If you had died would he have come for your burial.. If you didn't make it do you think he would have called?you shouldn't be friends with such people because they can kill..what is hard in telling him sorry you can't come to my place..if na me the moment i leave im cutting him off

slyfox35:
Best friends or closest friends as some people term it is quite normal in the life of 80% of world population, I had one too.

We grew up as teens together, matured as adults together, he came to our house always and ate all his meals with us. My mom was really nice to him when she was alive. He wore my clothes and never returned them. I did not ask because my parents always provided for me although they were average citizens.

Then the worst thing in my life happened. I lost both my parents within the space of four years.
Things turned downhill for me (orphans do suffer a lot.. Too much suffering for you to believe there is even God in heaven who takes care of the fatherless and motherless).

My friend travelled to an African country. He kept telling me to come over there to work that things are better there. I kept declining but after a year of constant pressure, I decided to man up, packed my bags and travelled to meet him.

Guess what? I did not stay up to 5 days with him!!!

His attitude changed by the second day, he yells at me at every given opportunity, from his best friend, I turned to his boy, the heat he was given me was so bad that when he leaves the house and he comes back, I get scared just by hearing his footsteps. I virtually turned to a nonentity to him. I had no money on me because the little I had left, he collected it when I arrived. I knew no one, I felt so miserable and alone and I started regretting why I left Nigeria.

On the fifth day ,I woke up early in the morning and shook him up. I don’t know what got into me (but I am glad it did), I told him I can’t stay with him anymore and I want to leave. He did not even feel bad about this, he did not think of the fact that I know nothing and nowhere in this country. He let me go.

I packed my bag amid tears and went into the street. Mind you, I had no one to call back in Nigeria... It was tough on me but as a naija guy and as God will have it, I did not spend even a night on the streets. I was shocked that a total stranger took me in, clothed and fed me. He taught me everything he knows. I worked for 6 months and was able to make 2 million Naira. This was like a dream to me (If you get money ehn, to praise God Dey sweet o)

I came back to Nigeria, rented an apartment, furnished it and continued working from here.

This so called best friend of mine saw my posts and pictures on Facebook and video called me to check on me (I guess his eyes did not believe what he was seeing) he asked me if I am in a hotel, I said no, I am in my apartment. He was shocked (me I nor keep any grudge against you) he told me he was coming to Nigeria and that I should please forgive him and forget everything that happened. I told him I can forgive but can’t forget.

What surprised me most are this exact words he said “my guy, if I come, na your house I go relax first abeg”

Now my fellow Nairalanders, I am asking, how should I go about this?

I have forgiven him but should I allow him into my home?

Dear Op, would this friend have called you, if you had not posted your apartment on Facebook? Dont you think he would definitely find his way, with or without you?
If I were you, I would not allow him in. You can show him live from afar.

You need to apply wisdom.

I had close to your experience in America when I moved here 16yrs ago. Best friends eyes dey red because I needed them for the first time in our friendship. But I got my things together by God grace and I catch up with them and Overtake some. My advice is, be careful with how you deal with him if you decided to let him stay in your house. He can't stop your Shine in though.

cococandy:
Please don’t let him stay in your house.
You have forgiven him but be wise.

He’s clearly jealous. He’s coming to your house to see things for himself. You can’t predict what he will do after that.

Na so.

Sorry Mr. Slyfox35 for asking this question.

You see, to be frank with you, I am really not in any way at all interested in the love affair between you and your friend.

Neither am I interested in trying to tell you how to handle him when he comes back to your lovepad.

My nigga, I am only interested in knowing what type of business you did that enabled you make quite a pile of dough.

Can you throw more light on this, please?

Thanks.

I won't advise you to take him in. If you can afford it, show him good faith by lodging him in a guest house at least for two days and that would be enough.

Since 2006 till date, I live with a pain, and wished I never allowed a certain fellow remain my best friend after I realized his intentions towards me were not pure. I was afraid of losing a friend since I didnt have much friends, but for 10 years and more now, I look back and I wish I ended that friendship in 2003.

slyfox35:

He’s a human being like you and me,I don’t think ethnicity has anything to do with the heart of man

How you no go make am bro!
Your sense of maturity alone is 1000%
Kudos! As for your friend please don't let him close abeg.

