, drama free but yet he doesn't want to marry me and won't let me go too. I have never involved a third party in our relationship except my late sister who said she wish I will walk away from the relationship because I love the guy more, that it won't end well. All my friends thinks I have a perfect relationship because I don't discuss him with them.

Back to last night, I told him I won't call him again coz he said I am pressurizing him to marry me. The truth is I have seen the hand writing on the wall, not today but two years ago but I keep going back. Please I need advice on how not to go back again. The love he proclaims for me is not enough for him to marry. I have wasted enough time already. Maybe hearing the raw truth here will help.

Ineedtoheal:
I wish he will let me be and not try sweet talking me into opening my heart to him again.

Ineedtoheal:
I wish he will let me be and not try sweet talking me into opening my heart to him again.

dawnomike:
Kindly port before it is too late if you feel you are not in his plans for marriage... Forget the 5 yrs!
It is better to lose 5 years than a lifetime of regrets.

Now to the raw truth: DO NOT BE A FOOL IN LOVE WHEN THERE ARE OTHER MEN OUT THERE LOOKONG FOR SOMEONE LIKE YOU!!!
RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!!!!!

thorpido:
̷T̷̷h̷̷e̷̷r̷̷e̷̷ ̷̷w̷̷a̷̷s̷̷ ̷̷a̷̷ ̷̷g̷̷u̷̷y̷̷ ̷̷o̷̷n̷̷ ̷̷o̷̷n̷̷e̷̷ ̷̷t̷̷h̷̷r̷̷e̷̷a̷̷d̷̷ ̷̷o̷̷n̷̷e̷̷ ̷̷t̷̷i̷̷m̷̷e̷̷ ̷̷t̷̷h̷̷a̷̷t̷̷ ̷̷m̷̷a̷̷d̷̷e̷̷ ̷̷a̷̷ ̷̷w̷̷o̷̷n̷̷d̷̷e̷̷r̷̷f̷̷u̷̷l̷̷ ̷̷c̷̷o̷̷m̷̷m̷̷e̷̷n̷̷t̷̷ ̷̷a̷̷b̷̷o̷̷u̷̷t̷̷ ̷̷'̷̷o̷̷l̷̷d̷̷ ̷̷m̷̷i̷̷d̷̷n̷̷i̷̷g̷̷h̷̷t̷̷ ̷̷n̷̷e̷̷w̷̷s̷̷p̷̷a̷̷p̷̷e̷̷r̷̷ ̷̷m̷̷e̷̷n̷̷'̷̷ ̷̷a̷̷n̷̷d̷̷ ̷̷t̷̷h̷̷e̷̷i̷̷r̷̷ ̷̷w̷̷e̷̷a̷̷r̷̷i̷̷n̷̷e̷̷s̷̷s̷̷ ̷̷t̷̷o̷̷ ̷̷s̷̷e̷̷t̷̷t̷̷l̷̷e̷̷ ̷̷d̷̷o̷̷w̷̷n̷̷.̷̷
