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HarunaWest:
See thrash your talking Yen Yen Yen. Bond with your husband...so Na COVID make u wan bond with your husband nonsense... Bonding that should be an everyday thing. The husband buying the food isn't complaining, but you are complaining. Naso una dey turn devil's advocate if una Marry man. You want him to keep away from friends, do you know the history between him and that friend. You self centered B****.....you shouldn't be married, you don't deserve it.

Remain small, you for get sense.

Just small.

Try harder.

veave:
Something is wrong with you. In this pandemic, where everyone is being asked to stay indoors and isolate that someone will be visiting another person? I don't want to trade words with you please don't annoy me further. I have not had anytime to bond with my husband all through this period because we have to entertain his friend. So I should put my own needs on hold so that I can please another person? Don't be unfortunate this morning. You hear me abi? Just don't be unfortunate.

Before the pandemic my husband is hardly around due to his job and this man still came to the house severally I refused to open the door because I don't know what you'd be doing in your friends house with his wife when he's not around.
Woh! Don't be unfortunate today.

Hahahahahahaha.

You guys are indulging him.

There is more than you know.

HarunaWest:
See thrash your talking Yen Yen Yen. Bond with your husband...so Na COVID make u wan bond with your husband nonsense... Bonding that should be an everyday thing. The husband buying the food isn't complaining, but you are complaining. Naso una dey turn devil's advocate if una Marry man. You want him to keep away from friends, do you know the history between him and that friend. You self centered B****.....you shouldn't be married, you don't deserve it.

Have pity on the young wife instead of you to be insulting your head this morning. Who in their right mind would visit a couple from dusk to dawn with no boundaries and sympathy to their privacy? This period of fear amidst the coronavirus pandemic should not be for visitors. The friend is clearly overstepping his boundaries.

So if the food was bought by the husband she should die abi? Is she not the one cooking and stressing 24hrs in the kitchen? I wonder how some people think I swear.

It’s a known fact that families who haven’t been together much before coronavirus got out of control are taking this opportunity to bond and be together. Let her bond with her husband it’s none of your concern if it’s done in a war zone you disgusting element !!! Your anger and self hate won’t let you see the friend is choking her mental health. The friend is the selfish one here , gosh. Once you lot can’t construct a logical argument, you go emotionally sentimental taking low jabs about the provider of the house . Oga na you Dey provide food for them too?

veave:
Something is wrong with you. In this pandemic, where everyone is being asked to stay indoors and isolate that someone will be visiting another person? I don't want to trade words with you please don't annoy me further. I have not had anytime to bond with my husband all through this period because we have to entertain his friend. So I should put my own needs on hold so that I can please another person? Don't be unfortunate this morning. You hear me abi? Just don't be unfortunate.

Before the pandemic my husband is hardly around due to his job and this man still came to the house severally I refused to open the door because I don't know what you'd be doing in your friends house with his wife when he's not around.
Woh! Don't be unfortunate today.

Don’t mind them dear.. I totally understand you. It can be so annoying when someone is constantly in your personal space with no sense of boundaries.

@veave, no need for all that outburst, it's just his opinion. I'm sure he didn't mean any offense. Any sane mind would obviously feel irritated by such a visitor. Familiarity they say breed contempt.

@Sir Haruna, please calm down as well. If you read her first post, her irritation was not only focused on food (which obviously, is becoming more important than money lately).
The daily visitor not only expose her home to the viral infection, with reccuring movements in and out of the home, he decide what to be offered him, and also intrudes into their privacy for like 10 hours daily.

E reach to annoy any normal human.

No vex guys, please stay safe.

Sir HarunaWest, your point is valid but don't expect any ladies in this forum to subscribe to your opinion. You tried your best to control the lady but instead she throw insult at you.

No one knows tomorrow and tomorrow is always pregnant are words that only few people understand. As you've said, the wife may not know their history, who knows the risk, sacrifice the said friend might have made for the said husband.

For a grown up man to be going to a friend house to eat, walahi not a good thing and no one will ever wish for that.

May God help us all.

madridguy:
Sir HarunaWest, your point is valid but don't expect any ladies in this forum to subscribe to your opinion. You tried your best to control the lady but instead she throw insult at you.

No one knows tomorrow and tomorrow is always pregnant are words that only few people understand. As you've said, the wife may not know their history, who knows the risk, sacrifice the said friend might have made for the said husband.

For a grown up man to be going to a friend house to eat, walahi not a good thing and no one will ever wish for that.

May God help us all.

