there's this lady I'm dating, I really do love her because she's the First Lady I would have sex with. few month ago I observed she's still communicating with her ex, checked her whatsapp and found out her ex was sex chatting with her.. she fondly said " I love you " to him but when I confronted her she said I love you is just an ordinary word you could say it to anyone.... sometimes when we're together she will said she missed her ex, his antics and other things... whenever I brought up his ex matter she will fight with me and even threatened to break up... fast-forward to this night I asked her what's her ex boyfriend doing right that I was doing wrong that made her keep saying she truly miss him, she started threatening to break up... how can I win her heart from her ex because I truly love her or I should just leave her alone

Htop:
there's this lady I'm dating, I really do love her because she's the First Lady I would have sex with. few month ago I observed she's still communicating with her ex, checked her whatsapp and found out her ex was sex chatting with her.. she fondly said " I love you " to him but when I confronted her she said I love you is just an ordinary word you could say it to anyone.... sometimes when we're together she will said she missed her ex, his antics and other things... whenever I brought up his ex matter she will fight with me and even threatened to break up... fast-forward to this night I asked her what's her ex boyfriend doing right that I was doing wrong that made her keep saying she truly miss him, she started threatening to break up... how can I win her heart from her ex because I truly love her or I should just leave her alone

You are a big fool. If you use your brain, will you die?

Martinez39s:
You are a big fool. If you use your brain, will you die?

actually no... but now she claimed she's pregnant, 1month pregnant... how could someone having her menses be pregnant? she's still seeing her menses and she claimed she's pregnant... I was only trying to fight want my heart really goes for

Htop:
there's this lady I'm dating, I really do love her because she's the First Lady I would have sex with. few month ago I observed she's still communicating with her ex, checked her whatsapp and found out her ex was sex chatting with her.. she fondly said " I love you " to him but when I confronted her she said I love you is just an ordinary word you could say it to anyone.... sometimes when we're together she will said she missed her ex, his antics and other things... whenever I brought up his ex matter she will fight with me and even threatened to break up... fast-forward to this night I asked her what's her ex boyfriend doing right that I was doing wrong that made her keep saying she truly miss him, she started threatening to break up... how can I win her heart from her ex because I truly love her or I should just leave her alone

She should be the one trying to win your heart not the other way around... Read from page one of this thread, read it and take it serious like your life depends on it because it does.. Girls will deal with you, dump you and you will lose your hard earned resources and waste your time with women if you don't take what I just told you serious...

SOLARPOWER1:


She should be the one trying to win your heart not the other way around... Read from page one of this thread, read it and take it serious like your life depends on it because it does.. You will suffer and lose your hard earned resources and waste your time with women if you don't take what I just told you serious...

thank you bro..

Htop:
there's this lady I'm dating, I really do love her because she's the First Lady I would have sex with. few month ago I observed she's still communicating with her ex, checked her whatsapp and found out her ex was sex chatting with her.. she fondly said " I love you " to him but when I confronted her she said I love you is just an ordinary word you could say it to anyone.... sometimes when we're together she will said she missed her ex, his antics and other things... whenever I brought up his ex matter she will fight with me and even threatened to break up... fast-forward to this night I asked her what's her ex boyfriend doing right that I was doing wrong that made her keep saying she truly miss him, she started threatening to break up... how can I win her heart from her ex because I truly love her or I should just leave her alone

Kia God forbid the kind idiot for my family. Na wa ooo martinez39s, ubunja are guys seeing the nonsense this guy just posted here? God forbid again.. mumu, ode . Your parents must be really disappointed if they discovered you are living this kind of life.

Htop:
actually no... but now she claimed she's pregnant, 1month pregnant... how could someone having her menses be pregnant? she's still seeing her menses and she claimed she's pregnant... I was only trying to fight want my heart really goes for

Hmmm keep on disgracing your parents. Eh Mumu Ode.

Htop:
thank you bro..

