Rozz:
did you catch them red-handed cheating?dont say what you are not sure of,also you don't know what goes on in their marriage,you are just an outsider

Don't you find it curious that just a short while ago you were busy touting how you know men who will never cheat on their wives because they love and respect her, yet when I tell you I know women PERSONALLY who have cheated on their husbands, you suddenly start preaching about being an outsider?

Well the answer to your question is, I didn't just catch them red-handed, I am aware of the people they cheated with.

Rozz:
I know you are already cheating on your partner,please stop it's not good

I know you're still sleeping and living comfortably inside your head, please wake up to reality... It's not good.

ednut1:
small pikin dey worry this one. As if she better pass Hillary Clinton, Beyonce, ex oyo first lady whose husband's all cheated and they no gree divorce. Small pikin who thinks life and marriage revolves around cheating lol

She said she will have money, so she won't accept cheating..

My chest

emmaodet:


I think it as to do with many factors some of which are but not limited to -

Low self esteem - when you don't place a value on yourself, people will take advantage of you. When you think you are the problem and reason for which your hubby is cheating instead of knowing he took those decisions by himself and there is little or none how you can influence it.
He has to face the music.
Laziness - laziness leads to compromise.
If you are not productive enough to live the kind of life you picture, then you will have to compromise for a cheating hubby who is providing it for you.
A lot of rich and average guys in lekki, banana island, victoria island cheat a lot, even to the faces of their wives but such wives will rather stay put a live the luxurious life, good cars, sweet mansions, clean environment than breaking up with the men and probably live a lower life. They are too lazy to provide the kind of life the wish to live nor are they ready to live a lower life filled with integrity, self respect and value.
Sis, to most women, marriage is business.
They will subconsciously calculate how much they will be getting monthly as upkeep, cars, comfort, access to get easy visa and regularly travel out and on the long run the properties than she and the kids will get with money when the man puff and stay put, receiving bullshits and they rub it on her face.

That is why it's easier for a man to let go a cheating partner or not forgive her because on average, most men don't derive any tangible properties, cash or something of value to warrant and endure a cheating spouse.
Most women don't even have any leverage to compensate or compromise them cheating. In other words, they don't bring much to the table to forgive them cheating.
Remember, we all have a price. Most nigerian men will endure a cheating white woman just to get Residency permit of Citizenship. If you want to cheat, then bring values to the table and not just pvssy.

Beautiful post but what about the broke men that cheats on their wives? Things are changing and i know many homes in which both couples bring 50/ 50 to the tsble sometimes the women even provide more and their husbands still cheats on them

crackkhaus:

Don't you find it curious that just a short while ago you were busy touting how you know men who will never cheat on their wives because they love and respect her, yet when I tell you I know women PERSONALLY who have cheated on their husbands, you suddenly start preaching about being an outsider?

Well the answer to your question is, I didn't just catch them red-handed, I am aware of the people they cheated with.

just few out of millions but reverse is the case for men

Candanyl:



Beautiful post but what about the broke men that cheats on their wives? Things are changing and i know many homes in which both couples bring 50/ 50 to the tsble sometimes the women even provide more and their husbands still cheats on them

To me, only a useless, foolish, hopeless idiot of a husband will be cheating on his wife supporting the home to a large extent financially.
If am the wife, i will give him like 2 benefit of doubts after which if he continues, i will divorce his ass and stay alone with my kids to have rest of mind and avoid sti.

crackkhaus:

I know you're still sleeping and living comfortably inside your head, please wake up to reality... It's not good.

Iol

emmaodet:


To me, only a useless, foolish, hopeless idiot of a husband will be cheating on his wife supporting the home to a large extent financially.
If am the wife, i will give him like 2 benefit of doubts after which if he continues, i will divorce his ass and stay alone with my kids to have rest of mind and avoid sti.

