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In Islam, a lady can't get married without the consent of her father or guardian if the former is late.
Similarly, there's no compulsion as far as the conversion of faith is concerned.

Teebaba30:
Ohhh, not like that, We never thought religion could now stand as barrier ,then when we started...

Okay Bro, I get your point. During my UG days, most of my female friends where Muslim because I cherish decency in dressing a lot and most of them had that quality.

so pls Bro, consider the future in any decision you will be taking now.

30And the times of this ignorance God winked at; but now commandeth all men every where to repent:

Teebaba30:
There is this lady I have been dating now for almost eleven years (11) she was my first love, we started dating while I was still in my final stage of secondary school, things were moving smoothly, as we are both new in the game of love.

I could remembered, then, mtn with their free night calls, we would talk from 12am to 5:00am then, she is the daughter to the king of the town, a well known king in Lagos state, but along the line, as we progress in line, owing to my fine boy of a thing,.

You know we guys when we sense that, it seems all lady want us, due to our cute look, or academic reasons, we take the advantage to flirt, of which she so much detest a cheating guy, she caught me times without number, but still hard for both of us to let go our anyone, after my higher institution,

I relocated to Lagos to start life and keep the hustle real, but this lady was in Lagos with mom, she keep coming to my place even in Lagos, but unfortunately, we lost contact, for seven years, we couldn't reach ourselves, then i decided to relocated to another location in Lagos

But just last month, her call came, that she saw my contact on Facebook, And we try to renew the relationship, that's how we started and doing fine, she's now in her final year At Fountain University, Oshogbo,

Now the problem facing us now is, She is a Muslim, while am a Christian, her parent will never allow her to convert, while my own parent will never allow me to convert, and now we are madly in love, she try to convinced her dad, but all effort was prove abortive.

We love ourselves so much, but religion is the barrier facing us now, we are both planning to run away from the country, she promised to foot all bills for our travelling, but I told her we should try just be friend as our religion is the barrier here now.

If not for the religion issue, we plan to have our introduction this year, and get wedded next year, but religion want to truncate the whole plans,

Pls fellow nairalanders, your advice is urgently needed now, we are both confused, with no option, we can't let go of anyone, and yet we don't want our parent to turn back to us,

She keeps crying everyday, even I myself, and in the state of confused now,.

SHOULD WE QUIT THE RELATIONSHIP OR WHAT SHOULD WE DO NOW..?

op true true you be fine boy. reason the lady no wan let this cute thing go

saraki2019:
Be a Muslim or forget it

BAD ADVICE!

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[quote author=liquidfaya post=89356176]I'm just stunned a woman can allow herself to date a man for 11 yrs. Like WTF Not every woman is a LovePeddler some get addicted to a man

I'm in the same shite

emerged01:
@teebaba30,your story was exactly like mine.
We made it happen 2012,now we have two lovely boys, don’t let religion be barrier. Though it takes pure understanding from both partners to have a lovely marriage life,most especially from your partner because she will spend time more with the kids.
My wife is very supportive and a good mother to our kids,though we have not achieved all we aim for but if I had put religion first,I don’t think the impart of her intelligence on my kids would ever be possible with anyone else. Don’t let religion make you lose a true partner. If you lose her you may have a rough journey with someone else.
There was a day,my son was given a take home on bible knowledge. My wife snapped the assignment and sent to me through WhatsApp because she doesn’t have deep bible knowledge. I sent her a part of the bible that she needed to read to get the assignment done,of which she did without given my boy a concern about our religious difference. I believe with understanding it will be a smooth journey for both of you.
If both parents realize our serious both of you are,I believe they will eventually give in. At first my wife’s father turned down her request to marry me but a year after her father couldn’t but supported her. Be smart don’t let anybody give you a reason ( religion) to quit a beautiful relationship when you have a good reason (love) to hold onto your future partner.

Thanks so much, so u mean u get wedded out of ur parents wish then?
And they didn't come to scatter the wedding. or turn back to either of u. ?