You are welcome... If you have any question you can drop it hear and guys will respond to you... Concerning this girl, you have messed up big time from the way she is treating you. You should have ask questions from here on time... What I will advise you is TOTALLY forget about her, she doesn't love you one bit and has no respect for you.. Maybe you her just a maga to her...

But if you cannot leave her (because I am assuming you might not have the understanding and strenght to do it) and you want to stress yourself with her... Do this :

For the next 2 to 3weeks don't call her at all , any time she calls you don't pick even if you take her calls make it VERY short like 10sec then tell her you will call her back that you are busy but don't call her back... If she likes you at all , she will start sending you text to beg, looking for ways to meet with you, sending people to beg you... That threat she is giving you, she will be the one under that hot seat... Then after like 4weeks or more give her an opportunity to see you Av your own terms and your own chosen venue and set your terms for the relationship... Make her understand you call the shots and not the other way around.... It is really surprising that a woman is threatening you with break up in this age where 5 girls are begging one man to take them as girl friend or wives....

Meeyankee:

Hmmm keep on disgracing your parents. Eh Mumu Ode.

Don't insult him.. The master today was once a student

Htop:
actually no... but now she claimed she's pregnant, 1month pregnant... how could someone having her menses be pregnant? she's still seeing her menses and she claimed she's pregnant... I was only trying to fight want my heart really goes for

You ought to have dumped her. The evidence that she is cheating is clear and staring at you in the face but you are stupid enough to believe "it's nothing." She claims she is pregnant yet she is seeing her menses, what other evidence do you need that she is a liar? Stop following your feelings and start using your head jare!

Htop:
there's this lady I'm dating, I really do love her because she's the First Lady I would have sex with. few month ago I observed she's still communicating with her ex, checked her whatsapp and found out her ex was sex chatting with her.. she fondly said " I love you " to him but when I confronted her she said I love you is just an ordinary word you could say it to anyone.... sometimes when we're together she will said she missed her ex, his antics and other things... whenever I brought up his ex matter she will fight with me and even threatened to break up... fast-forward to this night I asked her what's her ex boyfriend doing right that I was doing wrong that made her keep saying she truly miss him, she started threatening to break up... how can I win her heart from her ex because I truly love her or I should just leave her alone

You are a fool.

Omar09:

You are a fool.

i truly accepted

Martinez39s:
You ought to have dumped her. The evidence that she is cheating is clear and staring at you in the face but you are stupid enough to believe "it's nothing." She claims she is pregnant yet she is seeing her menses, what other evidence do you need that she is a liar? Stop following your feelings and start using your head jare!

yeah you're right, I was so lonely and I didn't have any experience when it's come to women, this is my first serious relationship. I didn't have time for relationships simply because I was hustling and sponsoring myself at school, all this made me turn blind eyes to women.

Htop:
i truly accepted

Weird, well, you have to let go of that girl and start afresh with a new girl. And make it your new rule that if your partner talks about her ex before you or even try to make contact with him, that's the end of the relationship.

Bro if you make that rule, you will loose the first two or three girls you will meet if you are willing to let go of this one and other ones to come. But I tell you, the ones that will keep to that rule will give you peace of mind.

Ciao

Omar09:


Weird, well, you have to let go of that girl and start afresh with a new girl. And make it your new rule that if your partner talks about her ex before you or even try to make contact with him, that's the end of the relationship.

Bro if you make that rule, you will loose the first two or three girls you will meet if you are willing to let go of this one and other ones to come. But I tell you, the ones that will keep to that rule will give you peace of mind.

