bennyflipy:
Nice thread, I need advice here. there's this girl I met online recently and we got talking chats and calls (I like her). We talk almost on a daily basis for long periods, I've not asked her out because I always feel reluctant doing that(Not my thing, at times I usually think if I have a problem there).
fast forward to yesterday she wake me up with a call at about 7:20am we talked for a while, we then chatted in the afternoon, towards evening around 5:06pm she called we spoke for some few minutes, she ended the call to attend to something (because they buried a child in their house yesterday). Some few minutes later she called but I didn't answer (something told me not to pick up the call) 30minutes later she called again, I didn't pick up. I waited for like 1 hour before I called back but she switched off her phone, few minutes later I called again and she answered the call and starting ranting I didn't answer her call bla bla, I told her I was not close to the phone, that's a lie that just choose to ignore her calls.
I then told her she misses me alot that's why, I told her i will make it up to her, she said I want to bribe her that she doesn't accept bribe, but I should promise not to do that again, I said okay. in the middle of the call I told her I visited my family home and my mum wants to have a word with me, if I'm done with Mumsy I'll call her back.
Which I didn't, but she later called later that night.
N.B: She always calls me big head and the most stubborn person she has ever met.
Please what is it that is wrong I'm doing

JhayJoe:
Please i need advice How do you further the relationship with a girl from being friends ??

majormofor:


Start calling her sweet names n see if she reciprocate

JhayJoe:
I've been doing that and she also calls me "Love" "Sugar" "Honey" but my fear is that she calls everybody that

majormofor:

Start going naughty with her while playing hard to get.... Eg u see this ur big Ikebe, if i slap it ehnnn see how its tempting me, remember I am expensive for that..

majormofor:

Start going naughty with her while playing hard to get.... Eg u see this ur big Ikebe, if i slap it ehnnn see how its tempting me, remember I am expensive for that..

noCAP:
lol, the fucck is this bruh?

majormofor:

Start going naughty with her while playing hard to get.... Eg u see this ur big Ikebe, if i slap it ehnnn see how its tempting me, remember I am expensive for that..

pastie:
Good day my elders in the game, there was a lady close to my area who I later know to be my sister friend, we have been chatting like lovers for the past week.. 1) Actually I was the one always initiating the chat, she couldn't start a convo even for once ... I requested to see her 2) after much pressure she finally agreed for me to visit her... Note... She's the indoor type which I discovered from my sister. 3) Right I have decided to shun her for the pass four days 4) but I noticed her missing me through her status. 5) She even ask of me from my sister.. ...
6) i'm thinking of the right step to take now.......
Pls excuse my grammar
Cc: harddon, zabiboy,trailblazer93, majormofor etc

1) this was the first red flag....if i get chatting with someone ( male or female) and the person cant initiate a convo. once in a while, then i'm done with d person....Anyways, all the chats you initiated, was she responding well( trying to keep the convo. going)??....This should have been your first observation..
2) Three things here.....a) How many days/weeks( after u first met) did it take before you started requesting??...b) Who does she stay with??.....c) Have you both talked outside( face to face),...you should know that before visiting a girl or asking her to visit you, you have to make her comfortable around you first to remove the ASD( Anti Slut Defense)..
3) If she's really an introvert, then i suggest you try talking to her more physically ( face to face) to make her comfortable around you....BUT if you notice she's not interested, Bro, just shun am..Dont try too hard to convince her,if not she'll feel insecure....
4) Give us examples of the status she posted.
5) That is nothing man....dont read too much meaning....
6) Try out number 2C and 3....if theres no change, Move on..
Note: She might form tough and hard bcz your she's a friend to your sister and she doesn't want complications...but if your game is tight, you'll run your package Well...

GL ....

brandon180:
Guys pls rate this chat..
She hasn't replied since yesterday..
However I feel I should have played d mystery card a little bit longer..
What do you think?
And another problem I have is I can come up with a perfect opener..and then after she replies usually in a positive manner..I usually don't know how to continue..
Like questions to ask et al.

...

