freecocoahubby:


As for me, I am simply dumb! I have ruined this low IQ thread with my senseless-ness

southniyikaye:
this life is a mystery, person wey get head no get cap, person wey get cap no get head.
(Eni ni ori o NI Fila)

Kuns84:
I'm a medical doctor by profession and completed my residency over a year ago. However, I'm currently frustrated with the state of things in this country. I work endlessly, shuffling between a public hospital here in Lagos as well as also doing some consulting on the side in a private hospital – all to make ends meet.

Many of my fellow medical practitioners have relocated abroad and are all doing tremendously well for themselves earning fat salaries. My friends have tirelessly encouraged me to also make that move but for the past 3 years now, I’ve be peddling a lie that I’m 'comfortable' here in Nigeria. What many don’t know is that MY WIFE is the main reason why I’ve not been able to even attempt the exams not to talk of passing and eventually relocating.

Her reasons?

I have an elder brother who currently lives in the UK – he’s an engineer doing incredibly well for himself. He is married to a fellow Nigerian who is a naturalised citizen abroad but here’s the problem, my wife cannot stand the thought of moving to the UK because of an ongoing issue with my brother’s wife. I can’t go into much detail lest I digress, but my wife has always had this inferiority complex that my sister in-law will look down on her because she was raised abroad and comes from a wealthy home. These two have never gotten along from the very beginning and things have deteriorated to the point that this has affected my relationship with my bro. I personally like my brother’s wife, she’s an intelligent and down to earth lady and we got along so well until I met and married my wife. My brother and I have both tried to get our wives to reconcile but to no avail and now that I could potentially move abroad, this matter has been a major stumbling block affecting my ability to forge ahead in life.

Every time I try to talk sense into my wife, she flares up and refuses to admit the truth, rather she’d claim that her reasons for not wanting to move abroad is because “the grass isn’t greener on the other side”, “people are suffering abroad”, “she’s comfortable with her job here in Nigeria” etc.. but deep down we both know that she doesn’t want to give my sister-in law the satisfaction of seeing us move to the UK for a better life – coupled with the fact that we might have to squat with them for a while before finding my feet.

I am depressed but do a fantastic job at hiding it but the truth is, It breaks my heart every time yet another colleague of mine relocates abroad with his family and then tells me of how conformable life is over there and how much doctors are being paid – it’s not that I’m jealous, I genuinely feel happy for my guys, but just can’t help but feel stuck and unfulfilled with how things are going in my career and personal life.

Kuns84:
I'm a medical doctor by profession and completed my residency over a year ago. However, I'm currently frustrated with the state of things in this country. I work endlessly, shuffling between a public hospital here in Lagos as well as also doing some consulting on the side in a private hospital – all to make ends meet.

Many of my fellow medical practitioners have relocated abroad and are all doing tremendously well for themselves earning fat salaries. My friends have tirelessly encouraged me to also make that move but for the past 3 years now, I’ve be peddling a lie that I’m 'comfortable' here in Nigeria. What many don’t know is that MY WIFE is the main reason why I’ve not been able to even attempt the exams not to talk of passing and eventually relocating.

Her reasons?

I have an elder brother who currently lives in the UK – he’s an engineer doing incredibly well for himself. He is married to a fellow Nigerian who is a naturalised citizen abroad but here’s the problem, my wife cannot stand the thought of moving to the UK because of an ongoing issue with my brother’s wife. I can’t go into much detail lest I digress, but my wife has always had this inferiority complex that my sister in-law will look down on her because she was raised abroad and comes from a wealthy home. These two have never gotten along from the very beginning and things have deteriorated to the point that this has affected my relationship with my bro. I personally like my brother’s wife, she’s an intelligent and down to earth lady and we got along so well until I met and married my wife. My brother and I have both tried to get our wives to reconcile but to no avail and now that I could potentially move abroad, this matter has been a major stumbling block affecting my ability to forge ahead in life.

