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Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by salford1: 11:01pm On May 18, 2020
Carloslehder:
Bunch of amateurs, go to quora or reddit to seek for help,people here are not even asking the basis questions like what drug is he into because you just said hard drugs which is not really a name of any drug.
Nairaland us just a reflection of the people that inhabit the area we call Nigeria. You wonder why the country is the way it is grin

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Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by mordred44: 11:02pm On May 18, 2020
salford1:

Masturbation doesn't kill. Drug abuse kills people as they might eventually overdose.
ok
Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by funshint(m): 11:03pm On May 18, 2020
The period when the problem would have been best tackled is unfortunately over #SecondarySchool. I guess you are from a rich background where scolding children is not really a thing. The only thing you can do now is pray...that's just the only thing. It is well!

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Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by rittyben(f): 11:03pm On May 18, 2020
star4ever:
I have a 42 year old brother who for over 18 years has been on hard drugs. He started this habit while in secondary school and couldn't finish tertiary education for same reason. Efforts made by the family to stop him from substance abuse and rehabilitate him at several occasions failed. Each time such effort is made, he recovers after a while but returns to the habit. Currently, he has become mentally deranged and there seems to be no solution at sight.

He has been admitted to different psychiatric hospitals on two occasions. At both times, he was treated and confirmed fit and sound to return to the society. The moment he was discharged, he quickly went back to his old ways and all the resources spent went into the drain. In one of the occasions, we were strongly advised to engage him as joblessness was one of the greatest problem causing the abuse. We got him engaged by securing a fantastic job which he also left after a week of working there. Other meaningful efforts geared towards engaging him to enable him to become occupied and start earning a living as a man also didn’t work out.

We have organised prayer sessions by powerful men of God, nothing has happened yet. I do want to sound like someone without faith. I strongly believe that our able God will make things beautiful at His time. However, the situation has gone out of control and we need to act fast.

These, amongst many, are some of the interventions already done by the family and we cannot fold our arms and watch people mock us in shame every day due to his abnormal activities in the community.

Now what he does is forcefully, take money from our aged mum, sell any family property at sight in exchange for money to buy his drugs. Beat my mum up at any slightest refusal to give him money. He has been jailed many times for committing several offences related to this habit, yet the problem persists. Maybe we have not applied the best approach?

I am calling on fellow Nairalanders to assist with solutions. I believe there are some of us here who may have experienced this problem in one way or the other, or have an advise to give to solve this lingering painful situation. Your personal or professional experience (s) may go a long way in salvaging this situation for us.

I believe a problem shared is a problem solved.
Try CBD oil
Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by Temidayo9(m): 11:03pm On May 18, 2020
star4ever:
I have a 42 year old brother who for over 18 years has been on hard drugs. He started this habit while in secondary school and couldn't finish tertiary education for same reason. Efforts made by the family to stop him from substance abuse and rehabilitate him at several occasions failed. Each time such effort is made, he recovers after a while but returns to the habit. Currently, he has become mentally deranged and there seems to be no solution at sight.

He has been admitted to different psychiatric hospitals on two occasions. At both times, he was treated and confirmed fit and sound to return to the society. The moment he was discharged, he quickly went back to his old ways and all the resources spent went into the drain. In one of the occasions, we were strongly advised to engage him as joblessness was one of the greatest problem causing the abuse. We got him engaged by securing a fantastic job which he also left after a week of working there. Other meaningful efforts geared towards engaging him to enable him to become occupied and start earning a living as a man also didn’t work out.

We have organised prayer sessions by powerful men of God, nothing has happened yet. I do want to sound like someone without faith. I strongly believe that our able God will make things beautiful at His time. However, the situation has gone out of control and we need to act fast.

These, amongst many, are some of the interventions already done by the family and we cannot fold our arms and watch people mock us in shame every day due to his abnormal activities in the community.

Now what he does is forcefully, take money from our aged mum, sell any family property at sight in exchange for money to buy his drugs. Beat my mum up at any slightest refusal to give him money. He has been jailed many times for committing several offences related to this habit, yet the problem persists. Maybe we have not applied the best approach?

