klbakare:


Your talk is nonsense. Totally devoid of sense and reasoning.

Did you read where they had only one mattress?
Did you read where the wife was not pre-informed?
Did you read where the wife was sleeping on the floor in the parlour?
Did you read where they were overstaying?
Did you read where a stupid brother brought girlfriend to his married sibling's house and was probably knacking her on their matrimonial bed?
If anybody deserves to sleep on the bed, its the wife and the mother of the husband.

All these witchcraft mothers should desist from ruining their children's marriage. No wonder the boy contributes money with his wife to pay rent. Am sure he didn't tell his family that his wife pays rent with him.

I advice the lady to seek the mind of God concerning the relationship. If she is properly married, divorce is not possible according to christianity. If she is not properly married, she should run as far as her leg can take her from her unfortunate husband.

***hope she is also not a wicked, intolerant and unfortunate wife too because them dey like that vice-versa ?

If she properly married, She should pray to God to restore her marriage while she goes back to her father's/friends/ relative house to put up in the mean time.

At anytime the husband comes for reunion, they should go to the police station to sign an undertaking that he will never abuse his wife again and any harm that comes to her subsequently is from her husband.

She should become a prayer warrior if she will ever continue with that family. Satanic people!

Are u minding all ds people that do not read to understand but instead they read to reply and end up sounding foolish

abdulizom:
Anyway, there's more to this story than..........

One thing is sure for me, there no woman on earth that can be obviously disrespectful to my mother that will be in my house even if my Mom is at fault, never.

My Mum is my world no more no less, and she's very considerate.

No woman on earth command more value than my mother, even my wife knows. She doesn't joke with her, she may pretend about it, but, sure she doesn't cross her boundary

U sound dumb and foolish

alasan007:

With your moniker guess u r female n you still frown at her opinion that shows she’s so toxic I pity any man that marry her

I have a male child and wont pray for such. Thou not in support of him sending her out but her comment show the type of mother that raised her up.

solmus:



Nigerian women are generally wicked, were is the love? are we saying 5 people cant share 3 rooms and a parlour peacefully without quarrel ? My first time outside the country I spent almost a month in a tiny apartment with 2 rooms and a parlour, the husband and wife shares one room, their daughter and the man's neice shared another, while I slept in the seating room with the husbands younger brother.. we all enjoyed our time together and contributed to pay bills, buy groceries.. we hide from neighbors to avoid being reported for being overcrowded and early in the morning everyone is out of the door , saying our goodbyes at the subway station

Its absolute lack of love that make Nigerian women hate house helps and husbands family, they would even treat their kitchen like its a sacred temple meant for only them.. whats the big deal if anyone cooks while the wife is away, and once she's back she microwaves it and eat? the other occupants in the house can make themselves useful by cleaning the house and making everywhere tidy, and in the evening after meal they can all share stories or watch a movie together


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Bro your own is still okay,3 of us shared a single room apartment it was more of a very small studio,so no sitting room or anytime, only one bathroom and toilet in Baton Rouge for 13months,I was the only Male out of us,one nigerian,one American.
We never had a confrontation for the 13months,of course they were annoying sometimes after all they're girls,they chatter, don't clean and talk too much, but I just see them as my siblings and to me it's all love.when I finally moved out to new Orleans this girls would still come and crash at my apartment because that was how great our stay was.
Wife are too intolerant to their husband's families this days and it is very wrong, how can you ask thrice within 2 weeks.

Let the wife ask for her clothes, she can go and stay with her friend , so she can continue going to work,........ Men are not worth going through trauma for, her work is more important here

Sirvingeo:
There is more to this story. The husband will never drive his wife away just because she asked if his family will stay with them permanently.

Yes, it is highly possible when there is jazz involved. How are we sure that the supposed brothers girl is not a girl brought by the mother for her son?

LordShiva97:



You're misyarning and you're doing it with the confidence of one who's intoxicated on an exotic strain of weed. Are you even sure we read the same post, you probably know more about this issue than the OP revealed to us?

So confronting her husband on the continued stay of the husband's folks in her home which is clearly infuriating her means she's indirectly wishing her mother-in-law death, how?
What's the logic behind this conclusion? :>(

And what's wrong with her asking the same question thrice in two weeks, it's her home for Zeus's sake and she contributed in the rent, it's not as if it's the man's sef
Asking a question thrice within the space of fourteen days in your own house is now a crime that deserves punishment?

