Teebaba30:


Have called her times without number for her approval in ending the relationship, but she never opt in

Aviod her

Teebaba30:
There is this lady I have been dating now for almost eleven years (11) she was my first love, we started dating while I was still in my final stage of secondary school, things were moving smoothly, as we are both new in the game of love.

I could remembered, then, mtn with their free night calls, we would talk from 12am to 5:00am then, she is the daughter to the king of the town, a well known king in Lagos state, but along the line, as we progress in line, owing to my fine boy of a thing,.

You know we guys when we sense that, it seems all lady want us, due to our cute look, or academic reasons, we take the advantage to flirt, of which she so much detest a cheating guy, she caught me times without number, but still hard for both of us to let go our anyone, after my higher institution,

I relocated to Lagos to start life and keep the hustle real, but this lady was in Lagos with mom, she keep coming to my place even in Lagos, but unfortunately, we lost contact, for seven years, we couldn't reach ourselves, then i decided to relocated to another location in Lagos

But just last month, her call came, that she saw my contact on Facebook, And we try to renew the relationship, that's how we started and doing fine, she's now in her final year At Fountain University, Oshogbo,

Now the problem facing us now is, She is a Muslim, while am a Christian, her parent will never allow her to convert, while my own parent will never allow me to convert, and now we are madly in love, she try to convinced her dad, but all effort was prove abortive.

We love ourselves so much, but religion is the barrier facing us now, we are both planning to run away from the country, she promised to foot all bills for our travelling, but I told her we should try just be friend as our religion is the barrier here now.

If not for the religion issue, we plan to have our introduction this year, and get wedded next year, but religion want to truncate the whole plans,

Pls fellow nairalanders, your advice is urgently needed now, we are both confused, with no option, we can't let go of anyone, and yet we don't want our parent to turn back to us,

She keeps crying everyday, even I myself, and in the state of confused now,.

SHOULD WE QUIT THE RELATIONSHIP OR WHAT SHOULD WE DO NOW..?

what is light got to do with darkness
Mr man leave that woman, that religion is from the devil.
Marrying her is like marrying into the devil's family. You won't have rest of mind,
She will force your child to be boko haram,
Your child will inherit violence behaviour, her family members will be sending you death threats.

Your children if male will have pedophile behaviour ( that's to say your male child will be chasing after under age girls)

Your life will be totally miserable to the extent of committing suicide.

Your wife will later sleep with her fellow Muslim brothers while getting married to you.

Teebaba30:


But she's always afraid to be disowned by her parent, Cos she's the only daughter

they w0n't disown her. Trust me.

There's an adage that says what an elder sees while sitting down a child won't be able to see it even if he climbs a tree. my suggestion is that hence both parents are not in support of the relationship,I'll advice you just find a way to end the relationship for good. There might be a danger ahead. You know when u r in love, you won't really know what you doing. All that glitters are not gold

Teebaba30:

we are both planning to run away from the country,


She keeps crying everyday,

I will run with her if I were u.
She surely love u, this type may live a terrible life if she missed u as a life partner.
Religion is Africa's major problem. U leave naija, get settled abroad and hustle ur ass till u make it. Both of u then live ur dream life.
Shikenan, ce fini.

You don't need her family or your family to have a relationship with someone that truly makes it for you. It is just between you and her and whether the rest of the families,mohamad and hell mary like it or not, for all you care.

It is your life and no one is going to live it for you.

VillagePeople11:
A bird might love a fish, but where will they build a home together

Wisdom

My advice to both of you,marrage is not for children.for the fact it is your parent deciding your religion at your age,then you are not fit to be a husband.and for your woman,she never set.religion can never be a hindrance for adults.na mumies and daddies pikin dey talk that trash.tinubu and wife muslim and christain.fasola same thing.who you say your papa be again?because if it is me,i can never hand my daughter to a mummies boy.





quote author=Teebaba30 post=89355300]There is this lady I have been dating now for almost eleven years (11) she was my first love, we started dating while I was still in my final stage of secondary school, things were moving smoothly, as we are both new in the game of love.

