Kind your business

The wife knows the real issue. Pls pray before you marry.

You can imagine marrying into that family...

Am just pity the man,end time children.

Bluehill1051:
Why don't you help him sometimes?
In my own opinion, you're worse than those children. It is your type that will rather take photos of a dying person than actually saving them.

You sound very illogical and irresponsible!

Op jax is real but mind ur business

My advice is you minding your business and let them be. As long as no one is being hurt it's okay by the family. Just focus on raising your children the way you know best.

I dont know why most Nigerians are good in minding other people's business.

No culture anywhere that I know of would accept that nonsense.

Some men do their own chores out of training as youth to be independent of anyone and to stay fit.

But be careful now, I have seen an uncle doing chores for the children of his rich brother with the rich brother's silence. Very disgusting!

Abeg leave the man along and face your business if you too good why you nor help the man do two trips the children must not be the one helping the man

inspire to make a difference by helping the man

Unfortunately, they are destroying their future. A man of sixty years should have kids outside his house in their own houses sending money to him. They have placed a curse on themselves.

Graxie:
It's not Idoma thing, Most Idoma men are proud men, they hardly do house chores. In fact in Agatu, it's a taboo for a man to pound. Some of their men are usually lazy so this man is exceptional. It's possible he enjoys house chores while raising idiots. Go to markurdi, most of their women will be plaiting hair, selling all manner to feed okpani while he will be busy gisting. Your landlord is different but he also failed in raising sound kids.

this is untrue. I grew up in the village. A Yoruba village to be precise. When we wanted to cultivate land, Agatu is the direct substitute for tractor. They are paid small money but will work from morning till night. They work like machine. Although this is not related to the topic but maybe Agatus are different.

Plead:


Beat them up for? All this beat beat mentality.

90% of Nigerian guys/men won’t last upto 1 year in America or Europe before being thrown into prisons. Y’all have a very fvcked up mentality about every sphere of your life.

Are you okay?

Where do you see Nigerian men being thrown to jail after one year abroad?

Is it your business.
You don't really know what is going on

Bluehill1051:
Why don't you help him sometimes?
In my own opinion, you're worse than those children. It is your type that will rather take photos of a dying person than actually saving them.

stop it, how do u expect him to do that? Do u know doing that might cause issue in the family. It's better the oo minds his business

There is a lot going on in that family, it's not ordinary.

J111333:
Chai

this is the first time, I am seeing you speechless

Micky002:
There is this scenerio i usually observe with my landlord and his children which always makes me curious and also raises unanswered question within me. This prompt me to post this here.

My landlord is idoma by tribe and has six grown up children, three boys and three girls. He should be in his late fifties or early sixties. Here is the issue.

This man despite having grown up boys and girls always do his chores by himself while the children will be lazying around engaging in trivial discussions. This man will wash his clothes by himself while his girls, the youngest being twenty years of age will be chatting with friends in the compound. This man will go to fetch water with kegs using a wheel barrow every morning while the boys will sit outside doing nothing.

Meanwhile the water he fetches is used by every member of the house. This man can go up to three to four trips while the boys will be busy arguing about Manchester United and Chelsea with friends.

What baffles me the most is that they see nothing wrong in this because the man doesn't complain and his wife, their mother is also witnessing everything.

My question now is, is this an acceptable norm in their (Idoma) culture? For a father to be doing the house chores while the children will be playing. I'm asking because where I come from, it is unacceptable.

How is that your business op? Dey ur dey naa, abi na free the man give you apartment? Why you con dey use paracetamol for another person headache.

Go and rebuke ur landlord for this, then come back and start another thread on how u were evicted without prior notice....Amebo

highflyer012020:

please i want to ask who between the husband and the wife who do you pay the house rent to. it is possible this can be the manipulative power of the wife. to subdue the man at the expense of the family, maybe the wife might be the one that built the house, even if not she might want to be the Lord of the family by seeking to suppress the will of the man. am very sure that those children obeys their mother very well. evil family pattern.

It's very obvious his wife has a big part to play in what's going on, only someone with no intuition will fail to notice this.

