AnonymousRebec:


I think a virgin is one that knows no man. Me I know man. I have done everything sex except for the 'penetration'. That is why I don't consider myself a 'virgin'. I just want my husband to be the only one to go in there. It's just a sentimental thing.

really your a virgin ma once you have not had sex or anal one you are still a virgin

From your first paragraph, when I saw this


"My female classmates are married or engaged and I felt left behind"

I knew this won't end well.

It has sent ladies to early grave.

soulbroken761:
I don't live in my parents house. I live close to the school where I'm doing my masters and working. My parents know who I'm dating. I don't think I was wrong to trust my "lover" not to rapè me under any circumstances. I only trusted the wrong person. I'm 24 and educated. I'm not a baby. I know how to not get pregnant. I didn't ask for advice. I will not be blamed more than necessary.

Please don't be bothered by insensitive comments, most of them are kids.

I am really sorry and sad about the bad experience you encountered from someone you trusted.

If you don't mind, can we talk outside here.

Check my signature for my no

sisisioge:
Wow! A virgin girl went to be sleeping over at a guy's place! A guy you frequently make out with who was apparently getting too excited about eating your cookies tried to rape you this afternoon but somehow you were lucky to escape but still stayed over!

Please report him to the relevant authority and have it trashed out there....I hope they believe you! Being an introvert doesn't give you a license to being soft in the head biko! Whew! I'm sorry, so vexed!

In the middle of Social Distancing... I guess some people got no respect for CORONA..

soulbroken761:
I don't live in my parents house. I live close to the school where I'm doing my masters and working. My parents know who I'm dating. I don't think I was wrong to trust my "lover" not to rapè me under any circumstances. I only trusted the wrong person. I'm 24 and educated. I'm not a baby. I know how to not get pregnant. I didn't ask for advice. I will not be blamed more than necessary.

Since your parents knows your rapist lover, I think it will be good to get them involve. You are 24 and so, he attempted raping you in the afternoon, you remained till he came back at night. What a wise decision, weldone. You can enjoy those that are petting you and claiming that he raped you, I can't be one of them. Since you couldn't use your head to leave his house when he attempted and failed despite your biting him, enjoy your day.

He clearly does not love you. Sex should be something mutual between partners. When it becomes something that happens without the either parties consent, then it is RAPE!

Get his ass arrested asap.

Lawly:




someone else's rape victim spotted

And it takes a rapist to know such hidden rape victims, innit?

Graxie:
Since your parents knows your rapist lover, I think it will be good to get them involve. You are 24 and so, he attempted raping you in the afternoon, you remained till he came back at night. What a wise decision, weldone. You can enjoy those that are petting you and claiming that he raped you, I can't be one of them. Since you couldn't use your head to leave his house when he attempted and failed despite your biting him, enjoy your day.

you dey mind am. They will. Claim rape or abuse but wont leave the abusers house. He left the house and you stayed put. This is not admissible evidence in court

that is madness of the highest order .......my question to is that can't he wait for the right time?. To me the guy is not understanding, and he dose not acknowledge ur pain. And he claims that he loves u........my sister that is a terrible lie. My only advice to you is to leave him.... Because for a guy who can rape u all in the name of pleasure can do more to u. Please take good care of your self

soulbroken761:
I created this thread because I needed to talk immediately. And I felt better. Fortunately, the two people I told this morning blamed me for my part but they are the right people to tell because they will mess up the guy. Even if I have no case in court, he will live a troubled life for quite some time.

As for me I know I will be fine in no time. I will see it as just bad séx. I have what it takes to make him lose his job and I will do it , if that is the only thing I can do myself .

Staying longer and reading some comments will traumatize me more than the violence and I have to move on asap.

you don't have convince nl men to believe your story.

every story written from a female perceptive is fake and untrue.


Do whatever that will make you justified. Don't listen to their nadada rubbish. Don't ever unghost yourself to any of these men in process of Convincing if want your sanity intact on nairaland.

I pray you heal faster.

Always place your safety first before that illusion they tag love. Stop Sleeping over in a man house if you don't want to share sexual history with him.

You are 24, behave like one.

