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Filomena:
I'm 20.

at 20 you should be thinking about how to graduate with good grades, how to learn skills that can help your career. They guy has seen your weakness and in no time you would be warming his bed. Heart breaks or pregnancy loadings.

Filomena:
there's this guy I met in school and there has been this connection between us.we have gradually become friends. i find myself staring at him most of the time and when he tries to catch me,I hide my face.ive also observed that he stares at me alot too and smiles and then says hey to me.we had a small talk in school too.
I didnt know he stayed in campus too so one night when I was going out to read,I saw him,like I couldn't believe it because I was hoping to see him again because I tot I was not going to see him again after they declared the two weeks strike,till it was called off.so I was really shocked and happy when I saw him,then he hugged me and hugged him too and held him tight.
so he then asked if this was my room and I told him yes,he told me he just escorted his friend that just finished cooking for him.i felt bad hearing that because I felt they had something more.so he then asked me which church I'd be attending the following day,I told him and he said okay..and told me good night.he didnt even ask for my phone number.i wonder why he didnt.
the other day he just saw me and didn't talk to me and i felt bad for that,so after that day I saw him and he was just busy staring at me and smiling and I wasnt really in the mood for that but I still stared back,he then told me hey and passed,he was with his friend and i greeted him too and passed.
so the last day i saw him,I was coming back from church and was hoping I'd see him again one last time before I travelled.lo and behold,I saw coming towards me with some of his friends.he then hugged me and we had a small chat.i was still hoping that he'd collect my number,still he didnt..
I dont know if he wants to have something with me or not.
since he's yet to ask for my number..
please guys I need your thought on this cuz I really want to go into a relationship with him..
I want to know if he likes me or bidding his time or just playing around.
thanks.

Are you sure you dey alright?

Filomena:
okay
but why does he keep staring?

You'll still back here to tell us how he used and dumped you.
You're not alright

Filomena:
lol and the first thing on your mind is big gbola.

You'll soon get belle

placeofallure:
No guy who's really into you will allow an opportunity of getting your number slip.

He may like you but is committed to another within the same cycle. He could be holding back because of that. It's enough reason to hesitate if you ask me.

He may not really be into you, could be a ll the small talk is just him being civil.

Your age (I don't need to ask you) is when you mistake infatuation for love. You have to be careful and leave men out of your curriculum for now. Use this time to build your GPA.

If you still feel you wanna go ahead then
don't collect his number if he doesn't ask for yours. Don't offer yourself on a platter of gold for him. He should work for it.

If he's yours, Providence will sort it out. Facebook, that's top priority now.

okay I suspected there might be someone else..
thanks alot.

bamidelee:
You'll still back here to tell us how he used and dumped you. You're not alright

lol the reason I brought it here.

Filomena:
lol the reason I brought it here.

My dear, you're still young for that. If you want to marry, it's different. But having boy friend, hmmmm.
Boys no dey smile ooo
I tell you my own.

enirock:
He has given you little or let me say next to nothing of his feelings but you are head over hills for him, maybe because of his approach or demeanour. Tell your heart not to run faster. I can't even say you guys are friends yet so enjoy the conversations, do not place a timeline or try to force events. See if this chatting leads to friendship but don't be the one pushing(it must come from two of you). Watch friendship grow and if it yields love then fine. If it is does not then you have made a life long friend and you will be able to live with yourself but when you pressure yourself on what he did or didn't do or what he should or shouldn't do then your push become greater and may open you up to be exploited. Wait, watch, let the chat mate develop and see if the birth is friendship and from there the picture become even more clearer

okay thanks alot for this.

youngsahito:
he shouldn't try and be nice to you when he is with his friends...well, they say person wey get cap no get head

after he finish banging u for free don't cum hia crying and creating a thread on how "he broke my heart"

lefulefu:

Just imagine

When I was in Uni, I hardly think about sex because I hard serious Engineering courses giving me sleepnes night

Then my schl had ugly gals and guys are always in competition of who claims d fine gals as gf

But now, my school is filled with all these Daddy's & mummy's pet fine gals, so the gals are d ones in competition because of enough fine puna at disposal 4guys


D kind Knacking wey dey go on for our NIGERIAN Unis now eeeehhhh

jonahhh:
Nor worry you go born grl and she will also go to school and will be focused on boys not her caree or studies... This is why we have damaged girls everywhere

You think all ladies who comes out with first class left as a virgin.........