I am calling on fellow Nairalanders to assist with solutions. I believe there are some of us here who may have experienced this problem in one way or the other, or have an advise to give to solve this lingering painful situation. Your personal or professional experience (s) may go a long way in salvaging this situation for us.

I believe a problem shared is a problem solved.
Hnmmm. Well, the family need to know the root cause of the problem before there can be a solution. Obviously this is a spiritual problem, and it has to be treated as such. Please take a step, the matter is not a rehab or psychiatric issue.
Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by oluplus(m): 11:03pm On May 18, 2020
adontcare:
God is not mocked. What a man/ woman sow, that they will reap. Ask ur mum and dad what they did wrong. There must be something evil they had done that is affecting ur 42 yr brother. The bible said, train up a child in d way that he should grow and when he is old he will not depart from it. They where sparing the rod on him and now spoilt
What sort of comment is this?
Is this the best you could come up with. Who made you a Judge over the matter?
Why not keep shut when you hVe no positive solution to offer. Hian!

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Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by Dididrumz(m): 11:05pm On May 18, 2020
litigator:


Don't for a second think he is not trying to stop using.

Shalom.


Best statement I've seen so far.
Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by SeriouslySense(m): 11:06pm On May 18, 2020
exactly, such information could be helpful
hpk:
Hard Drugs, Hard Drugs, OP what exact substance is he addicted to?

Please specify if it's marijuana, tramadol, rophenol, heroine or cocaine. This would go a long way in identifying the best cause of action to implore as all the above stated substances react differently and are combated differently.
Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by lilyheaven: 11:06pm On May 18, 2020
send him to psychiatry hospital Enugu, after discharge send him to one farm house in abakaliki, don't give him money, but food stuff, please take your mommy away from him.
Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by Nobody: 11:07pm On May 18, 2020
adontcare:
God is not mocked. What a man/ woman sow, that they will reap. Ask ur mum and dad what they did wrong. There must be something evil they had done that is affecting ur 42 yr brother. The bible said, train up a child in d way that he should grow and when he is old he will not depart from it. They where sparing the rod on him and now spoilt
This Your idea got me sick. May God help you though. You mean Thieves, prostitutes corrupt politicians are products of bad parenting? You need to look for another verse and quote again

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Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by Nobody: 11:08pm On May 18, 2020
He should be addimitted again and this time let him be there for long until his condition is under control. You guys also need to act fast cos as it stands now, he's a menace to your mum and the society since he's beginning to act violently.

Finally, keep praying for him. If you can, take him to the RCCG camp ground. God is able to do it.

May God restore his sanity in Jesus name.

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Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by SeriouslySense(m): 11:09pm On May 18, 2020
hmm, could wok, who knows
lilyheaven:
send him to psychiatry hospital Enugu, after discharge send him to one farm house in abakaliki, don't give him money, but food stuff, please take your mommy away from him.

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Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by Nobody: 11:10pm On May 18, 2020
adontcare:
[s]God is not mocked. What a man/ woman sow, that they will reap. Ask ur mum and dad what they did wrong. There must be something evil they had done that is affecting ur 42 yr brother. The bible said, train up a child in d way that he should grow and when he is old he will not depart from it. They where sparing the rod on him and now spoilt[/s]


What “fresh hell” is this!? shocked
In my experience anytime somebody says “God is not mocked”? They then proceed to be their most unkind and judgemental selves. If you have nothing kind and or useful to add here, just read. Gaud!
Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by tenderjunkie: 11:11pm On May 18, 2020
star4ever:
I have a 42 year old brother who for over 18 years has been on hard drugs. He started this habit while in secondary school and couldn't finish tertiary education for same reason. Efforts made by the family to stop him from substance abuse and rehabilitate him at several occasions failed. Each time such effort is made, he recovers after a while but returns to the habit. Currently, he has become mentally deranged and there seems to be no solution at sight.

He has been admitted to different psychiatric hospitals on two occasions. At both times, he was treated and confirmed fit and sound to return to the society. The moment he was discharged, he quickly went back to his old ways and all the resources spent went into the drain. In one of the occasions, we were strongly advised to engage him as joblessness was one of the greatest problem causing the abuse. We got him engaged by securing a fantastic job which he also left after a week of working there. Other meaningful efforts geared towards engaging him to enable him to become occupied and start earning a living as a man also didn’t work out.