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forgive him, but you mostly sleep together, its not easy too for men. but he was wrong, most girl pass that stage when they are virgin, most were lucky after forceful sex and mary each other, why other were not, but forgive him, he may still be your good husband.....girls also hurt boys too, after men sacrifise alot for them without sex and waste of years in the hope of marriage, at the end the girl will no longer interested and found excuse to abandon the guy, most guy then commit suicide. that is life. please just forgive him and move on, what is your gain if he was jail. if is still hurting your mind report to his parent as a witness. if he try it again that is jail.

soulbroken761:
I should have used the diary section instead of here, to serve the purpose. I just wanted to get it off my chest, my fault or not, not to gather sympathy or for the guy to be attacked. I know my mistake but some people here actually think I should I shouldn't talk at all because I was at his house. That's insensitive and messed up.

Talk to Someone else offline. Nairaland has never been a healthy platform to seek support from esp. with this issue.


if possible delete this thread and create a new thread in diary section, with that you don't need to read their insensitive comments.

This is exactly my thought.
I was wondering how one man can be doing all these and the lady cooperated with him or he had assistants?

holocron:


@bolded, gives the story away as fake. One man stuffs cloth into mouth without his fingers bitten off. One man tieing hand behind back, and laying the woman on her back. Her hands would surely break, and no mention of that. Sorry. Story is not plausible, even as fiction. It would have been more believable if the woman was drugged.

OlawaleBammie:
Cooked story, but e no done well


ingredients sef no complete, effect of the ekolomy meltdown cusd by coronation.

I thought twas only me that saw this as a fake story

Sixfeetbelle:


I'm certain you can never give this kind of advice to your sister if she came to you with this story. If you can't be empathetic, don't render advises. Thank you.

oga that guy u quoted is saying the truth.
Deal with it bro.
BTW this is a Cooked up story.

soulbroken761:
Good morning and thanks for the comments. I have some stained tissue paper that I kept in a nylon for evidence. It seems me living in his house for about 4 days now, not being the first or second time, I have no case. I will only be reminded that I share the blame. I do want him to suffer though so I will tell someone that knows me first and see how it goes

You have stained tissue, what about stained pant and torn outfit, you can't tell me you don't have bruises?

soulbroken761:
I'm not surprised that some people think I made up the story. I advertise things here on Nairaland with my main monicker. My phone number and first name are all over my posts. That is why I created a new account. I will be willing to unghost to any mature person that wants to talk to me privately.

Use your old account and you will get help faster. There's nothing to hide if truly you're saying the truth. Use your old account

I feel sorry for you
But If you don't want to report him, make him face justice


You should be banned.
Cos that would make you an accomplice.

Eberechi24:



Talk to Someone else offline. Nairaland has never been a healthy platform to seek support from esp. with this issue.


if possible delete this thread and great a thread in diary section, with that you don't need to read their insensitive comments.

see face like cow yansh . What are u doing on nairaland

soulbroken761:
I created this thread because I needed to talk immediately. And I felt better. Fortunately, the two people I told this morning blamed me for my part but they are the right people to tell because they will mess up the guy. Even if I have no case in court, he will live a troubled life for quite some time.

As for me I know I will be fine in no time. I will see it as just bad séx. I have what it takes to make him lose his job and I will do it , if that is the only thing I can do myself .

Staying longer and reading some comments will traumatize me more than the violence and I have to move on asap.

Now I know this story is made up

Kekereekun123:
see face like cow yansh . What are u doing on nairaland

Wait for Cheap likes, you will get them.

heniford2:
that's how i had sex with my formal ex we had hardcore sex filled with wild expos she mourned my name cried oh during the intimacy period after sex she even cooked for me leaving the next day police on my door she was crying i raped her i was arrested like that ...

You rapist. She probably agreed because you threatened to kill her

Mizwisdom:




Now I know this story is made up

people are bored and making all manner of fake posts

At 24 I was already paying rent.. i was sharing a batcha house...no light, no water , no toilet, no bathroom...at alpha beach with a friend. We were contented, always happy..everyday we are out selling a product or marketing another. If one job goes next minute we’re onto the next....Today, its a beautiful story.

Your journey to embracing your womanhood is really long and you don’t want to start with tales and woes of men.
I don’t know your story, but staying with that dude is worse.

