BlackSwan:
Don't make the mistake of marrying him because he will also display this stinginess in marriage
He isn't testing you, forget what guys here are saying.
Run, run from him because people like him can be stingy to even their children. I made the mistake of marrying one, since we started having kids he has never gone out and come back with biscuit or juice or a small gift for our kids. Not to mention me the wife, that one na mission impossible.

Thank you, I also have a friend in the same shoes. She is regretting the marriage

pickatyou:
Is he your father

She said he has never given her N10. Bros reason this na,can you allow your sister get marry to such man? This year alone,I can't count how many guys I have given money to,and most of them were not close friends,not to talk of my girlfriend or fiancée.
What is bad is bad. I don't blame the guy though,I blame the stupid girls who don't know what they want. They ignore good guys and go for low lives.

RisenPhoenix:
He thinks like I do. Why spend any money at all on a woman who can decide to leave you early tomorrow morning because one of her exes came back from his drug runs in Malaysia and she thinks he is a better prospect? Will I get a refund?

The first cash outlay that any man should make on any woman not his mother is her bride price. It is only after that, that the man is duty bound to shoulder all the home expenses.

My God 'll continue to bless u in his infinite mercies, u have said it all.

mharyamikeola92:
Pls help me move this to front page.

I am a working class lady and I hardly demand things from whosoever I love.

There is this guy that I ave been dating for years now. I don’t know what to call his behavior, whether it is stinginess or the other way round.

I noticed that whenever he comes visiting, he doesn’t bring anything and I get to cook and takecare of him. I was forced to talk 1 day.

The last time he came visiting, he brought bread and other stuffs along which he ended up eating all by himself. I decided not to cook or do anything but I couldn't take it so we went out to buy stuffs. I needed to use POS and I forgot my phone at home. So I begged him to transfer 5k to the lady and that I was going to transfer back to him when we get home. We ended up using the money to get chicken, pepper and other stuffs.

On getting home I demanded for his account details in order to transfer the money back and to my surprise, he gave me and I transferred the money.

My major concern is that this guy has never given me common N10 and he is working. I don’t know if he's worth settling down with cos I fear for my future. Will he be able to give if he has more? This is the guy that is already telling me to come meet his mum cos she wants to see me.

Pls no insults, just advice.

You are dating a leech who doesn't see u worthy of his money but his dick

More to this than stinginess....


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BluntTheApostle:


No wonder the men you dated chose to spend on someone else while they were dating you.

They were stingy to you but generous to some other girls.

At least, you should realize that they were not really stingy, but they chose not to spend on you because of this attitude you have shown me.

Anyway, I don't have to prove anything to you. My intention remains to ensure that you don't use your own experience (which may have even be caused solely by you) to mislead someone else.

Giving advice here needs serious thought and consideration. You can't just tell someone that their boyfriend is spending on some other girl simply because you faced same in your own life.

Many homes have been broken due to poor advice given by emotional women like yourself.

Is this the epistle you wanted to drop? I jump you pass...LEECH

Evercurious:



Is this the epistle you wanted to drop? I jump you pass...LEECH

Well, we all know who the leech is here.

Or were not the one angry that some boys you dated in the past refused to spend on you but rather spent on some other girls?

Well, no one really wants to spend money on a leech.

The earlier you realize this, the better for you.

tabithababy:
Op, I beg you , forget the guy

Or prepare to feed him, his kids, his family and side chicks from your own money

He keeps seeing you as a fo'ool.... Am very sure you are giving him free sex, money, food and even calling him with your money

Loove ooooo

When did sex become something people pay for.

Vega100:


It is because of people like you I now pay every lady I f*uck, and now see all like sex workers, na still because of people like you to see wife done hard me, despite how hard I try!!!
E no go better for all the women like you when don make every girl look like common prostitutes, e no go better for all of una one bit, the God i serve go punish all of una finish and make it also hard for you to see any good thing in this life.

Amen!!!

. Yes... E no go better for all the female members of your family including your mother... Spits on your mother smelling pussy

BluntTheApostle:




Well, we all know who the leech is here.

Or were not the one angry that some boys you dated in the past refused to spend on you but rather spent on some other girls?

Well, no one really wants to spend money on a leech.

The earlier you realize this, the better for you.

LEECH... PARASITE..

Evercurious:


LEECH... PARASITE..

E pain am.

edoboy74:


Ashawo, I know your plan ��� you wan sugar cost your reply make one or two okpopai’s reason you based on one side local government and if they do you go chop their pussy then wash hand run. E no go work I done cast the laws of Nairaland for your body and you no go for commot am.

what are you talking about? get sense and read my reply again.

1234IKECHhukwu:
My God 'll continue to bless u in his infinite mercies, u have said it all.

This one you're saying is poor man talk

tabithababy:
. Yes... E no go better for all the female members of your family including your mother... Spits on your mother smelling pussy

Stop this stinking behaviour of yours, why do you have to bring the guy's mum in your mess?

Square up to the guy and not bring his/her parents into your mess ok.

I get 2 things to yarn!
1. I would say he is not romantic
2.people when dae say make u break up, u knw when u go see another guy when get sense..?

Arsenate:

Bro, no disrespect, but you are dating Funmistiqueen which means you have an extremely poor taste in women and hence you are in no position to call another man half a man.

