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I Feel Hurtful... What Should I Do? by davies(m): 11:01pm On Mar 24, 2020
Be careful who you love cos your bed mate may be the architect of your emotional devastation in life...
THIS IS A MUST READ FOR THOSE WHO LOVE TO FALL IN LOVE..

I met this lady Felicia Okoro Jacob, stranded and confused along my street in Uyo sometime late 2011 and ever since den we made up and we kept a good relationship, there was no hitch even when I left for Kano state for Nysc, the relationship was smooth and there was no cause for alarm.. After my service year I briefly left for Lagos to see my parents and ever since den we've been together in Uyo planning our way forward, I supported her in acquiring catering and decorations skills from a reputable catering academy and we've been as help meet for each other.
I relocated to Lagos in 2017 after 12 years sojourn between Akwa ibom and Kano state and we kept our relationship intact, she's been to Lagos on several occasions to visit my parents and I've also introduce her to my family members. With the help of God, my family & I invested heavily to build her professional career and today she's a boss of her own..
As a Christian from a good home, I made up my mind not to have a child out of wedlock nor marry my fiance in a pregnant state, despite her pressure of impregnating her which I didn't oblige, she requested for a blood covenant, I refuse. I guess from that moment she started having a bias mind towards me which I never knew..
My suprise started sometimes last year while we were planning to meet her parent, strange things started happening. During one of her visit to lagos, I began to observe different kind of wild attitude, different guys wia calling and the calls were too deep and personal, we will have issues and we will settle it amicably between us cos I truly love her, I never knew this lady was having another relationship behind me in Akwa ibom, she will come to Lagos, spend some days or week den she leave abruptly and unexpected, all in the name of meeting up with clients, I still never tot anything was wrong not until my mom called my attention to some suspicious attitude of Felicia, my younger sister also said same thing but I never counted it seriously until some time April 2019, she called me and said she was tired and she wants to move on.. I tried to inquire from her wat she was actually being tired of despite d fact that I was meant to see her parent in 2 months time. She later apologize and said she didn't know wat came over her. I felt devastated during those moments but we made up again in time, putting the past behind..
Then comes the Big Issue, I was to see her parent in July, I encountered what I've never seen @ my office, a slight error I made gave me 2 weeks suspension with pay cut, my plan was shattered, I called my lady and explain everything to her, she agreed that we move it to August, we both spoke to her Dad and he agreed, only for me to be ready in August, my lady said she was coming to Lagos for her friends wedding that we should make it happen in October. she arrived Lagos mid-August and left by 1st week of September.
While I was planning to travel to Uyo in October for the introduction, I noticed my lady hasn't been talking to me so often ever since she left Lagos in September, I inquire the reason for her action, her response was busy schedule, then came the BANG... I shouldn't worry about coming to see her parent again cos her Dad has already collected Drink from another man. (My people na hospital I find myself for 10 days) I still proceeded on the journey after I was discharged, against the advise of my family members just to ascertain for myself if wat Im hearing is true.
This man, Pastor Okoro Jacob of Ikot ekpe, mkpat enin local Government area of akwa ibom state, told me on phone not to come to his house again (@ d background were insults and abuses hurled at me) cos he will be the One to Decide who his daughter will marry and he has decided to give his daughter to his own choice of man.
I tried to pacify this man, telling him how myself and the daughter had planned out future but he blatantly refuse to hear me out, this is a man I've been sending money to him thru his daughter which he always acknowledge, my mum personally sacrificed alot for this girl, my family's investment in this poor family was just our own way of life so it means nothing to us but wat amaze us most is how cruel people can be.
Between October/November while I was in Uyo she allowed me stay 9 days in search of her cos she totally went out of reach, on the 10th day after I had drop a message for her that I was leaving for Lagos, she then called me to her house in Uyo, there she narrated her own story for me, well cooked up and at that point I already knew she has been bought. After a long and emotional story, she requested that we have sex and if possible I get her pregnant. Yes, we had very good sex that hot afternoon till night, I left for my hotel, yet she wouldnt allow me rest, she came down to the hotel and we wia there for another 2 nites before proceeding to her house again wia I finally left for Lagos after good rounds of sex . Our agreement was for her to come to Lagos in some few weeks time, then we call some elders to speak with her dad but instead of meeting her end of bargain, she came up with another story of "my mother said my father is not my real father".
I tried my best to pacify Felicia but she has already connived with her family knowing fully well that if she doesn't come down to Lagos, there won't be any headway for the relationship to thrive..
My pain is that why allow me and my family invest emotionally, financially, psychologically for what won't materialize when you already know you have an hidden agenda.
On Saturday 21st March 2020, she got married but not with adequate fear in the atmosphere cos they think Seyi is coming to hunt them forgetting that Karma is always at our doorstep knocking..
My 1cent advise to my fellow nigga..
F***k those Bitches and move on cos your Girlfriend today is another Person's wife tomorrow, another guy's girlfriend will also be ur wife.. so F***k Dem all..