I’m sorry what you went through, even though you don’t sound like you’re leaving that house anytime soon, ..
I’d advise you pick your pieces and take the bold step!

sending you hugs

dayleke:


This energy that you have here to be responding and defending your actions, why don't you use it and take it to the right authorities?
What are you hoping to achieve here if I may ask?

Please just be honest.

We don't know you nor "him".

I'm wondering the same thing. I think it's a fake story because if she has time to respond like this, why can't she just go and report the case? why isn't she even trying to seek medical help, he might have HIV and STDs? she's so calm, answering posts instead of seeking help

It’s a damn shame.

I made comments on this thread,

https://www.nairaland.com/5825659/fine-art-being-baboon#89009781

it was a post on the toxicity in Nigerian culture and the author highlights this toxic behavior.

We learnt that you can rape and subsequently blackmail a girl into becoming your girlfriend.

We learnt that if a girl visits you, she's asking for it.

He went on to add Nigerian men and women are products of our toxic culture and Nigerian women normalize it. I disagreed with the author because I thought he was victim blaming.

Reading comments from some real women (not the fake Fs) on this thread and those I’ve heard IRL, I now agree with the author 100%. It’s a damn shame.

Our culture with its abhorrent rape culture does a great disservice to our men, that we laud grown men having NO self control is a damn shame.

That as a culture we have NOT evolved to be more superior than animals, our instincts and morals are still like the animals in the wild is a damn shame.

That we think it’s perfectly normal and appropriate to make the yam and goat analogy to excuse sexual abuse, is a damn shame.

In college, from soph till I graduated I shared an apt with a grown heterosexual man it never crossed my mind that my living arrangement will result in a rape and if I had been raped, I’m almost certain I would get justice and if not at least I would not be shamed. The culture, while far from perfect, I reside in is evolved enough not to justify rape or blame me because I lived with a man.

The irony, I knew Nigerian men, international students, that had similar arrangements and knew never to cross that line. Why?

I am sorry OP that you live in a culture that says rape is ok and you are at fault for your own rape. I wish I had the power and influence to get you justice or at least to start the due process to get justice if due.

Please, never ever blame yourself for your rape, co-habiting with a man is not justification for rape. Take the morning after pill. Go to a hospital (if you can, get a rape kit). Report it, even though you might be laughed at or shamed (or maybe not) go ahead and put it on record.

Now that you know how some Nigerian men behave or how toxic the rape culture is, it’s a damn shame I’ve to say this, re-evaluate how you relate with Nigerian men. E.G when a Nigerian man apologizes for an inappropriate sexual behavior don’t believe him, he’s planning other ways to perfect his act. Never ever visit a Nigerian man in his house, most of them are wild predators and men and women in Nigeria endorse this animal behavior. Finally, please find a way to survive if one of such ways is starting and participating on a thread telling your story, please continue. Also, you can join Nigerian rape support group(s) on FB.

Feel so so sorry for you. Just stay strong

Kekereekun123:
people are bored and making all manner of fake posts

I was getting all emotional about it only to discover it's another fake one.

DateMynd44:
I thought twas only me that saw this as a fake story

No b only u bro, we plenty

soulbroken761:
I'm extremely introverted. It has always affected my relationships with people; family, colleagues, and lovers. I've not been in a real relationship before because of my communication issues. So I thought at 24 years, I need to learn how to be in relationship if I get a good guy. My female classmates are married or engaged and I felt left behind
I met my guy and started staying days in his house at a go. I thought it was for the best. He is a good guy even though very broke. Honestly I put myself in this situation.
We would make out but because I was a virgin, coupled with the fact that I have extremely low sex drive, I always told him to stop when it gets to that point. Even his finger hurt like crazy. It caused little quarells but he always told me he would never force it because he loves me.
So this afternoon we were making out as usual and he started touching me down there. It was so dry and it hurt like crazy, as if the skin was peeling off. I think the fan contributed to the dry ess. Anyway I begged him to stop but he wouldn't and I was almost crying. He started trying to force his dickk in but it didn't enter. All the while, I was begging him while trying not to attract neighbors. It got so painful that I bit his arm very hard and that was when he stopped.