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̷̷Y̷̷o̷̷u̷̷ ̷̷d̷̷i̷̷d̷̷n̷̷'̷̷t̷̷ ̷̷t̷̷a̷̷k̷̷e̷̷ ̷̷y̷̷o̷̷u̷̷r̷̷ ̷̷t̷̷i̷̷m̷̷e̷̷ ̷̷e̷̷n̷̷o̷̷u̷̷g̷̷h̷̷ ̷̷t̷̷o̷̷ ̷̷s̷̷t̷̷u̷̷d̷̷y̷̷ ̷̷t̷̷h̷̷i̷̷s̷̷ ̷̷g̷̷u̷̷y̷̷ ̷̷a̷̷n̷̷d̷̷ ̷̷s̷̷e̷̷e̷̷ ̷̷h̷̷e̷̷'̷̷s̷̷ ̷̷j̷̷u̷̷s̷̷t̷̷ ̷̷a̷̷ ̷̷p̷̷l̷̷a̷̷y̷̷e̷̷r̷̷/̷̷n̷̷o̷̷n̷̷-̷̷c̷̷o̷̷m̷̷m̷̷i̷̷t̷̷t̷̷a̷̷l̷̷ ̷̷g̷̷u̷̷y̷̷.̷̷H̷̷e̷̷ ̷̷s̷̷h̷̷o̷̷w̷̷e̷̷d̷̷ ̷̷s̷̷i̷̷g̷̷n̷̷s̷̷ ̷̷o̷̷f̷̷ ̷̷u̷̷n̷̷s̷̷e̷̷r̷̷i̷̷o̷̷u̷̷n̷̷e̷̷s̷̷s̷̷ ̷̷f̷̷r̷̷o̷̷m̷̷ ̷̷t̷̷h̷̷e̷̷ ̷̷b̷̷e̷̷g̷̷i̷̷n̷̷n̷̷i̷̷n̷̷g̷̷.̷̷
̷̷I̷̷ ̷̷w̷̷i̷̷l̷̷l̷̷ ̷̷a̷̷d̷̷v̷̷i̷̷s̷̷e̷̷ ̷̷y̷̷o̷̷u̷̷ ̷̷t̷̷o̷̷ ̷̷m̷̷o̷̷v̷̷e̷̷ ̷̷o̷̷n̷̷.̷̷T̷̷h̷̷i̷̷s̷̷ ̷̷g̷̷u̷̷y̷̷ ̷̷r̷̷e̷̷a̷̷l̷̷l̷̷y̷̷ ̷̷d̷̷o̷̷e̷̷s̷̷n̷̷'̷̷t̷̷ ̷̷w̷̷a̷̷n̷̷t̷̷ ̷̷t̷̷o̷̷ ̷̷s̷̷e̷̷t̷̷t̷̷l̷̷e̷̷ ̷̷a̷̷n̷̷d̷̷ ̷̷d̷̷e̷̷f̷̷i̷̷n̷̷i̷̷t̷̷e̷̷l̷̷y̷̷ ̷̷w̷̷o̷̷n̷̷'̷̷t̷̷ ̷̷s̷̷e̷̷t̷̷t̷̷l̷̷e̷̷ ̷̷f̷̷o̷̷r̷̷ ̷̷y̷̷o̷̷u̷̷.̷̷
̷̷B̷̷l̷̷o̷̷c̷̷k̷̷ ̷̷h̷̷i̷̷s̷̷ ̷̷c̷̷a̷̷l̷̷l̷̷s̷̷.̷̷S̷̷t̷̷o̷̷p̷̷ ̷̷c̷̷a̷̷l̷̷l̷̷i̷̷n̷̷g̷̷ ̷̷h̷̷i̷̷m̷̷.̷̷B̷̷l̷̷o̷̷c̷̷k̷̷ ̷̷h̷̷i̷̷m̷̷ ̷̷o̷̷n̷̷ ̷̷s̷̷o̷̷c̷̷i̷̷a̷̷l̷̷ ̷̷m̷̷e̷̷d̷̷i̷̷a̷̷.̷̷I̷̷t̷̷ ̷̷w̷̷i̷̷l̷̷l̷̷ ̷̷h̷̷u̷̷r̷̷t̷̷ ̷̷f̷̷o̷̷r̷̷ ̷̷a̷̷ ̷̷f̷̷e̷̷w̷̷ ̷̷d̷̷a̷̷y̷̷s̷̷ ̷̷b̷̷u̷̷t̷̷ ̷̷y̷̷o̷̷u̷̷ ̷̷w̷̷i̷̷l̷̷l̷̷ ̷̷g̷̷e̷̷t̷̷ ̷̷o̷̷v̷̷e̷̷r̷̷ ̷̷i̷̷t̷̷ ̷̷B̷̷e̷̷t̷̷t̷̷e̷̷r̷̷ ̷̷t̷̷h̷̷a̷̷n̷̷ ̷̷j̷̷u̷̷s̷̷t̷̷ ̷̷g̷̷i̷̷v̷̷i̷̷n̷̷g̷̷ ̷̷f̷̷r̷̷e̷̷e̷̷ ̷̷k̷̷p̷̷e̷̷k̷̷u̷̷s̷̷ ̷̷t̷̷o̷̷ ̷̷a̷̷ ̷̷g̷̷u̷̷y̷̷ ̷̷w̷̷h̷̷o̷̷ ̷̷w̷̷o̷̷n̷̷'̷̷t̷̷ ̷̷m̷̷a̷̷r̷̷r̷̷y̷̷ ̷̷y̷̷o̷̷u̷̷ ̷̷a̷̷n̷̷d̷̷ ̷̷y̷̷o̷̷u̷̷ ̷̷a̷̷r̷̷e̷̷ ̷̷2̷̷7̷̷y̷̷r̷̷s̷̷ ̷̷a̷̷l̷̷r̷̷e̷̷a̷̷d̷̷y̷̷.̷

