Engagement is not marriage. What if you're the one. December is far away. If she considers you then maybe there's something. How would you know if you don't try again?

PS. Stop generalising women. It shows a flaw in your character

u mean she is the only lady in the world?

Ndeoma:


See bro am not the one going after her again. After she told me she is engaged I immediately withdrew myself but the situation here now is that she is the one coming for me. I don't even look at her face in church but one way or the other she will try to come around me. She watches my every move in church just in case I want to try out another lady in church. Most times when am smiling and chatting with my phone you'd clearly see this frown on her face. I've been observing this trend for a while now.

And you know once you love someone, definitely you'd fell like trying your luck once again to see whether their is a chance something could be established between you both. That's the state of dilemma I am in now. And also the lady too fine bro.

I value your advice bro and I will try to restrain myself from her at all cost. Funny enough I don't even call her on phone.

She is obviously not too happy with the other guy and don't really like you that much.
She is still searching for the highest bidder bro just move on

If you can smash her then try your luck. But don't even think of marrying her. If a betrothed lady can be getting close to another guy she would get close to another guy if you marry her

Then forget her

Ndeoma:


Are you saying there a possibility she might still be interested in my proposal? You are a lady you'd be in a better position to tell me how you guys operate because am not understanding again. Lol

If u truly love her as u said, try again. From the look of things, she doesn't love her so called fiance. But if she refuses a d still comes close to u,then tell her to stay off ur track.

See bro am not the one going after her again. After she told me she is engaged I immediately withdrew myself but the situation here now is that she is the one coming for me. I don't even look at her face in church but one way or the other she will try to come around me. She watches my every move in church just in case I want to try out another lady in church. Most times when am smiling and chatting with my phone you'd clearly see this frown on her face. I've been observing this trend for a while now.

And you know once you love someone, definitely you'd fell like trying your luck once again to see whether their is a chance something could be established between you both. That's the state of dilemma I am in now. And also the lady too fine bro.

I value your advice bro and I will try to restrain myself from her at all cost. Funny enough I don't even call her on phone.

Do a little digging around to ascertain whether she's really engaged. You can ask around her friends. acquaintance, family if possible to confirm. You can also ask her one more time to know her true status quo. Some girls are good in camouflaging their love interest just to know how deep a guys feelings are for them. You can also confirm from your church hierarchy. Best of luck dear.

Ndeoma:

Thanks bro... I'd do as you said and see how it plays out.

And no forget to come tell us how the matter enter

Bro see ehn... Girls now no the form oh, them don tire. if any girl loves you and she will tell you indirectly by saying "go and get a girl friend"

Ndeoma:
Their is this lady I have come to develop feelings for. She is a graduate and intending to go for service before November... it's just this pandemic
that is delaying things. She is also a member of my church and serving in one of the service units. I have been observing her for a while and in the course of time grew feelings for her.

I took courage and approached her and she told me she is engaged to be married this December but the problem is that after that our chat she has been tailing me. She always comes around me to sit close to me during service meetings. Some times she'd be starring so much at me that you'd wonder. I'm beginning to think wether she actually told me the truth about her relationship status earlier or she is just trying to hold on to me as alternative just incase here marriage plans with the other guy goes south.

Please friends I need your sincere advice on what to do as am confused. I really love the lady and would like to marry her.

OP she wan taste your banku, some women can be very silly, small time she go dey rant say na devil's work. ignore patapata

Ndeoma:


See bro am not the one going after her again. After she told me she is engaged I immediately withdrew myself but the situation here now is that she is the one coming for me. I don't even look at her face in church but one way or the other she will try to come around me. She watches my every move in church just in case I want to try out another lady in church. Most times when am smiling and chatting with my phone you'd clearly see this frown on her face. I've been observing this trend for a while now.

And you know once you love someone, definitely you'd fell like trying your luck once again to see whether their is a chance something could be established between you both. That's the state of dilemma I am in now. And also the lady too fine bro.

I value your advice bro and I will try to restrain myself from her at all cost. Funny enough I don't even call her on phone.

She is taken already & will just play you plus waste your time. Finer & better ladies out there, take your pick bro

The truth is she has someone but she wants to just keep you as sex buddy till she travels.

omoiyamayor:
Dont ruin others happiness for your feelings,that's bein selfish.

You are right. There was a lady that I had feelings for back then in 2006 when I was in college. She had feelings for me too that we couldn't do without each other in a day. When I finally expressed how I felt, she told me she was engaged to a guy that was working in UBA but with the way she was she would allow me to bleep her. I had to maintain the friendship because I didn't want to ruin her engagement. I also wasn't ready for marriage. She got married in February the following year (2007) and I got married in 2016. We are still friends now even with her husband. We still see one another

Ndeoma:

Thanks bro... I'd do as you said and see how it plays out.