We have organised prayer sessions by powerful men of God, nothing has happened yet. I do want to sound like someone without faith. I strongly believe that our able God will make things beautiful at His time. However, the situation has gone out of control and we need to act fast.

These, amongst many, are some of the interventions already done by the family and we cannot fold our arms and watch people mock us in shame every day due to his abnormal activities in the community.

Now what he does is forcefully, take money from our aged mum, sell any family property at sight in exchange for money to buy his drugs. Beat my mum up at any slightest refusal to give him money. He has been jailed many times for committing several offences related to this habit, yet the problem persists. Maybe we have not applied the best approach?

I am calling on fellow Nairalanders to assist with solutions. I believe there are some of us here who may have experienced this problem in one way or the other, or have an advise to give to solve this lingering painful situation. Your personal or professional experience (s) may go a long way in salvaging this situation for us.

I believe a problem shared is a problem solved.
OP, a quite touching experience you've shared. Unfortunately I have a relative battling addiction as well

The truth is, drug addiction is messy and it's best not to even start.
A study once revealed that a rat will rather die being hooked to cocaine than go in search of food.
It's bad enough to be hooked on drugs, but our society has made it almost impossible for addicts to overcome the addiction.
Our churches have failed woefully in this regard.
You complain of addiction and they hook you on prayers, as though prayer is the end result.
Prayer is only a tool to get to the end result.
Aside prayer the churches have failed to set up establishments to fully rehabilitate drug addicts.

I'm not talking of rehabs were you go and spend sometime then when you're out you relapse.

I'm talking of complete rehabilitation in the mind, body and spirit. A rehab center were as you're taking time off drugs, you're introduced to vocations, life changing principles, truths about life. Even when you get out, you're monitored and you're actively engaged in something of purpose.
Who better to implement this than the church?
After all we are the light of the world and the salt of the earth.
Church is not only to collect tithe and build cathedrals. They should have a meaningful impact on the society as well.

OP, concerning your brother's case, so called big men of God won't work any miracle. Your brother will have to find God for himself

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Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by queengift(f): 11:11pm On May 18, 2020
adontcare:
I know and am already getting it from them.



Remember you will be a mother tomorrow and feel the pain of a derailing child. Most kids that misbehave have parents that train them well, but peer influence do affect alot of them.

Don't be quick to judge people you don't know.

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Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by Nobody: 11:12pm On May 18, 2020
Ningen:
What??
He beats up your aged mum, his own mother??

DISOWN HIM.
It's time for your “aged” mother to rest!

He's an adult of 42yrs, mentally institutionalized twice and declared “fit” for the society. Gifted a job but only to quit. Doesn't want to earn a living and only into drugs. Una don try, GOD knows.



Dear OP
Please kindly disregard this post. It is well meaning I guess, but not the right thing to do at all.

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Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by Nobody: 11:13pm On May 18, 2020
So sorry.
Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by madampresident(f): 11:13pm On May 18, 2020
Stop trying to rehabilitate him. This might sound really weird to you!

Pm me to tell you what to do to have him back.
Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by Fulcrum15: 11:13pm On May 18, 2020
Temidayo9:

Hnmmm. Well, the family need to know the root cause of the problem before there can be a solution. Obviously this is a spiritual problem, and it has to be treated as such. Please take a step, the matter is not a rehab or psychiatric issue.
Shut ur stupid mouth u know nothing.
Ur likes condemn innocent kids for witchcraft.
Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by ajl: 11:13pm On May 18, 2020
star4ever:
I have a 42 year old brother who for over 18 years has been on hard drugs. He started this habit while in secondary school and couldn't finish tertiary education for same reason. Efforts made by the family to stop him from substance abuse and rehabilitate him at several occasions failed. Each time such effort is made, he recovers after a while but returns to the habit. Currently, he has become mentally deranged and there seems to be no solution at sight.

He has been admitted to different psychiatric hospitals on two occasions. At both times, he was treated and confirmed fit and sound to return to the society. The moment he was discharged, he quickly went back to his old ways and all the resources spent went into the drain. In one of the occasions, we were strongly advised to engage him as joblessness was one of the greatest problem causing the abuse. We got him engaged by securing a fantastic job which he also left after a week of working there. Other meaningful efforts geared towards engaging him to enable him to become occupied and start earning a living as a man also didn’t work out.