I know it's a tight situation bro but from experience pls let her go..cos you won't like the aftermaths, inter marriage is just not it..my 2cent, Peace!!

Teebaba30:
Thanks so much, bro, so u mean I should forfeit the relationship?

Bro, it's might be a hard decision but that the way forward.

Teebaba30:
There is this lady I have been dating now for almost eleven years (11) she was my first love, we started dating while I was still in my final stage of secondary school, things were moving smoothly, as we are both new in the game of love.

I could remembered, then, mtn with their free night calls, we would talk from 12am to 5:00am then, she is the daughter to the king of the town, a well known king in Lagos state, but along the line, as we progress in line, owing to my fine boy of a thing,.

You know we guys when we sense that, it seems all lady want us, due to our cute look, or academic reasons, we take the advantage to flirt, of which she so much detest a cheating guy, she caught me times without number, but still hard for both of us to let go our anyone, after my higher institution,

I relocated to Lagos to start life and keep the hustle real, but this lady was in Lagos with mom, she keep coming to my place even in Lagos, but unfortunately, we lost contact, for seven years, we couldn't reach ourselves, then i decided to relocated to another location in Lagos

But just last month, her call came, that she saw my contact on Facebook, And we try to renew the relationship, that's how we started and doing fine, she's now in her final year At Fountain University, Oshogbo,

Now the problem facing us now is, She is a Muslim, while am a Christian, her parent will never allow her to convert, while my own parent will never allow me to convert, and now we are madly in love, she try to convinced her dad, but all effort was prove abortive.

We love ourselves so much, but religion is the barrier facing us now, we are both planning to run away from the country, she promised to foot all bills for our travelling, but I told her we should try just be friend as our religion is the barrier here now.

If not for the religion issue, we plan to have our introduction this year, and get wedded next year, but religion want to truncate the whole plans,

Pls fellow nairalanders, your advice is urgently needed now, we are both confused, with no option, we can't let go of anyone, and yet we don't want our parent to turn back to us,

She keeps crying everyday, even I myself, and in the state of confused now,.

SHOULD WE QUIT THE RELATIONSHIP OR WHAT SHOULD WE DO NOW..?

Please,

DAramis:
My question is this, If they got married under court thereby leading to inter-religious marriage, what would happen to the children they would born? And the dedication aspect or other related issues?

Though it might be easier to promote, but the obstacles are greater than the benefits.

Sometimes, the best form of true likeness (or is it true love), lies in making sacrifices-giving up the relationship in question.


Had it been it was the opposite (the lady is a Christian), there would be no issue whatsoever since their religion promote and recognise such.

CcTeebaba30

My friend's mother married a Muslim and she is a Christian, her daughter is a Christian. So the wife being Christian is no guarantee that the children will follow the father's religion. In my own opinion those rules were made so Islam can sneakily get more followers.

RamessesIV:
There is no obstacle as I said Nigerians aren't open to inter-religious marriages,and from what I have read the issues comes mostly from the parents,if someone from nigeria can marry someone from russia then I see no reason why they can't if people can over come cultural differences then religious differences aren't a problem,and besides I don't think both religious supports it,is just easier for muslim men to marry out since they're men.

I get your point bro. As for me, I am the open type that would prefer the woman to practice whatever religion that she wishes to, especially, if it makes her a better woman, wife and a friend.

As for saying that Islam does not support it, I would not know because I don't know where it is stated but I am aware that a Muslim friend of mine told me that it is in the Koran and backed it up with reasons (except if the guy in question lied to me).

The guy is also the one that made to be aware that a Muslim man's wife can be a Christian but following the teachings of the religion, all his children must be a Muslim like their father.

Just see this discussion from an objective point of view.

stuffs4me:
Teebaba30, as a Christian you are not qualified to marry a Muslim lady and your girlfriend knows that.

You as a Christian will bring nothing but moral bankruptcy to the Muslim lady.

Carry your evil ways and go and meet your fellow kind and leave that Muslim lady alone.