Ciao

that's where the problem lies to meet new girls, I'm an introvert

Htop:
that's where the problem lies to meet new girls, I'm an introvert

Wow. But still you have to face your fears and not hide from it. There's no best way to talk to girls. Just communicate what you mean and want. Dasol

The way una Dey take advice person here with abusive words as if una dey fight.Nawa ooo
Abeg if u wan advice a brother do it properly not insulting.And worst part be say those ones wey de insult get serious girlfriend wey de deal with them lol lmao

Htop:
that's where the problem lies to meet new girls, I'm an introvert

In am what people would generally call am introvert... But the beauty of being introverted is that you can spring up surprises and take them unaware when you master this game... Don't use that as an excuse... I am an introvert but sometimes people also say I am "mouthy" and know how to hype myself, infact people say I talk a lot yet others sometimes say I am conservative, calm, quiet..and so on....... For somebody like you, you must understand this dynamics and use it to your advantage, don't define yourself by just one trait.... They must not be able to predict you, be spontaneous ....

SOLARPOWER1:


In am what people would generally call am introvert... But the beauty of being introverted is that you can spring up surprises and take them unaware when you master this game... Don't use that as an excuse... I am an introvert but sometimes people also say I am "mouthy" and know how to hype myself, infact people say I talk a lot yet others sometimes say I am conservative, calm, quiet..and so on....... For somebody like you, you must understand this dynamics and use it to your advantage, don't define yourself by just one trait.... They must not be able to predict you, be spontaneous ....

thank you boss

Htop:
that's where the problem lies to meet new girls, I'm an introvert

You need to read this thread from the beginning.

Omar09:


You are a fool.

Don't insult him, Let him follow @SOLARPOWER1's advice.

Submerge yourself on this thread, starting from page one. Your salvation depends on it.

Htop:
that's where the problem lies to meet new girls, I'm an introvert

I think we're missing the point, the purpose of the thread isn't to get quick fixes, The drills on this thread are meant to be adopted into your persona, it is a guide to shaping you unto becoming the manly man that you are "The Great Catch". It should be a way of life.

That's why one of the most important steps you need to take before you start looking for ladies, is building confidence. If you ain't confident that you can attract high-value ladies, who do you think might come your way? People that think the same way of themselves.

I'd always tell my friends, focus on getting better, set clear boundaries on what you want from a prospective partner and you've already clear 60% of the obstacles, ladies notice this and thus they might want to come close to you.

For me, it's all about building confidence, getting better, and growing, ladies are part of the pecks you get from improving yourself, there are others like the professional and financial aspect of things which I prioritize over getting ladies.

Being an introvert isn't an excuse, sometimes we might be conditioned to think we're introverted.
I'd suggest you read the six pillars of self-esteem

Okay guys good evening, I'm an undergraduate final year student and there's this girl in my hostel whom I like after relating with each other quite well I asked her out. she said can't date me that she's not ready and I said okay and out walk. I left her alone. She always greet me whenever she saw me but I answer shorty and mind my business. Until I sumbled upon her status in WhatsApp and that brought us back together again. I started chatting with her regularly and she always look forward to chatting up with me. It been going quite well, sometimes she misbehave and I don't waste time in letting her know. It got to a time that she always want me to chat with her and be there for her. So along the line I told her that I'm glad she's part of my life(I don't know if that was stupid and unnecessary for me) she was happy and said the same too. But few days ago, I called her in the night after I missed her calls I was talking and she cut me of by saying goodnight which pissed me off and I asked her if she was trying to cut me off then I hung up without waiting for her answer. So I send this chat below the next morning( I sent four and I will send the remaining one in the next post). But after what I told her. She ain't like before again not that she don't chat with me but she's not making attempt in impressing me. I wish I can post the all the chats lately but if you guys want I will.

