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The way this idea crystallized into my brain last time, made me to bring it you. Read to end.

It is no longer news that place of origin is now a very important determinant factor in marriages in Igbo land and environs. Well, I am writing because I am an Igbo man, so I cannot vouch for other tribes.


My people for “how long shall we continue in sin that grace may abound?” For how long shall we allow the medieval ideologies of 18th century still determine the status of the very most important institution in our time – marriage.

History has fed us with so many negativities concerning marriage that if time is not taken we will become our own enemies without knowing it. Am I still speaking parables? Don’t worry, let me go direct to the point.

It is not every Imo girl na-agba n’iro (sleeps outside)
Not every Mbaise person bü agwo (that is a snake)
Not every IMO guy na-akpu oke sense (that is too clever)
It is not every Anambra man bü onye ogwu ego (that is a ritualist)
It is not every Anambra woman na-adominate their husband (that dominates their husband)
Not every Enugu/nsukka girl that is primitive
Not all Enugu men are lazy
It is not every Aba/Ngwa girl na-eri anu mmadu (that eats human flesh)
It is not every Abia man (??)
All Abakaliki/Ebonyi people are not primitive
Not all every Akwaibom/Calabar girl na-agba n’iro (sleeps outside)
It is not every Rivers/Delta person (??)
All Edo people are not witches/wizards
Etc

Regrettably, all these factors which we hold so tenaciously are environmentally induced. How do you expect an IMO girl born and brougt up in Enugu to behave like your supposedly Imo-like? There is no way an Abakaliki man born and brought up in Anambra will act like the supposed Abakaliki man. And so on and so forth…These things are modifiable, and are not genetic. Character can be built and is very amenable to change. If you want that Anambra girl to behave like your supposed Enugu girl, you can do it. If you want Aba girl to act like your choice Anambra girl, you can do it. These features are very incontrovertibly malleable, and I can prove that beyond every conceivable doubt for anyone that wishes to.

Apart from the love you have for yourselves (which I am not here to talk about), What should be our primary concern are genetic factors that are non-modifiable. Things like genetic diseases like cancer, sickle cell disease, etc. These ones are even becoming modifiable with advances in medicine and health care.

Please, ladies and gentle men, let us remove these deleterious attributes from our marriage curriculum before it wrecks greater havoc in our hard-earned existence. Do not say it does not concern you, it does. I may not remember your state or your town, but the truth is every town/state in Nigeria has one or more of these stereotyped beliefs hanging on their neck.

He that lives in a glass house, should not throw stones

https://www.odoctor.ng/the-influence-of-place-of-origin-in-marriage-in-igboland-way-forward/

I will love to hear your views cum experiences, if any. Thank you.

you can take someone out of the village but you can't take the village out of the person.

immaq8:
you can take someone out of the village but you can't take the village out of the person.

Meaning? I thought you are a lady?

Odoctor:
Meaning? I thought you are a lady?

what does your write up gat to do with my personality... because I'm a lady so I don't have opinion..mbok?

immaq8:
you can take someone out of the village but you can't take the village out of the person.

What?

Let everybody marry their own trybe.

Op it is religion and tribe that is making people to be sentimental.

Remove these you will find out everybody na the same with same MR NIGER D characteristic

immaq8:
what does your write up gat to do with my personality... because I'm a lady so I don't have opinion..mbok?

No that's not what I mean. I mean, ladies mostly are the victims of theses biases for obvious reasons. So I suppose you also should be a crusader of unison, just as I'm doing at the moment.

VeeVeeMyLuv:
Op it is religion and tribe that is making people to be sentimental.

Remove these you will find out everybody na the same with same MR NIGER D characteristic

Absolutely the same Mr Niger D. Regrettably, it is we in the circle of religion that are guilty most times.

Aidlyfe:
Let everybody marry their own trybe.

Love does not recognize tribal boundaries. Constraining Love with the sentiments of geographical landmarks and culture robs it of its essence.

So many potential marriages have hit the rock simply because of unfounded/superstitious arbitrary edifices built by our ancestors.

It is time to exit this mind imprisonment.

Odoctor:
Love does not recognize tribal boundaries. Constraining Love with the sentiments of geographical landmarks and culture robs it of its essence.

So many potential marriages have hit the rock simply because of unfounded/superstitious arbitrary edifices built by our ancestors.

It is time to exit this mind imprisonment.

Remove Love and put Money in your response and you will make brain.

Aidlyfe:
Remove Love and put Money in your response and you will make brain.

Walahi u are very correct,

See ehn once money is involved, all these rubbish sentiment and prejudice will jump out of the window,

I have seen it happen before, I continue to see it happen in recent times.

You obviously wrote that piece to gather likes and shares from women.. . You are disappointed i guess. Or a simp.

Odoctor:
No that's not what I mean. I mean, ladies mostly are the victims of theses biases for obvious reasons. So I suppose you also should be a crusader of unison, just as I'm doing at the moment.

Aidlyfe:
Remove Love and put Money in your response and you will make brain.

Well you are correct too. But I think using them (money/love) concurrently will make excess brain.

VeeVeeMyLuv:
Walahi u are very correct,

See ehn once money is involved, all these rubbish sentiment and prejudice will jump out of the window,

I have seen it happen before, I continue to see it happen in recent times.

Davido, P squares come to mind. Very true!

zagorakis:
You obviously wrote that piece to gather likes and shares from women.. . You are disappointed i guess. Or a simp.

None of the above. I wrote it to help people reason like me.

Secondly, I'm alpha .

I'm not against what you just typed oh, since you said it's an 18th century mentality. But why did God in the Bible condemn his people from marrying some certain tribes if stereotype isn't real?