Sixfeetbelle:
This your question hard small, but I want to believe that with time and patience, the partner will know if their bae/boo is a virgin or not.

Truth is: It's just a gamble, really. Even a union of virgins only doesn't guarantee happiness and fulfillment in marriage.

Jonathan39:
You are the only one that spoke my mind throughout the whole comments I have been reading, now that she is a damaged goods, that's when she will want to avail herself to one innocent guy. God air pus ooh

Yxxx:
What are you saying? So if he needs her and calls back she should accept. She should quit for her sanity and for fresh air.

Acidosis:
̶T̶̶o̶̶ ̶̶b̶̶e̶̶ ̶̶h̶̶o̶̶n̶̶e̶̶s̶̶t̶̶,̶̶ ̶̶d̶̶a̶̶t̶̶i̶̶n̶̶g̶̶ ̶̶a̶̶n̶̶y̶̶ ̶̶m̶̶a̶̶n̶̶ ̶̶i̶̶n̶̶ ̶̶t̶̶h̶̶a̶̶t̶̶ ̶̶a̶̶g̶̶e̶̶ ̶̶g̶̶r̶̶o̶̶u̶̶p̶̶ ̶̶w̶̶o̶̶u̶̶l̶̶d̶̶ ̶̶c̶̶o̶̶m̶̶e̶̶ ̶̶w̶̶i̶̶t̶̶h̶̶ ̶̶m̶̶a̶̶n̶̶y̶̶ ̶̶t̶̶r̶̶o̶̶u̶̶b̶̶l̶̶e̶̶s̶̶.̶̶ ̶̶I̶̶d̶̶e̶̶a̶̶l̶̶l̶̶y̶̶,̶̶ ̶̶a̶̶ ̶̶m̶̶a̶̶n̶̶ ̶̶o̶̶f̶̶ ̶̶3̶̶5̶̶-̶̶4̶̶0̶̶ ̶̶y̶̶e̶̶a̶̶r̶̶s̶̶ ̶̶s̶̶h̶̶o̶̶u̶̶l̶̶d̶̶n̶̶'̶̶t̶̶ ̶̶b̶̶e̶̶ ̶̶s̶̶i̶̶n̶̶g̶̶l̶̶e̶̶.̶̶ ̶̶W̶̶h̶̶e̶̶n̶̶ ̶̶y̶̶o̶̶u̶̶ ̶̶m̶̶e̶̶e̶̶t̶̶ ̶̶o̶̶r̶̶ ̶̶f̶̶a̶̶l̶̶l̶̶ ̶̶i̶̶n̶̶ ̶̶l̶̶o̶̶v̶̶e̶̶ ̶̶w̶̶i̶̶t̶̶h̶̶ ̶̶t̶̶h̶̶e̶̶s̶̶e̶̶ ̶̶m̶̶e̶̶n̶̶ ̶̶(̶̶w̶̶h̶̶i̶̶c̶̶h̶̶ ̶̶i̶̶s̶̶ ̶̶w̶̶h̶̶a̶̶t̶̶ ̶̶m̶̶o̶̶s̶̶t̶̶ ̶̶w̶̶o̶̶m̶̶e̶̶n̶̶ ̶̶o̶̶f̶̶ ̶̶t̶̶h̶̶e̶̶s̶̶e̶̶ ̶̶d̶̶a̶̶y̶̶s̶̶ ̶̶p̶̶r̶̶e̶̶f̶̶e̶̶r̶̶)̶̶,̶̶ ̶̶y̶̶o̶̶u̶̶ ̶̶s̶̶h̶̶o̶̶u̶̶l̶̶d̶̶ ̶̶b̶̶e̶̶ ̶̶p̶̶r̶̶e̶̶p̶̶a̶̶r̶̶e̶̶d̶̶ ̶̶t̶̶o̶̶ ̶̶f̶̶i̶̶g̶̶h̶̶t̶̶ ̶̶t̶̶h̶̶r̶̶o̶̶u̶̶g̶̶h̶̶.