Donzie1995:
Okay guys good evening, I'm an undergraduate final year student and there's this girl in my hostel whom I like after relating with each other quite well I asked her out. she said can't date me that she's not ready and I said okay and out walk. I left her alone. She always greet me whenever she saw me but I answer shorty and mind my business. Until I sumbled upon her status in WhatsApp and that brought us back together again. I started chatting with her regularly and she always look forward to chatting up with me. It been going quite well, sometimes she misbehave and I don't waste time in letting her know. It got to a time that she always want me to chat with her and be there for her. So along the line I told her that I'm glad she's part of my life(I don't know if that was stupid and unnecessary for me) she was happy and said the same too. But few days ago, I called her in the night after I missed her calls I was talking and she cut me of by saying goodnight which pissed me off and I asked her if she was trying to cut me off then I hung up without waiting for her answer. So I send this chat below the next morning( I sent four and I will send the remaining one in the next post). But after what I told her. She ain't like before again not that she don't chat with me but she's not making attempt in impressing me. I wish I can post the all the chats lately but if you guys want I will.

. This is the remaining chats.

My plan with her is I'm considering her for marriage later in future. So I'm asking you guys if I'm too forward with her or I need to leave her alone or what do you want me to do..? Thanks.

Usually I don’t do stuff like this
But hell why not. ?

My relationship has spiraled out of control. I was in charge , then I fell in love and I feel this girl is just using me to catch cruise now.
What can I do to get the relationship back in line ?

OJLion:
Usually I don’t do stuff like this
But hell why not. ?

My relationship has spiraled out of control. I was in charge , then I fell in love and I feel this girl is just using me to catch cruise now.
What can I do to get the relationship back in line ?

Nothing.....

Jzt Move on.....act like u dont care..

Meet other girls and relate welll with them

GL

Donzie1995:
. This is the remaining chats.

My plan with her is I'm considering her for marriage later in future. So I'm asking you guys if I'm too forward with her or I need to leave her alone or what do you want me to do..? Thanks.

Download "The Manipulated Man" by Esther V.....

Since u r on break now, take ur time to read it..

It'll go a long way to help

Okay sir thanks

Donzie1995:
. This is the remaining chats.

My plan with her is I'm considering her for marriage later in future. So I'm asking you guys if I'm too forward with her or I need to leave her alone or what do you want me to do..? Thanks.

Bro...to be honest with you, i dint read the long epistle u wrote. I jzt read d girls reply to see how she responded...
But my take is......u got to this stage bcz u were always available....You shuld knw when she has had enuf of u for d night( when d fun is at d peak, u leave, so little time she gets to chat with u again, she'll cherish it)....
Also remove that mentality of "I want to marry her" cz u'll end up driving her away or being placed in d friendzone. As a final student, there r still many hurdles for u to jump once u r done with school and i doubt if she's ready to go through those hurdles with u...

So from now, jzt see her as any normal girl, be ready to walk away anytime, dont be always available so she can cherish moments with u, dont b predictable(keep her guessing)...

this is my take tho..

when HARDDON comes online, he'll attend to u..

GL

Zabiboy:


Bro...to be honest with you, i dint read the long epistle u wrote. I jzt read d girls reply to see how she responded...
But my take is......u got to this stage bcz u were always available....You shuld knw when she has had enuf of u for d night( when d fun is at d peak, u leave, so little time she gets to chat with u again, she'll cherish it)....
Also remove that mentality of "I want to marry her" cz u'll end up driving her away or being placed in d friendzone. As a final student, there r still many hurdles for u to jump once u r done with school and i doubt if she's ready to go through those hurdles with u...

So from now, jzt see her as any normal girl, be ready to walk away anytime, dont be always available so she can cherish moments with u, dont b predictable(keep her guessing)...

this is my take tho..

when HARDDON comes online, he'll attend to u..

GL

okay I will do so. thanks

babavik:
I don't think am jealous bro.Am naturally a ladies man(sorry to say it am not bragging). this is not the first time a lady is asking me out but this one got me and am a bit confused.

could you tell us why you rejected her at first and why the sudden change of mind?