This is kinda harsh fellow, why the statement, Carry ur evils ways"
Anyway it is well.

Teebaba30:
There is this lady I have been dating now for almost eleven years (11) she was my first love, we started dating while I was still in my final stage of secondary school, things were moving smoothly, as we are both new in the game of love.

I could remembered, then, mtn with their free night calls, we would talk from 12am to 5:00am then, she is the daughter to the king of the town, a well known king in Lagos state, but along the line, as we progress in line, owing to my fine boy of a thing,.

You know we guys when we sense that, it seems all lady want us, due to our cute look, or academic reasons, we take the advantage to flirt, of which she so much detest a cheating guy, she caught me times without number, but still hard for both of us to let go our anyone, after my higher institution,

I relocated to Lagos to start life and keep the hustle real, but this lady was in Lagos with mom, she keep coming to my place even in Lagos, but unfortunately, we lost contact, for seven years, we couldn't reach ourselves, then i decided to relocated to another location in Lagos

But just last month, her call came, that she saw my contact on Facebook, And we try to renew the relationship, that's how we started and doing fine, she's now in her final year At Fountain University, Oshogbo,

Now the problem facing us now is, She is a Muslim, while am a Christian, her parent will never allow her to convert, while my own parent will never allow me to convert, and now we are madly in love, she try to convinced her dad, but all effort was prove abortive.

We love ourselves so much, but religion is the barrier facing us now, we are both planning to run away from the country, she promised to foot all bills for our travelling, but I told her we should try just be friend as our religion is the barrier here now.

If not for the religion issue, we plan to have our introduction this year, and get wedded next year, but religion want to truncate the whole plans,

Pls fellow nairalanders, your advice is urgently needed now, we are both confused, with no option, we can't let go of anyone, and yet we don't want our parent to turn back to us,

She keeps crying everyday, even I myself, and in the state of confused now,.

SHOULD WE QUIT THE RELATIONSHIP OR WHAT SHOULD WE DO NOW..?

guy you can't handle inter religious crisis

You may need to convert her to save her soul from hades.

Teebaba30:
This is kinda harsh fellow, why the statement, Carry ur evils ways"
Anyway it is well.

where are you from?? Are you yoruba?? I thought dem say Yoruba Muslim Dey intermarry with Christians without problem

Galactico4ever:
The best feature of LOVE is the willingness TO LET GO. If its me, I will run away with her since she is willing.our families will definitely forgive us,eventually.

odd if I may say...... Don't make matters complicated... Let go man

liquidfaya:
I'm just stunned a woman can allow herself to date a man for 11 yrs. Like WTF

I started dating my wife in 1997 when I was in SS3 and she in SS2.

We got married in 2011. She never had another boyfriend.

What did you say you cannot allow yourself do again?

Ybaby:
When you get to her father place pretend you are a muslim
When she gets to your parent she pretends she is christain

True love is worth fighting for.

Hope you don't expect her to share bills when you are married.

so how about marriage?? You can't continue running away from your problems you know

Are you sure you are man enough for that lady? She seems capable than you bro. Don’t pull her down with your mummy’s boy attitude oo

Yeah,muslim men can marry out but their kids must be muslims,honestly just find someone that understands you i once had a fling with a muslim once I knew she didn't have the strength I left her

DAramis:
I get your point bro. As for me, I am the open type that would prefer the woman to practice whatever religion that she wishes to, especially, if it makes her a better woman, wife and a friend.

As for saying that Islam does not support it, I would not know because I don't know where it is stated but I am aware that a Muslim friend of mine told me that it is in the Koran and backed it up with reasons (except if the guy in question lied to me).

The guy is also the one that made to be aware that a Muslim man's wife can be a Christian but following the teachings of the religion, all his children must be a Muslim like their father.

Just see this discussion from an objective point of view.

I broke up with my girl friend 2 years ago due to religion barrier. Bro let go
I understand how bad you feel, that's the best you guys can do

safarigirl:
You lost contact for 7 years, I am sure you both met other people in that time, so, you have not been dating her for almost eleven years. You have only known her that long.