Did you leave university before having sex if you are to be sincere

basty:
This you are too much, keep it up. You will go places

Dominique has deleted the post because I typed her name to confess the positive effect of Nairaland's virtual correctional facility after she convicted and sentenced me. Nothing was wrong with the post. It's about time I deactivated my account. The real world looks promising.

Thanks for the encouragement.

gregyboy:
You think all ladies who comes out with first class left as a virgin.........

Did you leave university before having sex if you are to be sincere

Its not about sex or virginity nor is it about how many men she had sex with, its about their state of mind as young girls... Damaged mindset is worst than damaged toto.

Filomena:
there's this guy I met in school and there has been this connection between us.we have gradually become friends. i find myself staring at him most of the time and when he tries to catch me,I hide my face.ive also observed that he stares at me alot too and smiles and then says hey to me.we had a small talk in school too.
I didnt know he stayed in campus too so one night when I was going out to read,I saw him,like I couldn't believe it because I was hoping to see him again because I tot I was not going to see him again after they declared the two weeks strike,till it was called off.so I was really shocked and happy when I saw him,then he hugged me and hugged him too and held him tight.
so he then asked if this was my room and I told him yes,he told me he just escorted his friend that just finished cooking for him.i felt bad hearing that because I felt they had something more.so he then asked me which church I'd be attending the following day,I told him and he said okay..and told me good night.he didnt even ask for my phone number.i wonder why he didnt.
the other day he just saw me and didn't talk to me and i felt bad for that,so after that day I saw him and he was just busy staring at me and smiling and I wasnt really in the mood for that but I still stared back,he then told me hey and passed,he was with his friend and i greeted him too and passed.
so the last day i saw him,I was coming back from church and was hoping I'd see him again one last time before I travelled.lo and behold,I saw coming towards me with some of his friends.he then hugged me and we had a small chat.i was still hoping that he'd collect my number,still he didnt..
I dont know if he wants to have something with me or not.
since he's yet to ask for my number..
please guys I need your thought on this cuz I really want to go into a relationship with him..
I want to know if he likes me or bidding his time or just playing around.
thanks.

Ask for his number, it mustn't be the other way around

Starz825:
If he isn't asking for ur number..and u feel bothered then ask for his number na ....abi na crime... common Sense...

yeah, that is common sense, OP can even stop him to ask for his WhatsApp number when next their path cross again with something like : Pls can I have your WhatsApp number I've got something to show you, I planned to get a pair of shoe for my brother as a surprise birthday's present I would need your opinion to help me pick the best. Lobatan.

manmade:
yeah, that is common sense, OP can even stop him to ask for his WhatsApp number when next their path cross again with something like : Pls can I have your WhatsApp number I've got something to show you, I planned to get a pair of shoe for my brother as a surprise birthday's present I would need your opinion to help me pick the best. Lobatan.

not bad
but then it would be very obvious.
seeing as he might already suspect I have something for him.
thanks still.

Filomena:
not bad
but then it would be very obvious.
seeing as he might already suspect I have something for him.
thanks still.

You will be fine at the end of the day.
E be like say u don fall in love.
And these advices may fall on deaf ears

Filomena:
not bad
but then it would be very obvious.
seeing as he might already suspect I have something for him
thanks still.

Do you see the emboldened Gentlemen?
As inexperienced as this thot is she still realizes the person who cares more in a relationship,has less power/control.
AWALT-yesterday,today and tomorrow

Filomena:
okay thanks alot for this.

UWC

Filomena:
not bad
but then it would be very obvious.
seeing as he might already suspect I have something for him.
thanks still.