My brother if you wanna allow him to chill with you fine if you don't want too no problem but the truth is that God used him to alleviate you you are a child of grace and destiny so don't treat him bad, I am talking from experience all my life I have been doing good to my friends and all I get get back is shits but I didn't stop doing it and I think I am better than most of them today. Peace

You have done the best by forgiving him
But if I were in your shoes with the way I have seen life I won't let him near me again but I will do it in a mature and friendly way.

Best friend? With the kind of personality I have, I don't have best friends.

And I'm the type that like my privacy, I don't joke with it cos I like staying alone.
Well you can allow him to come stay if you want to but not permanent, in fact it shouldn't be more than a week.

If I'm the one in your shoes right now, I would have cut all contact with him, in fact my reaction won't allow him to msg me again.

I have had my share of this kind of experience before too!
I housed a colleague for over four months, feeding him and bearing all costs of his living expenses... He turned out to be an ingrate! As if that wasn't enough, he became my worst headache at work - always working against me as if I did offend him while he stayed with me!

At some point when he almost made me lose the job, I had to face him (there in the office) I warned him to get off my trail, he retorted by calling me unprintable names! When I calmed, I asked if he had any personal grudges against me, he said No. Then I said, by his confession may God judge him! I cursed him that he will always get paid in evil for every good he offers...

So, OP some guys are evil ...and yes! Most evil guys I have known have two things in common; they take good guys for fools, and they have this stupid sense of entitlement!
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Well, I am not you, and I can't be you. But if I found myself in your place, I'll keep my healthy distance from an Evil!

slyfox35:
Best friends or closest friends as some people term it is quite normal in the life of 80% of world population, I had one too.

We grew up as teens together, matured as adults together, he came to our house always and ate all his meals with us. My mom was really nice to him when she was alive. He wore my clothes and never returned them. I did not ask because my parents always provided for me although they were average citizens.

Then the worst thing in my life happened. I lost both my parents within the space of four years.
Things turned downhill for me (orphans do suffer a lot.. Too much suffering for you to believe there is even God in heaven who takes care of the fatherless and motherless).

My friend travelled to an African country. He kept telling me to come over there to work that things are better there. I kept declining but after a year of constant pressure, I decided to man up, packed my bags and travelled to meet him.

Guess what? I did not stay up to 5 days with him!!!

His attitude changed by the second day, he yells at me at every given opportunity, from his best friend, I turned to his boy, the heat he was given me was so bad that when he leaves the house and he comes back, I get scared just by hearing his footsteps. I virtually turned to a nonentity to him. I had no money on me because the little I had left, he collected it when I arrived. I knew no one, I felt so miserable and alone and I started regretting why I left Nigeria.

On the fifth day ,I woke up early in the morning and shook him up. I don’t know what got into me (but I am glad it did), I told him I can’t stay with him anymore and I want to leave. He did not even feel bad about this, he did not think of the fact that I know nothing and nowhere in this country. He let me go.

I packed my bag amid tears and went into the street. Mind you, I had no one to call back in Nigeria... It was tough on me but as a naija guy and as God will have it, I did not spend even a night on the streets. I was shocked that a total stranger took me in, clothed and fed me. He taught me everything he knows. I worked for 6 months and was able to make 2 million Naira. This was like a dream to me (If you get money ehn, to praise God Dey sweet o)

I came back to Nigeria, rented an apartment, furnished it and continued working from here.

This so called best friend of mine saw my posts and pictures on Facebook and video called me to check on me (I guess his eyes did not believe what he was seeing) he asked me if I am in a hotel, I said no, I am in my apartment. He was shocked (me I nor keep any grudge against you) he told me he was coming to Nigeria and that I should please forgive him and forget everything that happened. I told him I can forgive but can’t forget.

What surprised me most are this exact words he said “my guy, if I come, na your house I go relax first abeg”

Now my fellow Nairalanders, I am asking, how should I go about this?