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Re: I Feel Hurtful... What Should I Do? by Designerdollars: 11:09pm On Mar 24, 2020
women are overrated!
I have been saying this for a while now.
Guy go and watch coach redpill on youtube.
You go learn sense.

see as the girl ugly sef
Op you dodged a bullet.
Imagine making ugly babies with this one. sad

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Re: I Feel Hurtful... What Should I Do? by Bluezy13(m): 11:10pm On Mar 24, 2020
Hmmm...
If you enjoyed your secondary school days with girls, you would understand women better. I sure say you no do woman for secondary school...even for University.


She called you and gave you sex to your satisfaction and you are still calling her ungrateful.
Even if you lay a curse on her, e no fit work because in her mind, she has paid you back with her body. She even followed you back to the hotel and overfed you with sex and you were happy.
Her conscience is clear. You shouldn't have fallen for the sex if you wanted anything like karma... whatever it is...to have its way.
If you were used to having sex, you wouldn't have fallen for that cheap bait.

My roommate in NYSC still calls me to thank me for forcing him and arranging girls for him while I gladly sleep outside due to the nature of the environment because I noticed he was a "weakling" in women matter. His life would been worse than yours.
How can you fall for cheap sex when you should have refused so that her conscience will torment her

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Re: I Feel Hurtful... What Should I Do? by clarocuzioo(m): 11:11pm On Mar 24, 2020
Hmmm
Re: I Feel Hurtful... What Should I Do? by Bigdre31: 11:13pm On Mar 24, 2020
move on brother , they not worth it eventually , i tel u outa personal experience

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Re: I Feel Hurtful... What Should I Do? by Blakjewelry(m): 11:14pm On Mar 24, 2020
As for dating don't necessarily means we must marry, even I spent 1 billion for your head the option is still that you might walk one day. If you stay fine, if you don't fine that way I won't come and go and kill myself

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Re: I Feel Hurtful... What Should I Do? by Catchfirez: 11:17pm On Mar 24, 2020
She was never your woman, run away from akwa iboms girls. Ask greatresearcher what happened. Only God knows if those girls from Akwaibom and cross River dey out special thing for there punny, wey dey make some men turn to Dummy.

Try to move on, you never lost anything, you are only lucky my brother.

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Re: I Feel Hurtful... What Should I Do? by Freelane33(m): 11:23pm On Mar 24, 2020
Broz god go provide your own queen for you . This world is not design for win win , and I have never experienced a win - win race since I was born . Is either you win or you lose . Win-lose or lose-win. Don’t tag her as a bad person okay , what will be will be , let her go , your own woman will locate you soon . The reason why I don’t feel It whenever people hurt me is because I have always Processed things before they happened . Living with a friend who like wearing your clothes ( you should always process it that he will steal your clothes one day ) so when he steals it don’t get mad because you’ve known that he loves wearing your clothes . Dating a girl that love turns of sex ( shouldn’t be surprise that she bleeps Lotta of guys at your back when you weren’t at home ) . Because she loves sex . Last but not the least . Everything is now base on survival of the fittest . During our grandpa time na fight dem Dey use choose wife but now a days now money and big kasava

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Re: I Feel Hurtful... What Should I Do? by 2special(m): 11:28pm On Mar 24, 2020
Bro move on
Re: I Feel Hurtful... What Should I Do? by 2special(m): 11:31pm On Mar 24, 2020
And if her husband see this your post l for dey happy

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Re: I Feel Hurtful... What Should I Do? by extol1(m): 11:32pm On Mar 24, 2020
if you don't know what to do, pls transfer her to Wuhan
Re: I Feel Hurtful... What Should I Do? by coolestofall(m): 11:38pm On Mar 24, 2020
Lesson learnt: Never spend on any girl or anyone for that matter what you cant easily ignore to avoid future lamentations such as this one. Believe me OP I do feel for you but hope you wont let this affect your future relationships with ladies that might actually be faithful.