Is not about him going to the friend’s house to eat but not doing it properly. When you go visit someone , at-least give them some time to have some privacy to themselves. You come in morning then go at night everyday , isn’t it a bit too much? How would you be respected? The Bible even said one should not visit their neighbor frequently. At least they are not starving him despite he is choosy with food in a house that’s not his and with no courtesy whatsoever to bear with his host .

That’s too far for my liking . And let’s not forget she said the friend visits too whenever her husband is not around . Na from clap dem say Dey enter dance.

I pray God Almighty continue to bless you and your husband. For the sake of God don't send away your husband's friend. I know women enjoy their privacy especially this period that its avenue to get closer with your husband, gist and do many stuff together. Endure the situation and i know God will reward you. Remember he who fill a belly save a life.

When your husband is not around, he has no right to come around, i think this is what you need to tell your husband to address.

Hope i did not get you angry

veave:
This one that says he's my husband friend will come to the house and select what you will give him to eat, even if we are having a meal he can decide its not what he wants. Since covid he's been coming to this house every single day. I mean everyday. Come around 9am and leave around 7pm. The first week of covid I educated him on why people should not entertain guests in their house and why people should not visit anyone, my husband said I was disrespectful that I should allow him to do something bad so he can use his legs to run away. He thinks I have time to be following peace with all men.

What I will do to both of them?

I will call family meeting and ask my husband's parents to come and pay another bride price since its two people I'm marrying. How do you visit someone for 3weeks back to back? How? Omo some parents did not train their children abeg. It's irritating and I've had it up to here... Don't get me wrong food is not a big deal, but cutesy demands that when you go to someone's house, you respect yourself. This one will eat, ask for extra then when he's going if you made a new soup he'll ask you to give him take away. Then still come back 9am the next day. I've never seen this one in all my young life.

The man messed up visiting when his friend is not around. I think the madam should tell her husband to talk to his friend to stop visiting his house when he's not around. He can call his friend and reason with him if he need anything but going to his house is wrong.

As for him visiting everyday, no one knows what the man his passing through. Who knows maybe the man his doing that to escape depression which could lead to suicide or something silly. Who knows maybe NEPA has disconnected his power, and he thinks going to madam house, he will eat, watch cable TV, feel relax and even play video game. This is just my observation but one thing i know is that no man will like to beg his fellow man for food.

The said man will be crying inside too. Do you think its easy begging your fellow man money to eat? When you're not physically challenge. Going to a friend house to eat daily is not what any man will wish himself.

May God help us all.

Ginaz:
Is not about him going to the friend’s house to eat but not doing it properly. When you go visit someone , at-least give them some time to have some privacy to themselves. You come in morning then go at night everyday , isn’t it a bit too much? How would you be respected? The Bible even said one should not visit their neighbor frequently. At least they are not starving him despite he is choosy with food in a house that’s not his and with no courtesy whatsoever to bear with his host .

That’s too far for my liking . And let’s not forget she said the friend visits too whenever her husband is not around . Na from clap dem say Dey enter dance.

madridguy:
The man messed up visiting when his friend is not around. I think the madam should tell her husband to talk to his friend to stop visiting his house when he's not around. He can call his friend and reason with him if he need anything but going to his house is wrong.

As for him visiting everyday, no one knows what the man his passing through. Who knows maybe the man his doing that to escape depression which could lead to suicide or something silly. Who knows maybe NEPA has disconnected his power, and he thinks going to madam house, he will eat, watch cable TV, feel relax and even play video game. This is just my observation but one thing i know is that no man will like to beg his fellow man for food.

The said man will be crying inside too. Do you think its easy begging your fellow man money to eat? When you're not physically challenge. Going to a friend house to eat daily is not what any man will wish himself.

May God help us all.

Being emotional always won’t always help us. All these you listed won’t help . If he is financially handicap , what he would do is, seeking for help to stocked his house . Or ask for food provisions like rice, garri , yam or whatever to help him through .

That’s how someone who is organized would do.. it’s not easy anywhere . Even the house he goes to eat, does he knows the efforts it took for the lady and her husband to stock their house? Does he think it’s easy with them too because they have food?

Why do we always have the “me me me “ mentality? It’s not easy for those who provide too!! That man is an opportunist and lack organizational skills for his life . I know when to help people and know when one is misbehaving which this friend is doing .

A black man will use you and reuse you and somehow still make it look like it’s your fault he is suffering . He should get a hold of himself !! GOSH!

My sister leave emotion out of this. I don't know the man so am only airing my opinion but my point is this, no ones knows tomorrow. Shikena

Ginaz:
Being emotional always won’t always help us. All these you listed won’t help . If he is financially handicap , what he would do is, seeking for help to stocked his house . Or ask for food provisions like rice, garri , yam or whatever to help him through .