I have forgiven him but should I allow him into my home?

maintain social distance from this your friend. He's evil.

But bro which African country did you travel to and made so much Money in six months. I think I'm interested in traveling there. I don see hell for this earth

Humanoid01:
Please don't let that guy into your home. If you want to help him, do that from afar, don't let him get close to you. The fact that someone seeks forgiveness doesn't necessarily mean that they have changed. It's clear from the way he made that request that he's only putting up a façade.

He will destroy your home at any given opportunity. In case you don't know yet, the reason you had to go through those rough times in his home was for you to know who he truly is, you should have learnt your lesson by now. I'm not saying you shouldn't help him, my point is don't get close to him anymore to the point of cohabiting with him.

don't mind the op,fool,the guy will just kill u ,in ur own house.

slyfox35:

I tell you Bro,How far How far from afar is the best form of friendship now

Pls I take God beg you, don't allow him come your side at all. Jealousy is the last line before witchcraft, you gotta be wise man.

slyfox35:


What surprised me most are this exact words he said “my guy, if I come, na your house I go relax first abeg”

Now my fellow Nairalanders, I am asking, how should I go about this?

I have forgiven him but should I allow him into my home?

With best friends like yours, no one needs enemies.

There is no such thing as best friend or even friends, every man for himself. Help those you can and leave the rest.

To your question, please stop flaunting unnecessarily online and please do not allow that guy visit you. He's not your friend. To him, you are just a fool he can always feed on, I have been in the same position and lost almost all my wealth to enemies I called friends.

Be sensible for once in your life before you cut your life short with your own hands.

I'm very disappointed you really had to come here to ask. So if we tell you to forgive and forget, you will foolishly allow that guy into your house? Mumu suffer head life no dey tire you?

It is your life, live it as you deem best for you.

Every Aboki with e kettle.

tempex88:
Story is one sided

Yea... you can contact his best friend for his own side of the story too..

Is it me or females here have first hand experience in best friend f ups?Hmmmmm...

slyfox35:
Best friends or closest friends as some people term it is quite normal in the life of 80% of world population, I had one too.

What surprised me most are this exact words he said “my guy, if I come, na your house I go relax first abeg”

Now my fellow Nairalanders, I am asking, how should I go about this?

I have forgiven him but should I allow him into my home?

Once bitten twice shy.
Oga use your head.
Just block the guy everywhere

dat one isn’t a friend.i think dey say old friend are better than new one but dis one is a misfortune friend.He doesn’t want ur progress/well being.Look here young man,if u dnt want to SUFFER,DNT OPEN uR DOOR FOR dis DEMON.if he nor kee u(God forbid,May the spirit of ur dead parents reject Am).If u must open ur door for him.dont allow him to stay alone while u go out.u must eat together(Same plate).That Friend of urs is a BAZTARD

slyfox35:

Your stupidity seems hereditary,I won’t bother my time on you,if your life is vague and unbelievable,some people experiences are not,my story is vague? Then I have to lie about my parents death?
I only asked for advice,if you have none in that empty skull of yours,then shut up and stop being a fool on Nairaland

with this ur reply, I know you can handle that your so-called best frenemy

He neglected you when you needed him, he needs you now that God has done it.Practical definition of fake friends.




There's a reason God allowed you to make it without him, don't ruin that plan by accepting him again..

slyfox35:

Thanks for this,my thoughts exactly, but I do not know how to tell him to back off,should I remind of him of what he did?

Don't pick his calls when he calls and you know he's coming or block him for like 6months.
He has family in Nigeria he should go to them.

See don't try it o. He's not your friend. Take it or leave it.

Roon9:


How you no go make am bro!
Your sense of maturity alone is 1000%
Kudos! As for your friend please don't let him close abeg.

lol,thanks bro,I take your advice

. nerver because of emotional tiles try to go back to a past relationship, the walking may seem dific..... Go for it. Pojuoyemade

slyfox35:

Thanks for this,my thoughts exactly, but I do not know how to tell him to back off,should I remind of him of what he did?