Nah......
You had the perfect opportunity to build the curiosity...
Now, you'v introduced yourself, she wont reply fast as before bcz she now knows that you collected her number from someone else not her....and she doesnt know you...
Anyways, it should be a learning....
Build the curiosity till the point she'll call your number to try and recognize the voice...
Trust me it works 80% of the time....
There's a sample chat Harddon posted here about this....he used the ex-boyfriend route( When she asks who's this, you say something like " So bcz i broke your heart, u decided to delete my number"...).....Then tease her profile pic nd her current bf( be cocky, sassy and funny)...let it not look like an insult...
Sit back and expect a call anytime soon....
Note: There are so many ways to kill a rat...This is one way, you can use another route...
The main is that, you should have built more curiosity....so that when u finally reveal yourself, she's already comfortable with you ...

GL ...

HARDDON:


There is asolutely nothing wrong about talking to and bonding with a lady you fancy especially now that most people need somebody close either Tru chats or physically.

The issue comes when, due to the amount of hours you spend chatting, vid calling and other crazy virtual stuffs people do, you start getting Clingy and needy and always been at her beck and call and effectively killing the vibes. ( like I sense you are already doing, hence the need to apply a break like a virgin that got carried away by the sleekness of kissing and smooching but immediately, Jrod is introduced, she recoils.)

You must sprinkle fun on those boring Questions. ( Bios).

Sense Pill
The heart that goes sharing, grows 'fondier'
I know. I just know

Dos
it is not Everytime she calls you must take. Give her the gift of missing you. Anticipation.
Make the calls short or long; at your descretion. Not hers. Take charge. This is why you got those two pairs inbtw your legs.

You must always be the first to roll after a long call. ' aiit, my other fans are waiting, tgt, talk by 8pm).' you drop, you roll.

Sometimes, be dramatic, she calls, you pick and say ' hey, I'm really busy now, talk by 7pm and before she says jack, hang up'. 7pm comes, she would call. Ofcos you didn't....

If she ever brings up dating talks, ask her ' are you sure you can afford me?' or ' sure you can take my heat?'



Spicy up the talks with crazy demands.
1. tell Her , 'sing for me.' She'd ask what kinda song? Tell her 'anyone that comes to her mind first'. ( listen intently to the song's lyrics, ladies are very cryptic and within the lyrics, would lie words to despel this your wacky talks of asking somebody you already have in your nets out!)

2. if you are on vid call, tell her to drop the phone in a nice place, move back and show you her twerking skills or dancing skills or any other crazy thing you want her to do.

and a host of others. if she asks you for some, oblige her rarely.
If you must goof around , just call and start the goof. don't wait for her to ask.

Simply be spontaneous and take charge.


Sense Pill
There is nothing wrong about loving, don't just do it like a duck on heat.
There is nothing wrong about bonding, don't just let it get to the point where your balls and brains fall out.

And if you must lust, take your balls with you.

There is nothing wrong about living , don't just settle with mediocrity.

Don't talk like the average Joe, live like the average Jones, bond like the average James .

Heck, we born Royals.


Rich Regards
Don

lilnovak:
Hey everyone love the work you guys are doing here i have been following this post for some time now and i must say its good stuff. But there is one things i would like to ask how can a guy over come shyness. I have had a lot of opportunity's to meet cute girls but i don't just have the balls to talk to them. I have never had an intimate relationship with a girl but i would love to. Hope you guys can help a brother out here.

majormofor:

Tell her you don't do virgins... And have the mind to move on.

When it's time for marriage you will come back to her if she's truly a virgin which I doubt.

yetunsbay:
bro, ve spent on this lady. Is this not a loss

yetunsbay:
There is this lady we hv been dating for like a month now...we are both in love no doubt in which I exercise things within my power to contempt her.

The contention now is that she is a- V....... anytime I request for us having fun she decline rather says till wedding night. The fact is man can't wait till that time..

How do i manipulate based on her free will to enjoy her playstore. Pls bosses kindly assist asap

brandon180:

Don sequel to this threadhttps://www.nairaland.com/4737417/acts-books-how-read-faster which I just encountered this morning..am very much interested in the books because I want to know how to read faster with better retention, so if you will please help with the links to download the recommended books or If you have em soft copies I could drop my mail .
Gracias amigos..

yetunsbay:
bro, ve spent on this lady. Is this not a loss

HARDDON:


That is all you really came for, isnt it?

brandon180:
Guys pls rate this chat..
She hasn't replied since yesterday..
However I feel I should have played d mystery card a little bit longer..
What do you think?
And another problem I have is I can come up with a perfect opener..and then after she replies usually in a positive manner..I usually don't know how to continue..
Like questions to ask et al.