I could remembered, then, mtn with their free night calls, we would talk from 12am to 5:00am then, she is the daughter to the king of the town, a well known king in Lagos state, but along the line, as we progress in line, owing to my fine boy of a thing,.

You know we guys when we sense that, it seems all lady want us, due to our cute look, or academic reasons, we take the advantage to flirt, of which she so much detest a cheating guy, she caught me times without number, but still hard for both of us to let go our anyone, after my higher institution,

I relocated to Lagos to start life and keep the hustle real, but this lady was in Lagos with mom, she keep coming to my place even in Lagos, but unfortunately, we lost contact, for seven years, we couldn't reach ourselves, then i decided to relocated to another location in Lagos

But just last month, her call came, that she saw my contact on Facebook, And we try to renew the relationship, that's how we started and doing fine, she's now in her final year At Fountain University, Oshogbo,

Now the problem facing us now is, She is a Muslim, while am a Christian, her parent will never allow her to convert, while my own parent will never allow me to convert, and now we are madly in love, she try to convinced her dad, but all effort was prove abortive.

We love ourselves so much, but religion is the barrier facing us now, we are both planning to run away from the country, she promised to foot all bills for our travelling, but I told her we should try just be friend as our religion is the barrier here now.

If not for the religion issue, we plan to have our introduction this year, and get wedded next year, but religion want to truncate the whole plans,

Pls fellow nairalanders, your advice is urgently needed now, we are both confused, with no option, we can't let go of anyone, and yet we don't want our parent to turn back to us,

She keeps crying everyday, even I myself, and in the state of confused now,.

SHOULD WE QUIT THE RELATIONSHIP OR WHAT SHOULD WE DO NOW..?

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VillagePeople11:
A bird might love a fish, but where will they build a home together

0n an island in d middle of the ocean.

Teebaba30:
There is this lady I have been dating now for almost eleven years (11) she was my first love, we started dating while I was still in my final stage of secondary school, things were moving smoothly, as we are both new in the game of love.

I could remembered, then, mtn with their free night calls, we would talk from 12am to 5:00am then, she is the daughter to the king of the town, a well known king in Lagos state, but along the line, as we progress in line, owing to my fine boy of a thing,.

You know we guys when we sense that, it seems all lady want us, due to our cute look, or academic reasons, we take the advantage to flirt, of which she so much detest a cheating guy, she caught me times without number, but still hard for both of us to let go our anyone, after my higher institution,

I relocated to Lagos to start life and keep the hustle real, but this lady was in Lagos with mom, she keep coming to my place even in Lagos, but unfortunately, we lost contact, for seven years, we couldn't reach ourselves, then i decided to relocated to another location in Lagos

But just last month, her call came, that she saw my contact on Facebook, And we try to renew the relationship, that's how we started and doing fine, she's now in her final year At Fountain University, Oshogbo,

Now the problem facing us now is, She is a Muslim, while am a Christian, her parent will never allow her to convert, while my own parent will never allow me to convert, and now we are madly in love, she try to convinced her dad, but all effort was prove abortive.

We love ourselves so much, but religion is the barrier facing us now, we are both planning to run away from the country, she promised to foot all bills for our travelling, but I told her we should try just be friend as our religion is the barrier here now.

If not for the religion issue, we plan to have our introduction this year, and get wedded next year, but religion want to truncate the whole plans,

Pls fellow nairalanders, your advice is urgently needed now, we are both confused, with no option, we can't let go of anyone, and yet we don't want our parent to turn back to us,

She keeps crying everyday, even I myself, and in the state of confused now,.

SHOULD WE QUIT THE RELATIONSHIP OR WHAT SHOULD WE DO NOW..?

The Holy Bible admonishes christians NOT TO BE UNEQUALLY YOKED WITH UNBELIEVERS........
Let her go, if u value ya salvation

Teebaba30:
There is this lady I have been dating now for almost eleven years (11) she was my first love, we started dating while I was still in my final stage of secondary school, things were moving smoothly, as we are both new in the game of love.

