Micky002:
There is this scenerio i usually observe with my landlord and his children which always makes me curious and also raises unanswered question within me. This prompt me to post this here.

My landlord is idoma by tribe and has six grown up children, three boys and three girls. He should be in his late fifties or early sixties. Here is the issue.

This man despite having grown up boys and girls always do his chores by himself while the children will be lazying around engaging in trivial discussions. This man will wash his clothes by himself while his girls, the youngest being twenty years of age will be chatting with friends in the compound. This man will go to fetch water with kegs using a wheel barrow every morning while the boys will sit outside doing nothing.

Meanwhile the water he fetches is used by every member of the house. This man can go up to three to four trips while the boys will be busy arguing about Manchester United and Chelsea with friends.

What baffles me the most is that they see nothing wrong in this because the man doesn't complain and his wife, their mother is also witnessing everything.

My question now is, is this an acceptable norm in their (Idoma) culture? For a father to be doing the house chores while the children will be playing. I'm asking because where I come from, it is unacceptable.

Who knows maybe he is not their father or something is wrong somewhere but even at that the children behavior is unacceptable, it can't happen in igbo land. Tufiakwa that is a taboo aruu

Its happening in my street as well as u make ur bed u lie on same

Baba Landlord might be a perfectionist.
My neighbor in same close with me, i told the man I cannot see him clear the weed growing in the Close, let’s hire the services of mallam to do it. He said I should leave it, went behind him to do it and mallam couldn’t finish, he still went ahead to do it himself. Spoke with his wife she said My husband is a perfectionist he doesn’t allow us to wash and do other stuffs for him at home. Which made me weak and I remembered i do see him painting his gate, doing some brick laying and what have you.
He’s from ondo and a learned person. Resigned from a bank

Micky002:
There is this scenerio i usually observe with my landlord and his children which always makes me curious and also raises unanswered question within me. This prompt me to post this here.

My landlord is idoma by tribe and has six grown up children, three boys and three girls. He should be in his late fifties or early sixties. Here is the issue.

This man despite having grown up boys and girls always do his chores by himself while the children will be lazying around engaging in trivial discussions. This man will wash his clothes by himself while his girls, the youngest being twenty years of age will be chatting with friends in the compound. This man will go to fetch water with kegs using a wheel barrow every morning while the boys will sit outside doing nothing.

Meanwhile the water he fetches is used by every member of the house. This man can go up to three to four trips while the boys will be busy arguing about Manchester United and Chelsea with friends.

What baffles me the most is that they see nothing wrong in this because the man doesn't complain and his wife, their mother is also witnessing everything.

My question now is, is this an acceptable norm in their (Idoma) culture? For a father to be doing the house chores while the children will be playing. I'm asking because where I come from, it is unacceptable.

so how is all these your business

Micky002:
There is this scenerio i usually observe with my landlord and his children which always makes me curious and also raises unanswered question within me. This prompt me to post this here.

My landlord is idoma by tribe and has six grown up children, three boys and three girls. He should be in his late fifties or early sixties. Here is the issue.

This man despite having grown up boys and girls always do his chores by himself while the children will be lazying around engaging in trivial discussions. This man will wash his clothes by himself while his girls, the youngest being twenty years of age will be chatting with friends in the compound. This man will go to fetch water with kegs using a wheel barrow every morning while the boys will sit outside doing nothing.

Meanwhile the water he fetches is used by every member of the house. This man can go up to three to four trips while the boys will be busy arguing about Manchester United and Chelsea with friends.

What baffles me the most is that they see nothing wrong in this because the man doesn't complain and his wife, their mother is also witnessing everything.

My question now is, is this an acceptable norm in their (Idoma) culture? For a father to be doing the house chores while the children will be playing. I'm asking because where I come from, it is unacceptable.

Raising up children has nothing to do with tribe or culture

But some parents didn't start early and some children doesn't want to accept to do any domestic work just because either their mother is over working herself or their father as in this case is over working himself

He must have talked and talked and nothing came out of it and for peace to reign at home, he took it up upon himself

But the effect of such is that, when they marry, their spouse's will be the one to suffer their stupidity

Micky002:
There is this scenerio i usually observe with my landlord and his children which always makes me curious and also raises unanswered question within me. This prompt me to post this here.

My landlord is idoma by tribe and has six grown up children, three boys and three girls. He should be in his late fifties or early sixties. Here is the issue.

This man despite having grown up boys and girls always do his chores by himself while the children will be lazying around engaging in trivial discussions. This man will wash his clothes by himself while his girls, the youngest being twenty years of age will be chatting with friends in the compound. This man will go to fetch water with kegs using a wheel barrow every morning while the boys will sit outside doing nothing.

