Ablemax:
How can I meet one here in 9ja

Not possible. ..leave naija first

Is it difficult to simply be a man, be considerate? Just look at d archiac guy that said women are created to serve men, if na so, men are created to take care of women.

My tip is try to get your papers the right way and look for a naija sister with papers too. That will take away the major trust issues of being played by a naija babe back home or in America. Things people do for green card is quite unfortunate.

Social Justice Warrior wehdone. Protecting one and putting the other life in penury.

SIRTee15:


The society should protect the weak and the vulnerable......
The justice system gives voice to victims and the helpless.....
Most domestic violence victims are women, NOT men....no matter how much u try to twist the narrative....

Its hard for single mothers anywhere in the world....Imagine if they are now left without any support.....
African patriarchal culture is evil and retrogressive....it should be challenged.....

Kobojunkie:


Nigerians laws and cultures have women living as subhumans aka slaves.
Why do you think women continue to fight for equality in the eyes of the law ? Have you not been able tp put 2&2 together by now on that ?

says who If you treat your wife like a slave and subhuman, say it......many women married and living in Nigeria with their husbands are living the best life most ladies married in US and UK wish and dream of.


They enjoy everything they desire, because they married the right men.


Don't blame the outcome of bad people's lifestyle on the society.


A bad man is a bad man no matter where u take him to.

A bad woman is a bad woman even if you take her to heaven!

Ishilove:

This is very amusing, and a tad exaggerated.

Aside from the number 4 which to an extent belongs on that list as well, because when the cops get called on you, na only your clothes dem dey tell you to pick oh. So, the list is spot on.

LordKO:



It's obvious that your submission isn't from an aristocratic POV regarding serving/setting food. A wife/woman - and vice versa, subject to schedule of the man - serving/setting food for her husband/man and tidying the table when he finishes eating, directly or indirectly, has neither been a sign of slavery nor a Nigerian/African thing alone. It's a simple act of selflessness, part of the little things that matter in a healthy marriage/relationship - it has always been done voluntarily and cheerfully. It has always been obtainable within the aristocratic families in the Western world, North America inclusive and the whole world. The command aspect of it you talked about is what I don't know, maybe that's what's obtainable among small-minded people, since altruism isn't their forte.

In fact, it's only the small-minded people who think that jettisoning acts of selflessness and humility as couples when they arrive in the Western world that make them belong. Wannabes. A woman who jettisons acts of selflessness and humility just because she wants to belong, is like a man who won't allow his wife to drive his vehicle at will, or spend his money at will, or save her from doing masculine and stressful things, all because of wokeness and equality. Wokeness and equality don't nullify selflessness and humility as attributes and reciprocation of them between a sane couple - too clever by half attitude doesn't denote wokeness, just as selflessness doesn't denote inequality or slavery.

Love is the greatest refreshment in life, it isn't an illusion - well, it's something only two conscientious people who have altruistic interest towards each can experience. 

It's all utter nonsense where man and woman are equal. Preparing meals for your husband and kids is just normal. Expecting the husband to play an equal role is just nonsense.

It's fear of alimony that causes a reset in men, otherwise they won't accept it.

If the man chooses to do household chores usually carried out by women, fine. But that it's mandatory is just taking the piss.

Coolcalmcollect:
why the fork will i be fortunate enuf to get an American visa and go there to date a forking Nigerian girlisn't that a waste of visa

I'm just as confused as you're.

Amazo1:
a story is told of a man who wanted to marry, I will never marry any of this city girls, they are too wayward he would say.he contacted his mother who quickly found him a bride. Bride price was paid all marriage arrangements concluded. The new bride moved to Lagos to live with her husband. Night came and the husband was expecting to unveil his virgin bride. pre-intimacy started, the husband casually touch his pubic hair, he noticed a large growth,why not think of shaving it one of this days ask the husband. No no no I will not touch it , that's why I am called afro baby by all the village boys

Nairaland sha!

SocialJustice:
Lol, I finally made my way to USA, I will now be looking for Nigerian girls to date? For what?

exactly....is it by force to look for a Nigerian girl when you are out of Nigeria? By the time u sample Polish girl, Mexican girl, akata, Ethiopian girl.....u will thank me later

Na the strong independent western women still dey disadvantaged judging by your comment. Na to turn all of them to baby mama finish since their gynocentric society no count man as anything worth protecting.

TheManOfTheYear:
So who then should we marry?

Little wonder most men over there end up having baby mamas instead of wives, no one want to lose everything he's worked for to a woman in the name of divorce, or be paying alimony or child support

ZINIBANKS:

To drive benz over there self hard
Everything dey very expensive who go drive Benz when there's heavy bills to pay

Benz...lol
26k and you get a very good one

pDudd:


Hahahahaha. Lefool Lefool, you sabi the runz die

You too sabi this Yankee things o. Those guys dey always Bleep up. Instead make Dem dey marry their mates, them go dey marry fresh fish wey still wan rock life before she reach 40. Or instead of him to marry a girl that has already opened eye. Because an open eye girl will not suddenly realize herself. She don realize herself tey tey so na just settle she wan settle cos she don already chop life.

All these small small girls will eventually open eye and ruin the man's life. I will talk about all that one.