I could remembered, then, mtn with their free night calls, we would talk from 12am to 5:00am then, she is the daughter to the king of the town, a well known king in Lagos state, but along the line, as we progress in line, owing to my fine boy of a thing,.

You know we guys when we sense that, it seems all lady want us, due to our cute look, or academic reasons, we take the advantage to flirt, of which she so much detest a cheating guy, she caught me times without number, but still hard for both of us to let go our anyone, after my higher institution,

I relocated to Lagos to start life and keep the hustle real, but this lady was in Lagos with mom, she keep coming to my place even in Lagos, but unfortunately, we lost contact, for seven years, we couldn't reach ourselves, then i decided to relocated to another location in Lagos

But just last month, her call came, that she saw my contact on Facebook, And we try to renew the relationship, that's how we started and doing fine, she's now in her final year At Fountain University, Oshogbo,

Now the problem facing us now is, She is a Muslim, while am a Christian, her parent will never allow her to convert, while my own parent will never allow me to convert, and now we are madly in love, she try to convinced her dad, but all effort was prove abortive.

We love ourselves so much, but religion is the barrier facing us now, we are both planning to run away from the country, she promised to foot all bills for our travelling, but I told her we should try just be friend as our religion is the barrier here now.

If not for the religion issue, we plan to have our introduction this year, and get wedded next year, but religion want to truncate the whole plans,

Pls fellow nairalanders, your advice is urgently needed now, we are both confused, with no option, we can't let go of anyone, and yet we don't want our parent to turn back to us,

She keeps crying everyday, even I myself, and in the state of confused now,.

SHOULD WE QUIT THE RELATIONSHIP OR WHAT SHOULD WE DO NOW..?

End it! You won't be able to handle the problems when time comes.

Marry her if she and her family agrees to her religion change. There countless number of xtians and muslims for you both why kill yourselves over religion issues.

We just like problem for our self

How did your ancestors become christians? as i said if you truly love someone whether the children choose your religion or that of their mother's won't matter I have friends from such homes some are Christians some muslims some both,trying to convert someone In hope of marriage shows you don't accept the person for who he/she is,if your religion is such an important factor in your relationship why are you with someone of different religion in the first place

As for the dedication that is up to them how they want to do it,my aunt didn't do dedication of her child,it was just a naming ceremony where friends were invited.

There is no obstacle as I said Nigerians aren't open to inter-religious marriages,and from what I have read the issues comes mostly from the parents,if someone from nigeria can marry someone from russia then I see no reason why they can't if people can over come cultural differences then religious differences aren't a problem,and besides I don't think both religious supports it,is just easier for muslim men to marry out since they're men.

DAramis:


My question is this, If they got married under court thereby leading to inter-religious marriage, what would happen to the children they would born? And the dedication aspect or other related issues?

Though it might be easier to promote, but the obstacles are greater than the benefits.

Sometimes, the best form of true likeness (or is it true love), lies in making sacrifices-giving up the relationship in question.


Had it been it was the opposite (the lady is a Christian), there would be no issue whatsoever since their religion promote and recognise such.

CcTeebaba30

It is very golden to obey and respect our parents. If you go ahead and marry her against both parents wish and something happens to her, the problems you'll be facing might be more than what you bargained for.

Would you rather settle with a girl who flouts her parents orders and plans to elope with a man? Be wise.

Listen to your parents and don't let a disrespectful girl trap you in a mess you might live to regret for the rest of your life. No body gave her to you. So you could be accused of kidnap by her parents and they are justified.

RamessesIV:
If you truly love her go to court and get married,there is really no need to convert inter-religious marriage is not a new thing,but if you truly need your parents and societies support is better to break up cause nigerians are fundamentalists and aren't open to such marriages

i wouldn't advise any0ne to go for a court marriage.

Teebaba30:


Am about doing that, but I quickly give it a second thought

You may regret doing that for life. If her parents are not happy with her, you may forever regret your action.
Whatever would be yours can't miss you, have you considered genotype and all that.
Am serious about it, you may not find it funny if you impregnate or abscond with her.

Harshreality:


Love is sweet but it doesn't sustain a marriage.
Can you both deal with the problems that come with an inter religious marriage?