If the mother-in-law was only coming for treatment, what's up with bringing the brother and his girlfriend along?

You're trying so hard to excuse the man's folly, but you're failing woefully at it. If you genuinely believe that the lady's is wrong and the man totally absolved of any blame then you have a serious problem.

This is my last reply to you though.

obviously i see it is difficult for you to read and understand easily ,lets put the write up into reality assuming the couple stay in Lagos .And the boys mother stays in ikorodu and the hospital she receives treatment is in yaba and her son stays in yaba also.How easy do you think it will be for the sick mother to come from ikorodu to yaba under this total lockdown situation but it will be easier if she is in yaba .Then for the brother and the girl friend staying it is justified so they can attend to the sick mothers needs .The brother for the physical part of it and the girlfriend for the womanly part washing of the clothes and other female shit .Obviously you have not experienced handling a sick eldrly person .The house is a 3 bedroom for crying out loud so what is bad there (5 people in a 3 bedroom flat for a couple of months)PLEASE YOU DO NOT HAVE TO REPLY

I will never ever send my wife away for such flimsy reasons.
But relatives shud understand that couples need their space.
Personally, I dont like crowd.

instinct57vm:


Don’t be a bastard it’s clearly written all over my profile that I’m male and beside my username u’ll see (m) if you aint blind. I’m also married! So please don’t be dumb.

I don't banter Words with shallow minded People, You are disgrace to my gender

Am not in support of what d man did but I have to say this: wives are so cool and relax when all the members of her own family visit, the man will not be comfortable with it, but will endure it for years sef. Sometimes , the man will be spending extra much cos of her wife family visit but there will be peace.
But whenever the reverse is that case, there will be no peace .
I totally blame the woman for that constant worrying of her husband over the visit. She should have endured cos if it is her family, she will not complain no matter how long.
Check many couples , u will see d wife mother staying wt the couple for years and there will be peace , the man is doing a lot of sacrifice to maintain that peace , but when it is the wife turn , she can not endure more than one month.
OUR WOMEN ARE STH ELSE.

My opinion is NEVER join and pay rent with your husband.

He will treat the house like his alone.

Paying rent with a man is flat mate things.

She should sue her flatmate (husband) for half the rent.

Ok bye!

Discombulator:

Bro your own is still okay,3 of us shared a single room apartment it was more of a very small studio,so no sitting room or anytime, only one bathroom and toilet in Baton Rouge for 13months,I was the only Male out of us,one nigerian,one American.
We never had a confrontation for the 13months,of course they were annoying sometimes after all they're girls,they chatter, don't clean and talk too much, but I just see them as my siblings and to me it's all love.when I finally moved out to new Orleans this girls would still come and crash at my apartment because that was how great our stay was.
Wife are too intolerant to their husband's families this days and it is very wrong, how can you ask thrice within 2 weeks.

You guys continue to amAze me by not reasoning from a woman’s perspective. Some things for us as men are relatively easier for us to handle. See how you guide this ladies matters alot that’s where our strength should lie as a man not in giving orders and being quick to think a woman should reason like you, its almost impossible.

Millenniumlady:
The man just played himself he'll live to regret the cause of his actions.......how dare you take side With your mother when i'm your wife which automatically makes me your new mum ......Ladies never you marry a guy that's so close to his mum if you want a successful marriage.

The problem is not that, he was too close to his mum, hell nobody can separate me from my mum , the problem was that ur friends husband is a slowpoke! But then it’s too early to judge, Most Nigerians hardly communicate you know, Dey just talk and it’s best they settle this amicably.

pedrilo:
I will never ever send my wife away for such flimsy reasons.
But relatives shud understand that couples need their space.
Personally, I dont like crowd.

Another person with sense spotted. Thanks for being amongst the few with sense. You see that’s why ladies will say men are scum, dont blame them. the irresponsible and reckless comments from alot of fellow men on here is more than enough to justify this.

DeBill:
Am not in support of what d man did but I have to say this: wives are so cool and relax when all the members of her own family visit, the man will not be comfortable with it, but will endure it for years sef. Sometimes , the man will be spending extra much cos of her wife family visit but there will be peace.
But whenever the reverse is that case, there will be no peace .
I totally blame the woman for that constant worrying of her husband over the visit. She should have endured cos if it is her family, she will not complain no matter how long.
Check many couples , u will see d wife mother staying wt the couple for years and there will be peace , the man is doing a lot of sacrifice to maintain that peace , but when it is the wife turn , she can not endure more than one month.
OUR WOMEN ARE STH ELSE.