Graxie:
It's not Idoma thing, Most Idoma men are proud men, they hardly do house chores. In fact in Agatu, it's a taboo for a man to pound. Some of their men are usually lazy so this man is exceptional. It's possible he enjoys house chores while raising idiots. Go to markurdi, most of their women will be plaiting hair, selling all manner to feed okpani while he will be busy gisting. Your landlord is different but he also failed in raising sound kids.

this is untrue. I grew up in the village. A Yoruba village to be precise. When we wanted to cultivate land, Agatu is the direct substitute for tractor. They are paid small money but will work from morning till night. They work like machine. Although this is not related to the topic but maybe Agatus are different.

Micky002:
There is this scenerio i usually observe with my landlord and his children which always makes me curious and also raises unanswered question within me. This prompt me to post this here.

My landlord is idoma by tribe and has six grown up children, three boys and three girls. He should be in his late fifties or early sixties. Here is the issue.

This man despite having grown up boys and girls always do his chores by himself while the children will be lazying around engaging in trivial discussions. This man will wash his clothes by himself while his girls, the youngest being twenty years of age will be chatting with friends in the compound. This man will go to fetch water with kegs using a wheel barrow every morning while the boys will sit outside doing nothing.

Meanwhile the water he fetches is used by every member of the house. This man can go up to three to four trips while the boys will be busy arguing about Manchester United and Chelsea with friends.

What baffles me the most is that they see nothing wrong in this because the man doesn't complain and his wife, their mother is also witnessing everything.

My question now is, is this an acceptable norm in their (Idoma) culture? For a father to be doing the house chores while the children will be playing. I'm asking because where I come from, it is unacceptable.

OP you must be mad... Must you call the name of the tribe before passing your message?
Why not pass your message without tribe shaming, or if you have anything against idoma as a tribe pls come out clear

Bluehill1051:
Why don't you help him sometimes?
In my own opinion, you're worse than those children. It is your type that will rather take photos of a dying person than actually saving them.

I expected someone to try and play smart by taking a different view, unfortunately you are not. Lol

Ogun go kill u idiot na ur type dey go message wen dem no send u.. Eye service kill u

Bluehill1051:
Why don't you help him sometimes?
In my own opinion, you're worse than those children. It is your type that will rather take photos of a dying person than actually saving them.

Plead:


Beat them up for? All this beat beat mentality.

90% of Nigerian guys/men won’t last upto 1 year in America or Europe before being thrown into prisons. Y’all have a very fvcked up mentality about every sphere of your life.

I don't usually reply such whacked up mention.
In a Nigeria settings, parents and elders are meant to be respected, maybe you wake your own parents with slaps and kick.
Nobody has the monopoly to best anybody for whatever reason, you report them to the authorities so Mr American mentality,
Read, and always try to understand before you show how stupid you are with your comments..
Incase you don't know, your comment does portray what you look like or how you behave.

It's one thing to train a child and it's another thing for child himself or herself to be a good child. In as much as I am not making a case for the man, he definitely does not have good children.

Wetin dey sweet ur belle
Y not face ur own warrant
Wetin concerned u with wetin wey no concern u
I swear u need deliverance of d mind not soul
Face ur own destiny

saajus:
Maybe he's using those chores as exercise. My dad used to do a few chores in the house but not everyday like the one Op described. Anytime we want to assist, he always refuses. He said he's doing it for his health since he doesn't go to the gym or jog around the streets.

if that is the case, when he going to fetch the water, one of the children should accompany him for respect sake.

NobleAngell:
That kind of upbringing is the reason for the violence these days. Lack of empathy. Everyone is just so cold. How can I sit and watch my dad fetching water while I'm there?
I kuku know the parents I have. If I say I don't have sense, they will install it for me. Just one slap from my mom and I'm restored back to factory settings.

Factory settings pain you God settings lo ma pada si ��

[quote author=Vision2045 post=88270738] Maybe he is currently serving a punishment and he is on community (family) duties [/quote...

Bluehill1051:
Why don't you help him sometimes?
In my own opinion, you're worse than those children. It is your type that will rather take photos of a dying person than actually saving them.

Like seriously!!

Ishilove:
He didn't raise them properly and what you're seeing is the end result.

Like d way u re raised
Who hurts u