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chigo5:
ur bestie Don chop?

chop wetin? there is more to friendship than sex.

Jokerman:
When you have a partner, you'd understand

maybe.

Eberechi24:
lol. must sex be involved?

If it’s not involved then what’s the point ?

mattfeuter:
If it’s not involved then what’s the point?

the point is we are friends. that's all. not everybody should be your fuckmate. Learn the art of discipline. it will go a long way for you.

This girl is mean oo.. so u are trying to have two cookies at once.. fear God oo

Eberechi24:
lol. must sex be involved?

for bestie yes

Lol, na fuckmate be dat

lefulefu:
for bestie yes

Eberechi24:
Hmmm false. Well, it depends on the definition of friendship. I have a male bestie but we haven't bleeped and never will. He has a hot gf.

keep on fooling urself ma, one day #monkey go go maket he no go come back, dnt forget ur heart is made of meat and not stone , again homones that control sexual urge , can be easily overwhelmed if one gives room for opposite sex to go beyond boundary. Lastly but most important. Do not underrate Satan.
no time to explain the points listed above.
*your boyfriend/husband, dad and blood brothers are enough to be ur male besties# .

Eberechi24:
Bestie don't have emotional attachments, just someone that flows with your vibes.

It causes unnecessary strings attachment. Let your bf be your bestie. Male friends, Yeah. Male bestie, scam.
As soon as my female friends get into a serious relationship, I cut off straight away.
Happy birthday

"It's almost like our relationship didn't mean anything to him and I didn't mean anything to him".


Be honest with yourself.
What do you really want from this innocent young Dude?

Suzzi23:
Hi guys. Please I need advice.

There is this guy in my department. Let's call him Joe. He is good looking and very intelligent. He also has this very nice voice and good vocabulary. Initially we were just normal casual classmates, we greet, exchange notes and all that, nothing serious. I've always found him attractive but have not found him special in any way because I've met lots of guys like him in my University.

But few months ago he started becoming more friendly towards me. We got talking and we realized we shared a lot in common. He asked me if I was single and I told him I was. This was the truth because I wasn't dating anyone then.

Few days after another guy I was very close to asked me to be his girlfriend and I agreed. I'm in love with this guy. He is very jovial, intelligent and he knows how to treat me well. I know he loves me because I've known him for a while and he has treated me with love, affection and respect. It's always fun being around him and I enjoy his company.

Despite now being in a relationship, I still continued spending time with Joe. We shared a lot of deep intimate info about ourselves with each other. I have never felt more comfortable talking to someone before. Talking to him always made me feel good. I felt I could be vulnerable with him. He was very honest and didn't hide the dark aspects of himself. He wasn't the type to pretend he was a good person. And he wasn't. He had done a lot of bad things in the past and he wasn't afraid to talk to me about them. And although this might sound weird I liked the fact that he wasn't the typical "moral individual" I was used to meeting. I liked the fact that he had a dark personality that only me knew about. He said things to me that made me begin to explore myself and my sexuality in ways I didn't even imagine that I could. He was always fond of teasing me and never hesitated to correct me if I did anything wrong. I loved that kind of honesty.

As we talked more Joe opened up to me that he was attracted to me and had feelings for me. He would flirt with me and I'd try my best not to flirt back but I enjoyed his flirting and I enjoyed his company. He asked me if I felt the same way about him and I was honest and I said I had feelings for him, because I did. He is an attractive guy and even though I have a boyfriend I can't help being attracted to him..

He then asked me to be his girlfriend and I told him I was already dating someone. He was surprised by my response. He told me he was under the impression that I was single and that's why he had gotten so close and intimate with me. But he didn't appear angry or sad. He even told me my bf was lucky to have me.

The problem now is that since that day he hasn't talked to me. When I see him in class, he doesn't even act like I exist. He doesn't reply my messages, doesn't pick up my calls and doesn't check up on me. Throughout this lockdown he hasn't even texted me once. This is unlike him. I feel very bad about the whole thing. It's almost like our relationship didn't mean anything to him and I didn't mean anything to him. I want to still be friends with him.