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Re: I Feel Hurtful... What Should I Do? by Nobody: 11:40pm On Mar 24, 2020
Welcome onboard flight MMC ,Moving Men's Club. Your life can only get better now....

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Re: I Feel Hurtful... What Should I Do? by ghettochild4u(m): 1:49am On Mar 25, 2020
davies:
Be careful who you love cos your bed mate may be the architect of your emotional devastation in life...
THIS IS A MUST READ FOR THOSE WHO LOVE TO FALL IN LOVE..

I met this lady Felicia Okoro Jacob, stranded and confused along my street in Uyo sometime late 2011 and ever since den we made up and we kept a good relationship, there was no hitch even when I left for Kano state for Nysc, the relationship was smooth and there was no cause for alarm.. After my service year I briefly left for Lagos to see my parents and ever since den we've been together in Uyo planning our way forward, I supported her in acquiring catering and decorations skills from a reputable catering academy and we've been as help meet for each other.
I relocated to Lagos in 2017 after 12 years sojourn between Akwa ibom and Kano state and we kept our relationship intact, she's been to Lagos on several occasions to visit my parents and I've also introduce her to my family members. With the help of God, my family & I invested heavily to build her professional career and today she's a boss of her own..
As a Christian from a good home, I made up my mind not to have a child out of wedlock nor marry my fiance in a pregnant state, despite her pressure of impregnating her which I didn't oblige, she requested for a blood covenant, I refuse. I guess from that moment she started having a bias mind towards me which I never knew..
My suprise started sometimes last year while we were planning to meet her parent, strange things started happening. During one of her visit to lagos, I began to observe different kind of wild attitude, different guys wia calling and the calls were too deep and personal, we will have issues and we will settle it amicably between us cos I truly love her, I never knew this lady was having another relationship behind me in Akwa ibom, she will come to Lagos, spend some days or week den she leave abruptly and unexpected, all in the name of meeting up with clients, I still never tot anything was wrong not until my mom called my attention to some suspicious attitude of Felicia, my younger sister also said same thing but I never counted it seriously until some time April 2019, she called me and said she was tired and she wants to move on.. I tried to inquire from her wat she was actually being tired of despite d fact that I was meant to see her parent in 2 months time. She later apologize and said she didn't know wat came over her. I felt devastated during those moments but we made up again in time, putting the past behind..
Then comes the Big Issue, I was to see her parent in July, I encountered what I've never seen @ my office, a slight error I made gave me 2 weeks suspension with pay cut, my plan was shattered, I called my lady and explain everything to her, she agreed that we move it to August, we both spoke to her Dad and he agreed, only for me to be ready in August, my lady said she was coming to Lagos for her friends wedding that we should make it happen in October. she arrived Lagos mid-August and left by 1st week of September.
While I was planning to travel to Uyo in October for the introduction, I noticed my lady hasn't been talking to me so often ever since she left Lagos in September, I inquire the reason for her action, her response was busy schedule, then came the BANG... I shouldn't worry about coming to see her parent again cos her Dad has already collected Drink from another man. (My people na hospital I find myself for 10 days) I still proceeded on the journey after I was discharged, against the advise of my family members just to ascertain for myself if wat Im hearing is true.
This man, Pastor Okoro Jacob of Ikot ekpe, mkpat enin local Government area of akwa ibom state, told me on phone not to come to his house again (@ d background were insults and abuses hurled at me) cos he will be the One to Decide who his daughter will marry and he has decided to give his daughter to his own choice of man.
I tried to pacify this man, telling him how myself and the daughter had planned out future but he blatantly refuse to hear me out, this is a man I've been sending money to him thru his daughter which he always acknowledge, my mum personally sacrificed alot for this girl, my family's investment in this poor family was just our own way of life so it means nothing to us but wat amaze us most is how cruel people can be.
Between October/November while I was in Uyo she allowed me stay 9 days in search of her cos she totally went out of reach, on the 10th day after I had drop a message for her that I was leaving for Lagos, she then called me to her house in Uyo, there she narrated her own story for me, well cooked up and at that point I already knew she has been bought. After a long and emotional story, she requested that we have sex and if possible I get her pregnant. Yes, we had very good sex that hot afternoon till night, I left for my hotel, yet she wouldnt allow me rest, she came down to the hotel and we wia there for another 2 nites before proceeding to her house again wia I finally left for Lagos after good rounds of sex . Our agreement was for her to come to Lagos in some few weeks time, then we call some elders to speak with her dad but instead of meeting her end of bargain, she came up with another story of "my mother said my father is not my real father".
I tried my best to pacify Felicia but she has already connived with her family knowing fully well that if she doesn't come down to Lagos, there won't be any headway for the relationship to thrive..
My pain is that why allow me and my family invest emotionally, financially, psychologically for what won't materialize when you already know you have an hidden agenda.
On Saturday 21st March 2020, she got married but not with adequate fear in the atmosphere cos they think Seyi is coming to hunt them forgetting that Karma is always at our doorstep knocking..
My 1cent advise to my fellow nigga..
F***k those Bitches and move on cos your Girlfriend today is another Person's wife tomorrow, another guy's girlfriend will also be ur wife.. so F***k Dem all..
My guy.. U be big mumu.. Na u I blame oo
She showed u all the signs for u to leave n u were forming Emeka Ike or Ramsey Noah..
Na u do urself oo.. Abeg no karma for this matter..
U let urself get played....
Mumu.com
Even ya mama n sister tell u..
Yet u still dey follow follow.. Mumuboy
Re: I Feel Hurtful... What Should I Do? by Nobody: 2:55am On Mar 25, 2020
So sorry for your pain, but you dated a lady for 11 years, do you know how long that is?
You guys should have parted ways after a max of 3 years.
Re: I Feel Hurtful... What Should I Do? by Ishilove: 3:24am On Mar 25, 2020
You're advocating "Fvck 'beaches'and move on," meanwhile she has been showing you all the signs but you kept pressing on like someone with mental challenges. She even gave you punny and you gladly entered like a fool.