Donhezzy:
I immediately dropped my books and was curious to know were she was heading to. So I followed er, she was far ahead of me and I didn't want to run after er so dat I won't look needy or desperate like a wu33y a77 nigga

God so good she stopped along d hallway and decided to go read under one of the trees, on knowing I went back to take some of the vital things from my bag so as to prevent stories dat touch ( I hope u know wat I meant, if u don't niether do I ) well i gave my bag to a friend of mine to keep an eye on it.

so I decided to go get a table water to cool my system( why rush a meal dats der for the taking) and perhaps I was really thirsty. So I bought d water and took a note wit me and off I went

I finally got to were she was, sat close to er and brought out d table water n started drinking. Wen I was done I relaxed and viewed d nice serene environment b4 I opened my note, pretending like i was reading wereas i was flipping tru d pages
NB : I didn't even look at er for a sec during dose while, well u may ask y, well heres the reason one
1) I didn't want er to get d memo dat I chased er all d way from d class down here bcuz i wanted to collect er digit in which she will read as ( here comes anoda peacock on heat can't just do wit anything under skirt. probably anoda one of dose nice wu33y average guyz ) , bottom line, neva let a gurl know ur true intentions towards er

2) sendless; make er less important trust me ladies love attention alot especially d hot Chic's and they get annoyed easily n obsessed wen a guy do d opposite
why don't u DARE to be DIFFERENT

So I was busy reading my note while she was well God knows wat she was doing i neva cared to know. she got bored reading and went on doing all sort of things to get my attention which I didn't budge. wen she noticed I wasn't getting any of it, she took er handbag brought out er phone and started pressing while she sheepishly stare at me wit one side of d eyes ( sleek move). Lol, dis continued for several minutes and i neva gave a flinch nor did i look at er for a sec. in my mind i was just laughing


Wen i saw all sort of stunt she was pulling trying to get my attention. I den brought out my phone n took a grimpse look at d time b4 i came to reality dat if i dont strike a convo sooner rather later, I'm going to end up not engrossing n spuring entangling fun out of er boring life. i quickly took a grimpse look at er n found out she was having hard time understanding a course cuz she was just staring at d book like it wants to choke d hell outa er. On seeing this i decided to strike a convo


Me: Are those words in ur book written in flames or cud my eyes be deceiving me? ( said it putting on a serious face)

She: *smiled*....I don't get


Me: ur head is oozing out of smoke, now I'm beginning to worry this tree might just catch fire

She: *laughed*....I'm just finding hard time wit dis course(phy301) ooo its giving me tough time


Me: is dat y u pondering urself over it, lucky 4 u I happen to know it

She: Omg! really?


Me: easy gurl yeah, buh u should know my service ain't free

Her: hmmm...so wats it for me den


Me: well heres not the time and place to discuss dat..........(took er phone, input my hotline n told er to call me to find out. stood up n told er I've gtg)

Her: oh so quick? btw wic side are u heading to cuz I'm already tired of reading let's just go togeda


Me: you tired just now, hmm i might just change my mind about d tutor stuff, how I'm I sure u not going to fall in love wit me d instance we start n 4get u came to learn
(smiled at er) inshort I'm not tutoring u again don't wanna break dose tiny little heart of urs n make u make u still fail ur exam

Her: (laughing so hard, she was stunned)..., imma big gurl n besides I don't fall dat easy.....let's go joor ( drag my hands and was forcing me to go)


Me: I must warn u my heart is too big for one girl too carry oo, if u fall for me its at ur own risk...btw I don't think u can handle the heat

Her: *laughing hard*.....sha be feeling urself by d way I ve a boyfriend


(in my mind i was like, so dis gal thinks she can throw me off balance wit dis word, well she gat to do beta dan dat to get me. only if she knew wat she has just done.. using er own words to hurt herself)
Me: wait! did she just try to play a fast one on me (i did it as if I was talking to myself wit a low tone), well u ve do beta Dan dat to get me

She: for real I have a bf n I love him dearly


Me: oh poor guy! It wud ve bin beta if u dint meet me cuz from now henceforth he's gonna be in a very long queue

She: Lol, wat makes u think I'm gonna leave my bf more or less for u....... I love him ok


Me: *laughed out* why is ur conscience judging u already, lol, no nid to feel guilty cuz I'm not about taking u away from him, perphaps i don't want to break d poor guy tinys heart n besides I don't ve a thing for dark gurls, u might just go staining me soft skin (mind u she is chocolate, got dat perfect blend of color admonished by nature. oh! forgot to mention shes a 9ner...hmm)

Her: see ur head, Do u know thousands of people ( guyz most especially) dat drool over my color I guess u dont know....do u know anything at all self


Me: Lol wat do u expect to hear from dose guyz dats tryna impress u..... of course they would go. waxing lyrically how blooming, glooming n enchanting ur skin is. they wouldn't wanna tell u d truth would they??