̶̶ ̶̶T̶̶h̶̶e̶̶ ̶̶s̶̶o̶̶l̶̶u̶̶t̶̶i̶̶o̶̶n̶̶ ̶̶i̶̶s̶̶ ̶̶s̶̶i̶̶m̶̶p̶̶l̶̶e̶̶:̶̶ ̶̶f̶̶i̶̶g̶̶h̶̶t̶̶ ̶̶t̶̶h̶̶r̶̶o̶̶u̶̶g̶̶h̶̶ ̶̶u̶̶n̶̶t̶̶i̶̶l̶̶ ̶̶h̶̶e̶̶ ̶̶b̶̶e̶̶c̶̶o̶̶m̶̶e̶̶s̶̶ ̶̶y̶̶o̶̶u̶̶r̶̶s̶̶ ̶̶t̶̶h̶̶r̶̶o̶̶u̶̶g̶̶h̶̶ ̶̶m̶̶a̶̶r̶̶r̶̶i̶̶a̶̶g̶̶e̶̶ ̶̶(̶̶a̶̶n̶̶d̶̶ ̶̶b̶̶e̶̶ ̶̶p̶̶r̶̶e̶̶p̶̶a̶̶r̶̶e̶̶d̶̶ ̶̶t̶̶o̶̶ ̶̶f̶̶i̶̶g̶̶h̶̶t̶̶ ̶̶o̶̶n̶̶ ̶̶t̶̶o̶̶ ̶̶k̶̶e̶̶e̶̶p̶̶ ̶̶h̶̶i̶̶m̶̶)̶̶
̶̶
̶̶T̶̶h̶̶e̶̶ ̶̶o̶̶t̶̶h̶̶e̶̶r̶̶ ̶̶s̶̶o̶̶l̶̶u̶̶t̶̶i̶̶o̶̶n̶̶ ̶̶i̶̶s̶̶ ̶̶t̶̶o̶̶ ̶̶q̶̶u̶̶i̶̶t̶̶.̶̶ ̶̶G̶̶e̶̶t̶̶ ̶̶y̶̶o̶̶u̶̶r̶̶s̶̶e̶̶l̶̶f̶̶ ̶̶a̶̶n̶̶o̶̶t̶̶h̶̶e̶̶r̶̶ ̶̶m̶̶a̶̶n̶̶ ̶̶a̶̶n̶̶d̶̶ ̶̶g̶̶r̶̶o̶̶w̶̶ ̶̶t̶̶o̶̶g̶̶e̶̶t̶̶h̶̶e̶̶r̶̶.̶̶ ̶̶T̶̶h̶̶e̶̶r̶̶e̶̶ ̶̶a̶̶r̶̶e̶̶ ̶̶t̶̶r̶̶u̶̶l̶̶y̶̶ ̶̶n̶̶o̶̶ ̶̶3̶̶5̶̶-̶̶4̶̶0̶̶ ̶̶y̶̶e̶̶a̶̶r̶̶ ̶̶o̶̶l̶̶d̶̶ ̶̶s̶̶i̶̶n̶̶g̶̶l̶̶e̶̶ ̶̶m̶̶e̶̶n̶̶ ̶̶o̶̶u̶̶t̶̶ ̶̶t̶̶h̶̶e̶̶r̶̶e̶̶.̶̶ ̶̶T̶̶h̶̶e̶̶y̶̶'̶̶r̶̶e̶̶ ̶̶a̶̶l̶̶w̶̶a̶̶y̶̶s̶̶ ̶̶e̶̶n̶̶t̶̶a̶̶n̶̶g̶̶l̶̶e̶̶d̶̶ ̶̶w̶̶i̶̶t̶̶h̶̶ ̶̶o̶̶n̶̶e̶̶ ̶̶o̶̶r̶̶ ̶̶m̶̶o̶̶r̶̶e̶̶ ̶̶w̶̶o̶̶m̶̶e̶̶n̶̶,̶̶ ̶̶o̶̶n̶̶e̶̶ ̶̶t̶̶r̶̶o̶̶u̶̶b̶̶l̶̶e̶̶s̶̶o̶̶m̶̶e̶̶ ̶̶e̶̶x̶̶,̶̶ ̶̶e̶̶t̶̶c̶̶ ̶̶e̶̶t̶̶c̶̶.̶̶ ̶̶T̶̶h̶̶e̶̶ ̶̶d̶̶e̶̶c̶̶i̶̶s̶̶i̶̶o̶̶n̶̶ ̶̶i̶̶s̶̶ ̶̶y̶̶o̶̶u̶̶r̶̶s̶̶ ̶̶t̶̶o̶̶ ̶̶m̶̶a̶̶k̶̶e̶̶.̶