He was very very angry, asking what I did that for. I told him he put me through a lot of pain. He went out and came back at night. I saw he was still angry so I slept in the living room, trying to be understanding and not piss him off further. He came and lovingly moved me to the bedroom. I thought all was well and dozed off.

Only to feel my mouth being gagged all of a sudden. I was still confused because I never expected such a thing. He said he had been thinking of what to do to me for biting him. He put clothes in my mouth and tied my mouth very tight, bound my arms together at the back, forced my legs open. I was crying and begging not to let it be like that but he slapped my face.

He grabbed oil and poured it and began forcing his dick inside until it entered and he rapedd me. I just waited helplessly for it to be over. I bled so much. I cried in the bathroom and came out to leave. He started begging, saying he loves me, etc.

I wanted to WhatsApp my dad to tell him something terrible just happened to me but my heart broke when I saw his picture. My parents really tried.

I just wanted to pour out my feelings in this post. I already know it was my fault even though I feel robbed. I would have given it to him if he had been patient. I hope to get over it soon. Typing with tears. I will shamefully get something at the pharmacy in the morning so that I don't get pregnant

I apologise to you young lady on the dastardly act suffered. I know you will bear the scars of the act on your breasts till the end of time. I however employ you to make peace with yourself. It was never your fault. You merely had the misfortune of meeting a wrong individual.

Do not believe ALL men are beasts. Not all men act without consideration to the feelings and rights of others. Do not bear this grudge against men the world over for an offence they did not commit.

Be sure to swallow some after sex pregnancy prevention pills like 'postinor 2'. I encourage you to move out from his apartment immediately and never return there.

soulbroken761:
I'm extremely introverted. It has always affected my relationships with people; family, colleagues, and lovers. I've not been in a real relationship before because of my communication issues. So I thought at 24 years, I need to learn how to be in relationship if I get a good guy. My female classmates are married or engaged and I felt left behind
I met my guy and started staying days in his house at a go. I thought it was for the best. He is a good guy even though very broke. Honestly I put myself in this situation.
We would make out but because I was a virgin, coupled with the fact that I have extremely low sex drive, I always told him to stop when it gets to that point. Even his finger hurt like crazy. It caused little quarells but he always told me he would never force it because he loves me.
So this afternoon we were making out as usual and he started touching me down there. It was so dry and it hurt like crazy, as if the skin was peeling off. I think the fan contributed to the dry ess. Anyway I begged him to stop but he wouldn't and I was almost crying. He started trying to force his dickk in but it didn't enter. All the while, I was begging him while trying not to attract neighbors. It got so painful that I bit his arm very hard and that was when he stopped.

He was very very angry, asking what I did that for. I told him he put me through a lot of pain. He went out and came back at night. I saw he was still angry so I slept in the living room, trying to be understanding and not piss him off further. He came and lovingly moved me to the bedroom. I thought all was well and dozed off.

Only to feel my mouth being gagged all of a sudden. I was still confused because I never expected such a thing. He said he had been thinking of what to do to me for biting him. He put clothes in my mouth and tied my mouth very tight, bound my arms together at the back, forced my legs open. I was crying and begging not to let it be like that but he slapped my face.

He grabbed oil and poured it and began forcing his dick inside until it entered and he rapedd me. I just waited helplessly for it to be over. I bled so much. I cried in the bathroom and came out to leave. He started begging, saying he loves me, etc.

I wanted to WhatsApp my dad to tell him something terrible just happened to me but my heart broke when I saw his picture. My parents really tried.

I just wanted to pour out my feelings in this post. I already know it was my fault even though I feel robbed. I would have given it to him if he had been patient. I hope to get over it soon. Typing with tears. I will shamefully get something at the pharmacy in the morning so that I don't get pregnant

Sorry for undergoing this ordeal. It hurts me to envisage what you narrated here.
I'm not doubting the truth in this narrative,but try and plead with ur mum to first accept u,comfort u,then report to her.
Also, there are NGOS or "doctors without borders contacts" you cld utilize.

Just that you shldnt have stayed alone with him. The little time u had to run,u didn't but slept over.
I commend your courage n openess to post it here,but, seek help of a counsellor too bcuz of stigmatisation. I wish there wld be a capital punishment for rapist in dis country,although, d lawmakers wld say that women also cause it by their dressing.