Why do I feel like you're supporting cheating for men if the woman doesn't bring in financially? Fianancial contribution shouldn't be the reason to or not to cheat for both

Rozz:
only if it involves you will it be real else it is just hearsay

Not hear say ma. I said real time

Expensiverichyb:
Why do I feel like you're supporting cheating for men if the woman doesn't bring in financially? Fianancial contribution shouldn't be the reason to or not to cheat for both

Not really, on a normal ground, cheating should not be condone but one thing is to expect it not to be done, another is it happening in reality.
In reality, a lot of married men cheat very much which is very bad but i can't control this, i can't tell them not to cheat rather what i will advice a woman to do is to make sure atleast she has a leverage incase such happens so that she won't totally be at the mercy of the man.
If i have a daughter, that is the advice i will give her even though the hubby is responsible and Godfearing. I will still advice her to have an income in case of any funny behavior in future even if it is not going to happen.
Just a leverage. I understand it shouldn't be like that but what can we do? A lit of our grandfathers and fathers abused the traditional system of man providing and woman taking care of the home, so we should learn from these bitter experiences.
A wise man learns from others mistakes and not his.

emmaodet:


Not really, on a normal ground, cheating should not be condone but one thing is to expect it not to be done, another is it happening in reality.
In reality, a lot of married men cheat very much which is very bad but i can't control this, i can't tell them not to cheat rather what i will advice a woman to do is to make sure atleast she has a leverage incase such happens so that she won't totally be at the mercy of the man.
If i have a daughter, that is the advice i will give her even though the hubby is responsible and Godfearing. I will still advice her to have an income in case of any funny behavior in future even if it is not going to happen.
Just a leverage. I understand it shouldn't be like that but what can we do? A lit of our grandfathers and fathers abused the traditional system of man providing and woman taking care of the home, so we should learn from these bitter experiences.
A wise man learns from others mistakes and not his.

You're right.

ednut1:
bye. Lemme stop wasting my time here

lol

Rozz:
women hardly cheat if they are loved and properly taken care of by their husbands

Forgive me but I have to laugh at this statement.

Says who. Eating egusi soup for life doesn't sound palatable at all but...... . Keep dreaming, baby

Oluromantic:

It's not a theory and the issue is not where it came from, it's when you will come to terms with the reality of it.

My reality doesn't have to necessarily yours.

emmaodet:


I think it as to do with many factors some of which are but not limited to -

Low self esteem - when you don't place a value on yourself, people will take advantage of you. When you think you are the problem and reason for which your hubby is cheating instead of knowing he took those decisions by himself and there is little or none how you can influence it.
He has to face the music.
Laziness - laziness leads to compromise.
If you are not productive enough to live the kind of life you picture, then you will have to compromise for a cheating hubby who is providing it for you.
A lot of rich and average guys in lekki, banana island, victoria island cheat a lot, even to the faces of their wives but such wives will rather stay put a live the luxurious life, good cars, sweet mansions, clean environment than breaking up with the men and probably live a lower life. They are too lazy to provide the kind of life the wish to live nor are they ready to live a lower life filled with integrity, self respect and value.
Sis, to most women, marriage is business.
They will subconsciously calculate how much they will be getting monthly as upkeep, cars, comfort, access to get easy visa and regularly travel out and on the long run the properties than she and the kids will get with money when the man puff and stay put, receiving bullshits and they rub it on her face.

That is why it's easier for a man to let go a cheating partner or not forgive her because on average, most men don't derive any tangible properties, cash or something of value to warrant and endure a cheating spouse.
Most women don't even have any leverage to compensate or compromise them cheating. In other words, they don't bring much to the table to forgive them cheating.
Remember, we all have a price. Most nigerian men will endure a cheating white woman just to get Residency permit of Citizenship. If you want to cheat, then bring values to the table and not just pvssy.