Abeg give us d feedback here, I pray it works

She is only keeping you as plan B, move on bro

dukeprince50:
she told you she's engaged, Oga move on with ur life, u will be glad u did.
no be say next year January, u go come create a thread explaining how ur long time crush send u a wedding invitation card and disturbing lalasticla.la to move it to front page. Just move on, If things with her guy goes south and u are worthy to replace him, she will come for u if otherwise u will be glad ur not hurt.

VERY SINCERE ADVICE!!!

Ndeoma:


She seems sensible bro... She is also a graduate and I know it might sound weird but I love fair pretty ladies.

Fair pretty ladies? Bros ask God for directions. That specie has one thing in common but if you are very rich, no problem.

Who need something dey always get long hand, try again...

Oga move on....

This same thing has happened to me. I am not the talking type and you know, getting into relationship with ladies usually take people like us time. We used to observe and be sure that the coast is clear before shooting our shot.

It happened that I met this very beautiful girl, the ideal lady I could have settled down with cos of her character, composure, ideals and shared values etc..

I didn't tell her, even though we used to communicate and talk about interesting things together until one day, I noticed the guy she used on her screen saver and tried to ask her if that was her brother, he said NO! ---A friend.

I became alarmed!

My finding later was that this same guy was her fiancé and they are almost getting married. The date and invitation cards were already out.

When I found out, I had to take my leave, of which she was begging that I shouldn't go, that she finds me receptive and friendly that's why she feels very comfortable talking to me when in class bla bla...

She said a lot of touching things that made me had a rethink, but I said no! Of what benefit do I stand to gain if I can't confide in her to share my deepest intimate stuff?

Long story short, covid19 derailed their marriage, we are still friends but I made sure I allow her to lead the friendship on her own term.


My advice; don't just give in, allow her to lead the friendship. Otherwise, you will end up regretting your actions.

Ndeoma:
Their is this lady I have come to develop feelings for. She is a graduate and intending to go for service before November... it's just this pandemic
that is delaying things. She is also a member of my church and serving in one of the service units. I have been observing her for a while and in the course of time grew feelings for her.

I took courage and approached her and she told me she is engaged to be married this December but the problem is that after that our chat she has been tailing me. She always comes around me to sit close to me during service meetings. Some times she'd be starring so much at me that you'd wonder. I'm beginning to think wether she actually told me the truth about her relationship status earlier or she is just trying to hold on to me as alternative just incase here marriage plans with the other guy goes south.

Please friends I need your sincere advice on what to do as am confused. I really love the lady and would like to marry her.

Make Friend with another girl in the same church

ojun50:

Let him create the thread I will read and pass

Kenny9857:

You are a fool mr man.
Do you think deep before commenting at all ??
I am not saying the poster should do anything stupid but at least he has already expressed everything up there and it wasn't like he wanted to ruin someone's happiness, he is just trying his luck and he didn't knows the lady is engaged before approaching in the first place...

if you say im a fool then you are right, i hope we have an agreement and it makes you feel better man.

Wonderful. Fear women ooo

lichocho:
Abobi listen carefully dat babe will not marry u..u are one of the spare parts Incase d main indaboski did not work..my guy don f**k babe one month to her marriage,d funny tin be say she invite us come d wedding..I tire for girls no be joke.

Ndeoma:


She seems sensible bro... She is also a graduate and I know it might sound weird but I love fair pretty ladies.

It's not weird, i love fair ladies too but this is dicey. Don't end up being a backup option and get depressed eventually when the backup isn't needful\useful.

You are a prophet...Let me rephrase.
It always ends in tears




It'll end in tears man. [/quote]

GUY,FOLLOW THE BABE UP,SHE LIKE U ALOT,SNATCH HER.THANK ME LATER.

If you have her line, I will suggest you chat her up. Tell her what you noticed about her actions after you talk to her. That you're serious with her and all. If she still tell you that again or was somehow not coming straight, then free her - don't even give her face but not bear grudges with her - na church you dey. But smth in me, as a lady said in one of the comments, she might just be like 'maybe you will be a better option' a kind of likeness for you now, you know - like re-accessing her option and it could be dicey in this kind of situation. Just be cool and act maturely, don't invest your emotions. Things will fall in places with time.

so sad

Re-table the issue before her and ask her if she is truly engaged. Her response will give you the answer you need. Good luck

Ndeoma:


Are you saying there a possibility she might still be interested in my proposal? You are a lady you'd be in a better position to tell me how you guys operate because am not understanding again. Lol

I dunno o, but engagement is not marriage o.

If you play your game well, you can be top scorer and relegate the fiance to dressing room to find his bearing elsewhere

Brother, I was in your shoe before. She's only trying to be friend with you so that you won't be feeling somehow whenever you see her. That was exactly a lady I asked out in my church was behaving before she finally gave me her wedding invitation card months later. Try to stay away from her so that you won't regret your sudden friendship with her. She is a sincere person and you can hardly see such a lady these day!

She might be joking