Htop:
there's this lady I'm dating, I really do love her because she's the First Lady I would have sex with. few month ago I observed she's still communicating with her ex, checked her whatsapp and found out her ex was sex chatting with her.. she fondly said " I love you " to him but when I confronted her she said I love you is just an ordinary word you could say it to anyone.... sometimes when we're together she will said she missed her ex, his antics and other things... whenever I brought up his ex matter she will fight with me and even threatened to break up... fast-forward to this night I asked her what's her ex boyfriend doing right that I was doing wrong that made her keep saying she truly miss him, she started threatening to break up... how can I win her heart from her ex because I truly love her or I should just leave her alone

To answer you, let me throw a lil light on relationship, Love and EXs


Most guys, lacking the drills/skills outlined within this thread, but wanting to attract the opposite sex and get laid, toll the weak/cheap RELATIONSHIP lane.

They easily profess love and propose relationship, buy the lady's attention with incessant call, gifts, outings etc as a shunt between meeting and mating.
Little did they know that proposing Relationship makes them waste resources, exposes their vunerability(wimps,mugu/maga), lack of women wit/wisdom and ultimately lenghtens the time to have what they really seek ( s3x).

After months of caring, buying and calling, They finally have their ways into the forest and then it dawns on them that relationship wasn't what they really wanted.
Then, they ask themselves: " is it this cheap thing I wasted all these months chasing, wasting time and resources on?

But because they have invested too much, they hang on, play along so as to browse the forest a lil more, to gain back part of the investments, while they are doing that, they are still looking out there for more vJays, still using same relationship skill to lay more.
The semi smart ones would get away with few. until one day, the first gurl finds out they have being cheating. some wud break up immediately, most wud cry and expect full apology and try to use that as a means of total control. Or the guy ghost her after tasting a couple of times. Bottom line is, they break up.

If they(ladies) were really gaining alot from the guy, they wud cry and be touchy for some weeks after the breakup, block and delete him on all social fronts. avoid him physically and try to move on.
But no matter how they try to expunge him, his thoughts still lurks. The way he cared, touched and laid them still hunts.

Then not to go back to him, they decide to give another guy( that is totally honest and is for real) a chance. but this guy is just plain boring and accepts all their whims and caprises. always at their Beck and call.
This guy made her miss the formal guy even the more.

then one day, from the blues, she ran into the formal guy at the mall( oh he looks so Kul now) and after exchanging pleasantries, a lil chat, he asked for her contact again which she gave without thinking . oh , how she missed him.
then he sent WhatsApp messages and the reconnection began. he blows her off her feet deeply again because he knows all her weak point which the new guy has no idea about.
But she made up her mind that NOTHING will ever happen between them ever again.
But the thing with ladies is that they can think cooly and calmly just that they END UP THINKING WITH THEIR HEARTS INSTEAD OF THEIR HEADS. yes, They are emotional beings.

Before she realise, she is in his arms again, screaming to the high mountains.

And from that moment, it is hide and seek game with the new guy. Or just simply rub it on his face the way your supposed gurl is doing. Yo should know that the EX is just here to browse more , she knows it. that is why she always bluff and put u in line with threats of breakups. she is going no where because the EX does not want a relationship( she knows). He wants u to foot the bills while he is helping you to comb the web. OUCH!

Here is the gospel truth: That gurl does not have an iota of respect for you because you are way below standards in the dating world. you have no clue.
She doesn't even see you as her bf let alone a lover.
SHE knows that she has your Full emotional ( mumu) button and she , without baiting an eyelid, exacts its full weight on you without hesitation nor reservation.

Maybe she is reaping financial or other benefits from you.

I don't blame you because you are naive and to be laid for the first time by an experienced gurl wud have had its toll. She knows....

MY ADVICE?

Pull a German stunt on her.
Take her out to a very posh place for dinner. Throw jokes, make her very comfortable. After eating, while sipping your wine. Tell her that you have done alot of thinking about the relationship and couldnt see where it is heading. lLook at her straight in the eyes and Tell her , without flinching that you are calling it quits. wish her well in her future endeavours and roll out( go home) before she can recollect her self for any stupid speech.


After that, go-to the beginning of this thread and start reading. Empower your mind.

We are no mean men.