Every time I try to talk sense into my wife, she flares up and refuses to admit the truth, rather she’d claim that her reasons for not wanting to move abroad is because “the grass isn’t greener on the other side”, “people are suffering abroad”, “she’s comfortable with her job here in Nigeria” etc.. but deep down we both know that she doesn’t want to give my sister-in law the satisfaction of seeing us move to the UK for a better life – coupled with the fact that we might have to squat with them for a while before finding my feet.

I am depressed but do a fantastic job at hiding it but the truth is, It breaks my heart every time yet another colleague of mine relocates abroad with his family and then tells me of how conformable life is over there and how much doctors are being paid – it’s not that I’m jealous, I genuinely feel happy for my guys, but just can’t help but feel stuck and unfulfilled with how things are going in my career and personal life.

SweetCunt97:
So you can't go to the abroad first and prepare the place before she comes over? Baba no one can hold u back jor, u are the one holding yourself back with ur arrow mentality... You've not even reasoned outside the box.

LilMissFavvy:
The wife is okay in Nigeria, he is the one who wishes to relocate, so he should be ready to shoulder the financial costs, if she assists him, fine. I do not understand your last paragraph, I don't know what you mean by ''it's the man's fault that the two women do not get along'', I never wrote that, so I don't know what you mean. Like I said earlier, you cannot force people to get along with others. If he has tried enough like he mentioned to make both women to settle their differences without success, isn't it time he let's his wife be?

Squillaci:


I don't see any issue here.
Divorce her and move to your dream country.
There are millions of women out there just like your wife.
You can always get another spouse.

babythug:
You’re not yet ready to relocate actually!

I can’t believe part of your plans are built around being accommodated by your brother and what not!

That’s not how a family man makes plans for relocation. UK is not Nigeria where we accommodate family members wholeheartedly whether convenient or not! Things are different there.

If you want to relocate begin to set aside funds to cover your living expenses immediately you get there, at best you land at your brother’s place for a few days or less sef!

Present your plans to your Mrs in an organised and professional manner let her see what opportunities you all including the children can benefit from. Let her know that if it doesn’t work out you’d return here within an agreed time frame but I’m sure once she sees that despite the hardship there once you can iron whenever you feel like and bulk cook without worrying for nepa and she doesn’t hear sound of generator or sit in traffic after working all day for hours she too will make things work there!

Good luck oga

deor03:



Pass exam first na.....

sassysure:

Exam ke?

He don't know that one.
He only want to go and live with his brothers wife under the same roof.

He didn't even praise his brother or his own wife but his brothers wife. What am i saying?
He said his wife has an inferiority complex
Awon werey
Dr ni Dr ko

sassysure:

I love this!
Also add, relocate to UK and marry your bros wife along with him before u marry a new wife


Mtcheew.
If his brother isn't in UK nd he gets a 6 figure paying job there, won't he relocate?

Can't he start off in other developed country first, give the wife the opportunity to discover herself then move to UK not as squatter but somebody who has already stayed in abroad too and knows her way around.

U know your wife has an inferiority complex issue and u don't want to help her out instead want to uproot and throw her into toxic surrounding that will worsen her state and u call yourself a Dr?

U don't know anything about human management.

Help that woman build her confidence by keeping the two ladies poles apart.
If your bros wife is as good as u painted her, why has she not reached out to your wife peacefully and amicably by putting herself in your wife's shoe.

I think u are in love with her background not her personality. And u seem like the type who can easily betray his wife for a little penny else I don't know why u want to go and squat with your brother and family with your own family.
Drs stay in Nigeria and write professional exams, apply for jobs and move when they get one and move into their own house, u want to free load
Awof dey run belle

tiswell:
You seem to be a difficult lady.(no pun intended)

dancok:
Huh, stay in Nigeria jor, u Doctor don't appreciate God, ur salary in Nigeria is a prayer point for some people, u Nigeria Doctors like money too much, and e no dey show for ur body o, upon all d money, na stingy stingy, no dress sense, mchweeeew.

