yes, i saw that,

Vyolet:

It's quite unfortunate, the husband must be a user, he would do things to annoy her and when she reacts he terms her bitter, very typical.
I hope the woman finds the strength and leave him and his toxicity.

The guy is just trying to play safe. He understands that women rules the would there.

The woman could injure herself and lie against him, even as the man tries to restrain himself.

With the video evidence, it'll be hard for such to happen. The man understands well the terrain he's, so all protocols not to go to jail and loose his life earnings have to be observed.

The reason for posting it online could be that the woman may have access to his phone and delete it or even destroy the phone.

PeacenLove2:


That boy is just a kid. Obviously poorly trained and that's no fault of his. Doesnt take a genius to see the woman is distrssed and frustrated. Yea, looks like the kid and his dad handled the recording. None of the adults look good. It's heartbreaking to see the little one crying. And that one blocking her mom from going back to meet their dad. All in all, this is a shit show! Women, prary well to marry well and never forget to use your brain as well. It's there for a purpose.

Thank u for seeing it as what it is.
When I reached where the last one was crying, I couldn't continue again. Came back but had to stop.

Naija246:
nah issues like this dey make me fear to marry
Modern women are nothing to write home about.
They are always very loud, rude and generally unpleasant.
I pity men rushing into marriage with these women;you will regret the day you were born by the time she starts dealing with you after marriage.

By the way guys, don't be fooled by her pre marriage calmness;it's all a ploy to hook you and get that ring!

I no go marry at all...

I think both of them are immature, and should get a divorce, if they cannot grow up.

ogbonti:
I am not Igbo - So, I do not understand anything they said BUT one thing I will advise anyone reading this thread, NEVER EVER MARRY A PARTNER WHO HAS THE PROPENSITY TO BE VIOLENT

whether a guy or a gal - during courtship these are the signs you must watch out for before you say, "I do"

1. They get unnecessarily argumentative
2. They never give up on an argument
3. They always want to win the argument
4. They do not forgive easily
5. Even when they claim to forgive it must be on their own terms (you must give up something)
6. They claim to forgive but quickly refer to something else you did relating to the matter at hand
7. And they always dare you to hit them first (if the partner is a woman)
8. And they always threaten to hit you (if the partner is a man)
9. And whenever there is a misunderstanding - they stand by the door preventing you from leaving.
10. They experience mood swings for no reason whatsoever - and they want you to accept it as normal.

If you experience any of these signs in your relationship - please please please, never marry that partner who exhibits such trait(s)

I know the se x may be sweet, the cuddling may be out of this world, that partner may have great looks and to the outside world

That partner may be the best ever for you - But if you want to live long, NEVER EVER MARRY SUCH!!!! BEAUTY, GOOD LOOKS and GREAT SEX is not worth your life and peace of mind!!! - God bless

Nice one

Exactly, all of them are all kids, whether they are fat or thin, both adults should be concerned about the kids and training. Equity is important, kids should not live in this environment of insults and pettiness.

sassysure:

Thank u for seeing it as what it is.
When I reached where the last one was crying, I couldn't continue again. Came back but had to stop.

That house is not in Nigeria abeg, and a Nigerian kid born here doesn't call his mother Mama, na Moomi

That’s Abriba/ Ohafia Language in Abia state.

sassysure:

It may be that big boy. Mixed blood.
Marriage don scatter.

The man speaks like imo while the woman remind me of afikpo in ebonyi state.

@op stop dropping rubbish here.. Respect other tribes and don't lie to attract traffic to your YouTube channel

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Nigerfine3:

Both if not speak like they are from ebony , but not afikpo,, it is abroad, few marriages are sweet here

The woman sounded more like Edda people of Ebonyi, although Ohafia people in Abia speak like them

VickyRotex:


I can see that a family's dysfunction gives you so much joy. To what end? ehn tell me, to what end?

pDudd:


Una don come again o. Not today please. I'm not well

VickyRotex:


Get well soon o. But I am just curious to know why you're so happy about this.
Oh because you think it justifies your thread? 1 out of millions of Nigerian families living in the US justifies your thread? smh

pDudd:


I'm not well please.

I love this

Kai nairaland

KingMicky3286:
That’s Abriba/ Ohafia Language in Abia state.

I try na as I'm not familiar with ohafia abriba people
I have been with edda people and the lady's dialect resemble edda a lot. That was why I was able to grab what she was saying.
Who is ohafia and who is abiriba. Guy own is more understandable.

Their igbo is gangan.
I had to stress my ears.

I do hope they resolve it o if they can't, they should separate in peace. That marriage has deep baggage.

profizu:
That's abiriba in ohafia LGA, Abia state.

They woman sounded like she spoke Edda, maybe the two Igbo dialects are related I think

Abiriba Abia state indeed

emmaodet:


Maybe the way you write or comment.
I may be wrong though

I'm not Igbo, from South-South.

sassysure:

I don't know about the man but that lady is from afikpo.
When I say afikpo, I mean the afikpo with its environs carved from abia to ebonyi. Iike edda vibe too. Edda is in afikpo.
I was trying to say their state of origin, not where they live.
I may be wrong.
Lots of marriages are good while some are bad. It's like that everywhere.
We mostly hear about the wrong ones.
And if u come online to praise your marriage, lots of people will come after u so that's why we hardly here about the good ones.

She spoke more of Edda sha, I'm from Edda and clearly understood her..though our dialect is similar to Ohafia and Abiriba

murphyibiam15:

They woman sounded like she spoke Edda, maybe the two Igbo dialects are related I think

Yes!
As soon as she started speaking igbo, I just remembered my edda in-laws.
So like them.