Abeg gerrout and let us hear word biko

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Re: I Feel Hurtful... What Should I Do? by JoEmily: 3:36am On Mar 25, 2020
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Re: I Feel Hurtful... What Should I Do? by Evablizin(f): 3:39am On Mar 25, 2020
Ishilove:
Fvck 'beaches' and move on, meanwhile she has been showing you all the signs but you kept on pressing on like someone with mental challenges. She even gave you punny and you gladly entered like a fool.

Abeg gerrout and let us hear word biko
shockedshocked

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Re: I Feel Hurtful... What Should I Do? by unmask: 4:05am On Mar 25, 2020
I understand you are pained....but I believe it is wrong to mention her name or put her picture in a public forum

When you give a gift and expect something in return....then that is no gift....it is a business transaction.....and like all businesses you win some and you lose some
Re: I Feel Hurtful... What Should I Do? by Nobody: 4:24am On Mar 25, 2020
Remove the pictures brah! You even tagged the real name of her and her dad undecided
You went too far with this post.

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Re: I Feel Hurtful... What Should I Do? by white3663: 4:35am On Mar 25, 2020
unmask:
I understand you are pained....but I believe it is wrong to mention her name or put her picture in a public forum

When you give a gift and expect something in return....then that is no gift....it is a business transaction.....and like all businesses you win some and you lose some

Word !!
Re: I Feel Hurtful... What Should I Do? by duduade: 5:09am On Mar 25, 2020
And you still went on to stalk her

Obviously tribalism was there... Akwa Ibom to Yoruba lounloun

Abeg move on
Re: I Feel Hurtful... What Should I Do? by Adgideon(m): 5:27am On Mar 25, 2020
I believe tribal difference is the issue here or may be she was just using u, and d sex was a send off party. Bro sorry 4 ur loss the best u can do is to take ur time and do some reflection, move on there is someone out to there waiting for u, eye wey dey cry dey see road, if u know u know