thorpido:
There was a guy on one thread one time that made a wonderful comment about 'old midnight newspaper men' and their weariness to settle down.

You didn't take your time enough to study this guy and see he's just a player/non-committal guy.He showed signs of unseriouness from the beginning.
I will advise you to move on.This guy really doesn't want to settle and definitely won't settle for you.
Block his calls.Stop calling him.Block him on social media.It will hurt for a few days but you will get over it Better than just giving free kpekus to a guy who won't marry you and you are 27yrs already.

Edenx:
My experience in life have thought me not the judge or give an opinion in a matter unless you hear from both sides , people are experts these days on how to sound very right and perfect to gather sympathy, in most cases you will be shocked when you hear the submission from the other party.For instance she said they both contribute 50-50 to the relationship but at the same time she's giving the impression that's he's stingy,she says he's gentle and motivates but she's stubborn but quick to forgive. What I've seen here is the girl toning down her own bad attitude and embellishing the bad side of the guy so she can be seen to be good and attract sympathy. Babe if you think he's not good enough for you walk away it's ur loss or gain ,no one here can really experience what u are passing through like you do[/color]

Ineedtoheal:
Hi Famlanders, Please I need your advice. I beg you all to save a sister. I have to bring this here coz I know it's where I will get wonderful contributions. Again, I am using this new account coz I have friends and customers here. I don't want to blow my cover. Please this is real and not fiction. This will be quite lengthy, please bear with me.

I met this guy in 2013 when I was in year one. It was not a steady relationship coz we barely call nor see so I didn't take him serious. And whenever we see, it was always at one friends house or another. I accused him of being married but he vehemently denied it. Later on I figured out he had accommodation issue after he lost his job. He later rented a house when he got another job with one of our prestigious federal universities here in Nigeria and that was when things became serious (kinda).

We became very serious around 2016 that is why I count it as 5 years instead of 7. But then during one of my visits, I was sleeping in the room when I overheard him talking to someone but the only thing that caught my attention was when he said "I don't even have a girlfriend". Though I didn't confront him, but I thought about it deeply.

