Hello good people of Nairaland, I really need help from you guys, I've been in a 3years relationship I'm 25yrs and all of a sudden my hopes and dreams with this girl just got shattered. My girl got influenced by her new close friend, because that's juat what I suspect, her new friend is a type of girl that gets money from guys, men with money and cars, I don't know if she sleeps with them or not, when I noticed I advised my girl to please stay put of such a friend with just worldly benefits. The whole thing was like a shock to me when she came clean to tell me she's ending the relationship because I've not been getting enough money to take good care of her, this is the girl you can never think she'd come out boldly to say such thing, she told me if she doesn't show it before she's the type that loves money and loves her guy buying her gifts everytime, she told me I've not bn doing enough to make her stay, just of recent I had little issue with my brand and I've not been making enough money to feed and cater for my personal need not to talk of a girlfriend, this was a shocker to and really broke me, we endured a lot together even when some of my friends advised me to end the relationship with her because they started to suspect a foul play from her, this has really got me heartbroken and I'm afraid this should not lead me into depression, my friends have been there for me ever since, they call me everytime to make sure I get my mind off the memories with her. Now my question is why has some girls turned relationship into a poverty alleviation scheme?, Coz she told me if we don't end the relationship now she'd cheat on me, if she sees a guy she likes she'd definitely go for him and if I discover later on the relationship might end so badly.

Hmmm

Have you been sleeping with this girl, like having intimacy with her over the years?

Not only girls bro. The thing hook me too. Pls anything for your brother. This lockdown really deal with me. 2080778880 Zenithbank

SLAP44:
Hmmm

Have you been sleeping with this girl, like having intimacy with her over the years?

Yes we've been having sex.

Adams011:



Yes we've been having sex.

Then I think she has every reason to expect that you take care of her financial needs like her friends are being taken care of as you said. Every girl has an expiry period and their value depreciates with age, supposing you dump her after enjoying her body alone for many years and she ends up with nothing?

She cannot bank on the hope that you will help her after your situation improves because your tastes might improve with your situation and she becomes old news, losing everything. You never really knows a man till he makes a lot of money.

Marriage, she is not sure
Money, she didn't get
Personal development, zero

And when may just end up committing suicide.

Call me old fashioned, but at 25yrs of age you should be planning and investing for your future financially and professionally, not shouldering the responsibility of another family.

SLAP44:


Then I think she has every reason to expect that you take care of her financial needs like her friends are being taken care of as you said. Every girl has an expiry period and their value depreciates with age, supposing you dump her after enjoying her body alone for many years and she ends up with nothing?

Marriage, she is not sure
Money, she didn't get
Personal development, zero

And when may just end up committing suicide.

Okay, I understand, but just when she left things started to change for me, I won a contract worth more than six figures but, I'm so sad she's not here to eat the fruits of her patience. I thought I shouldn't have included this before, but you just got me to pour the thing out.

When a girl does not have a mind of her own, she will easily be influenced by others! If u don't stand for something, u fall for everything! Guy leave her and let her go but double ur Hussle, I tell u in no distant time she will see babes flock around u and then u will laugh last!

lol

thesicilian:
Call me old fashioned, but at 25yrs of age you should be planning and investing for your future financially and professionally, not shouldering the responsibility of another family.

Thanks so much, I'd really wanna take to this, especially I should save a lot from my newly won contract for my future

Rhozabeth:
When a girl does not have a mind of her own, she will easily be influenced by others! If u don't stand for something, u fall for everything! Guy leave her and let her go but double ur Hussle, I tell u in no distant time she will see babes flock around u and then u will laugh last!

This got me

Forget about her, live goes on...

Tharaja:
Not only girls bro. The thing hook me too. Pls anything for your brother. This lockdown really deal with me. 2080778880 Zenithbank

people are crazy oo

OP girls at a certain age behave that way. at 18-25 they think it's all about their beauty and d money and gifts guys can give to them. it's normal sha, and wen u find someone within dat age range who thinks differently, hold her tight

There's something I've always wanted to point out in all these Nairaland sob stories. How is it that in all the stories, the guy only gets the so-called contract after the girl may have left?

This detail, maybe added to witch hunt the female folks, is quite unnecessary. Women can break you, yes; but even a lazy brother can.

Women can make you hammer, too. They can make you grow. And yes, more importantly, they can walk away and get their own "contract" without batting an eyelid at the one you just won.

Adams011:




Okay, I understand, but just when she left things started to change for me, I won a contract worth more than six figures but, I'm so sad she's not here to eat the fruits of her patience. I thought I shouldn't have included this before, but you just got me to pour the thing out.

And you have found a more pretty girl to enjoy your new loot?

And in your mind now, she was the "winch" sent by your village people to tie your destiny all these years abi?

Very predictable.

zionmde:


people are crazy oo

OP girls at a certain age behave that way. at 18-25 they think it's all about their beauty and d money and gifts guys can give to them. it's normal sha, and wen u find someone within dat age range who thinks differently, hold her tight

I'm 25 she's 20

Adams011:




I'm 25 she's 20

exactly
within dat age range it's just normal for dem. my ex friend came begging me some years later after deceiving my ex.

iamadonis2:
There's something I've always wanted to point out in all these Nairaland sob stories. How is it that in all the stories, the guy only gets the so-called contract after the girl may have left?

This detail, maybe added to witch hunt the female folks, is quite unnecessary. Women can break you, yes; but even a lazy brother can.

