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Re: My Wife Refuses To Move Abroad by nlPoster: 6:54pm On Mar 11, 2020 |
God please take charge of Nigerian medical training, what I'm seeing on nairaland does not look good. Although of course liars are plenty, but to even think you could say you are in the profession yet spew what you do here, is worrisome. You'd still know samspedy is intelligent, notwithstanding his comedic routines. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Refuses To Move Abroad by rain21(f): 7:38pm On Mar 11, 2020 |
Mariangeles: And who the bleep are you? You are so slow and definitely sick in your head Go and carry op's wife by yourself abroad. A full grown adult says she doesn't want to squat,and you want to compulsorily force her? Shows how toxic and inhumane you are Don't bother to reply cos I will pass She even mentioned me twice., Mtchew cry me a river 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Refuses To Move Abroad by Nobody: 7:49pm On Mar 11, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2: I am not a very good arguer, however let me try We are underpaid and deserve better compensation, I agree. However this does not translate to being under intense pressure to acquire stuff. Do you not see this? With a pay of say xxxy, why must I feel pressed to send my dependents to a school that is known for giving “oyibosori” education to politicians and higher paid executives on xxxxyy salaries? Cos that’s just either greed, vanity or something else I don’t know. There is a school for every salary cadre. About land? Well it is what it is, but we are very eligible for loans and can thus get lands. Not ideal, but better than what most people can see There is also the option of not owning land ( ) All not ideal, I agree, but we make lemonade My convoluted point was an encouraging one to doctors, to not allow our selves be pressed into living by any standard that is not ours, while living in this place. I have never been like that, and I never will. So it is a pet peeve when I see people living for sosayiti. I do empathise all right. @ your bolded, okay Cheers/ take care 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Refuses To Move Abroad by Mariangeles(f): 8:02pm On Mar 11, 2020 |
[s] rain21:[/s] I'll assume that you lost your damn mind when you were dropped head down as a baby. Toxin personified! 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Refuses To Move Abroad by loshybab(m): 8:31pm On Mar 11, 2020 |
So far,the comments here have been things the Op could comfortably do,steps he should take,criticisms of different kinds and ofcourse,loads of sophisticated insults being hurled at one another. PS:people sabi use big grammar insult sha |
Re: My Wife Refuses To Move Abroad by Chiebunigom1(f): 8:01am On Mar 12, 2020 |
crackkhaus:Sincerely, she really deserves the kisses!(but keep off, crackhaus! @ merhaki, why do I have this feeling that I know you outside nairaland? Chi..... If you're the one, you're one hell of humility, kind-hearted and intelligent personified! @ op, listen to merhaki, doctors have nothing to prove to anyone by conforming to the societal's ideal lifestyle for a doctor. Live your dreams but consider your partner too. I myself, wouldn't want to squat with anyone who was once my enemy. You can travel first, clear the coast for your immediate family before bringing them to the UK. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Refuses To Move Abroad by Chiebunigom1(f): 8:04am On Mar 12, 2020 |
loshybab: As in ehhhh, nawaooo.. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Refuses To Move Abroad by crackkhaus: 11:05am On Mar 12, 2020 |
Chiebunigom1:Too late for me to keep off, sorry... That's mon-cat right there, and she has been so for quite a while waaaayy before now. I've always had a gift for picking out the sensible ones here. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Refuses To Move Abroad by loshybab(m): 5:36pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
Chiebunigom1:I just dey dey observe and learn 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Refuses To Move Abroad by mcdokwe(m): 9:51pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
My advise? Move solo, stabilize and come for her. Issues solved. Next! |
Re: My Wife Refuses To Move Abroad by Nobody: 10:44pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
nlPoster:Word for word, I could not have said it better. Oyinbo ku suru. Oyinbo wey no dey vex normally, wey dey street, they are thoroughly sick of black immigrants. |
Re: My Wife Refuses To Move Abroad by Smile4mee01: 12:25am On Mar 13, 2020 |
@ Op : Have you ever heard of the red pill. You need a few doses. Brother... As a man, I believe your priority should always be in this order. God - Grind/Hustle - Woman. A woman was made to be a helpmate if she ain't doing that. I move nonetheless. Dont be suprised na this same woman go begin give you attitude if things no plum. So watch out for yourself first. Opportunities dont wait forever. |
Re: My Wife Refuses To Move Abroad by frozen70(f): 3:35pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
Kuns84: So you allowed your self to be brain washed and manipulated by a woman, am not surprise Once something is not to a woman favour, she doesn't allow it to work out Now to your Complain, if you keep seeking approval from your wife before you will make plans to relocate, then you are not a man but a push over You already know thst your wife has low self esteem and she is intimidated by your sister in law, that shows you how low she is Pls go ahead and make pals to relocate, besides you ought to get there first, get settled before bringing her over there and if you get there and get settled she doesn't want to be with you, then that's a good way if dropping her and picking someone who is ready to unite your family Another important thing, pls renew your relationship with your brother and his wife especially Trust her, if you don't reconcile with your sister in law, she will make you uncomfortable in her house for the period you will squart with them Don't make your wife a topic of discussion where they are, you will expose her timidity the more Start making move and once you ate set to leave, you inform her but that will be after your have bought your ticked and about 24hrs to leave the country By then it will be too late to react, if she wants to cry let her cry tears doesn't kill Keep relationship with your brother and his wife a good level because if tomorrow If your wife wants let her join the relationship ban and if she doesn't want let her be left alone But if you chose to keep pretending that you are OK before your friends who will be willing to help you, it will get to a stage they will drop you and help others by then even your wife will make living hell for you at home As a medical personnel, you know what depression means |