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Re: I Feel Hurtful... What Should I Do? by BigDick70inch(m): 5:40am On Mar 25, 2020
Can all asking op to remove dat those pictures keep kwayet??
Isn't it better to see what tha faces of ingrates look like huh??
Doe op has his own grave error in the matter sha

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Re: I Feel Hurtful... What Should I Do? by zed7: 6:15am On Mar 25, 2020
Things don't always go as planned. Never invest in anybody expecting returns on investment, even family. Do it because you want and because you can.
That woman wasn't meant for you, be a man and take the pics down. Your own will come.

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Re: I Feel Hurtful... What Should I Do? by Tabitha03(f): 7:27am On Mar 25, 2020
What an Ingrate, She will live to regret her actions. Some families loose their integrity because of money. Just move on with your life. Karma has a way of dealing with such people. she's never meant for you.What will be yours will definitely be yours irrespective of the tribe and family background. There are still good ladies out there.

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Re: I Feel Hurtful... What Should I Do? by drmikeadams(m): 8:43am On Mar 25, 2020
davies:
Be careful who you love cos your bed mate may be the architect of your emotional devastation in life...
THIS IS A MUST READ FOR THOSE WHO LOVE TO FALL IN LOVE..

I met this lady Felicia Okoro Jacob, stranded and confused along my street in Uyo sometime late 2011 and ever since den we made up and we kept a good relationship, there was no hitch even when I left for Kano state for Nysc, the relationship was smooth and there was no cause for alarm.. After my service year I briefly left for Lagos to see my parents and ever since den we've been together in Uyo planning our way forward, I supported her in acquiring catering and decorations skills from a reputable catering academy and we've been as help meet for each other.
I relocated to Lagos in 2017 after 12 years sojourn between Akwa ibom and Kano state and we kept our relationship intact, she's been to Lagos on several occasions to visit my parents and I've also introduce her to my family members. With the help of God, my family & I invested heavily to build her professional career and today she's a boss of her own..
As a Christian from a good home, I made up my mind not to have a child out of wedlock nor marry my fiance in a pregnant state, despite her pressure of impregnating her which I didn't oblige, she requested for a blood covenant, I refuse. I guess from that moment she started having a bias mind towards me which I never knew..
My suprise started sometimes last year while we were planning to meet her parent, strange things started happening. During one of her visit to lagos, I began to observe different kind of wild attitude, different guys wia calling and the calls were too deep and personal, we will have issues and we will settle it amicably between us cos I truly love her, I never knew this lady was having another relationship behind me in Akwa ibom, she will come to Lagos, spend some days or week den she leave abruptly and unexpected, all in the name of meeting up with clients, I still never tot anything was wrong not until my mom called my attention to some suspicious attitude of Felicia, my younger sister also said same thing but I never counted it seriously until some time April 2019, she called me and said she was tired and she wants to move on.. I tried to inquire from her wat she was actually being tired of despite d fact that I was meant to see her parent in 2 months time. She later apologize and said she didn't know wat came over her. I felt devastated during those moments but we made up again in time, putting the past behind..
Then comes the Big Issue, I was to see her parent in July, I encountered what I've never seen @ my office, a slight error I made gave me 2 weeks suspension with pay cut, my plan was shattered, I called my lady and explain everything to her, she agreed that we move it to August, we both spoke to her Dad and he agreed, only for me to be ready in August, my lady said she was coming to Lagos for her friends wedding that we should make it happen in October. she arrived Lagos mid-August and left by 1st week of September.
While I was planning to travel to Uyo in October for the introduction, I noticed my lady hasn't been talking to me so often ever since she left Lagos in September, I inquire the reason for her action, her response was busy schedule, then came the BANG... I shouldn't worry about coming to see her parent again cos her Dad has already collected Drink from another man. (My people na hospital I find myself for 10 days) I still proceeded on the journey after I was discharged, against the advise of my family members just to ascertain for myself if wat Im hearing is true.
This man, Pastor Okoro Jacob of Ikot ekpe, mkpat enin local Government area of akwa ibom state, told me on phone not to come to his house again (@ d background were insults and abuses hurled at me) cos he will be the One to Decide who his daughter will marry and he has decided to give his daughter to his own choice of man.
I tried to pacify this man, telling him how myself and the daughter had planned out future but he blatantly refuse to hear me out, this is a man I've been sending money to him thru his daughter which he always acknowledge, my mum personally sacrificed alot for this girl, my family's investment in this poor family was just our own way of life so it means nothing to us but wat amaze us most is how cruel people can be.
Between October/November while I was in Uyo she allowed me stay 9 days in search of her cos she totally went out of reach, on the 10th day after I had drop a message for her that I was leaving for Lagos, she then called me to her house in Uyo, there she narrated her own story for me, well cooked up and at that point I already knew she has been bought. After a long and emotional story, she requested that we have sex and if possible I get her pregnant. Yes, we had very good sex that hot afternoon till night, I left for my hotel, yet she wouldnt allow me rest, she came down to the hotel and we wia there for another 2 nites before proceeding to her house again wia I finally left for Lagos after good rounds of sex . Our agreement was for her to come to Lagos in some few weeks time, then we call some elders to speak with her dad but instead of meeting her end of bargain, she came up with another story of "my mother said my father is not my real father".
I tried my best to pacify Felicia but she has already connived with her family knowing fully well that if she doesn't come down to Lagos, there won't be any headway for the relationship to thrive..
My pain is that why allow me and my family invest emotionally, financially, psychologically for what won't materialize when you already know you have an hidden agenda.
On Saturday 21st March 2020, she got married but not with adequate fear in the atmosphere cos they think Seyi is coming to hunt them forgetting that Karma is always at our doorstep knocking..
My 1cent advise to my fellow nigga..
F***k those Bitches and move on cos your Girlfriend today is another Person's wife tomorrow, another guy's girlfriend will also be ur wife.. so F***k Dem all..
grin grin grin grin. U just dey wake up,, go listen to snoop dogg "it wasn't ur fault"
Re: I Feel Hurtful... What Should I Do? by drmikeadams(m): 8:46am On Mar 25, 2020
grin grin same uyo,a guy I never knew from adam housed me when I was stranded,,,nice people

