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Galactico4ever:
Bros,you can lie for Africa Sha

I can fu ck you too if you want maybe you will believe then. besides i wasn't seeking for your approval.

Shibaraba:
Op simply justified the first thread. Like your gaptooth though

Ah...

tyup:
Reading some few lines i knew the whole message would be senseless n really when that guy said 9ja babes in Canada 're less attractive n not good looking dang i now believe

mehnn Op wor wor ehn Tuueh

Besides only a lonely lady would have such time to reply breaking in messages just like you've done

Easy na...

whizqueen:
My friend sent me this thread last night but I had too much to say so here we go.

I (A Nigerian girl living in Canada) will be responding to the OP's points and some other comments I found on the thread.


Are Nigerian Ladies in Canada lonely? Ofcourse we are! Are Nigerian girls in NIGERIA lonely? Hell yeah!!! Are Nigerian girls in other countries lonely? Absolutely!!!!! Being lonely is not a factor of location or person. It's about not finding the right friends/partner you vibe with.


Why did we immigrate? Bros are you kidding me? Canadian govt is paying me $2000 monthly and other benefits for losing income due to covid-19 Is that happening in Naija right now? All the money donated by philanthropist in Nigeria would soon disappear into the thin air without our govt giving explanation of any sort. Ofcourse, it's not bed of roses abroad neither were we expecting a man wrapped in a gift bag but please don't let your sentiments cloud your reasoning as to why people make immigration decisions abeg.


I personally feel attacked I recently posted a video on my YouTube Channel about finding love & online dating in Canada. It's asif this hope saw my video and wanted to attack me


What makes you think we would be interested in you to begin with? Don't pride yourself too much plis dear


If you like let the OP influence your decision and stop you from chasing your immigration dreams, last last it's up to you to decide what you want for your future.


Whilst I would agree with growing together with your partner and building with them. I think it's just shallow minded of anyone in this age and time to ask for women to chase marriage first before career. Marriage is not the ultimate not everyone sees marriage as an achievement. These days, if you crave for sex so much, you can pay someone to do it or get yourself a Love Machine, if you want a child, you can literally just buy a sperm and save yourself lots of stress. Most of us are yet to keep an open mind to these things, however if you want something badly there;s always a way to get it.


Most Nigerian men hate to see it happen, there are laws that protect women here and they would prefer dying single than to see women as their equals. A good number of them are control freaks and would rather their woman be at their beck and call for everything as opposed to having their marriage work as a partnership. Nigerian married man knowing the laws of the land will still go ahead and cheat on his wife with a girl living in the same condo with his wife. Una no even dey fear or respect una madam. If atall you really want to cheat, you cannot travel to Nigeria and secretly mess with girls that fancy IJGB crew or allen avenue. As expected, some women do exploit the situation but if you find yourself a god-fearing person and you do the right thing, no divorce laws or child custody issue would stop y'all from flourishing.


White men dont find us attractive? Laughs is Swahili
On the contrary most men of other races have FETISH for Nigerian girls and Black girls in general. Maybe not long term in all cases tho but they reaaaaaaally fancy us and admire our enthusiasm towards life. Whilst most Nigerian girls would likely not wanna go for the likes of 'Ryan', 'Billy' and co it's not cos we don't find them attractive. Firstly, Naija guys are smart, intelligent and goal oriented. You see the average ones already have plans for their future and working towards it unlike the counterparts who are comfortable with just a high school degree. If a Naija guy is even into technical jobs he would try to be the best at it and work towards starting his own company in the near future. Secondly, coping with someone with a different culture, lifestyle, food, etc is honestly stressful. I was talking with one Persian guy and he said before we can kiss or hold hands, we have to be temporarily married. The other chinese guy is only about 5ft tall, I'm just wondering what he would look like in that department

In Nigeria, when you visit a guy at home, some would expect you to know that's express ticket to get laid with them. But here if you visit a guy at home, you can be almost certain that if you guys have sex it's cos you wanted it, no guy will try to lure or manipulate you to straff them or tell you when you came to my house what were you thinking. They know it's important to ask for your opinion or even avoid the whole situation altogether.

Something the OP failed to address is that the Loneliness spans across both men and women living in Diaspora. Even the white people find it hard getting a partner for themselves much less an immigrant that would probably take some time to fully settle in. The system is built to have everyone mind their business, that togetherness or family-spirit is missing.