Meanwhile the water he fetches is used by every member of the house. This man can go up to three to four trips while the boys will be busy arguing about Manchester United and Chelsea with friends.

What baffles me the most is that they see nothing wrong in this because the man doesn't complain and his wife, their mother is also witnessing everything.

My question now is, is this an acceptable norm in their (Idoma) culture? For a father to be doing the house chores while the children will be playing. I'm asking because where I come from, it is unacceptable.

The man may be doing it for exercise, doing chores by himself is not a big deal
but his children should be taught how to be responsible.
He might be intentionally serving a punishment that he imposed on himself

Bluehill1051:
Why don't you help him sometimes?
In my own opinion, you're worse than those children. It is your type that will rather take photos of a dying person than actually saving them.

The lock down dey affect your brain!!! With over three grown up boys shamelessly sitting around? He doesn't have his own parents to help or his own immediate family to assist??. If you are one of that stupid man's child, your days will not be long because you fail to honor your dad.

collitexnaira:

You just typed trash.

The children must not be the one to help their father in fetching the water that the whole family uses, the children inclusive oo. But it's a tenant that should be helping abi.

If you have nothing sensible to type why don't you just shut up

You nor like my comment?
River near you?

Never seen this irl. But if you deduce this from nollywood life, then the mother is the bread winner, she has jazzed the man, turned him to her slave and the man's relative are not welcome in that house. According to nollywood, those children will never have a good future.

Fortissimo502:
Mind your business.

Mind his business abi? This is exactly why the country turned so bad.

OP, mind your business. Are you the one doing the work? I can still remember vividly one woman in our compound back then that likes to discipline peoples children. We as kids get scared whenever shes around because she wont mind if your parents are there, she will flog you if you misbehave. Your parents will not gmfkog you ooo, na mama ada go carry cane begin flog you for wetin no concern her. One day she flogged somebody's child and the little girl fainted. The rest is history.

Just continue to watch them, if you are not comfortable with such scenes, pack out of that house.

Yustash001:
So all the children sleep and face the same direction.. Not even one of them have sympathy for the father.....

The type of training children received while growing up matters a lot....

Ask their mother.
she don turn the man to mumu.

Hmm this really sounds strange. But come to think of it, how are you sure the children have not tried to assist but he refutes? Let's just say he loves what he does with a some fault.

U are stressed.... go get some sleep

moscobabs:
My grandma is now 123yrs old last January

I asked her on her birthday what makes her grow to this age?

And here is her reply

" I always mind my business"

Bluehill1051:
Why don't you help him sometimes?
In my own opinion, you're worse than those children. It is your type that will rather take photos of a dying person than actually saving them.

You have a point, if Op helped the man those lazy children might feel some remorse.

Oluneutral:
There's definitely something deep, very deep you don't know about that family.


So, just face front and mind your business except if the said father is complaining to you.

u just said my mind, 6 children and no one with sympathy? theres definetely more to ot than bad home training..

iso604:

You nor like my comment? River near you?

Shut up niggar, there was a reason you were created with brain. Use it.

DNA is needed here. Those guys are not his biological children. As old as Ian , I can never watch my father pushing water on wheel barrow, it is not possible at all. Even if I am sick, my own father must not push a barrow . What nonsense.

Please most idoma men are not responsible. They don't train dia children so that alone will make room for such nonesense

donbachi:
Only the kind eye my mother go look..u no go know wen u go fetch 2 drums full..unless u wan make she remind u am with garri turner.

I can relate to that.

double77:

i hope your father is not passing through the same thing while u and brothers are playing

No he's not Bcoz your Dad already died in his prime while you and your siblings suffered him so much, Shior Poor man

Amumaigwe:


The man permitted them. Even with the so called sin, a real man can work himself back to reckoning. It is only weak men that the wife or children would even contemplate to purnish for mistakes he made. I am not in any way defending incest, it is abominable.

You are right. According to her, that initially, her mother is like a trophy to her father, he adore her mother and in turn, her mother took advantage of him.

Maybe he's not their biological father and they don't care about him.

Something must be wrong somewhere!

I'm an idoma lady,and i can tell you those kids just lack home training or just choose to be senseless.

Micky002:
There is this scenerio i usually observe with my landlord and his children which always makes me curious and also raises unanswered question within me. This prompt me to post this here.

My landlord is idoma by tribe and has six grown up children, three boys and three girls. He should be in his late fifties or early sixties. Here is the issue.