Women can make you hammer, too. They can make you grow. And yes, more importantly, they can walk away and get their own "contract" without batting an eyelid at the one you just won.

It's not cooked up bro, my family's rich, but it's like a ritual with my folks you tend to get all necessary support after school, I'm a fresh graduate and preparing for my NYSC, my pop's got me that contract to start up and set things for myself as a man. The night she left was the night I wanted to tell her we won the job, she wasn't patient enough, I cried on the phone when I called to remind her to be patient enough for me. I snapped and showed her every details and the money attached

Adams011. Just know that some girls no get sense. Money money money. Be happy with the little. Everything is with time. God never forsakes those who are patience, tolerates and endures.

Quote me unnecessarily and see me at your doorstep right this minute

iamadonis2:
There's something I've always wanted to point out in all these Nairaland sob stories. How is it that in all the stories, the guy only gets the so-called contract after the girl may have left?

This detail, maybe added to witch hunt the female folks, is quite unnecessary. Women can break you, yes; but even a lazy brother can.

Women can make you hammer, too. They can make you grow. And yes, more importantly, they can walk away and get their own "contract" without batting an eyelid at the one you just won.

The same girl can walk out and meet the richest young boy in this country and get married to him and in two months will be pregnant, living in her husbands new house in New York and starting school in a university in the USA.

Meanwhile

The former boyfriend's broke azz might just be chasing the normal N50,000 contracts

SLAP44:


And you have found a more pretty girl to enjoy your new loot?

And in your mind now, she was the "winch" sent by your village people to tie your destiny all these years abi?

Very predictable.

Thanks, but I still really love her, I find it hard to move in even when I know at this moment I'm bucked up

My concern is how she allowed you play her up to this level is what i don't understand believe it or not the gender " female " means money and if you don't have it go make it...... i'm glad she have finally come back to her senses cause a lady dating a guy that's not giving her money this 21st century is very risky.....Op is the type of man that will allow his girlfriend endure until she commits suicide while he's out there spending the money on those who never worked for it

SLAP44:


The same girl can walk out and meet the richest young boy in this country and get married to him and in two months will be pregnant, living in her husbands new house in New York and starting school in a university in the USA.

Meanwhile

The former boyfriend's broke azz might just be chasing the normal N50,000 contracts

Lol true, but wish you knew the figures attached to that contract, it's like a starting point according to my pops

Adams011:


because I've not been getting enough money to take good care of her,

this has really got me heartbroken and I'm afraid this should not lead me into depression, my friends have been there for me ever since, they call me everytime to make sure I get my mind off the memories with her.

What about these parts of your post, were you lying to us about these?

SLAP44:


What about these parts of your post, we're you lying to us about these?

I just explained why she left, I wasn't getting enough money, now pops won me a contract, you should understand better what contract means

SLAP44:


The same girl can walk out and meet the richest young boy in this country and get married to him and in two months will be pregnant, living in her husbands new house in New York and starting school in a university in the USA.

Meanwhile

The former boyfriend's broke azz might just be chasing the normal N50,000 contracts

Guy, you reason am Sharp! Wonder how society just moved to antagonize females. Girls de follow hammer.

Bro....the matter we dey on ground so...e heavy for mouth.

iamadonis2:


Guy, you reason am Sharp! Wonder how society just moved to antagonize females. Girls de follow hammer.

Never wished her badluck, I wish she gets the best thing of life, she deserves even more

Adams011:




It's not cooked up bro, my family's rich, but it's like a ritual with my folks you tend to get all necessary support after school, I'm a fresh graduate and preparing for my NYSC, my pop's got me that contract to start up and set things for myself as a man. The night she left was the night I wanted to tell her we won the job, she wasn't patient enough, I cried on the phone when I called to remind her to be patient enough for me. I snapped and showed her every details and the money attached

I'm not here to debate whether you're lying or not. That's gist for another time. I only have an issue with the message of winning a contract at the eve of your breakup. Yeah?

You sent her screenshots. Has she come back to you? No, I presume. Bro, we are all guys and I pray we get to a point where we understand that women can lead their own successful lives without us.

iamadonis2:


Guy, you reason am Sharp! Wonder how society just moved to antagonize females. Girls de follow hammer.

I wonder how he expected the girl to just endure and stay without any assurances of marriage or commitment. If he dumps her when he makes money then it's the girl that will lose everything.

The is girl gave him her youth, her body, her companionship and her trust all that 3 years, and he is not taking care of her as he ought to since go he said he didn't have the means.

Men should understand that women are not their doormats.

iamadonis2:


I'm not here to debate whether you're lying or not. That's gist for another time. I only have an issue with the message of winning a contract at the eve of your breakup. Yeah?

You sent her screenshots. Has she come back to you? No, I presume. Bro, we are all guys and I pray we get to a point where we understand that women can lead their own successful lives without us.

Yes she did, she sent this just yesterday

SLAP44:


I wonder how he expected the girl to just endure and stay without any assurances of marriage or commitment. If he dumps her when he makes money then it's the girl that will lose everything.

The is girl gave him her youth, her body, her companionship and her trust all that 3 years, and he is not taking care of her as he ought to since go he said he didn't have the means.

Men should understand that women are not their doormats.

All three years I was an Undergraduate, she is too, I tried my best as an undergraduate to take care of her, I really tried my best with the little I got from my side hustle