All the naija guys and ladies in Toronto have finish dating themselves. It's such a small city, everyone knows eachother thru another person only a matter of time before you find out that; the guy toasting you is ex with your colleagues' friend. Or the guy you matched with on the dating app went on a date with your housemate the day before. Some would be married and they would be on the dating apps lying to other women.

Some of us don't even mind going back home to bring men here, but 'em guys just they find paper. Only few genuinely love and care for you. I kuku know people here already do that as business tho, some ladies/guys now charge up to $30,000 to marry people from home to help them get residency here.

There are tons of Nigerians in Canada groups on WhatsApp and Telegram some are just for singles and you find people of age 35, 40, etc filled with both women and MEN. Some guys eventually resort to going back home to marry the less exposed girls, but guess what happens once they reach YYZ airport? Oh well your guess is as good as mine. Their eyes go open finish.

A good number of Naija guys are single and desperately finding love as well as ladies. Truth is, we all crave for love. And that's not a bad thing to want. Finding a good match or significant other is a honestly a game of chance. Home and Abroad, White or Black race finding a partner is truly difficult and if you got lucky finding that one special person, you better love and cherish them truly.

I rest my case; I am in the comment section waiting for someone to jump on my mention and before you do so just remember: Opinions are like as5holes and everyone is entitled to one. So this is my opinion, I have free time today

Link to Original thread https://www.nairaland.com/5782313/chai-nigerian-girls-canada-lonely

Who ever you are, you are intelligent and will be a very loving person. Honestly, I will become your friend, if you are open to making friends. (I stay in Nigeria).

Lastly, hope you are God-fearing too? Cos I am.

benji93:
You once inserted your manhood into the evil forest.

whaaaat?!

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Jim99:
We don hear

We go still pick white/latinas/asians over una

Nothing change

HarunaWest:
Me am more Concerned about how you started the whole process and concluded..Was thinking to start this year Buh Corona brought it's own..The matter weak me

Baba, you sef wan jaapa. Na wa for waec o!

0KNM:
This guy

[img]https://media1./images/151d940d16a2cccfc943b38211020dd9/tenor.gif?itemid=4347451[/img]

That guy is not a good somebody.

Plead:
Just came back from lipstick alley.... the thought process of the folks there is quite amazing tho

Lol you think so

hustla:
Them say una no dey fine, and the two ladies wey dey show for the video snippet no make am at all

Abeg ooooo

sapeleboi:
wetin concern me with Nigeria women , na white toto I won poke

Ayohbk:
It's not about rebuttal or not. It's about making sensible and valid points. Not just massaging a gender's ego.

It is about rebuttal.. Sensible people will just ignore and move on.. This one has to write an epistle to prove a point.. Like who cares

Prolly you have retired replying to comments for today. I really like your posted reply. I agree with your point of view.

I want clarification on some few things.
I would like to communicate with you on immigration topic and real Estate in Canada if you have any idea on that.
And few other convos of interest.
I will like to communicate with you on Whatsapp. Is there a way to pm you my WhatsApp Number on here?

Alaye calm down. I mentioned her name and not yours,cheeky toad.

And what's your business if i make her my personal consultant.

MYMINDER:
Your express entry application cannot proceed beyond the 1st stage without your official test score.

Go and read on the internet and gather all the facts you need. Turning her into a personal consultant really does not help both of you. Once again, it is not rocket science.

whizqueen:
My friend sent me this thread last night but I had too much to say so here we go.

I (A Nigerian girl living in Canada) will be responding to the OP's points and some other comments I found on the thread.


Are Nigerian Ladies in Canada lonely? Ofcourse we are! Are Nigerian girls in NIGERIA lonely? Hell yeah!!! Are Nigerian girls in other countries lonely? Absolutely!!!!! Being lonely is not a factor of location or person. It's about not finding the right friends/partner you vibe with.


Why did we immigrate? Bros are you kidding me? Canadian govt is paying me $2000 monthly and other benefits for losing income due to covid-19 Is that happening in Naija right now? All the money donated by philanthropist in Nigeria would soon disappear into the thin air without our govt giving explanation of any sort. Ofcourse, it's not bed of roses abroad neither were we expecting a man wrapped in a gift bag but please don't let your sentiments cloud your reasoning as to why people make immigration decisions abeg.