Just take several seats and stfu.

Okay. You saved me from typing this.

olaniyilukman:
My dear lady, I will humbly advice you to exercise alot of patience with him. In my own view, the guy is watching all what you are doing for him and he decided to keep mute about the development, he might have been discussing your issue with his friends as well and might even be proud of you in proxy. Such guy do take care of girls walahi, I swear you will enjoy him to the fullest if you exercise alot patience...

you nailed it, this is just what many missed in a relationship. A guy will see some good characters and keep it to himself

nairalanduseles:


U need to travel

Only gold diggers think like u

not when your name is useless�

Auntyesther:
not when your name is useless�

Goodmorning.
Its been long, hope no problem.

Drince:
Goodmorning.
Its been long, hope no problem.

Am fine thank you dear
None at all

Pls help me move this to front page.

I am a working class lady and I hardly demand things from whosoever I love.

There is this guy that I ave been dating for years now. I don’t know what to call his behavior, whether it is stinginess or the other way round.

I noticed that whenever he comes visiting, he doesn’t bring anything and I get to cook and takecare of him. I was forced to talk 1 day.

The last time he came visiting, he brought bread and other stuffs along which he ended up eating all by himself. I decided not to cook or do anything but I couldn't take it so we went out to buy stuffs. I needed to use POS and I forgot my phone at home. So I begged him to transfer 5k to the lady and that I was going to transfer back to him when we get home. We ended up using the money to get chicken, pepper and other stuffs.

On getting home I demanded for his account details in order to transfer the money back and to my surprise, he gave me and I transferred the money.

My major concern is that this guy has never given me common N10 and he is working. I don’t know if he's worth settling down with cos I fear for my future. Will he be able to give if he has more? This is the guy that is already telling me to come meet his mum cos she wants to see me.

Pls no insults, just advice.

I have a similar problem, I don't know if its wrong or right
he doesn't even have my account details�, I don't need any one to take care of me or anything but at least if you're going to claim me then make an effort to take care of me
I only asked for money twice and I had to cancel my requests because of how difficult it seemed for him and how guilty I felt, he's working not broke, I don't see it as a real challenge because I've accomplished somethings all alone, but my friends mostly the guys have insisted that naturally a man likes to provide for the woman he claims to love , i've never received gifts so I'm already used to it but still sometimes I feel somehow and a lot of times I feel he's probably spoiling someone else , but who knows , he might really need every single penny �

edoboy74:



She is not worth any penny from that guy, if she really love him like how she made us feel, she won’t bring this topic or report her bf to this forum... she is a gold digger

Oga women don't love without gain. Men do love

Greatzeus:

She said he has never given her N10. Bros reason this na,can you allow your sister get marry to such man? This year alone,I can't count how many guys I have given money to,and most of them were not close friends,not to talk of my girlfriend or fiancée.
What is bad is bad. I don't blame the guy though,I blame the stupid girls who don't know what they want. They ignore good guys and go for low lives.

Oga how can u take a Ladies work seriously. Haba. She exaggerated. Her pain was de 5k he collected. Believe u in me de boy or man must be very handsome or he is good at sex. I no women alot. Dere stinginess won't let Dem date dere type

oazeez1991:
Funny enough, d guy in question av also commented. Biko, no one shud ask me 4 his moniker o Funny enough, d guy in question av also commented. Biko, no one shud ask me 4 his moniker o..lol!

In oda news, communication is key. Wen ur partner is doin smtin u don't like, u trash it out wif him/her nd not kip it 2 urself or seek 3rd parties intervention. Evri relationship is unique. So, don't weigh urs based on wat u hear or see 4rm odaz. D grass is not olwez greener at d older side.

She can't say it out bcus she doesn't have a point. To me de guy is innocent of his alleged crime

Ortintin:
First Op how old are you.
2. On a scale of 1-10 rate ur beauty

My thought is that u are some1 well due for marriage and this ur guy knows he is doing u a favor by promising to marry u.
Besides if u are that pretty u won't even consider a stingy guy at all.

Exactly. De guy is doing her. A favor. You are really a psychologist. She doesn't love de guy, she's just with de guy bcus of her present condition. Either ugly, too black, too short, or above 30.

pocohantas:
Don’t let anyone deceive you. There is nothing nice about a STINGY PARTNER.


I didn’t say boyfriend, I said partner. Be it male or female.

A partner that you are even seeing regularly, should be able to give you something. No matter how little.

It is not parasitism, it is common sense. No one is independent in the true sense of it. If you were so independent, you both wouldn’t have the need for each other.

That same guy will be begging another girl to send acct number. You’ll be there doing wife material. Okay na!

The only female nairaland dat gives me joy. I wic u a very good and understanding husband.

Yungsym:
He's just too stingy, Guys we should 4get abt he's saving money to marry her....I was dating a lady back in Abj but whenever am going visiting I get food stuff and even take her out on a date

Now where is de gal. Oga get sense abeg

edoboy74:



All the boys you went around to visit with your two left legs yesterday, how many bread did you buy for them, I’m very sure you visited them with the motive of going there to feed your hungry belly, bill & even ask for your transport fare back home

Just leave African women n dere wahala

EfonAlaaye2023:
Op is he from ijebu town? ijebu man that studied business administration/Economics na double wahala o