I don’t agree with you. This thing is a joint responsibility. If couple understand one another and discuss about everything they do, there can never be a case of wife’s mother or anyone staying with them unless they agree.
For what exactly? See I’m married and my wife hardly allows her mum come around. Na me sef go dey tell her to free her. What am i saying? As a man your mother inlaw will only stay with you guys if you allow it. Hence, this cannot be a tenable excuse to condemn a lady. Afterall none of the lady in question family member ever visited since they got married. Please lets be guided.

Thank you for the insult Sir.

instinct57vm:


If you are expecting word for word daily activities of people on here you not gona get it. That’s the summary, intelligent ppl will ask questions to clarify their thoughts and share opinion or they keep shut

Thank you Sir.

instinct57vm:


If you are expecting word for word daily activities of people on here you not gona get it. That’s the summary, intelligent ppl will ask questions to clarify their thoughts and share opinion or they keep shut

I would say the supposed "brother in-laws girlfriend" is another wife the mom brought to replace ur friend... What do I know tho

instinct57vm:


You guys continue to amAze me by not reasoning from a woman’s perspective. Some things for us as men are relatively easier for us to handle. See how you guide this ladies matters alot that’s where our strength should lie as a man not in giving orders and being quick to think a woman should reason like you, its almost impossible.

Bro we all know such situation is delicate especially for a nigerian family, since she already knows he is perhaps too close to his mum,she should have threaded carefully and just wait for the matter to die a natural death,5 people in a 3 bedroom flat is still doable.
On the other hand the guy handled the matter like a fool too

Discombulator:

Bro we all know such situation is delicate especially for a nigerian family, since she already knows he is perhaps too close to his mum,she should have threaded carefully and just wait for the matter to die a natural death,5 people in a 3 bedroom flat is still doable.
On the other hand the guy handled the matter like a fool too

5 people in a three bedroom being possible is relative bro. Different strokes for different folks. I think its unfair to generalize that this pattern can work for every family.

From a Nigerian perspective a newly weded like the couple in question honestly do not need any body staying with them if they are to lay solid foundation for a lasting marriage.

I am married since 2018 and my wife and I both agreed that nobody will stay with us for at least 3years. The person that had stayed longest was her mum for a week when we had our child. People have proposed staying with us from my family and my wife’s family but we declined even though politely and diplomatically. My wife handles responses to her own ppl in this regard, while I handle responses to my own people as well.

If we have our 2nd child and we still have a girl. That will make it 2 girls. Bro, My wife and I are already discussing that nobody will stay with us at all coz I need to protect my girls if u understand what I mean. Life experience taught my wife and I this not our fault.

Another reason couple might decide against people staying with them can be financial which is evident in this couple case. The reason why only one room has a bed as stated on my writeup.

There are alot other reasons why ppl can’t allow anyone stay with them if u ask them.

Millenniumlady:
The man just played himself he'll live to regret the cause of his actions.......how dare you take side With your mother when i'm your wife which automatically makes me your new mum ......Ladies never you marry a guy that's so close to his mum if you want a successful marriage.

never marry if only the guy is foolish. A guy who do not care of his mother, Is it the wife or the wife mother will he take care of? No.

If the mother in-law never talked to his son on why he had to lay his hands on a woman (his wife), they the woman is wicked and never mean well for the couple.

srclark:
obviously i see it is difficult for you to read and understand easily ,lets put the write up into reality assuming the couple stay in Lagos .And the boys mother stays in ikorodu and the hospital she receives treatment is in yaba and her son stays in yaba also.How easy do you think it will be for the sick mother to come from ikorodu to yaba under this total lockdown situation but it will be easier if she is in yaba .Then for the brother and the girl friend staying it is justified so they can attend to the sick mothers needs .The brother for the physical part of it and the girlfriend for the womanly part washing of the clothes and other female shit .Obviously you have not experienced handling a sick eldrly person .The house is a 3 bedroom for crying out loud so what is bad there (5 people in a 3 bedroom flat for a couple of months)PLEASE YOU DO NOT HAVE TO REPLY

Just to correct you, The mother in-law isn’t bedridden. She only came for a check up and decided to stay permanently. The husband knew this but failed to communicate it to the wife. The couple are still struggling financially to harbor anyone and the wedding is also way too early for anyone to start staying with them. Na common sense bro. When the guy was squatting before marriage why didn’t the mother and the rest move in then. She waited until the wife helped her son in paying half of rent and bought many things herself before coming to scatter their marriage.
No matter how we look at it, the guy simply exposed his wife ,disrespected her, violated her rights and above all never loved her.