Valid point you got there

Kingarthur21:
Why should a sane guy given the golden opportunity to travel to the states and meet dope babes over there still date this tasteless dimers?

because the men who do such feel that the tasteless dimers as u call them are naive and easy to control.Dont u hear the story most times about nigerian men in the US complaining that american women are too enlightened and know their right and that they prefer going back to africa to get a wife cos they believe women in africa are easy to control and manipulate .then there is also the issue of your parents.there some parents who believe that even though u married overseas u must still go back to africa and naija and marry a homebase.there some mothers who would even nag their overseas son to death to come back home and get a home base wife.note all families do this but the least enlightened families are fond of doing this.there some mothers that believe u must come back home to marry a home base wife even though u married there cos there looking for someone to use for house chorus or they believe that children born from western mothers tend to hate their african heritage and the western mother would prevent her kids from knowing the land of their african dad etc.these are some of the fears dat make some moms to pressure their sons overseas to go back home and get an african wife.

41lady:
For me, I have decided to marry outside Naija. I can't face Naija women in singarpore.

Abeg, how do naija women behave in singapore.

Share some details to safe mens lives from these devils

2buffagain:


I can understand (and discourage) already being married in Naija and then only him going overseas and then keeping her there.

What I don't get is coming back to marry just to leave her there.
Makes no sense. She's just an extra monthly bill that he would have been using to buy stocks instead
.

Think babymamas. Rather than have them overseas and pay them what is due them, some of these so called men marry and leave their babymama back in Nigeria where they know the woman is less likely to riseup against him or run off with his kids

milehigh06:

Benz...lol
26k and you get a very good one

Estimate that 26k and see how much is it in naira you go fear

oshaosha2014:
Na the strong independent western women still dey disadvantaged judging by your comment. Na to turn all of them to baby mama finish since their gynocentric society no count man as anything worth protecting.

I dey tell you.
Real men wey get sense should better just remain single with baby mama, these ladies can be unpredictable and green snakes.

Can't lose all a man worked for because of some shitty western laws

pansophist:


I think its wife before children, otherwise, your post is on point.

I think its children before wife

Children put their moms in trouble ALL THE TIME

A distress call to 911 is all it takes to put the woman in gobe.
Same way distress call from the woman can put man in kssala

Kobojunkie:


Think babymamas. Rather than have them overseas and pay them what is due them, some of these so called men marry and leave their babymama back in Nigeria where they know the woman is less likely to riseup against him or run off with his kids

Why would any sensible man want to even do this?
.Complications of life

pDudd:
Next tip: Prepare to start to beg the woman for money.

or even worse, provide "services " for money

SIRTee15:


The society should protect the weak and the vulnerable......
The justice system gives voice to victims and the helpless.....
Most domestic violence victims are women, NOT men....no matter how much u try to twist the narrative....

Its hard for single mothers anywhere in the world....Imagine if they are now left without any support.....
African patriarchal culture is evil and retrogressive....it should be challenged.....

You care expanding on your perspective?

pansophist:


I think its wife before children, otherwise, your post is on point.

Always kids first.

pDudd:
First tip: Leave that your native brain in Nigeria.

If you're the kind of man that will sit on the sofa and be watching UEFA champions league and be telling a woman that she should go and cook, serve you, bring you water to drink and wash hand, you are in for a rude shock. Nigerian women in US have opened eye now o. They are not going to serve you like master and servant while your stretch your legs on sofa and be watching football.

If your mother did that for your father, please go and marry your mother so she too can come and be serving you like a king. Nigerian women ain't doing that for you.

Before you leave Nigeria, better learn how to cook, clean house, do laundry, go to buy groceries, take care of kids, and learn humility.

Learning humility is of utmost importance because the day you step your feet into America, you are now second to every woman. The American society favors women over men. They placea lot of value over men. So if you didn't respect women in Nigeria, you may need to reconsider that stance. And if you can't see yourself having a woman above you or respecting women, then better stay in Nigeria.

Guy, you never finish the thread na

ednut1:
yes both are backward. But over there many have turned to baby mama or singleness. Over here many ladies are still desperate for that same marriage. The matter tire person

Indeed tiring

Na lose loss situation for everyone

Resivim:
People don't change they're revealed. So, shine your eyes and don't choose for wrong reasons.

Well said

RamessesIV:
You must be dumb did you even read my comment,bro I understand you are useless anf stupid and can't read properly,liberals gave blacks rights how is that hard to comprehend

Guys Cool it .lol.
Here's an interesting one for you Ramses. I left Nigeria to the U.s at 14. Now 24. Exactly 10 years. I wasn't born in the U.s., neither am I a fReSher. What Does that make me?

humilitypays:
says who If you treat your wife like a slave and subhuman, say it......many women married and living in Nigeria with their husbands are living the best life most ladies married in US and UK wish and dream of.
They enjoy everything they desire, because they married the right men.
Don't blame the outcome of bad people's lifestyle on the society.
A bad man is a bad man no matter where u take him to.
A bad woman is a bad woman even if you take her to heaven!

You just made the case for me without even realizing it.

A woman is in allwise your equal. If you do not see that at your age and stance in life, you already are proof of the Nigerian problem.

Plus, the laws consider women as second class citizens meaning they are considered less than men, which is wrong and needs to be corrected so that people like you are put in their place.

Fidelismaria:



if

PATRIARCHY is wrong then MATRIARCHY is no better

they are both the same

two sides of a coin

choose your poison and move on

Two destructive systems that have proven that power corrupts

Once the balance of power tilt so much to one side, abuse is inevitable, as you see With the way men conduct themselves in Nigeria and women conduct themselves overseas

Skmoda360:
Japa things.....I no fit dey yankee make I leave whitey dey follow naija women make dem koba my life....


I will work my ass out and date a white girl capiche.

You cant date Nigerian girl na white girl you want manage? LOL. Whitey wahala 100x worse pass naija girl

Crazy society!

Should my wife try to take advantage of the crazy society that favours women, I will just relocate to Nigeria!! If she likes she should follow me, if she like she should stay back.

I will NEVER bow to any woman!!!