This story teaches us that we should mind how we lay our bed in the morning because that is where we will lay down in the evening whether we like it or not.
Secondly, what you don't want others to do to you, don't do it to them; the law of sowing and reaping is still very strong and it doesn't accept excuses.

Some people are already quoting the Bible about training up your child bla bla bla.


This is not about the Bible, this is about common sense.
Most of the things we call spiritual things are just common sense.

So you need the Bible to tell you that it is wrong to watch your father do house chores while you're around?

SMH

Fortissimo502:
Mind your business.

...and ppl like u hardly mind their own business.

What is your business with that? You should be too busy to care about other people's affairs.

There’s one landlord that do similar thing like this.Laat last,The man quietly sold the house,

Micky002:
There is this scenerio i usually observe with my landlord and his children which always makes me curious and also raises unanswered question within me. This prompt me to post this here.

My landlord is idoma by tribe and has six grown up children, three boys and three girls. He should be in his late fifties or early sixties. Here is the issue.

This man despite having grown up boys and girls always do his chores by himself while the children will be lazying around engaging in trivial discussions. This man will wash his clothes by himself while his girls, the youngest being twenty years of age will be chatting with friends in the compound. This man will go to fetch water with kegs using a wheel barrow every morning while the boys will sit outside doing nothing.

Meanwhile the water he fetches is used by every member of the house. This man can go up to three to four trips while the boys will be busy arguing about Manchester United and Chelsea with friends.

What baffles me the most is that they see nothing wrong in this because the man doesn't complain and his wife, their mother is also witnessing everything.

My question now is, is this an acceptable norm in their (Idoma) culture? For a father to be doing the house chores while the children will be playing. I'm asking because where I come from, it is unacceptable.

An enemy has done this, maybe they even beats the man up if he try to caution them.

I don't understand it, but consider:

Most of the people ruining Nigeria today did chores in their houses as children. Senators, police, kidnappers... all were very good chore doers, brought up with "good values", "discipline", and so on.

That should tell you something.

But to OP, please paddle your own canoe and leave your landlord to run his affairs as he sees fit.

Oluneutral:
There's definitely something deep, very deep you don't know about that family.


So, just face front and mind your business except if the said father is complaining to you.

you thought well, it's certainly beyond the ordinary.

You are one of the problem we have in Nigeria. Gossipping around about what doesn't concern you or affect your security. And I'm sure you have never confronted any of those children or their father about that situation.

donbachi:
Only the kind eye my mother go look..u no go know wen u go fetch 2 drums full..unless u wan make she remind u am with garri turner.

Hahahaha aswear

MIND YOUR BUSINESS...

lielbree:

Why the fùck would u feel he is unhappy? You live with them now?
My dad loves going to market and cooking despite having 4 grown up daughters
My husband loves house chores too! I'll sit one place, send him errands and he does complain or frown. He'll be like "if I don't do it for you who will"

If you don't see anything wrong in this, I pity your husband. My dad used to cook for us, fetch water etc, but when we started coming of age, he transferred fetching of water to me and cooking to my sister. Till today he still cooks when he wants, but carrying kegs to find water, God forbid. May I never be in a house and my father carry kegs to fetch water I will use while I am in good health.

rolams:
What is your business with that? You should be too busy to care about other people's affairs.

I wonder o. It is joblessness on his own side too

how many fvckin mumus does it take to ask or tell op to mind his business?

did he say he approached the landlord or grown children and opened his mouth and protested? no, he's just made an observation about a dysfunctional custom and is sharing it with NL.

Jeez, some pple need to get a few minutes of sunshine/vitamin D.

Won ti fi Ori man yen gba paaro!

starbuck:
He is reaping the fruits of his labor �‍♀️�‍♀️..

'Train a child in the way ohe/she would go, and when they are old, they won't depart from it'


I hope some of our digital Nairaland parents learn from this..

You are so right.

Bluehill1051:
Why don't you help him sometimes?
In my own opinion, you're worse than those children. It is your type that will rather take photos of a dying person than actually saving them.

lol,u make small sense anyways

OP, shebi the children fine?

Do what i do sometimes ago.
Toast one of the daughter and start sleeping with her.
She'll clear your curiosity by leaking all the family secrets to you, since staying there don tire you.

Chidonc:
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You are very stupid. why should a man has six grown children and his neigbour fetches water for him.

It is your father and his father that are very stupid. Doesn't really matter, cuz you're also very stupid.

Micky002:
There is this scenerio i usually observe with my landlord and his children which always makes me curious and also raises unanswered question within me. This prompt me to post this here.

My landlord is idoma by tribe and has six grown up children, three boys and three girls. He should be in his late fifties or early sixties. Here is the issue.

This man despite having grown up boys and girls always do his chores by himself while the children will be lazying around engaging in trivial discussions. This man will wash his clothes by himself while his girls, the youngest being twenty years of age will be chatting with friends in the compound. This man will go to fetch water with kegs using a wheel barrow every morning while the boys will sit outside doing nothing.

Meanwhile the water he fetches is used by every member of the house. This man can go up to three to four trips while the boys will be busy arguing about Manchester United and Chelsea with friends.

What baffles me the most is that they see nothing wrong in this because the man doesn't complain and his wife, their mother is also witnessing everything.

My question now is, is this an acceptable norm in their (Idoma) culture? For a father to be doing the house chores while the children will be playing. I'm asking because where I come from, it is unacceptable.