Her: lol, I receive compliment from girls also if u don't know

Me: so she's a lesby! well let me see ( I looked at er intensively like a doc inspecting one of his patients)
for a start er height is not bad for er body 5.4ft tall (I looked at er again n noticed she was putting on shoes)
oh! u think u can deceive me wit dose shoes abi OK I think 4.5 wud suffice.

She:arrrrrrh! I'm I dat short haba ( she was eager to hear the full analysis about er)

Me: she's got nice lips tho buh aint sure she knows how to use em... n d worst case scenario is, shes a lesby 4 dat mata, too bad cuz I've totally lost interest before she even get d chance to impress

Her: *cant help buh burst out wit laughter* so its me u analysed like dis abi, iyaf do b4 u finish me... wait!, oooo can't bliv ive bin talking to u all dis while and I dont know ur name.
(I guess she joltted back to reality n obviously dis word kept jolting tru er mind, ''can't bliv I'm so free n laughing my ass out wit a guy i dont even know his name''. yeah if I hapn to be d one I wudnt think more or less )


Me: oh so u can go n give it to one baba so u both can go saying my name at night abi......as if wooing me is not enuf buh still u want to use love portion on me. rababa, I'm covered wit da blawd
Arrrh! no way I'm telling u my name

Her:* laughing so hard to the extent she almost fell my bag from me hand...i kinda got embarrassed cuz dis time around, it was loud n obvious. I was like so dis same gurl forming hush n posh not quite long can laugh dis hard in public without giving a damn if anyone is watching er*

Her:U wish.... Pls just tell me ur name b4 u start to feel urself. hmm dont tell me u re dat scared to tell me, dont worry i wont bite.


Me: Nah, I don't want u go saying my name at night while u go hugging ur pillow wishing I was der......i wouldnt want d whole neighbourhood to know my name b4 I get to introduce myself

She:* cracked up big time*.....so wat should I do for u to tell me ur name


Me: why don't u call to find out buh 1st uve gat to impress me For me to pick d call n so far u havent impressed me ....beta start to show me wat u re good at. u can sing nice song for me or rather still dance, let me see if u even know how to use dose gift of urz or dey re just dormant..( brought out my phone n pretend as if i was looking at d time) ur time start now n u got just 10sec

She: u know i cant do dose things u asked of along d road ppl will get to stare at me n btw why don't u just tell me joor it s not a big deal (said it wit a sexy baby voice)

Me: oh dear u havent got to impressed me yet, i gave u d chance to impress me n u dint. oh! well, n besides Ive got alota admirer, u neva can tell if one of dem is keeping tabs on me ryt now, surely don't want any1 to go stalking me on social media (i smiled at er in an annoying way)

She: lol,for ur mind u be James . u ain't even happy I'm curious to know ur name ( she didn't bliv dat a guy can turn a sexy living creature like er down)

Me: ( already out of d school walls) u know wat dear, if u really curious to know my name y don't u call to find out.....* board a bike and took off*


To be continued


P.S: I brought out my life long experience wit em so dat most of u guyz can learn from my experience cuz it pains me to see my fellow niggas run after em ladies go doing every of der biddings just to impress dem to d extent not having a life of der own and get friendzone or rather still turned into a maga/mugu..... some guys really sucks at initiating a convo......it is a disease wen u suck n don't know u suck wit gurls well I just hope ya'll can obviously learn from my experience

Millennialaku:

my opinion: your conversation was boring although you had her interested at some point

there is one principle i apply when chattting with women, i reply based on how they reply me. if they reply short, i will do the same, if they reply lenghty i will do the same.

ilemona4u:
my G, Abeg wetin b the time range when person fit dey see survey for Prolific. And u know any reliable source of US number since that omwubiko na scam?

Millennialaku:


guy here no be dead thread nah

i wait for studies from 2pm in the afternoon-1am in the morning- nigerian time

i used dingtone, but people here are saying that prolific no longer accept their number