You want to continue to friendzone him. No my sis....no man enjoy that zone. You can't be in a relationship and keep another man that's attracted to you by the side. That's playing with fire. He has done the most honourable thing, let him move on and find a girl of his dreams

in April already, Joe has won my man of the year. Dignity in one's self is a rare commodity these days

Eberechi24:
Hmmm false. Well, it depends on the definition of friendship. I have a male bestie but we haven't bleeped and never will. He has a hot gf.

happy birthday wullnp

Well I just did the same to a girl. she finds me fascinating and would spend half of her day in my room. I love her but she already had a boyfriend. I decided to let go of her and wash her off my mind. I became incommunicado with her to emancipate myself from potential emotional depression. I cannot pretend to be a friend with no strings with someone I know I love so much. it hurts and I must commend that guys courage too. it takes real men to draw the line of separation from desperation because what is yours will be yours, but what's not yours, no matter how hard you try will never be yours.

Millenniumlady:
Use the both guys to your advantage


Keep joe guy for assignments and handout test and other class stuff



While use the new guy for your finances phones,clothes,eateries wigs


And please stay in school hostle that way non of them can bother you with sex cause they can't gain access to girls hostel and you ever visit any of them reduce your sexual conversation with joe guy and learn to keep your phone private.....Hope it helps

a woman has confirmed what ubunja and martinez39 has been preaching in this romance page.

and people will still come and abuse them. "MANIPULATION"

What is your GPA

coronavirus19:
Lol, I had similar experience with a girl like that recently, almost like ur story except the fact that I don't have any dark experience. After she told me she has a boyfriend, that was the last time we ever spoke or chatted since this lockdown. Me don japa already for her matter

Naso dem dey do.. The problem Is at one point something sexual would have happened btw you too.. All these girls dey confuse.

Agarli:
happy birthday wullnp

Thank you darling.

anochuko01:
It causes unnecessary strings attachment. Let your bf be your bestie. Male friends, Yeah. Male bestie, scam.
As soon as my female friends get into a serious relationship, I cut off straight away.
Happy birthday

Ok. Your advice noted. My bestie will continue to be my bestie until a boyfriend spring up

Thanks for the birthday wish.

Eberechi24:
Ok. Your advice noted. My bestie will continue to be my bestie until a boyfriend spring up

Thanks for the birthday wish.

Oh, since there's no bf, then there's no problem.
Wey the cake

ojuu4u:
keep on fooling urself ma, one day #monkey go go maket he no go come back, dnt forget ur heart is made of meat and not stone , again homones that control sexual urge , can be easily overwhelmed if you give room for opposite sex to close to you, lastly but most important. Do not underate Satan.
no time to explain the points listed above.
*your boyfriend/husband, dad and blood brothers are enough to be ur besties ma.

Ok, Sir but I am not fooling myself. I have total control over my emotions and feelings. They don't control me.
I appreciate your concern very well.

The last paragraph is noted.

Eberechi24:
Lol, he must do bestie

By force by fire....

anochuko01:
Oh, since there's no bf, then there's no problem.
Wey the cake

Here Sir.

She wont

Most of them females are guilty of this shit..

J111333:
For wanting to friendzone that innocent but smart dude, you probably won't make heaven.

J111333:
For wanting to friendzone that innocent but smart dude, you probably won't make heaven.

God bless you. She wants to eat her cake and still have it.

Millenniumlady:
Use the both guys to your advantage


Keep joe guy for assignments and handout test and other class stuff



While use the new guy for your finances phones,clothes,eateries wigs


And please stay in school hostle that way non of them can bother you with sex cause they can't gain access to girls hostel and you ever visit any of them reduce your sexual conversation with joe guy and learn to keep your phone private.....Hope it helps

The experience mama

Millenniumlady:
Use the both guys to your advantage


Keep joe guy for assignments and handout test and other class stuff



While use the new guy for your finances phones,clothes,eateries wigs


And please stay in school hostle that way non of them can bother you with sex cause they can't gain access to girls hostel and you ever visit any of them reduce your sexual conversation with joe guy and learn to keep your phone private.....Hope it helps

Girls... Its wickedness you people deserve...wickedness!!!

Eberechi24:
the point is we are friends. that's all. not everybody should be your fuckmate. Learn the art of discipline. it will go a long way for you.

Sorry , aunty discipline LOL

mattfeuter:
Sorry , aunty discipline LOL

Lol. You can say that again

He was late to express his feelings, he felt bad you had already been taken.
Allow him to grieve

Frankicent:
Naso dem dey do.. The problem Is at one point something sexual would have happened btw you too.. All these girls dey confuse.

You get am bro. Something sexual has happened but not so deep.