The answer is a capital NO! I'm idoma by tribe and I can assure you I'm astonished reading this piece. If you weren't so lucid in your narrative, I'd have said you were lying. However, I must state here, very clearly that this situation is a major character flaw of the man alone and in no way, shape or form does it reflect the culture of the Idoma tribe. The idoma's are trained from birth to be very respectful, very courteous and to exhibit discipline in all areas and I can assure you, this sort of character would have earned condemnation, spite and rebuke if the man's relatives or larger extended family are in the know about this.

lielbree:

Why the fùck would u feel he is unhappy? You live with them now?
My dad loves going to market and cooking despite having 4 grown up daughters
My husband loves house chores too! I'll sit one place, send him errands and he does complain or frown. He'll be like "if I don't do it for you who will"

I guess I have to say thanks for sharing details of your life with me I wonder why though?
Then there was/is absolutely no need for the fuu.ck, or is it something you need to use for emphasis?
Even when you clearly do not understand a post?

if you have any of the children you're close to, why not simply ask such in a carefree manner? It's not exactly an offence that will warrant your eviction from the house...
We are all Africans and that's not an ideal behavior there...

Bluehill1051:
Why don't you help him sometimes?
In my own opinion, you're worse than those children. It is your type that will rather take photos of a dying person than actually saving them.

Are you for real? Someone with full grown children that are up to the task? What if there are diabolical undertone? Well done, Mr undiscerning good Samaritan.

Papa wey mumu

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Oluneutral:
There's definitely something deep, very deep you don't know about that family.


So, just face front and mind your business except if the said father is complaining to you.

I think the children have something the are using to blackmail their father.
Maybe he tried to sleep with one of his sons/daughters and they are using it against him.

Micky002:
There is this scenerio i usually observe with my landlord and his children which always makes me curious and also raises unanswered question within me. This prompt me to post this here.

My landlord is idoma by tribe and has six grown up children, three boys and three girls. He should be in his late fifties or early sixties. Here is the issue.

This man despite having grown up boys and girls always do his chores by himself while the children will be lazying around engaging in trivial discussions. This man will wash his clothes by himself while his girls, the youngest being twenty years of age will be chatting with friends in the compound. This man will go to fetch water with kegs using a wheel barrow every morning while the boys will sit outside doing nothing.

Meanwhile the water he fetches is used by every member of the house. This man can go up to three to four trips while the boys will be busy arguing about Manchester United and Chelsea with friends.

What baffles me the most is that they see nothing wrong in this because the man doesn't complain and his wife, their mother is also witnessing everything.

My question now is, is this an acceptable norm in their (Idoma) culture? For a father to be doing the house chores while the children will be playing. I'm asking because where I come from, it is unacceptable.

Maybe he's paying for some unpardonable sin...

Mind your business

Say something na.

Tabelachizza:
Hmmm

Bluehill1051:
It is your father and his father that are very stupid. Doesn't really matter, cuz you're also very stupid.

Omo see Uncle, uncle wey Stupid

Dis one weak me o

Micky002:
There is this scenerio i usually observe with my landlord and his children which always makes me curious and also raises unanswered question within me. This prompt me to post this here.

My landlord is idoma by tribe and has six grown up children, three boys and three girls. He should be in his late fifties or early sixties. Here is the issue.

This man despite having grown up boys and girls always do his chores by himself while the children will be lazying around engaging in trivial discussions. This man will wash his clothes by himself while his girls, the youngest being twenty years of age will be chatting with friends in the compound. This man will go to fetch water with kegs using a wheel barrow every morning while the boys will sit outside doing nothing.

Meanwhile the water he fetches is used by every member of the house. This man can go up to three to four trips while the boys will be busy arguing about Manchester United and Chelsea with friends.

What baffles me the most is that they see nothing wrong in this because the man doesn't complain and his wife, their mother is also witnessing everything.

My question now is, is this an acceptable norm in their (Idoma) culture? For a father to be doing the house chores while the children will be playing. I'm asking because where I come from, it is unacceptable.

OP, I'm idoma by tribe. What you describe above is neither our culture or our tradition. The possible scenario is see here is maybe the wife has instigated the children against the father reason why he fetches water and the children are all around and the wife says nothing. The man must have lost his respect among the children and the wife due to financial constraints, maybe he lost his job and he he is not financially buoyant as he used to be. Some women are very manipulative. I can even imagine my dad or mum going to fetch water when I'm around. This is a serious tabooooooo

Micky002:
There is this scenerio i usually observe with my landlord and his children which always makes me curious and also raises unanswered question within me. This prompt me to post this here.

My landlord is idoma by tribe and has six grown up children, three boys and three girls. He should be in his late fifties or early sixties. Here is the issue.

This man despite having grown up boys and girls always do his chores by himself while the children will be lazying around engaging in trivial discussions. This man will wash his clothes by himself while his girls, the youngest being twenty years of age will be chatting with friends in the compound. This man will go to fetch water with kegs using a wheel barrow every morning while the boys will sit outside doing nothing.

Meanwhile the water he fetches is used by every member of the house. This man can go up to three to four trips while the boys will be busy arguing about Manchester United and Chelsea with friends.

What baffles me the most is that they see nothing wrong in this because the man doesn't complain and his wife, their mother is also witnessing everything.

My question now is, is this an acceptable norm in their (Idoma) culture? For a father to be doing the house chores while the children will be playing. I'm asking because where I come from, it is unacceptable.

Blame the man for over pampered his children when they are small thinking he was taking care of them. Imagine a 4 year old girl dictating for a 60 year dad that whenever she is watching cartoon they mustn't change dstv channels. Whenever they cook, they cook her own food separately, buying pad and put all sort of music. Giving a teenager Android to watch rubbish in the name of stupid unsupervised assignments.
Blame the man cos he didn't bend them till they become hardened.
He who neglects his parental role will bear the brunt at old age.