See analysis

Expensiverichyb:
you're right. It's sad because even the man in this scenario is at risk. Imaging married to someone who takes all the shit from you because you're her money making machine. She might not geniuely love you but because of what you offer. Such person has no reason to complain about any cheating nature in her spouse.
The bottom line is, when everyone stop getting married for the wrong reasons, things might get better.

emmaodet:
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At the bolded, Exactly bro.
If your wife is bringing 40% and above to the marriage, then you must be a Very Useless man to even think of cheating.
If i find myself in that situation, then i will have to compromise.
I will fully help out in house chores and keep doing everything possible to keep motivating and encouraging her and not add not become silly by adding cheating to it.
That is why i see most ladies who broke shame guys as myopic.
They don't want to hustle and move their asses so that they can marry stable guys.
If you don't bring much to the table as a woman so as to checkmate the excesses of a man, na Sorry be your matter.
Power respects power no matter how small it is.
It is very easy for buhari/govt to roll out soldiers and start molesting harmless citizens who either come out to protest for salary increment, going on strike etc because the citizens have been rendered handicapped and not empowered to take their destiny in their hands but the same govt will come out to dialogue if they are to face chad, niger or benin rep. ?
Power, empowerment - no matter how small will check others excesses simply because these other countries have their own soldiers, armor tanks and won't be pushed anyhow or given bullshits.

Tosinayoko:


You never loved him...

I laugh in Japanese.

Same 'love' that doesn't stop a man from cheating?

That's cheap emotional blackmail.

Anyways, i think cheating in revenge is daft for either party.

crackkhaus:

You bruv, are a sage with experience.
Got a few acquaintances and mentors I get to hang around with from time to time and one thing you will never hear a man who has spent at least 15yrs in marriage talking about is LOVE.

Love is a function of the heart, smarts is a function of the brain.
The two don't go together in any form, one must take a back seat.

Provision, protection, supervision, taking charge - these are things men understand. Just add personal principles and strong morals regarding what is right and wrong, and every woman has herself a perfect man.

Leave love to the women.

Interesting.

I have a theory:

Toxic feminism, Pick Up Artists, Redpillers etc. ruined marriage.

Every of their rules are viruses towards blissful marriages.

ednut1:
small pikin dey worry this one. As if she better pass Hillary Clinton, Beyonce, ex oyo first lady whose husband's all cheated and they no gree divorce. Small pikin who thinks life and marriage revolves around cheating lol

It is every woman's prerogative to stay or end the marriage after a divorce.

What the Beyoncés, Hillary or First ladies decide to do is not really any body's business.

On the flip side, maybe the men should make the kind of money their husbands make so they can have the' liberty' to cheat.

Rozz:
what makes you think I'm a small pikin?See the way you men are trying to justify cheating.I am better than those people you mentioned in my own way , it all depends on what we want out of life as an individual

Very well said.

What you want out of life as an individual.

bukatyne:


It is every woman's prerogative to stay or end the marriage after a divorce.

What the Beyoncés, Hillary or First ladies decide to do is not really any body's business.

On the flip side, maybe the men should make the kind of money their husbands make so they can have the' liberty' to cheat.

u and i know in 9ja when a women is dependent on the husband she goes no where. If she is not dependent its like 60:40. In favour of staying. Men and women have beem cheating since time immemorial. It won't stop

The rate at which married men cheat this days is alarming I swear and there is little the woman can do because they put themselves in a situation where marriage has become an achievement in order to get to her highest pinnacle in life.She neglected building herself and getting some financial power before marriage which resulted to inability to make financial contributions in the marriage, totally dependent on the husband. So even if the husband cheat, she can't divorce but to stay and pray for a miracle. A woman in my previous house left her cheating and abusive husband and left with two kids, but she had to come back because she couldn't take care of those kids on her own except she wants them to suffer. many are on this path right now and many young ladies will join them in the future. A man respects and fears a lady who contribute a lot to the family and dare not try rubbish with her because he knows her worth that she can leave if he messes up and continue her life with her children and never misses an inch of the man.

ednut1:
u and i know in 9ja when a women is dependent on the husband she goes no where. If she is not dependent its like 60:40. In favour of staying. Men and women have beem cheating since time immemorial. It won't stop

I have not argued for the occurrence of cheating.

I am saying comparing her actions to what someone else did is not necessary.

Beyoncé and Co can choose to stay (not good/bad) after weighing their options: the OP can choose to stay after weighing hers.

Kate Henshaw left her marriage, Omotola is staying in hers (if you believe all the rumors and counter rumours).

The two women have different leverages in their marriage and have built their influence on different things.