That is lust not love. Love is not a feeling but an act. He is here asking questions shows there is no love. Love is also sacrifice and the willingness to give it up all for a cause. If he loves her he will have taken his decision long ago and no one will get to hear about it.

I am a Christian and my wife to be is a Muslim...no abrahamic religion can stop us from marrying

Harshreality:


Love is sweet but it doesn't sustain a marriage.
Can you both deal with the problems that come with an inter religious marriage?

Exactly...It won't work. My advice is for them to part ways before getting involved in a miserable situation.

Guy, this is a very difficult situation

Anyway, only a weak person will talk the way you did. If after university your parents still take decisions for you, then I'm very sorry because you are a weakling.
The last time my parent took decision for me was when I entered university, since then, I decide for myself.

Another reason why you are a weakling is that, at this age, you do not have a good reason to be in a faith, you are just practising because you were born into the religion, if not, you won't be thinking whether to change or not. I trust Nairaland religious and atheist bigots, they are convinced on what they are doing and firm on it. That is what a real human being should be, not dwindling between two opposite things. Its just like saying a white is a black without having your firm believe of what a colour is.
Anyway, good luck with your mummys breast sucking at age 42, I wonder how weak your so called gf must be as well. Your parents would decide what you will have for breakfast even if they allow you marry, so, the marriage no go work.
Abeg, please don't bring any children to this world as you are both too dull to combine together in marriage.

Teebaba30:
There is this lady I have been dating now for almost eleven years (11) she was my first love, we started dating while I was still in my final stage of secondary school, things were moving smoothly, as we are both new in the game of love.

I could remembered, then, mtn with their free night calls, we would talk from 12am to 5:00am then, she is the daughter to the king of the town, a well known king in Lagos state, but along the line, as we progress in line, owing to my fine boy of a thing,.

You know we guys when we sense that, it seems all lady want us, due to our cute look, or academic reasons, we take the advantage to flirt, of which she so much detest a cheating guy, she caught me times without number, but still hard for both of us to let go our anyone, after my higher institution,

I relocated to Lagos to start life and keep the hustle real, but this lady was in Lagos with mom, she keep coming to my place even in Lagos, but unfortunately, we lost contact, for seven years, we couldn't reach ourselves, then i decided to relocated to another location in Lagos

But just last month, her call came, that she saw my contact on Facebook, And we try to renew the relationship, that's how we started and doing fine, she's now in her final year At Fountain University, Oshogbo,

Now the problem facing us now is, She is a Muslim, while am a Christian, her parent will never allow her to convert, while my own parent will never allow me to convert, and now we are madly in love, she try to convinced her dad, but all effort was prove abortive.

We love ourselves so much, but religion is the barrier facing us now, we are both planning to run away from the country, she promised to foot all bills for our travelling, but I told her we should try just be friend as our religion is the barrier here now.

If not for the religion issue, we plan to have our introduction this year, and get wedded next year, but religion want to truncate the whole plans,

Pls fellow nairalanders, your advice is urgently needed now, we are both confused, with no option, we can't let go of anyone, and yet we don't want our parent to turn back to us,

She keeps crying everyday, even I myself, and in the state of confused now,.

SHOULD WE QUIT THE RELATIONSHIP OR WHAT SHOULD WE DO NOW..?

You didn't look each other up on fb for seven years?

Pls don't start a war with your families over a relationship that may or may not work.

If you're my child and you bring this case to me, I'll expect you to explain in detail what love is, what marriage is about, and most importantly how you intend to make an interreligion marriage work.
If you can't articulate those things, you're not ready.

But seriously, it's not easy. I've been in your shoes...kinda. She was a xtian. I was in love etc. I concluded that the only way it could work was if we were both open to talking about our religions and understanding them better...and challenging them when necessary. Turned out she wasn't as open minded as i was. It was painful but i ended the relationship cos the future didn't look so great.
Few months later i met a Muslim lady who I'm now married to.