Two nights ago, I had a dream where he was getting married to another lady. I was crying while he was still saying he loves me but can't marry me. I confronted him yesterday, he said I am pressurizing him to marry me that was after he first asked what will happen if we don't end up together. He hasn't told me where the relationship is leading to after 5 years. We have been living for the moment. Just for the moment!

Few info about the relationship
1) He will be 40 this November while I am 27.
2. He has always had numerous girlfriends that when he's with them, he doesn't pick my calls though he always apologizes and he's trying his best this year.

3. He always send pictures of other women to his friends to let them know they are the people he wish to marry but never has he sent mine.[/b]Though he claims he's not doing it again.
SUPER BIG RED FLAG!

4.[b] From the look of things he's still searching[/b]while he wants to have me all to himself.Maybe a second option since the others are not accepting him and I love him foolishly.
[b]You are dating while he's SINGLE!

5. The relationship is 50 -50 .We spend on each other. He believes it's the woman's duty to do all the house chores but not the man's duty to take care of the woman.
This is not 50-50, you're at a 1000000% LOSS!

6. On his Fathers burial last year, 3 of his girlfriends came (me inclusive) and we all wore the burial uniform. Together, we served his guests even when we realized we are dating same man. His neighbors were giggling and gossiping but we all decided to be matured and work together.
Ok, this part made my day
7. When my sister that raised me died, he didn't come for the burial. his reason was he had supervision that day in school,same person that calls his colleague to cover for him during exam supervision so he could do other things. He also didn't send me any money but he questioned me for not giving him any money for his Father's burial. Even when I paid him excess for the burial uniform. I know why I did that. Mind you, he has asked me before if he can give one of his ex 10k during her Father's burial which I agreed and he sent her the money.
if he saw a future in you he will invest(spend) on you
8. I have rejected some suitors who were willing to marry me coz of him.[/b]Though he has never encouraged me to accept any of them. In fact he gets angry hearing that another man is coming close to me.
[b] did he charm you
9. He doesn't call often, I do more of the calling he always return my calls. He can stay for days without calling unless I call. I know I have been the one holding the relationship coz I thought he will change.
relationship is for two not one
10. Sine 2017 till last year, all I did was forgive him coz I love him. He keeps bringing new / different ladies into the picture. I have gone through a lot of emotional stress. He keeps asking me to stay that he loves me but he's confused.
if you continue you will soon go through mental stress

His good side: He's understanding, motivates me to do my best, he doesn't hit me, he is gentle.
no matter how good a man is if he doesn't see a future with you he's not good for you

Me on the other hand is sometimes stubborn though very faithful coz I love him to a fault. I easily get angry but forgives easily. When I'm angry I talk so much but I don't abuse him. He is simply the cause of all my anger. He always say I am very understanding, a good girl, drama free but yet he doesn't want to marry me and won't let me go too. I have never involved a third party in our relationship except my late sister who said she wish I will walk away from the relationship because I love the guy more, that it won't end well. All my friends thinks I have a perfect relationship because I don't discuss him with them.

Back to last night, I told him I won't call him again coz he said I am pressurizing him to marry me. The truth is I have seen the hand writing on the wall, not today but two years ago but I keep going back. Please I need advice on how not to go back again. The love he proclaims for me is not enough for him to marry. I have wasted enough time already. Maybe hearing the raw truth here will help.

Johnson5258:
This is indeed great but i advise you to discuss with maybe your pastor or Imam. A man that hasn't sit to plan his life at 40 is who you're talking about here, Madam I hope you want to see you succeed in your life? Is it pension he wants to use to pay school fees? Meanwhile, I believe you haven't been having sex with him not to talk of abortion.

PrimadonnaO:
God should help you do what? To learn how to stay in a relationship for up to 5 years?
Better unpray that prayer. What are two mature adults dating for more than two years for?

sisisioge:
Chai! Biko leave him alone and go find yours! That guy is a no gooder for you biko. Before you know it, he will turn you into " I dated a guy for 10yrs"! I did baby...so take it from a veteran and run