Ijobaorun:
The truth be told, why will a sane man who just got married less than 6 months bring his mother, brother and girlfriend to come and be staying with them?
It's ridiculous. That man is sick upstairs if the story is true.

Sick is an understatement he is mentally derailed. A 36yr old for that matter.

Bilabong:


Guy read the thing well na. She came, not alone but with two other people for over three weeks. U can't even have space in your own home.

Are u minding all ds guys typing rubbish. A man that can not decide whether or not people visit and manage situations like this is not a man. Let alone newly wedded. Weak men everywhere hiding under the guise of I love my mom. Shebi the rest of us hate our moms na. Pure and applied nonsense.

instinct57vm:


Are u minding all ds guys typing rubbish. A man that can not decide whether or not people visit and manage situations like this is not a man. Let alone newly wedded. Weak men everywhere hiding under the guise of I love my mom. Shebi the rest of us hate our moms na. Pure and applied nonsense.

So what's the situation of your friend now....The man is actually a baby husband....I am sure he never loved her but just wanted to use her financially.... The mother-in-law is evil...what do you expect from her since she too has left her husband... She never liked your friend and wanted that marriage to fail.... Any man that can't head his home and take decisions isn't fit to marry.I am a mother and I can never allow my son to love me more than his wife no matter the sacrifice I did...I love my husband so much that I don't think I will have the mindset to start acting as a rival to my son's wife....Any mother that wants to come between her son and his wife is a shameless and selfish mother....What God has joined together let no man put assunder

instinct57vm:


Are u minding all ds guys typing rubbish. A man that can not decide whether or not people visit and manage situations like this is not a man. Let alone newly wedded. Weak men everywhere hiding under the guise of I love my mom. Shebi the rest of us hate our moms na. Pure and applied nonsense.

So what's the situation of your friend now....The man is actually a baby husband....I am sure he never loved her but just wanted to use her financially.The mother-in-law is evil...what do you expect from her since she too has left her husband... She never liked your friend and wanted that marriage to fail.... Any man that can't head his home and take decisions isn't fit to marry.I am a mother and I can never allow my son to love me more than his wife no matter the sacrifice I did...I love my husband so much that I don't think I will have the mindset to start acting as a rival to my son's wife.Any mother that wants to come between her son and his wife is a shameless and selfish mother....What God has joined together let no man put assunder.

instinct57vm:


Just to correct you, The mother in-law isn’t bedridden. She only came for a check up and decided to stay permanently. The husband knew this but failed to communicate it to the wife. The couple are still struggling financially to harbor anyone and the wedding is also way too early for anyone to start staying with them. Na common sense bro. When the guy was squatting before marriage why didn’t the mother and the rest move in then. She waited until the wife helped her son in paying half of rent and bought many things herself before coming to scatter their marriage.
No matter how we look at it, the guy simply exposed his wife ,disrespected her, violated her rights and above all never loved her.

am not taking sides here i am just suggesting the easy way out of this ,the couple should have jut gotten a bed for the other room, her stay is just temporary it is not a biggie .The wife should know these things happen all the time ,a time will come someone will come through her that needs to stay so she should not lose her marriage over what is not worth it .

jenifer007:



So what's the situation of your friend now....The man is actually a baby husband....I am sure he never loved her but just wanted to use her financially.The mother-in-law is evil...what do you expect from her since she too has left her husband... She never liked your friend and wanted that marriage to fail.... Any man that can't head his home and take decisions isn't fit to marry.I am a mother and I can never allow my son to love me more than his wife no matter the sacrifice I did...I love my husband so much that I don't think I will have the mindset to start acting as a rival to my son's wife.Any mother that wants to come between her son and his wife is a shameless and selfish mother....What God has joined together let no man put assunder.

I speak to her occasionally to encourage her. You have spoken well, no wonder some people will say that only married people are fit to give marital advice.. Many of this singles just be spewing trash.