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Re: I Feel Hurtful... What Should I Do? by mystery22: 9:00am On Mar 25, 2020
Seriously you are a weakling,after all the signs..

Better man up and stop acting like a sisi,be dere advising what you can't do.........
Re: I Feel Hurtful... What Should I Do? by Phenomenal16(f): 9:01am On Mar 25, 2020
davies:
Be careful who you love cos your bed mate may be the architect of your emotional devastation in life...
THIS IS A MUST READ FOR THOSE WHO LOVE TO FALL IN LOVE..

I met this lady Felicia Okoro Jacob, stranded and confused along my street in Uyo sometime late 2011 and ever since den we made up and we kept a good relationship, there was no hitch even when I left for Kano state for Nysc, the relationship was smooth and there was no cause for alarm.. After my service year I briefly left for Lagos to see my parents and ever since den we've been together in Uyo planning our way forward, I supported her in acquiring catering and decorations skills from a reputable catering academy and we've been as help meet for each other.
I relocated to Lagos in 2017 after 12 years sojourn between Akwa ibom and Kano state and we kept our relationship intact, she's been to Lagos on several occasions to visit my parents and I've also introduce her to my family members. With the help of God, my family & I invested heavily to build her professional career and today she's a boss of her own..
As a Christian from a good home, I made up my mind not to have a child out of wedlock nor marry my fiance in a pregnant state, despite her pressure of impregnating her which I didn't oblige, she requested for a blood covenant, I refuse. I guess from that moment she started having a bias mind towards me which I never knew..
My suprise started sometimes last year while we were planning to meet her parent, strange things started happening. During one of her visit to lagos, I began to observe different kind of wild attitude, different guys wia calling and the calls were too deep and personal, we will have issues and we will settle it amicably between us cos I truly love her, I never knew this lady was having another relationship behind me in Akwa ibom, she will come to Lagos, spend some days or week den she leave abruptly and unexpected, all in the name of meeting up with clients, I still never tot anything was wrong not until my mom called my attention to some suspicious attitude of Felicia, my younger sister also said same thing but I never counted it seriously until some time April 2019, she called me and said she was tired and she wants to move on.. I tried to inquire from her wat she was actually being tired of despite d fact that I was meant to see her parent in 2 months time. She later apologize and said she didn't know wat came over her. I felt devastated during those moments but we made up again in time, putting the past behind..
Then comes the Big Issue, I was to see her parent in July, I encountered what I've never seen @ my office, a slight error I made gave me 2 weeks suspension with pay cut, my plan was shattered, I called my lady and explain everything to her, she agreed that we move it to August, we both spoke to her Dad and he agreed, only for me to be ready in August, my lady said she was coming to Lagos for her friends wedding that we should make it happen in October. she arrived Lagos mid-August and left by 1st week of September.
While I was planning to travel to Uyo in October for the introduction, I noticed my lady hasn't been talking to me so often ever since she left Lagos in September, I inquire the reason for her action, her response was busy schedule, then came the BANG... I shouldn't worry about coming to see her parent again cos her Dad has already collected Drink from another man. (My people na hospital I find myself for 10 days) I still proceeded on the journey after I was discharged, against the advise of my family members just to ascertain for myself if wat Im hearing is true.