Muslim women are not allowed to marry non-Muslim men, so, if she marries you, she goes against the doctrines of her religion.

I don't know of this fleeting emotion you people call love, but if you think it is worth the eventual stress you will encounter, then by all means, jump into the pit.

that's it.... In the space of 7 years, both parties could have been in one or two relationship..... Highly probable... Just be careful man.

Abi nkan shey eleyi nih? You want use religion style ditch that girl, abi

Na so oo that is the best. I wonder how people see life especially this marriage of a thing. Some people will b comparing politicians or celebrity who are Moslems but married Christians or Moslem. The bible is our perfect guide and Jesus is our model. Coz u might b surprise that u will have a moral marriage here n wen u get to d other side of life,u will shock that ur name is not in the book of life. And don't have this mentality that I will change her as if they are the Holy spirit. Humans r the most difficult creature to change without God.
As for love,you don't understand what love is about. If u know the number of demons that want to set u up with this kind of marriage,u will back out. Read about the love Abnom had for Tamar,it was later when he had done everything he knew it was lust n obsession. He died untimely n lost the throne. This will help. Romans 1:28 And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient;

Vasgas:
AMP:Now Abraham was old, well advanced in years, and the Lord had blessed Abraham in all things.
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MP:And Abraham said to the eldest servant of his house [Eliezer of Damascus], who ruled over all that he had, I beg of you, put your hand under my thigh;

AMP:And you shall swear by the Lord, the God of heaven and earth, that you will not take a wife for my son from the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I have settled,

MP:But you shall go to my country and to my relatives and take a wife for my son Isaac.

AMP:The servant said to him, But perhaps the woman will not be willing to come along after me to this country. Must I take your son to the country from which you came?
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MP:Abraham said to him, See to it that you do not take my son back there.

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AMP:The Lord, the God of heaven, Who took me from my father’s house, from the land of my family and my birth, Who spoke to me and swore to me, saying, To your offspring I will give this land—He will send His Angel before you, and you will take a wife from there for my son.

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AMP:And if the woman should not be willing to go along after you, then you will be clear from this oath; only you must not take my son back there.



Bro, it's even better for him to remain unmarried than to consider marrying an unbeliever....

If it's Yoruba Muslim,there is hope but if she is hausa,run for your life

Teebaba30:
Thanks so much, so u mean u get wedded out of ur parents wish then?
And they didn't come to scatter the wedding. or turn back to either of u. ?

My mum na elder for church and her palle na althaji. The two are the main problem but at the end they gave in but when we realized the introduction was somehow,between ourselves we concluded on the court wedding to avoid story that hurt.

womenareapes:
what is light got to do with darkness
Mr man leave that woman, that religion is from the devil.
Marrying her is like marrying into the devil's family. You won't have rest of mind,
She will force your child to be boko haram,
Your child will inherit violence behaviour, her family members will be sending you death threats.

Your children if male will have pedophile behaviour ( that's to say your male child will be chasing after under age girls)

Your life will be totally miserable to the extent of committing suicide.

Your wife will later sleep with her fellow Muslim brothers while getting married to you.

You are very ignorant and in the dark because if you weren't , you wouldnt paint another religion black or give baseless assumptions or make blankets statements. Babatunde Fashola, Tinubu, Amosun are some of the muslims we have around who are married to xtians , these people are successful in marriage and in their careers ,they are peaceful and their children are doing very well. Its important to just keep quiet if you have nothing meaningful to say.

GBOKASINCHA:
where are you from?? Are you yoruba?? I thought dem say Yoruba Muslim Dey intermarry with Christians without problem

We are both Yoruba, am the Christian, while she is the Muslim

RamessesIV:
honestly just find someone that understands.

Honestly, that quoted part is the biggest challenge I have regarding to relationship. It is extremely difficult to meet such people. The harder I try, the worst it turns out to be.

The Muslim lady was the only one that understood me and always reassure me about it.