The reality I see around is most women know that their husbands cheat yet still remain in the marriage because they have little choice as I explained above.If you tell me to start giving examples that I have seen...hmmn I will write till page 20. I asked one why he was cheating on his wife and he told me that the wife knows, only exception is that he must not marry another woman after her.

crackkhaus:

I tell you, it's really silly for a man who is married to someone who pulls her own weight financially, then still go on to cheat on her.

He has himself to blame whatever becomes of him in this situation.

They do and their wives still forgive them.
The reason women forgive is societal not financial.
Society hardly accommodate divorced ladies and most divorced ladies normally have custody of the kids.
How many men will marry a divorced lady with kids in Nigeria?
Kids that will go back to their father in no distance time?

Aside that,most women are busy doing my love my love that from their house to cars etc are all in the man's name. She will move out with nothing.

We never learn. I have preached this often. That car he bought for u, if he said it's a gift, your name should be on the papers else, he is just lending you his car to drive.
Don't be too excited about that car yet

bdchange:
The reality I see around is most women know that their husbands cheat yet still remain in the marriage because they have little choice as I explained above.If you tell me to start giving examples that I have seen...hmmn I will write till page 20. I asked one why he was cheating on his wife and he told me that the wife knows, only exception is that he must not marry another woman after her.

Most women seem more averse to polygamy than adultery.

sassysure:

They do and their wives still forgive them.
The reason women forgive is societal not financial.
Society hardly accommodate divorced ladies and most divorced ladies normally have custody of the kids.
How many men will marry a divorced lady with kids in Nigeria?
Kids that will go back to their father in no distance time?

Aside that,most women are busy doing my love my love that from their house to cars etc are all in the man's name. She will move out with nothing.

We never learn. I have preached this often. That car he bought for u, if he said it's a gift, your name should be on the papers else, he is just lending you his car to drive.
Don't be too excited about that car yet

@bold:

Very true

Rozz:
just few out of millions but reverse is the case for men

You will wake up soon, don't worry...although I'm not holding my breath.

Even the women who have cheated in the past, have convinced themselves that they have always been faithful to their husbands.
I honestly don't know how you people do it...

sassysure:

They do and their wives still forgive them.
The reason women forgive is societal not financial.
Society hardly accommodate divorced ladies and most divorced ladies normally have custody of the kids.
How many men will marry a divorced lady with kids in Nigeria?
Kids that will go back to their father in no distance time?

Aside that,most women are busy doing my love my love that from their house to cars etc are all in the man's name. She will move out with nothing.

We never learn. I have preached this often. That car he bought for u, if he said it's a gift, your name should be on the papers else, he is just lending you his car to drive.
Don't be too excited about that car yet

Blehhhh... this is only what you people like to tell yourselves so you don't come off as most people already assume most women are (all about the finances).

The number of women who forgive cheating husbands who are dependent on them, is so little that it is nothing compared to the ones who forgive because of the financial/economic fallout they will face from leaving him...let's not kid ourselves please.

bukatyne:

It is every woman's prerogative to stay or end the marriage after a divorce.

What the Beyoncés, Hillary or First ladies decide to do is not really any body's business.

On the flip side, maybe the men should make the kind of money their husbands make so they can have the' liberty' to cheat.

I think I mentioned this to you this before:
Women don't need to be married to billionaires or even multi(100s) millionaires before they act meek, submissive, and subservient.

Just being married to a man whose financial/economic standard is more than hers is enough to keep any woman in check. Meaning, a woman who is worth say 500k married to a man who is worth 30m, is already a god to her. FACTS!

97% percent of the women in the entire world are not married to a billionaire, nor will they see a billionaire to marry.

crackkhaus:

Blehhhh... this is only what you people like to tell yourselves so you don't come off as most people already assume most women are (all about the finances).

The number of women who forgive cheating husbands who are dependent on them, is so little that it is nothing compared to the ones who forgive because of the financial/economic fallout they will face from leaving him...let's not kid ourselves please.

It is not. U know very well I will.say so if it is.
As far as Nigeria is concerned, it's more of societal.


Then yes, financial after societal for using her heart instead of head while in the union.