This man despite having grown up boys and girls always do his chores by himself while the children will be lazying around engaging in trivial discussions. This man will wash his clothes by himself while his girls, the youngest being twenty years of age will be chatting with friends in the compound. This man will go to fetch water with kegs using a wheel barrow every morning while the boys will sit outside doing nothing.

Meanwhile the water he fetches is used by every member of the house. This man can go up to three to four trips while the boys will be busy arguing about Manchester United and Chelsea with friends.

What baffles me the most is that they see nothing wrong in this because the man doesn't complain and his wife, their mother is also witnessing everything.

My question now is, is this an acceptable norm in their (Idoma) culture? For a father to be doing the house chores while the children will be playing. I'm asking because where I come from, it is unacceptable.

op let him continue to fetch .he had enough money to buy a land and build a house ,he collects rent monthly and finds it too difficult to put a borehole or a well in the house .Forming macho man fetching water all over the place with his age .I guess he will have enough money to see the doctors very soon . Water is very essential for every household so don’t joke with water

Why are people crying more than the bereaved?
Perhaps the man likes to do what he does.
There are some very stubborn parents who you cant convince to not do what they want to do.
Or does the OP love the man more than his children?

Truth!!!

Bluehill1051:
Why 1don't you help him sometimes?
In my own opinion, you're worse than those children. It is your type that will rather take photos of a dying person than actually saving them.

donbachi:
Only the kind eye my mother go look..u no go know wen u go fetch 2 drums full..unless u wan make she remind u am with garri turner.

The quintessential mum! I celebrate like. My mum didn’t take nonsense! Paid off for me later on in life.

OluwandeOlakunle:
Baba Landlord might be a perfectionist.
My neighbor in same close with me, i told the man I cannot see him clear the weed growing in the Close, let’s hire the services of mallam to do it. He said I should leave it, went behind him to do it and mallam couldn’t finish, he still went ahead to do it himself. Spoke with his wife she said My husband is a perfectionist he doesn’t allow us to wash and do other stuffs for him at home. Which made me weak and I remembered i do see him painting his gate, doing some brick laying and what have you.
He’s from ondo and a learned person. Resigned from a bank

Some people just enjoy doing things with their hands, and physical labor. It doesnt make them bad or their family members wicked
The OP can not love his landlord more than the man's children both male and female.
They know their father better.
If they weren't at peace in that family, he would have been fetching only his own water, but he fetches for everybody.

Micky002:
There is this scenerio i usually observe with my landlord and his children which always makes me curious and also raises unanswered question within me. This prompt me to post this here.

My landlord is idoma by tribe and has six grown up children, three boys and three girls. He should be in his late fifties or early sixties. Here is the issue.

This man despite having grown up boys and girls always do his chores by himself while the children will be lazying around engaging in trivial discussions. This man will wash his clothes by himself while his girls, the youngest being twenty years of age will be chatting with friends in the compound. This man will go to fetch water with kegs using a wheel barrow every morning while the boys will sit outside doing nothing.

Meanwhile the water he fetches is used by every member of the house. This man can go up to three to four trips while the boys will be busy arguing about Manchester United and Chelsea with friends.

What baffles me the most is that they see nothing wrong in this because the man doesn't complain and his wife, their mother is also witnessing everything.

My question now is, is this an acceptable norm in their (Idoma) culture? For a father to be doing the house chores while the children will be playing. I'm asking because where I come from, it is unacceptable.

O boy, that juju strong o

I am surprised that a man wouldn't mind his business.
Take your eyes off your landlord and focus on your imperfections

Micky002:
There is this scenerio i usually observe with my landlord and his children which always makes me curious and also raises unanswered question within me. This prompt me to post this here.

My landlord is idoma by tribe and has six grown up children, three boys and three girls. He should be in his late fifties or early sixties. Here is the issue.

This man despite having grown up boys and girls always do his chores by himself while the children will be lazying around engaging in trivial discussions. This man will wash his clothes by himself while his girls, the youngest being twenty years of age will be chatting with friends in the compound. This man will go to fetch water with kegs using a wheel barrow every morning while the boys will sit outside doing nothing.

Meanwhile the water he fetches is used by every member of the house. This man can go up to three to four trips while the boys will be busy arguing about Manchester United and Chelsea with friends.

What baffles me the most is that they see nothing wrong in this because the man doesn't complain and his wife, their mother is also witnessing everything.

My question now is, is this an acceptable norm in their (Idoma) culture? For a father to be doing the house chores while the children will be playing. I'm asking because where I come from, it is unacceptable.

I laugh at those sons and daughters of anarchy, there is a way dat seemeth right to a man, d end thereof is destruction,honor thy father n thy mother so dat it shall b well with u n thy days will b long...2mrw will tell... Let's watch and see