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Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by realitynaija: 6:01pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Many times most people blame people in trouble because either they've not been through Silas issues or insincere. It's human to err, but divine to forgive. Women are demonic when they get the slightest opportunity to hijack control roles in marriages. Many times via finance, offence, or good nature of their hubbies. They often use children as their ultimate weapon of revenge. It's obvious this woman will not give up until she has fully messed up this man. Solution 1. Seek amiable solution with her, let her understand the implications particularly on the children, if this fails 2. Move out of her life, seek to up your life remotely from her and the children 3. Try all your best to succeed b4 any contact with her and the children 4. Try to support the children, if they are willing, on your return, if not, be man enough to move on with your life, new wife, new family. 5. Women are mean and unforgiving, they easily forget your past good but never forgets your current mistakes. Moreover, they see children as their social service reward. They do everything possible to ensure that father's are deprived of that benefit possibly entirely. Check history. 6 Likes |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by timocruzcmbb(m): 6:01pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
All you need is some little action make the whole house see film,all your kids will fear you and your wife too,get really angry and pissed and yell at the kids if they refuse your errands,na you marry your wife and na you born the kids,stop been a gentle man at this point,if not your daughters will do the same to her husbands.oga all you need is to para small and the whole neighborhood will come and beg you.and they will talk to her very well. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by coretechng1(m): 6:02pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Stinolexis:True talk bro.He should understand his situation better than anyone else. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Martinez39s(m): 6:03pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
@paul8000 1) Are you the breadwinner/provider of the family? 2) Does your wife make more money than you currently? 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by ZombiePUNISHER: 6:03pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Ironic: The wife has the pepper And you can't beat your kids and wife mehn It's dialogue.. The wife has a lot to say And he needs to get some one she respects to make her talk.... Once the issues are out there.... There is hope 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by gentlemate00: 6:04pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
That was powerful message! Nice one Ladylite: 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by BuddhaPalm(m): 6:04pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Your children should "fear" you more than they do their mother. If Mopol tell you make you lie down and army say make you enter gutter... I am sure you will comply with the soldier. Which one is kneeling down to beg your wife? You've been weak all over the place, and this is the result. |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by vezycash(m): 6:05pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Amya: Gbam, your head dey there. |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by israelmao(m): 6:05pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
I am not here to judge you but cheating in love relationship is a serious breach of trust,it doesn't matter how some people see or call it in our modern day.Many people think in this part of world that men have exclusive preserve of cheating on their partners but how would they feel if their partners cheat on them?Jealousy is not all bad because it is a strong sign or an expression of true love,I want you know that your wife still loves you only that she doesn't know how to handle the situation in a mature manner.Please,I advise you to hang on and look for people your wife respects and are trustworthy to mediate in this matter.Though you didn't furnish us with the details of what led to current scenario, I guess you purposely refused to delve into it.Try once again to mend fences with her if it fails, restort to the last option I just gave you.Thank God,your wife has not gone telling people outside about your matter but confided in your children in spite of division she caused between you and your children.Good luck. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Stillthebest: 6:06pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Terrible. This life! Marriage! Everything about life is scam! Who told the wife that she would live to see the children prosper? Let's not worry about certain things if there is no enough financial strength like my formal landlord who took all his children abroad and nevrr allowed the mother to see them for 12 years. The woman cries everyday till now. But he did well by giving her a house and another one to rent out. What's important for a man is to try hard to satisfy his family and leave the rest for nature to take care of. The moment a man is ready to lose that most desired thing his burden reduces. Before marriage be ready to make it work and also be ready to say bye to love if it doesnt work. Your solution might be to leave the woman for now or forver to find happiness if you have no ball to create a scene yet. No one can give you happiness except yourself. However, philandering is not good. So you need a new you but surely outside that marriage if: advice from family and friends don't work, if your begging doesnt work, if you cany create a "film" for them all. And I doubt you can do all these because you seem weak who can only Bleep around but cant hand a wife and children... Have you heard " WERE LON SOKO OBIRIN" Meaning na man mad dey be husband for a woman. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by ildivino0z: 6:06pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Oga u are a weak man... Women can change overnight, disrespect u but not ur kids... Eh. U av to discipline them. Let their mother keep misbehaving ignore her but for the future of your kids, deal with them and have great talks with them regularly.. Soon d game will change and their mum will b the one seeking their attention... As a man never loose grip of ur home.. Never |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by hollah123: 6:06pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Paul8000:like seriously I never read this part b4 I made my first comment....u cheated ,yea she might not see it as a big deal after u begged but u have a boy from that(evidence of cheating).Do u know how heartbroken she was when she heard that after everything I both went through n what u work towards She can never forget n she knows irrespective of whatever she laboured together with u a strange woman will b a part of it someday cos u will give d boy something n d boy will give his mother.Bro at this stage of your life, all u need for yourself is a soft landing cos the children are old enough to see everything. Pray to God,change your ways n convince them alot that u are truly a changed man All d best 8 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by hermesprogidy(m): 6:07pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Paul8000:You are fucking weak. Is your wife the breadwinner? Even if she is, it's no excuse to be a domestic rag. 6-year-old kids disobeying you, what will they do when they are 16? You need to act like a crazy person. Beat the shit out of those kids, and leave the house. Go make your own money and do not return until she begs. Why are my even typing this? I don't believe the story. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by coretechng1(m): 6:07pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