I personally feel attacked I recently posted a video on my YouTube Channel about finding love & online dating in Canada. It's asif this hope saw my video and wanted to attack me


What makes you think we would be interested in you to begin with? Don't pride yourself too much plis dear


If you like let the OP influence your decision and stop you from chasing your immigration dreams, last last it's up to you to decide what you want for your future.


Whilst I would agree with growing together with your partner and building with them. I think it's just shallow minded of anyone in this age and time to ask for women to chase marriage first before career. Marriage is not the ultimate not everyone sees marriage as an achievement. These days, if you crave for sex so much, you can pay someone to do it or get yourself a Love Machine, if you want a child, you can literally just buy a sperm and save yourself lots of stress. Most of us are yet to keep an open mind to these things, however if you want something badly there;s always a way to get it.


Most Nigerian men hate to see it happen, there are laws that protect women here and they would prefer dying single than to see women as their equals. A good number of them are control freaks and would rather their woman be at their beck and call for everything as opposed to having their marriage work as a partnership. Nigerian married man knowing the laws of the land will still go ahead and cheat on his wife with a girl living in the same condo with his wife. Una no even dey fear or respect una madam. If atall you really want to cheat, you cannot travel to Nigeria and secretly mess with girls that fancy IJGB crew or allen avenue. As expected, some women do exploit the situation but if you find yourself a god-fearing person and you do the right thing, no divorce laws or child custody issue would stop y'all from flourishing.


White men dont find us attractive? Laughs is Swahili
On the contrary most men of other races have FETISH for Nigerian girls and Black girls in general. Maybe not long term in all cases tho but they reaaaaaaally fancy us and admire our enthusiasm towards life. Whilst most Nigerian girls would likely not wanna go for the likes of 'Ryan', 'Billy' and co it's not cos we don't find them attractive. Firstly, Naija guys are smart, intelligent and goal oriented. You see the average ones already have plans for their future and working towards it unlike the counterparts who are comfortable with just a high school degree. If a Naija guy is even into technical jobs he would try to be the best at it and work towards starting his own company in the near future. Secondly, coping with someone with a different culture, lifestyle, food, etc is honestly stressful. I was talking with one Persian guy and he said before we can kiss or hold hands, we have to be temporarily married. The other chinese guy is only about 5ft tall, I'm just wondering what he would look like in that department

In Nigeria, when you visit a guy at home, some would expect you to know that's express ticket to get laid with them. But here if you visit a guy at home, you can be almost certain that if you guys have sex it's cos you wanted it, no guy will try to lure or manipulate you to straff them or tell you when you came to my house what were you thinking. They know it's important to ask for your opinion or even avoid the whole situation altogether.

Something the OP failed to address is that the Loneliness spans across both men and women living in Diaspora. Even the white people find it hard getting a partner for themselves much less an immigrant that would probably take some time to fully settle in. The system is built to have everyone mind their business, that togetherness or family-spirit is missing.

All the naija guys and ladies in Toronto have finish dating themselves. It's such a small city, everyone knows eachother thru another person only a matter of time before you find out that; the guy toasting you is ex with your colleagues' friend. Or the guy you matched with on the dating app went on a date with your housemate the day before. Some would be married and they would be on the dating apps lying to other women.

Some of us don't even mind going back home to bring men here, but 'em guys just they find paper. Only few genuinely love and care for you. I kuku know people here already do that as business tho, some ladies/guys now charge up to $30,000 to marry people from home to help them get residency here.

There are tons of Nigerians in Canada groups on WhatsApp and Telegram some are just for singles and you find people of age 35, 40, etc filled with both women and MEN. Some guys eventually resort to going back home to marry the less exposed girls, but guess what happens once they reach YYZ airport? Oh well your guess is as good as mine. Their eyes go open finish.

A good number of Naija guys are single and desperately finding love as well as ladies. Truth is, we all crave for love. And that's not a bad thing to want. Finding a good match or significant other is a honestly a game of chance. Home and Abroad, White or Black race finding a partner is truly difficult and if you got lucky finding that one special person, you better love and cherish them truly.

I rest my case; I am in the comment section waiting for someone to jump on my mention and before you do so just remember: Opinions are like as5holes and everyone is entitled to one. So this is my opinion, I have free time today

Link to Original thread https://www.nairaland.com/5782313/chai-nigerian-girls-canada-lonely

Pls reply my pm I have something serious to discuss with you.
Thanks

Dem carry this hungry, ras, bitter mentality enter Canada again

babyfaceafrica:
It is about rebuttal.. Sensible people will just ignore and move on.. This one has to write an epistle to prove a point.. Like who cares

There are many people who get influenced by posts made on this forum especially the young, impressionable people who are at the junction of making life changing decisions. It's good to counter ignorant posts so it won't be seen as truth.