So...you want him to know. But you don’t want to show him or tell him.

You’re the one making this thing hard for yourself.

Remember the friend that cooked for him. He is probably in a relationship and wants to stay faithful. I think you should respect him for that

Hmmm

Filomena:
there's this guy I met in school and there has been this connection between us.we have gradually become friends. i find myself staring at him most of the time and when he tries to catch me,I hide my face.ive also observed that he stares at me alot too and smiles and then says hey to me.we had a small talk in school too.
I didnt know he stayed in campus too so one night when I was going out to read,I saw him,like I couldn't believe it because I was hoping to see him again because I tot I was not going to see him again after they declared the two weeks strike,till it was called off.so I was really shocked and happy when I saw him,then he hugged me and hugged him too and held him tight.
so he then asked if this was my room and I told him yes,he told me he just escorted his friend that just finished cooking for him.i felt bad hearing that because I felt they had something more.so he then asked me which church I'd be attending the following day,I told him and he said okay..and told me good night.he didnt even ask for my phone number.i wonder why he didnt.
the other day he just saw me and didn't talk to me and i felt bad for that,so after that day I saw him and he was just busy staring at me and smiling and I wasnt really in the mood for that but I still stared back,he then told me hey and passed,he was with his friend and i greeted him too and passed.
so the last day i saw him,I was coming back from church and was hoping I'd see him again one last time before I travelled.lo and behold,I saw coming towards me with some of his friends.he then hugged me and we had a small chat.i was still hoping that he'd collect my number,still he didnt..
I dont know if he wants to have something with me or not.
since he's yet to ask for my number..
please guys I need your thought on this cuz I really want to go into a relationship with him..
I want to know if he likes me or bidding his time or just playing around.
thanks.

This story reminds me of when I was crushing on one guy back in school days, I’d stalk like say I no know wetin I come do for school. Finally, I got his attention and he asked me out and I dumped him few weeks or a month later, I got tired.

My point is, don’t try to force things or worry about these things, let what will be take it’s place.

Stop all the long story and ask for his number next time you see him. Give him green light, and if he still refuses to bite the bait, be a bit more agressive. If he still doesn't want to ask you out, borrow yourself brain and maintain your lane. Don't force him.

Life is not that hard.

Well...it might just be crush or sometim

Filomena:
there's this guy I met in school and there has been this connection between us.we have gradually become friends. i find myself staring at him most of the time and when he tries to catch me,I hide my face.ive also observed that he stares at me alot too and smiles and then says hey to me.we had a small talk in school too.
I didnt know he stayed in campus too so one night when I was going out to read,I saw him,like I couldn't believe it because I was hoping to see him again because I tot I was not going to see him again after they declared the two weeks strike,till it was called off.so I was really shocked and happy when I saw him,then he hugged me and hugged him too and held him tight.
so he then asked if this was my room and I told him yes,he told me he just escorted his friend that just finished cooking for him.i felt bad hearing that because I felt they had something more.so he then asked me which church I'd be attending the following day,I told him and he said okay..and told me good night.he didnt even ask for my phone number.i wonder why he didnt.
the other day he just saw me and didn't talk to me and i felt bad for that,so after that day I saw him and he was just busy staring at me and smiling and I wasnt really in the mood for that but I still stared back,he then told me hey and passed,he was with his friend and i greeted him too and passed.
so the last day i saw him,I was coming back from church and was hoping I'd see him again one last time before I travelled.lo and behold,I saw coming towards me with some of his friends.he then hugged me and we had a small chat.i was still hoping that he'd collect my number,still he didnt..
I dont know if he wants to have something with me or not.
since he's yet to ask for my number..
please guys I need your thought on this cuz I really want to go into a relationship with him..
I want to know if he likes me or bidding his time or just playing around.
thanks.

Philo why are you talking about me in public.

BecaciaBarbie:
This story reminds me of when I was crushing on one guy back in school days, I’d stalk like say I no know wetin I come do for school. Finally, I got his attention and he asked me out and I dumped him few weeks or a month later, I got tired.