I am also married, my wife and I both agreed that nobody will stay with us till we deem fit. The person that had stayed longest was her mum for a week when we had our child.

People have proposed staying with us from my family and my wife’s family but we declined even though politely and diplomatically. My wife handles responses to her own ppl in this regard, while I handle responses to my own people as well.

Infact, if we have our 2nd child and we still have a girl. That will make it 2 girls. My wife and I are already discussed that nobody will stay with us at all coz we need to protect this girls.

Another reason couple might decide against people staying with them can be financial which is evident in this couple case. The reason why only one room has a bed in their house.

Her husband messed everything up. He isn’t fit to marry and never loved her like you rightly said.

srclark:
am not taking sides here i am just suggesting the easy way out of this ,the couple should have jut gotten a bed for the other room, her stay is just temporary it is not a biggie .The wife should know these things happen all the time ,a time will come someone will come through her that needs to stay so she should not lose her marriage over what is not worth it .

Going by the scheme of things, her stay is not temporary bro and the couple both earns salaries that cannot accommodate third parties. No be people wey get money to spare go buy bed? The mother even brought bed after a few days clearly indicating they have come to stay.

About ppl coming to stay when a time comes, my case for instance, I am married since 2018 and my wife and I both agreed that nobody will stay with us for at least 3years.

The person that had stayed longest was her mum for a week when we had our child. Infact, when my wife was pregnant, she’s always naked all throughout our stay at home moving from living room to rooms at will. How can anyone even stay with us in that situation?

People have proposed staying with us from my family and my wife’s family but we declined even though politely and diplomatically. My wife handles responses to her own ppl in this regard, while I handle responses to my own people as well.

If we have our 2nd child and we still have a girl. That will make it 2 girls. Bro, My wife and I are already discussing that nobody will stay with us at all coz I need to protect my girls if u understand what I mean. Life experience taught my wife and I this not our fault.

See this thing na understanding, if husband and wife cannot understand one another they have no business getting married in the first place.

Now go back and read your comment slowly and with a clear mind. You'll be surprised how stupid it is

Millenniumlady:
The man just played himself he'll live to regret the cause of his actions.......how dare you take side With your mother when i'm your wife which automatically makes me your new mum ......Ladies never you marry a guy that's so close to his mum if you want a successful marriage.

instinct57vm:


Going by the scheme of things, her stay is not temporary bro and the couple both earns salaries that cannot accommodate third parties. No be people wey get money to spare go buy bed? The mother even brought bed after a few days clearly indicating they have come to stay.

About ppl coming to stay when a time comes, my case for instance, I am married since 2018 and my wife and I both agreed that nobody will stay with us for at least 3years.

The person that had stayed longest was her mum for a week when we had our child. Infact, when my wife was pregnant, she’s always naked all throughout our stay at home moving from living room to rooms at will. How can anyone even stay with us in that situation?

People have proposed staying with us from my family and my wife’s family but we declined even though politely and diplomatically. My wife handles responses to her own ppl in this regard, while I handle responses to my own people as well.

If we have our 2nd child and we still have a girl. That will make it 2 girls. Bro, My wife and I are already discussing that nobody will stay with us at all coz I need to protect my girls if u understand what I mean. Life experience taught my wife and I this not our fault.

See this thing na understanding, if husband and wife cannot understand one another they have no business getting married in the first place.

no matter how you put it ,there is no way in this our country you wont have one person or the other coming to stay over for more than a week .The earlier they learn to accommodate people the better .God forbid any thing comes up and support is needed is it then you will start allowing people to come stay .Better open the door to your home to family members and friends (but limit it).Dont wait till you need them

Kingarthur21:

We know its you and not your friend...

Get a good lawyer, a man has no right to beat you that way and also throw you out of the house.
Don't understand why at the slightest provocation a man chases his wife out of the house. Even if she didn't pay a dime in the rent it is wrong.
If you are tired of the worst of all women you are to file for a divorce.


That is why I wouldn't encourage any lady to contribute to rent because at the slightest of provocation he will bark "get out of my house".

If my wife annoys me I will leave the house for her to be alone,move on with my life and leave her alone in that marriage and house.

So many marriages these days are scams. When a marriage is a scam those are what you.will.see.

The ladies could have talked all these things over before marriage. Because some people have a large extended family while some have just a small family.
A lot of guys and ladies instead of discussing some better issues all that they will be doing is sex and visiting beaches.
Now the result is out.
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