Re: My Wife Refuses To Move Abroad by chival(f): 9:09pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
Doctors are one group of people who do well for themselves outside this country. I find it sad that your wife is preventing you from achieving the success you are capable of, all because of some petty jealousy she harbours for her sister in law. All you can really do is try to make her understand that the move is for the general good of the family. Be assertive. Again, you mentioned her job. That may be a valid reason for not wanting to move. If her career here in Nigeria has fairly advanced she may resent having to start from scratch in the UK. I think you should make plans to move to the UK. Get there and get settled, find a place of your own and then send for your wife in a year or two. Best of luck. |
Re: My Wife Refuses To Move Abroad by Sexyliciousbri: 9:39pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
There is no issue here your wife cannot stop you from moving. you can travel and leave her behind if your wife's ego allows her she will join you whenever she is ready, it's greener over there abeg.. |
Re: My Wife Refuses To Move Abroad by agbonkamen(f): 10:18pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
proclinician:calling someone else wife worthless shows you lack sense. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Refuses To Move Abroad by razible5384(m): 12:41pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
Mizwisdom:u are just grossly wicked, and what do u stand to gain out of this? Or are the recipient of our medical personnel over there complaining? We thank God you are not the government |
Re: My Wife Refuses To Move Abroad by razible5384(m): 12:58pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2:in ur quest to being smart you ended up being silly... that guy corrected the ill in that post an raised a saliant point.... Not all medical doctors are moved by material/mundane things (my friend is one)... Those big eyes in your big head were there for a purpose...make use of it.. Dimwits 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Refuses To Move Abroad by razible5384(m): 1:04pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
merahki:thanks for scholling that idiot 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Refuses To Move Abroad by Nobody: 5:44pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
LilMissFavvy: Shut up joor.. Na poo full ur head |
Re: My Wife Refuses To Move Abroad by trendyprettygir: 8:19pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
LegendaryLover: Seconded. Work with your brothers help to get abroad. Go first, work hard, get settled in your own place and then send for her and kids (if any) 6 months after. |
Re: My Wife Refuses To Move Abroad by Zeinymira(f): 9:53pm On Apr 28, 2020 |
ezugegere: UK is easier |
Re: My Wife Refuses To Move Abroad by Liftmaster: 1:34am On Apr 29, 2020 |
Benjamin Franklin famously said that house guests, like fish, begin to smell after three days. I am absolutely inclined to agree with him. OP, perish the idea of you and your wife staying with your brother in the U.K. especially since your brothers wife and your wife already do not get along. Your wife has told you in not so many words that she is uncomfortable about doing so. Let sleeping dogs lie and find another solution. Your initial years as a young doc in the U.K. will be stressful enough talk less of adding home wahala. You can't leave your wife alone all day long in a "hostile environment" and expect things to work out fine. You will not like what this seemingly small issue can potentially become. Many people have said for you to go and get established first then she can join you. Have this discussion with your wife and let her know you understand her apprehension for staying at your brothers house and that this is an alternative. Does she know you are dissatisfied and/or frustrated with your current situation? Tell her and explain to her why you want to relocate. It seems you haven't been married for long and could benefit from some marriage conflict resolution counseling. One piece of advice I can give you is to learn to pick your battles. Your wife and your brothers wife do not get along right now. Don't push to resolve the issues immediately. Time and distance combined could be a healer. Give it sometime and revisit at a more opprtuned time. Trying to deal with it at the same time as convincing her to relocate is not a good idea. Have you considered moving to the U.S.? If making money is your ultimate goal, there is no better place to be for a physician. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Refuses To Move Abroad by Nobody: 2:00am On Apr 29, 2020 |
babythug:It’s hard being a Nigerian! 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Refuses To Move Abroad by Nobody: 8:54am On Apr 29, 2020 |
razible5384:you are the idiot here |
Re: My Wife Refuses To Move Abroad by Nobody: 8:57am On Apr 29, 2020 |
crackkhaus:yeah right |
Re: My Wife Refuses To Move Abroad by Nobody: 8:59am On Apr 29, 2020 |
merahki:To think that this thread was before the coronavirus outbreak. Things do happen |
Re: My Wife Refuses To Move Abroad by crackkhaus: 9:08am On Apr 29, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2: |
Re: My Wife Refuses To Move Abroad by Nobody: 9:41am On May 04, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2: I don’t believe you We have come a long way since that post, and I see I am really a NL addict! Cheers (Did you continue with the Dove and any review?Or did you give it out? Should have sent you my address to post it to me! . ) |
Re: My Wife Refuses To Move Abroad by Gloriagee(f): 9:55am On May 04, 2020 |
Do you have to write the Plab exams? U can travel n write n come back to Nig till u complete the exams. Then u can start searching for a job n come up with a plan with your wife's input. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Refuses To Move Abroad by Gloriagee(f): 9:56am On May 04, 2020 |
I agree that the US appears way more lucrative than the UK for medical professionals. Liftmaster: |
Re: My Wife Refuses To Move Abroad by Nobody: 10:05am On May 04, 2020 |
merahki:Gave it out o. Thanks. How's work? |
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