Posterity will tell eventually

whizqueen:
IRCC is still processing applications. If you have your documents ready, submit it. Go to travel section to learn the process or check my YouTube channel, like is on my post. Goodluck

. I only need the whAtsaap group,which I can pay 30k dolls to get married and get the citizenship.if available

[quote author=sharone21 post=88268534][/quote]What you said about Nigerian guys might be true but you can't necessary generalize it...

Some of us are still honest and value relationships..

I have a very good childhood friend of my mine... A chartered accountant working with lacasera in Nigeria, he's never traveled abroad but he's now marrying a Nigerian lady that resides in Canada...

They're living happily

katyamizotta:
Poor you! Of course not offcourse. Canadians are great at spelling.
"talk less of to travel" Canadians are great at sentence structure.

Have a good day Ovie.

I ain't poor so shut up and get lost..I am sure is people like that don't have more than N2000 in your account that have will make such noise..Abegi..get out.

Oh you are looking at my spelling.Lol..Can't you see how you a dumbass when you have nothing to say you focus on trivialities.You don't want to know my pedigree I am 100% sure you don't measure up.I would stop there.

MYMINDER:
A lot of hate on that site by Black American women against Africans and Nigerians especially. Not all, but enough to cause concern. Africans there are relatively quiet outside of the Africa forum because the "bully network" is strong whenever anyone speaks against one of them. I see it as more of an emotional support site for black american women. More of comforting each other and less of telling each other the truth. There are good discussions from time to time once the trolls and hate-filled fonts are ignored.

You are right. That's what lipstickalley is about, a gathering for African-American ladies who come to pat each other on the back in some cases, or to issue advice to one another on how they should, as black Americans, be working together towards a common goal, or to diss and tear each other apart. Nigerians, of course, love to feel among and they get attracted to lipstickalley so they can catch some American vibes or feel American. They know they aren't too welcomed there. They have their own threads anyways, where they talk no more than they do here on Niaraland.

This section doesn't disappoint.

Post a counter opinion they wont
Argue intelligently they wont

She's this she's that bla bla bla okay oya say something about the post lailai they wont.

OP has got my respect, she has class which most of these boys don't have

gypsey:
I can fu ck you too if you want maybe you will believe then. besides i wasn't seeking for your approval.

Thanks But I enjoy shitting. and besides keeping count of bleeps is just weird

sylve11:
That guy is not a good somebody.

I swear

whizqueen:
Thanks babe! I wish you all the best in your immigration journey. See you soon in Canada

Oya..... Let's communicate off nairaland



I'm based in Germany, you are in Canada.... let's work out something.

Interesting.

But i think loneliness has to do with individual and not country or location

Hello, please if is possible how can I contact you,my younger brother is planning to relocate to Canada, by next year by God grace, I will like to ask you some questions regarding that.

whizqueen:
If you want you can check out my YouTube Channel, I make videos on Life in Canada and immigrating to Canada, the process, the cost and available pathways

Ayinke93:
You should know Nigerian men to overestimate their importance in the lives of women. See them wanking over the thought of their absence being the reason for the loneliness of someone who just started a new life a in far away country.some of them on that thread are even advicing the women to drop their imigration plans so as to be someone's wives.

They all sound very threatened at the thought of not being able to control a fellow human being. I really do not blame y'all, I blame the society that made you so entitled in the fist place. For the gender that claims to be superior, they worry too much about women and there choices and the thought of not being the center of a woman's life give them headaches.

If there's any woman here nursing the thought of travelling abroad, if that is was you solely desire, face it squarely and build yourself. When you are complete on your own, you'll find love on the way.

@whizqueen, you are doing an amazing job and I admire you alot. Working on starting my immigration process already, sadly everything had to wait for know. All the best to you in Canada.

The original op is simply trying to say that Nigerian girls in Nigeria are overpampered, here most things are done by men, wooing, initiating a date, marriage proposal, etc, but over there, it's OYO. Most men in Canada tend to not even be interested in marriage or any relationship in the first place.

Whiz queen, I love your channel fr, make I go watch your first winter experience seff