This man, Pastor Okoro Jacob of Ikot ekpe, mkpat enin local Government area of akwa ibom state, told me on phone not to come to his house again (@ d background were insults and abuses hurled at me) cos he will be the One to Decide who his daughter will marry and he has decided to give his daughter to his own choice of man.
I tried to pacify this man, telling him how myself and the daughter had planned out future but he blatantly refuse to hear me out, this is a man I've been sending money to him thru his daughter which he always acknowledge, my mum personally sacrificed alot for this girl, my family's investment in this poor family was just our own way of life so it means nothing to us but wat amaze us most is how cruel people can be.
Between October/November while I was in Uyo she allowed me stay 9 days in search of her cos she totally went out of reach, on the 10th day after I had drop a message for her that I was leaving for Lagos, she then called me to her house in Uyo, there she narrated her own story for me, well cooked up and at that point I already knew she has been bought. After a long and emotional story, she requested that we have sex and if possible I get her pregnant. Yes, we had very good sex that hot afternoon till night, I left for my hotel, yet she wouldnt allow me rest, she came down to the hotel and we wia there for another 2 nites before proceeding to her house again wia I finally left for Lagos after good rounds of sex . Our agreement was for her to come to Lagos in some few weeks time, then we call some elders to speak with her dad but instead of meeting her end of bargain, she came up with another story of "my mother said my father is not my real father".
I tried my best to pacify Felicia but she has already connived with her family knowing fully well that if she doesn't come down to Lagos, there won't be any headway for the relationship to thrive..
My pain is that why allow me and my family invest emotionally, financially, psychologically for what won't materialize when you already know you have an hidden agenda.
On Saturday 21st March 2020, she got married but not with adequate fear in the atmosphere cos they think Seyi is coming to hunt them forgetting that Karma is always at our doorstep knocking..
My 1cent advise to my fellow nigga..
F***k those Bitches and move on cos your Girlfriend today is another Person's wife tomorrow, another guy's girlfriend will also be ur wife.. so F***k Dem all..
....m speechless... What if she gets pregnant by this last minute sex,,,,,boom she heaps it on d other guy.......
Re: I Feel Hurtful... What Should I Do? by Brunosamel(m): 9:19am On Mar 25, 2020
It's aren't your fault bro sometimes when guys has invested allot in a girl they forget that not all investment will yield profits.... This is you case bro!

Just chill okay, I know it hard but it not too late to restart, my advice don't spend on someone who is not your wife no matter how beautiful she is.....

Yes! She is married to another man and so what fucking what....
You made that bitch who she is cuz you have a good heart bro! So chill okay stay focused, you never can tell what the future brings some bitches are ungrateful and will always be....

Don't mind people calling all sorts of name you never can tell how worse there case might be....
Everybody down for the same things
Everybody make mistakes

Remember experience is priceless
Tell this story to your future kids.....

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Re: I Feel Hurtful... What Should I Do? by jeff1607(m): 10:22am On Mar 25, 2020
Been there, done that
las Las we move on

we have our ways Making sure karma comes big time.

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