That’s how someone who is organized would do.. it’s not easy anywhere . Even the house he goes to eat, does he knows the efforts it took for the lady and her husband to stock their house? Does he think it’s easy with them too because they have food?

Why do we always have the “me me me “ mentality? It’s not easy for those who provide too!! That man is an opportunist and lack organizational skills for his life . I know when to help people and know when one is misbehaving which this friend is doing .

A black man will use you and reuse you and somehow still make it look like it’s your fault he is suffering . He should get a hold of himself !! GOSH!

madridguy:
My sister leave emotion out of this. I don't know the man so am only airing my opinion but my point is this, no ones knows tomorrow. Shikena

Lolz.. no one knows tomorrow true true . The Person you feed today fit kill you tomorrow so it’s 50-50.

Help people for God’s sake not cos they have something to offer you tomorrow cos you will be shock when the tomorrow comes and they deny your existence.

veave:
This one that says he's my husband friend will come to the house and select what you will give him to eat, even if we are having a meal he can decide its not what he wants. Since covid he's been coming to this house every single day. I mean everyday. Come around 9am and leave around 7pm. The first week of covid I educated him on why people should not entertain guests in their house and why people should not visit anyone, my husband said I was disrespectful that I should allow him to do something bad so he can use his legs to run away. He thinks I have time to be following peace with all men.

What I will do to both of them?

I will call family meeting and ask my husband's parents to come and pay another bride price since its two people I'm marrying. How do you visit someone for 3weeks back to back? How? Omo some parents did not train their children abeg. It's irritating and I've had it up to here... Don't get me wrong food is not a big deal, but cutesy demands that when you go to someone's house, you respect yourself. This one will eat, ask for extra then when he's going if you made a new soup he'll ask you to give him take away. Then still come back 9am the next day. I've never seen this one in all my young life.

He probably doesn't have food in his house.

Ginaz:
Don’t mind them dear.. I totally understand you. It can be so annoying when someone is constantly in your personal space with no sense of boundaries.

Ginaz u don buy data ?

majamajic:
Ginaz u don buy data ?

You Dey sell?

madridguy:
My sister leave emotion out of this. I don't know the man so am only airing my opinion but my point is this, no ones knows tomorrow. Shikena

You don’t have to indulge yourself trying to educate these girls here. Na Small pikin dey worry some of them here. They have everything going rosy for them courtesy of their husbands and they think it’s like that everywhere. Self centered creatures!!

Ginaz:
You Dey sell?

U dey data low key since this shotdown

majamajic:
U dey data low key since this shotdown

Na once once dem Dey show for area na

madridguy:
My sister leave emotion out of this. I don't know the man so am only airing my opinion but my point is this, no ones knows tomorrow. Shikena

Bia Nwoke, don't be insensitive. Forming good person online, people like you can do worse.

HarunaWest:
See thrash your talking Yen Yen Yen. Bond with your husband...so Na COVID make u wan bond with your husband nonsense... Bonding that should be an everyday thing. The husband buying the food isn't complaining, but you are complaining. Naso una dey turn devil's advocate if una Marry man. You want him to keep away from friends, do you know the history between him and that friend. You self centered B****.....you shouldn't be married, you don't deserve it.

God punish you for this thing you just said. Me B**** ? I can see you lack home training. Stupid Billy goat!

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ifex370:
Gen ke.. I say e no gree go house for life again

E carry bag come. From just one weekend to how many months now.

hahaha funy

veave:
This one that says he's my husband friend will come to the house and select what you will give him to eat, even if we are having a meal he can decide its not what he wants. Since covid he's been coming to this house every single day. I mean everyday. Come around 9am and leave around 7pm. The first week of covid I educated him on why people should not entertain guests in their house and why people should not visit anyone, my husband said I was disrespectful that I should allow him to do something bad so he can use his legs to run away. He thinks I have time to be following peace with all men.

What I will do to both of them?

I will call family meeting and ask my husband's parents to come and pay another bride price since its two people I'm marrying. How do you visit someone for 3weeks back to back? How? Omo some parents did not train their children abeg. It's irritating and I've had it up to here... Don't get me wrong food is not a big deal, but cutesy demands that when you go to someone's house, you respect yourself. This one will eat, ask for extra then when he's going if you made a new soup he'll ask you to give him take away. Then still come back 9am the next day. I've never seen this one in all my young life.