Nah you don't have to, bye gone is bye gone, u can allow him come over but for 24 hrs max, m sure he is shocked that u made it and he is coming to confirm it, friends like that could do irrational things outta jealousy.. Still be on hi hi terms with him, if he asks something n its within ur power, you could assist, am sure if he didn't make you go tru all this, maybe u would still be eating from his table, so consider his actions as a push to ur success.. Remember life is too short to be creating enemies.. Be cool with him even if u guys can't be close. And watch what you say around him.... Take care

He is never your friend bro

bluefilm:
Sorry Mr. Slyfox35 for asking this question.

You see, to be frank with you, I am really in any way at all interested in the love affair between you and your friend.

Neither am I interested in trying to tell you how to handle him when he comes back to your lovepad.

My nigga, I am only interested in knowing what type of business you did that enabled you make quite a pile of dough.

Can you throw more light on this, please?

Thanks.

Lol...Funny Nigga,you na business man o,you just run straight to the money matter.

slyfox35:
Best friends or closest friends as some people term it is quite normal in the life of 80% of world population, I had one too.

We grew up as teens together, matured as adults together, he came to our house always and ate all his meals with us. My mom was really nice to him when she was alive. He wore my clothes and never returned them. I did not ask because my parents always provided for me although they were average citizens.

Then the worst thing in my life happened. I lost both my parents within the space of four years.
Things turned downhill for me (orphans do suffer a lot.. Too much suffering for you to believe there is even God in heaven who takes care of the fatherless and motherless).

My friend travelled to an African country. He kept telling me to come over there to work that things are better there. I kept declining but after a year of constant pressure, I decided to man up, packed my bags and travelled to meet him.

Guess what? I did not stay up to 5 days with him!!!

His attitude changed by the second day, he yells at me at every given opportunity, from his best friend, I turned to his boy, the heat he was given me was so bad that when he leaves the house and he comes back, I get scared just by hearing his footsteps. I virtually turned to a nonentity to him. I had no money on me because the little I had left, he collected it when I arrived. I knew no one, I felt so miserable and alone and I started regretting why I left Nigeria.

On the fifth day ,I woke up early in the morning and shook him up. I don’t know what got into me (but I am glad it did), I told him I can’t stay with him anymore and I want to leave. He did not even feel bad about this, he did not think of the fact that I know nothing and nowhere in this country. He let me go.

I packed my bag amid tears and went into the street. Mind you, I had no one to call back in Nigeria... It was tough on me but as a naija guy and as God will have it, I did not spend even a night on the streets. I was shocked that a total stranger took me in, clothed and fed me. He taught me everything he knows. I worked for 6 months and was able to make 2 million Naira. This was like a dream to me (If you get money ehn, to praise God Dey sweet o)

I came back to Nigeria, rented an apartment, furnished it and continued working from here.

This so called best friend of mine saw my posts and pictures on Facebook and video called me to check on me (I guess his eyes did not believe what he was seeing) he asked me if I am in a hotel, I said no, I am in my apartment. He was shocked (me I nor keep any grudge against you) he told me he was coming to Nigeria and that I should please forgive him and forget everything that happened. I told him I can forgive but can’t forget.

What surprised me most are this exact words he said “my guy, if I come, na your house I go relax first abeg”

Now my fellow Nairalanders, I am asking, how should I go about this?

I have forgiven him but should I allow him into my home?

To God be the glory.what were u taught bros as u continue online from naija. I hope no be yahoo yahoo PLS.

If Yahoo yahoo ur going down but if genuine Amen for u

In my opinion Don't let him come to your house

Having him stay in your house will be the worst mistake you would make in life. Such people don't change and you will not be the first or even the last he will treat that way. Simply avoid such people.

slyfox35:

Thanks for this,my thoughts exactly, but I do not know how to tell him to back off,should I remind of him of what he did?

call him, guy don't come o am not around simple, see people like me i can tolerate betray from opposite sex but from a guy,no no I can't,if not for ur stranger helper u could have dead on the street of that country (where u know no one), i carry ur matter for head like Gala,e dey pain me.

If you allow him in your house he will poison you out of jealousy