AdaoraNK:He can plead till tomorrow nothing would change.The woman doesn't know the implication of what she is doing on her children. Most Women only listen to their pastors,he should get her pastor to speak to her on the implication of what she is doing on her children as it is she doesn't know and wont stop. |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Nobody: 6:07pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
sexybash:If you are offended by the 'just cheating' that was not said to trivialise what he did. I explained in a later quote. |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by PapaAdanna: 6:08pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
My brother I can feel your pain According to you, "You have tried to make things work and have even knelt down to beg her and she did accept" Infact she is a shild Not funny though, she's mean! |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by dominique(f): 6:08pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Dande55: 10/10 I wish I can give this post 1000 likes 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by demeele: 6:10pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
A good wife will never teach d children to hate their father 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by toprealman: 6:10pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Paul8000:Guy put your house in order. Leave all external issues and tackle this all important one. |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Stillthebest: 6:10pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
timocruzcmbb: This is another solution but not many can do it. |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by VeeVeeMyLuv(m): 6:10pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Mr Paul there are technically 6 women including your wife holding bitter grudges against you. U dont know yet. Their knowledge of you having a son will always hunt them. This one is too colossal to forgive 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Nobody: 6:10pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Just like my brothers, they all know I smoke weed so they want me to feel guilty and lose my self respect. They try hard to not respect me. I can even hear them sometimes calling me funny names. But life happens, and it is filled with so many opportunities to rectify your Bleep up. In the morning, I wake up and take my God given position. I organize, and declare goodies, and scold or punish (when I'm VERY SURE someone misbehaves). Your wife and kids are hoping for a responsible father who knows what's right and what's wrong. Beating your wife or your kids is not the way. Let your actions show who is supreme in the house. And if your wife really is the shot caller, then be loyal to her and to her friends, and her family, and your children, and live a happy life. Play 'stupidly' and laugh with your sons and lose yourself in your home once in a while. In summary, to be a man is not a days job. Like I said, guilt and shame will only embarrass you out of your own household. Whatever wrong you've done or they've done, forgive yourself and forgive them, and drink lots of water, and sleep often. You're a good man. So let them know that you can be a bad man too. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by tommy589(m): 6:11pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Digitiminimi: I was having this line of thought when I was single. And was with the same idea when I got married to the first and eventually became a polygamist. Except you are harsh or mean,don't think been a millionaire is the way out to manage polygamy. It is the most uncomfortable situation I later found myself. If you are not comfortable with a woman divorce her and get another. If it takes you ten women to find your choice,so be it. There are still good women out there. I am married to only one now and she is my world 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by DEADALIVE: 6:11pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Simple find other meaningful things to engage yourself and ignore the woman....do all your possible best to concentrate your hard earned resources in training and bringing up the last two children...let the rest depend on their mother too... and see who benefits....this generation is all about #selfinterest. |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Nobody: 6:11pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
go read being the strong man a woman wants.. U're not showing enough leadership and now behaving like a grown ass good natured child, u have to be Worthy to lead ur home and ensure that your wife don't disrespect you even when she doesn't agree with you.. U deserve better |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Rilwayne001: 6:13pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Paul8000: Why didn't you put this along in the OP and gave us half baked stories? Chai. |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Nobody: 6:13pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
merieam16: Best advice...! |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by gentlemate00: 6:14pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
@OP or Mr.Paul did you cheated on your wife before because i know someone in similar situation. Paul8000: |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by ikdaddy01(m): 6:14pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
I am glad you are able to control your anger even at extreme provocation. Whatever the case might be; who z at fault will come later. The concern is on your kids. They listen to your wife cause that's person who is always near to them at most instances Your kids have grown and belive me even the youngest understand what is going on. No matter what ur wife tells them as you said they always will discern for themselves now or in the future ...through your actions and words. These will form memories they will hold on to. Childhood moments. No one have all the answers in these matters. Amidst all this, Do find leisure time with the kids. Dont concentrate on the last 2 as you are doing. The adults might not be able to Express themselves now due to their teen nature or fear or their loyalty to their mother. They might be unhappy with on your inability to keep their once happy home together. Now you are the cause according to their mother. And look at it, maybe anytime you come home what happens.... Be not despair. Children, good children still know the truth. Among my folks I knew who was good and who was bad. Staying away from might be necessary at times but 3 days might no be ideal. These are actions that help in fielding discord as well as help your wife's case. Have a happy home. |
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