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SultanOfAbia:
The Bible says obey your father and mother so ye shall live long.

What if you're father is telling you to do something you know is very wrong
Will you obey him or disobey him?

What if your mother supports your father in every negative thing he tells you to do?

Some parents are not wise and are easily manipulated by pastors and imams.

I think you should only Respect your parents if they are WISE

It's not about respecting your parents if they are wise, you can't say your parents are nor wise, rather you say they are not exposed

Situations like this, listen to them, if what they are saying doesn't make sense, get your siblings to be involved and tell them what you think it's the best approach

What you sow you shall reap.....You become a parents someday.,.there are ways you can explain things to them even if you are right or better still call an elder to speak for you...

SultanOfAbia:
African mentality is that you should respect your parents no matter what because they sacrified all they had for you.
This is a tactics used to Guilt Shame you whenever you don't agree with parents

Lol, duhhhhhh. Before nko??
If you bring a child into this world then you must sacrifice to keep it alive.
It's not rocket science
If you don't want to sacrifice then don't go and insert your dick and give birth to kids.
You don't owe your parents for taking care of you..
That is a duty they both agreed to do once they decided to have kids
If I request for a puppy, of course I have to get ready to feed and raise the puppy.
It is my responsibility and duty since I requested for it.
You can never achieve anything if you cling too much on your parents advice
They are biased on many many levels
Some are blinded by doctrine
They had no access to Internet and a large amount of information unlike us.
That is why White people are far ahead of us. They allow their kids to explore life and in doing so these kids become their best selves with great potential to the community and the world.

U have said it all..thats why de whites are ahead of us and will continue to be.nice post

There should be a line between obedience and doing what is right.
At the end of the whole matter, the result speaks for itself. Then no one will listen to your excuses

i hardly obey my parent but they are proud of me

No reasonable father or mother will advice his children wrongly.

Check this scripture
Eph 6:1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.
Not just to obey but to obey in the Lord .. ignorance isn't in the Lord..obedience should be done according to what they say in the Lord( what's right in the Lord)

U know during marriage vows,its between husband and wife.not children. Make no body de whine me for my life i de try build abeg

Ignorant or not, they are your parents. If you cannot convince them otherwise, you must obey them. Even the Bible affirms that obeying and honouring your parents is key to living a long life.

Exmilitant:
Some parents are chickens!! Never obey chickens if you are a eagle. Had i listen to my overprotective mom, i wouldn't have been the wealthy and powerful son she now boast of...

Period.Q.E.D.INSHORT THIS ONE PASS Q.E.D

dukeprince50:
Pls this deserve front page.
I am going through similar problem that is frustrating the hell out of me and need some advice

they told u not marry her huh..

How do u know if they are wise

No need for disobedience, just explain why the said thing is wrong & why you can't do it. If them forced you, just pretend to go along with the flow. Or find some one they respect to aid you explain stuff.

There is nothing like ignorant parents. Learn to communicate. Western education is not an avenue for you to be an arrogant prick in d name of know it all.


Bros dukeprince50 thread carefully woh, You can achieve both goals thereby making everybody happy. No need to disobey ur parents, Just make solid business plans as you continue ur education

Let me answer this in a Christian way.

If what your parents is telling you something that is against God's words or what God told you. You can reject their advice .

Juliearth:
Ignorant or not, they are your parents. If you cannot convince them otherwise, you must obey them. Even the Bible affirms that obeying and honouring your parents is key to living a long life.

overseer1:
How?

Suddenly, your parents become ignorant because you have meet one woman who you are not sure of her sincerity and genuineness to you.

My better have a rethink before you rush to classify your parents as ignorant.

Oga if its about woman,dont push ur parents aside.but for emotional fulfilment, a little pushing is needed.maka ur life sake

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overseer1:
How?

Suddenly, your parents become ignorant because you have meet one woman who you are not sure of her sincerity and genuineness to you.

My better have a rethink before you rush to classify your parents as ignorant.

Mumu talk. You had to bring nonexistent woman into it

SultanOfAbia:
The Bible says obey your father and mother so ye shall live long.

What if you're father is telling you to do something you know is very wrong
Will you obey him or disobey him?

What if your mother supports your father in every negative thing he tells you to do?

Some parents are not wise and are easily manipulated by pastors and imams.

I think you should only Respect your parents if they are WISE

The Bible is Very Clear about this!

Eph6 :1-3

Obey Your Parents " in the LORD "

That simply means Disobey them if they go off the Way of The LORD..

However it shouldn't be done anyhow.

Carefully and Respectfully tell them why u are refusing to do it. You let them know it's against Your Faith and Belief!

No parent will answer before GOD for the Child and no child also will answer for the Parent!

Some parents are useless... God gave us brain, simple do what is right but dont belittle ur parents. Just make them feel you took there advise but do whats right

dukeprince50:
though I deleted the post, u were quick.
Weda I become successful or fail in life, I'll still feel it more and people won't point fingers at my parents, so I think everyone has the right to choose a path, after all u will still be the one who will account for it in the future, nobody will blame ur parents for ur failure and nobody will praise them for ur success. Nobody is blaming shekau's mom for not raising him properly and only few people knows Bill Gates mother. Our destiny is in our hands,
so to ur earlier question, I'll say if ur parents gave u advice, u have the right to take it or not, If parents are smarter than their children, Mark Zuckerberg won't be richer than his parents, Ben Carson won't be more successful than his parents, they also have their flaws

You think their parents weren’t instrumental in getting them to the heights they’ve attained today?