My point is, don’t try to force things or worry about these things, let what will be take it’s place.

alright thanks

Happyfela:
Filomena, Follow Me Na

you wan snatched another person crush ? Oga you bad oo.

Filomena:
not bad
but then it would be very obvious.
seeing as he might already suspect I have something for him.
thanks still.

it's obvious you're the intending player here and people like you tend to be manipulative ...., it's like trying to swim without being in contact with water..,. remember the guy is not new to this game and the antics of girls ,that explained why he told you of a girl that has already gotten their friendship to the stage of cooking for him and obviously spending time with him ...
He is not craving for attention as you do and like a prey already in the mouth of a Lioness you gat to fight for him or you loose him.
Trust me ,there is no any better way of distracting a guy attentions from another girl than showing him that you've got something better to offer. How do you want to do this without letting him know that you have feelings for him ? Though, I'm not against you being subtle about it , otherwise , na the occasional hugs and distance smiles you go just dey get till the other girl start a blossom relationship with the lucky dude .

pstmikol1:
Ma i mention you earlier but you didn't reply, am currently stuck at school and my foodstuff is down and my parent are not financially bouyant now, i swear it not been easy since, please ma have mercy on me, i have proof if you want.
0064555369, union bank, anything will be greatly appreciated ma, Thanks so much.

Sir, I got your mentions i'm sorry to have taken this long to respond. Sadly I don't have much to help your situation at the moment. When I have, I will remember you.

BTW why is 90% of your posts edited?

manmade:
it's obvious you're the intending player here and people like you tend to be manipulative ...., it's like trying to swim without being in contact with water..,. remember the guy is not new to this game and the antics of girls ,that explained why he told you of a girl that has already gotten their friendship to the stage of cooking for him and obviously spending time with him ...
He is not craving for attention as you do and like a prey already in the mouth of a Lioness you gat to fight for him or you loose him.
Trust me ,there is no any better way of distracting a guy attentions from another girl than showing him that you've got something better to offer. How do you want to do this without letting him know that you have feelings for him ? Though, I'm not against you being subtle about it , otherwise , na the occasional hugs and distance smiles you go just dey get till the other girl start a blossom relationship with the lucky dude .

hmmm how do you propose I go about this.
I think i should just let things play out,rather than force things..I just want to know if it's going to work out.
thanks still.

Filomena:
there's this guy I met in school and there has been this connection between us.we have gradually become friends. i find myself staring at him most of the time and when he tries to catch me,I hide my face.ive also observed that he stares at me alot too and smiles and then says hey to me.we had a small talk in school too.
I didnt know he stayed in campus too so one night when I was going out to read,I saw him,like I couldn't believe it because I was hoping to see him again because I tot I was not going to see him again after they declared the two weeks strike,till it was called off.so I was really shocked and happy when I saw him,then he hugged me and hugged him too and held him tight.
so he then asked if this was my room and I told him yes,he told me he just escorted his friend that just finished cooking for him.i felt bad hearing that because I felt they had something more.so he then asked me which church I'd be attending the following day,I told him and he said okay..and told me good night.he didnt even ask for my phone number.i wonder why he didnt.
the other day he just saw me and didn't talk to me and i felt bad for that,so after that day I saw him and he was just busy staring at me and smiling and I wasnt really in the mood for that but I still stared back,he then told me hey and passed,he was with his friend and i greeted him too and passed.
so the last day i saw him,I was coming back from church and was hoping I'd see him again one last time before I travelled.lo and behold,I saw coming towards me with some of his friends.he then hugged me and we had a small chat.i was still hoping that he'd collect my number,still he didnt..
I dont know if he wants to have something with me or not.
since he's yet to ask for my number..
please guys I need your thought on this cuz I really want to go into a relationship with him..
I want to know if he likes me or bidding his time or just playing around.
thanks.

It's pure infatuation! This article will help: https://www.sociotelligence.com/true-love-vs-infatuation/