Their igbo is hard o. Like nsukka.

The question you should ask is why would the man want to buy another food for a boy when others haven't tasted anything?

There's more to the story than the info we have at present. It's either the man doubts the legitimacy of the children, because I'm sure no man would hate his own blood to deliberately starve them to death.

She ought to understand that the home she has now, someone (the boy's Mom) create the convenient life she's envying the boy from enjoying.

The man who could afford to spend $300 on a dish, would that be a problem for him to give to the woman?

sassysure:

Do u u understand what they were saying?

A boy who is smiling when two adults are fighting is no good. So don't call him innocent.
The anger is on the boy.
Man want to buy food for the boy again despite the fact he has already eaten while her children stays hungry.
Look at that boy and look at her kids.
Look at the man.
And she just put to bed through CS.

Don't laugh about this cos it isn't funny.

Yes at first, i will say the wife is looking for trouble but when u start listening to them, oh. U got to pity her and her kids.

If that video is taken to their igbo meeting, that man is 100% guilty and will be heavily fined.
He is out of job too.

murphyibiam15:

She spoke more of Edda sha, I'm from Edda and clearly understood her..though our dialect is similar to Ohafia and Abiriba

No wonder.
My inlaw.
Kà

Abiriba, the home of cannibals

pDudd:


Typical Nigerian relationships in Amelika.

Shebi you were all abusing me on that my former thread about Nigerian relationships in the US. This is video evidence right here. God has vindicated me

All for the love of money. Like I said on my former thread, the breakdown of every Nigerian marriage in US is mainly because of money or the lack thereof.


See how she's trying to provoke him to hit her so that she can call police on him. These women are evil.
The boy holding the belt is the man's child from a previous relationship the man had with a white woman that enabled him to get resident status in the US. See how the woman attacked the boy because he is not her child. The other little kids are from their present relationship.

Nobody should abuse me o, I'm not well today.

Lefulefu come and see them o

sassysure:

Why are u calling a lady who just put to bed a baboons.
Why will u even call her name. Are u ok?

The way u guys releases insults from your mouths is alarming.

I'm mad at the man and even the lady yet I have not identified them with foul language. Learn to be civil.
U may not know where u will find yourself tomorrow and your mouth might put you behind bar or uplift you.

dont mind them. this nairaland is full of kids who are still eating from their parents pot. The matured ones comment are full of wisdom

Some Children never forget, I was that type of child, never forgot my childhood, I never held it against my parents that they were not matured or were petty, given the situation, I think that was the only way they could handle whatever issues they had, but I remember the fights they had, and it still makes me uncomfortable.

Let's hope these children will forget most of these things, it seems they are still in in the long-run in an ugly ride with two immatured adults

The woman has a proof about one amarachi whom she said the husband should go and meet for soup, looks like a case of infidelity. The little one held out belt and called on the mum to hand it to her maybe for defence, but the big fat boy collected it sharperly from him and the woman went to the fat boy and asked that he release the belt to her, the man comes up to them and says the woman should return his belt.
Something private is eating them up, and money for upkeep follow, they just don't know how to sort it out.

crackkhaus:

First of all, that doesn't look like it happened in Abia State. The home in the video looks like a building design for houses either in the US/UK/Canada.

The man himself is the one holding the phone to record what is going on, perhaps to use as evidence showing that he did not raise a hand on his wife should cops/courts get involved.

He is deliberately trying to piss her off, there is even a grown-up fat boy (probably their son) laughing at the whole drama.
The only person who seems really angry and agitated there, is the woman.

Sassysure, abeg come interpret wetin dem dey yan so people can get a better picture.

you must be a good detective.

SeriouslySense:
Some Children never forget, I was that type of child, never forgot my childhood, I never held it against my parents that they were not matured or were petty, given the situation, I think that was the only way they could handle whatever issues they had, but I remember the fights they had, and it still makes me uncomfortable.

Let's hope these children will forget most of these things, it seems they are still in in the long-run in an ugly ride with two immatured adults

They will never forget.
This is shaping the person they will be in the future.

I think the man could have calmed her down, why don't we have the culture of discussion rather than the know-all attitude.

Sirvingeo:

The woman is toxic and very ungrateful .She insulted the man like a kid

And the man that repeatedly told her to get out and stupid is what? Why can't you guys be just and not bias,you look at a grown woman at the face and call her stupid let alone the mother of your kids and in front of your kids,the man is the stupid one here(slow at thinking) am not surprise cause an Igbo man has no regard or respect for a woman ,she is lucky is happening in the USA,if it was naija she would lost a tooth,the jungle were domestic violence is celebrated, even on this forum read some post and you will see simp so he no fit slap her,abi no be belt him hold for hand so,if na me eee and so forth .really sad

In the beginning the man did smack at her. Whether he made contact or not I didn’t really see because the phone he was holding shifted as he did that. During the video they did smack and shove at each other.

He said he was going to beat her. And she said “beat me”. They both said it repeatedly.

She said “what did I ever do to you? This one is the question that she keeps repeating over and over so there must be underlying issues about that.
She said I had a c-section, you never cared. How much is $300? Won’t you buy things for your other kids?”

She said all that but not necessarily in the order that I remembered and typed them.

The man said, “I’m making this video for the court. I’ll show this to all the world especially Nigerian forums”
So he’s the one making and circulating the video .

Multiple calling of names on both sides.

She held the boy to take something he was holding. (The man’s belt I think) and the man said “if that boy chukwuma gets hurt, I’ll beat your spirit out of you.” He made plenty threats of beating and she dared him to.