Kuns84:
I'm a medical doctor by profession and completed my residency over a year ago. However, I'm currently frustrated with the state of things in this country. I work endlessly, shuffling between a public hospital here in Lagos as well as also doing some consulting on the side in a private hospital – all to make ends meet.

Many of my fellow medical practitioners have relocated abroad and are all doing tremendously well for themselves earning fat salaries. My friends have tirelessly encouraged me to also make that move but for the past 3 years now, I’ve be peddling a lie that I’m 'comfortable' here in Nigeria. What many don’t know is that MY WIFE is the main reason why I’ve not been able to even attempt the exams not to talk of passing and eventually relocating.

Her reasons?

I have an elder brother who currently lives in the UK – he’s an engineer doing incredibly well for himself. He is married to a fellow Nigerian who is a naturalised citizen abroad but here’s the problem, my wife cannot stand the thought of moving to the UK because of an ongoing issue with my brother’s wife. I can’t go into much detail lest I digress, but my wife has always had this inferiority complex that my sister in-law will look down on her because she was raised abroad and comes from a wealthy home. These two have never gotten along from the very beginning and things have deteriorated to the point that this has affected my relationship with my bro. I personally like my brother’s wife, she’s an intelligent and down to earth lady and we got along so well until I met and married my wife. My brother and I have both tried to get our wives to reconcile but to no avail and now that I could potentially move abroad, this matter has been a major stumbling block affecting my ability to forge ahead in life.

Every time I try to talk sense into my wife, she flares up and refuses to admit the truth, rather she’d claim that her reasons for not wanting to move abroad is because “the grass isn’t greener on the other side”, “people are suffering abroad”, “she’s comfortable with her job here in Nigeria” etc.. but deep down we both know that she doesn’t want to give my sister-in law the satisfaction of seeing us move to the UK for a better life – coupled with the fact that we might have to squat with them for a while before finding my feet.

I am depressed but do a fantastic job at hiding it but the truth is, It breaks my heart every time yet another colleague of mine relocates abroad with his family and then tells me of how conformable life is over there and how much doctors are being paid – it’s not that I’m jealous, I genuinely feel happy for my guys, but just can’t help but feel stuck and unfulfilled with how things are going in my career and personal life.

Kuns84:



Notice I said MIGHT.. with a doctors salary I can obviously afford to get a place of my own but it's my preference to stay with bro for a while as we settle into a new environ.

rain21:
she's intelligent, she's down to earth, she's blabla bla.., meaning you are already taking sides with your brother's wife and your wife is the now the one with inferiority complex.

that could even be the reason why she doesn't want to move___you are comparing the two women and probably flow well with your brother's wife more than with your own wife.your wife has seen the signs already and will rather prefer she stays home since she has a very good paying job here.

relocate, get a good job and then come for your family.consider living in a separate town far from your brother's to avoid frequent clash from the women. the two will still settle laslas

madridguy:
Go USA or Canada then.

dancok:
Huh, stay in Nigeria jor, u Doctor don't appreciate God, ur salary in Nigeria is a prayer point for some people, u Nigeria Doctors like money too much, and e no dey show for ur body o, upon all d money, na stingy stingy, no dress sense, mchweeeew.

EVILFOREST:

The USA is BLOCKED oooo.
No Road there.
Except his WIFE is a Nurse and Willing to tow that direction.

CANADA is Open.
But he won't be initiated into the medical practice immediately.
He will be subjected to an unusual Canadian Exams, yet that won't guarantee practice...

AUSTRALIA OPEN as well.
But has to start with a master's program to quickly fit in.

LilMissFavvy:
The OP said he does not want to give full details of the issues between his wife and sister in law, you can read again, feeling inferior is part of the issue, not the main reason. I believe he has seen your own input as well.

LilMissFavvy:
That's why I said make money, enough money, tell her you will be able to afford a home, then see her reaction.

LilMissFavvy:
Is this write-up about me? Respect yourself, and stop personalizing my comments. My personal life should be none of your business.