Do you realize that you just said a child is wiser than his parents as long as he becomes richer or more successful than they are?

To obey/submit isn't the same thing as to be servile, every sane person in a position of authority knows this and will do everything within their ability not to give the follower(s) reasons to question their saneness - a true leader is one who knows the way, goes the way and shows the way.

Who determines what it means to be wise?

SultanOfAbia:
The Bible says obey your father and mother so ye shall live long.

What if you're father is telling you to do something you know is very wrong
Will you obey him or disobey him?

What if your mother supports your father in every negative thing he tells you to do?

Some parents are not wise and are easily manipulated by pastors and imams.

I think you should only Respect your parents if they are WISE

Yes, but not on all issues.

When Pastor Tunde Bakare was just a kid and living with his uncle, Ebenezer Obey was invited to perform at the residence of a wealthy neighbour.

Speaking with the aspirational exuberance and unfettered imagination of a child, the little Tunde Bakare said to the hearing of his uncle, “One day when I’m grown and wealthy, Ebenezer Obey will perform for me too.”

The uncle retorted with a resounding slap and said, “Human beings with money are speaking, a nobody like you is also speaking.”

Guess what, when Pastor Bakare turned 50, Ebenezer Obey performed for free at his golden anniversary!

I think it was that day—or soon after— that Pastor Bakare recounted this story.

And this is what some parents do with their children.

Not just shutting them up at every turn but stifling their voices.

The kids are to be seen not heard. No questions, no opinions, nothing.

They can’t express their interests let alone pursue them.

We send kids to school where we hope they can learn to think for themselves and then when they show independence of thought and opinion, we shut them down.

No room for expression when adults are in the room.

You instruct them not to say that grownups are lying when the grownups are in fact...lying!

So, when an uncle sexually abuses them and programs them not to say a word of it to daddy because daddy will beat them, they believe.

Your kids cannot share their secrets with you.

When they’re crushing on someone, they wouldn’t dare tell you.

When someone’s asking them out, they cannot share with you.

You don’t apologise to them when you wrong them.

They’ve never heard you say the words, “please”, “sorry” or “thank you”

The kids go into the world with a damaged, eroded self-image and chronically low confidence.

No sense of worth.

Then you tell people that we need to rid ourselves of the disempowering aspects of our culture, and some people start to breathe fire.

I was part of a mentorship program here in Canada that connects immigrant professionals with mentors in their industry.

There was a number of Nigerian professionals—lawyers, IT specialists, engineers etc— who were part of the program at the same time I was.

We were invited to a networking event.

And then after some moments of interaction in the lobby, we were all ushered into a ball room for speeches and performances.

Guess what, almost all the Nigerians went straight to the back of the room even though the front seats were empty, just as the Canadians, Americans etc took the front seats and intermingled with Indians, Chinese, Iranians etc.

Most of the Nigerians were huddled up together at two tables in the back.

When it was time to comment on proceedings, the others spoke confidently and calmly. The moderator was compelled to point at the tables with Nigerians demanding that someone speak.

When it was time to network nko? Everyone else got up, conversed and exchanged contact details.

Most of the Nigerians remained seated. Again, the moderator had to compel them to rise and network.

It was then I knew that this was an esteem problem. And these were professionals ooo who had worked with top companies in Nigeria before moving to Canada.

Two of them would later admit as much that certain aspects of our culture did not do us much good.

Because in our high power distance culture (true of other countries too) you don’t speak when people older than you or people above you on the economic and social ladders are speaking.

That does something to you.

And parents are often the frontline culprits at enforcing this culture.

These things need to change.

The truth is that they believe that their opinions are the best you can ever find and yours is useless.

Before I used to sometimes stand up to them and tell them point blank that I won't do what they're asking me to do.

But I realized that it won't work and it will break their heart terribly. Now, I just stare at them, when they're done talking, I'll say okay.

When I leave their presence, I'll do what is right to me.

Life is too short to be living it for my parents

Some parents are just posters their advices are liable of truncating any optimistic child's ambition a growing child should pray at an early age for God to give him a bright and map able beginning dependency on parent is a no no for me it's a destiny killer any advice they give sieve the best and trample the rest for the dogs for me I can't be caught with a clueless parental advise

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PrimadonnaO:



You think their parents weren’t instrumental in getting them to the heights they’ve attained today?

Do you realize that you just said a child is wiser than his parents as long as he becomes richer or more successful than they are?

wealth, fame, power. These three things defines a successful man, if ur parents no get any of them pass u, they are not more intelligent than u are. Where u wise go if u are not successful?

"It is good to comply with the advice of the elders but remember that foolish people also grow old".

Exmilitant:
Some parents are chickens!! Never obey chickens if you are a eagle. Had i listen to my overprotective mom, i wouldn't have been the wealthy and powerful son she now boast of...

How can a chicken give birth to an eagle? I have never heard of it before.