Hahahahah this is spook funy, my sister please tell your hubby to put that man in his place

veave:
Something is wrong with you. In this pandemic, where everyone is being asked to stay indoors and isolate that someone will be visiting another person? I don't want to trade words with you please don't annoy me further. I have not had anytime to bond with my husband all through this period because we have to entertain his friend. So I should put my own needs on hold so that I can please another person? Don't be unfortunate this morning. You hear me abi? Just don't be unfortunate.

Before the pandemic my husband is hardly around due to his job and this man still came to the house severally I refused to open the door because I don't know what you'd be doing in your friends house with his wife when he's not around.
Woh! Don't be unfortunate today.

aside the food part you need time to bond with your hubby and kids now, for me I really like to share with people but not when you have to displease yourself

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veave:
That is not the case i can tell you that. This guy in question is not even broke he just has a bad attitude. My husband is the type that doesn't like issues and a lot of people take advantage of that.

Okay let me give you an example. When ever he comes around the only thing he talks about is girls, drinks no meaningful conversation. One time he kept on calling all their friends that they should hang out because he has discovered a new hideout that still opens in covid and they all turned him down. My husband doesn't drink alcohol highest once in a long while but I noticed since he started coming to our house when he goes home at that 8:30 or 9pm at times my husband walks him halfway and joins him to drink a bottle. It then means in like 3 weeks he's drank at least 5times which has never happened before since I know him. He drinks like once a month. And for those saying do I know what the guy has done for my husband in the past? Please stop saying that. We dated well before marriage and I know all his real friends. This one no follow he has refused to grow up.

The irresponsible friend. It's your home, you know how best to politely tell off an intruder. Many people don't know when they intrude into other people's space and it's bad. Simply loud music and don't open d door, after knocking him go turn go house. If he doesn't get the message, then it's hopeless

HarunaWest:
See thrash your talking Yen Yen Yen. Bond with your husband...so Na COVID make u wan bond with your husband nonsense... Bonding that should be an everyday thing. The husband buying the food isn't complaining, but you are complaining. Naso una dey turn devil's advocate if una Marry man. You want him to keep away from friends, do you know the history between him and that friend. You self centered B****.....you shouldn't be married, you don't deserve it.

Does the man buy the food already prepared? Is it not the woman that will slave away to prepare a fresh meal that an unscrupulous visitor wants to eat? Seems you skipped d part where d man ain't always around before covid. There's some sort of respect that comes with being married, you can b dropping in like you used to when single.

madridguy:
The man messed up visiting when his friend is not around. I think the madam should tell her husband to talk to his friend to stop visiting his house when he's not around. He can call his friend and reason with him if he need anything but going to his house is wrong.

As for him visiting everyday, no one knows what the man his passing through. Who knows maybe the man his doing that to escape depression which could lead to suicide or something silly. Who knows maybe NEPA has disconnected his power, and he thinks going to madam house, he will eat, watch cable TV, feel relax and even play video game. This is just my observation but one thing i know is that no man will like to beg his fellow man for food.

The said man will be crying inside too. Do you think its easy begging your fellow man money to eat? When you're not physically challenge. Going to a friend house to eat daily is not what any man will wish himself.

May God help us all.

Forget that thing. He's irresponsible. Someone that gists about girls and drinking spot. Probably a fuvkboy who doesn't know he's now a man and who doesn't realise he's friend is now a man with family.

veave:
My sister, first day he asked for take away I was so happy ehn. I thought at least he would not come for a while let me give him enough to last him at least 4days. I used my big take away and loaded soup for him only to see him the next morning in the house.

Perhaps you and your husband should pay him a visit and see how that goes. Invade his privacy as well... Lol

Madan next time he ask you to cook tell am say you don tire, no dey give am face again

veave:
This one that says he's my husband friend will come to the house and select what you will give him to eat, even if we are having a meal he can decide its not what he wants. Since covid he's been coming to this house every single day. I mean everyday. Come around 9am and leave around 7pm. The first week of covid I educated him on why people should not entertain guests in their house and why people should not visit anyone, my husband said I was disrespectful that I should allow him to do something bad so he can use his legs to run away. He thinks I have time to be following peace with all men.

What I will do to both of them?

I will call family meeting and ask my husband's parents to come and pay another bride price since its two people I'm marrying. How do you visit someone for 3weeks back to back? How? Omo some parents did not train their children abeg. It's irritating and I've had it up to here... Don't get me wrong food is not a big deal, but cutesy demands that when you go to someone's house, you respect yourself. This one will eat, ask for extra then when he's going if you made a new soup he'll ask you to give him take away. Then still come back 9am the next day. I've never seen this one in all my young life.

you rant a lot, that man may even be the one to safe your family from financial calamity in the future, your husband knows better