It's okay to love with all your heart but decision making should be left to your brain only

You dated a lady for eleven yes yet you are not married then you wakeup today to ask if you should continue or not, this question make me think how prima chord you are!
If some one dated ur sister for eleven yrs and dump her what would you say?
B/4 my advice let me ask you this question What is the essence of relationship?

Teebaba30:
There is this lady I have been dating now for almost eleven years (11) she was my first love, we started dating while I was still in my final stage of secondary school, things were moving smoothly, as we are both new in the game of love.

I could remembered, then, mtn with their free night calls, we would talk from 12am to 5:00am then, she is the daughter to the king of the town, a well known king in Lagos state, but along the line, as we progress in line, owing to my fine boy of a thing,.

You know we guys when we sense that, it seems all lady want us, due to our cute look, or academic reasons, we take the advantage to flirt, of which she so much detest a cheating guy, she caught me times without number, but still hard for both of us to let go our anyone, after my higher institution,

I relocated to Lagos to start life and keep the hustle real, but this lady was in Lagos with mom, she keep coming to my place even in Lagos, but unfortunately, we lost contact, for seven years, we couldn't reach ourselves, then i decided to relocated to another location in Lagos

But just last month, her call came, that she saw my contact on Facebook, And we try to renew the relationship, that's how we started and doing fine, she's now in her final year At Fountain University, Oshogbo,

Now the problem facing us now is, She is a Muslim, while am a Christian, her parent will never allow her to convert, while my own parent will never allow me to convert, and now we are madly in love, she try to convinced her dad, but all effort was prove abortive.

We love ourselves so much, but religion is the barrier facing us now, we are both planning to run away from the country, she promised to foot all bills for our travelling, but I told her we should try just be friend as our religion is the barrier here now.

If not for the religion issue, we plan to have our introduction this year, and get wedded next year, but religion want to truncate the whole plans,

Pls fellow nairalanders, your advice is urgently needed now, we are both confused, with no option, we can't let go of anyone, and yet we don't want our parent to turn back to us,

She keeps crying everyday, even I myself, and in the state of confused now,.

SHOULD WE QUIT THE RELATIONSHIP OR WHAT SHOULD WE DO NOW..?

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Plz don't seek advice from either unmarried Christian/Moslem but try everything possible to get a married Christian / Moslem couple I just saw one on AIT TV the husband a Christian the wife a Moslem her name Mrs Basirat Alabi.

If you love her and she really love you too, go for her. You arent the first and wont be the last
Pastor Chris Oyakilomeh and Chris Okotie are divorcees.

Teebaba30:


As for me, all things will go down well, but from her side I doubt it she can deal with inter religious marriage.

We both just confused now

This is INVALID marriage unless you both want to deceive yourselves and face the consequences later in life. You can not be calling and worshipping Jesus while she's calling and worshipping God in the same house under the same roof. This is insane. You can not marry her unless you convingly become muslim. I hope she's not nominal muslim you can convince. So dont waste your time young man. Go and find your fellow christian woman. They are plenty out there, my friend.


"And do not marry polytheistic women until they believe. And a believing slave woman is better than a polytheist, even though she might please you. And do not marry polytheistic men [to your women] until they believe. And a believing slave is better than a polytheist, even though he might please you. Those invite [you] to the Fire, but Allah invites to Paradise and to forgiveness, by His permission. And He makes clear His verses to the people that perhaps they may remember." Q2:221

LuQuLuQu:
Your grammar gave me migraine and I have taken pain killers. I'd advise you when I feel better..

No be only you

stuffs4me:
Teebaba30, as a Christian you are not qualified to marry a Muslim lady and your girlfriend knows that.

You as a Christian will bring nothing but moral bankruptcy to the Muslim lady.

Carry your evil ways and go and meet your fellow kind and leave that Muslim lady alone.

Hypocrite! Because he is Christian, he will bring moral bankruptcy.. Is it not the girl that refused to let go. Hypocrite!

If both of you come to agreement then other things na Secondary. Both of you should follow your heart and find a way to give the obstacles gap. Wetin be all this religious madness sef.

and in Islamic doctrine, a female Muslim can not marry a male Christian.



this is one of my problems with religion.

crap.

I don watch this film.

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