We have organised prayer sessions by powerful men of God, nothing has happened yet. I do want to sound like someone without faith. I strongly believe that our able God will make things beautiful at His time. However, the situation has gone out of control and we need to act fast.

These, amongst many, are some of the interventions already done by the family and we cannot fold our arms and watch people mock us in shame every day due to his abnormal activities in the community.

Now what he does is forcefully, take money from our aged mum, sell any family property at sight in exchange for money to buy his drugs. Beat my mum up at any slightest refusal to give him money. He has been jailed many times for committing several offences related to this habit, yet the problem persists. Maybe we have not applied the best approach?

I am calling on fellow Nairalanders to assist with solutions. I believe there are some of us here who may have experienced this problem in one way or the other, or have an advise to give to solve this lingering painful situation. Your personal or professional experience (s) may go a long way in salvaging this situation for us.

I believe a problem shared is a problem solved.

See people talking about psychology or psychiatrists. Why continue to recommend solution that has failed multiple times. And you are an African. More so, your brother is not mentally deranged. Try traditional means. It may sound stupid. But out of all the solutions you listed that you have tried, that's the only one that is missing. But not any traditionalist can do this. Your brother does not have a mental problem but only an habit that has eaten deep to him. He is not himself any more and he is possibly under the control of dark entities that profits from his habits and the grief he brings to his family. Don't get me wrong. I am not saying there are people behind his travails. But his state of being as it is, is "food" for negative entities that operate unseen around us. Remember this in case you are a Christian , Ephesians 6:12 "For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places."

So, be open minded about the options available. And hopefully you have not been brainwashed about African tradition treatments. I am a PhD scientist and I know modern science or medicine does not provide solutions to every health problem.

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Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by Nobody: 11:14pm On May 18, 2020
adontcare:
abi? Time and Time again people tend to ignore d spiritual and faces the physical- I will shut up but no man plant mango and reap guava


Thanking every “God” in the world for this!
Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by Pedrocross4568(m): 11:14pm On May 18, 2020
adontcare:
God is not mocked. What a man/ woman sow, that they will reap. Ask ur mum and dad what they did wrong. There must be something evil they had done that is affecting ur 42 yr brother. The bible said, train up a child in d way that he should grow and when he is old he will not depart from it. They where sparing the rod on him and now spoilt

Must you comment on everything you read. if you can't read and understand please don't say anything.
Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by Dididrumz(m): 11:15pm On May 18, 2020
Samm9y:


Do you have sense?

NO
Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by obailala(m): 11:15pm On May 18, 2020
adontcare:
God is not mocked. What a man/ woman sow, that they will reap. Ask ur mum and dad what they did wrong. There must be something evil they had done that is affecting ur 42 yr brother. The bible said, train up a child in d way that he should grow and when he is old he will not depart from it. They where sparing the rod on him and now spoilt
This has to be the most ignorant trash I've read in a long time.

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Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by Dididrumz(m): 11:16pm On May 18, 2020
Carloslehder:
.walahi you no get Brain

TRUE
Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by SeriouslySense(m): 11:17pm On May 18, 2020
and what does your brother wants, what are his dreams for his life, what other thing does he desire, and what are the positive feedback he has been giving
Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by ensamy(m): 11:17pm On May 18, 2020
This is simple to Restore: He has been LIVING IN BONDAGE for more than 20years. The impure spirits have formed Thier military headquarter inside of him. So he is manifesting alot of different personalities. His situation seems hopeless but it is not. They is hope for FULL RESTORATION.
Exorcise those little demonic entities.
Why all the Churches are failing to heal him is that they are all trying to drive the entities away. No they will not go away because that is Thier legal property. The only JUST way they will leave is to RELOCATE them the boy will be made whole immediately.
How do you relocate them to an animal or into a tree . Jesus did same with the madman of the Garderen with 2000 Legions of demonic spirits.
The strong man should try to Relocate them. cool shocked
Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by humilitypays(m): 11:18pm On May 18, 2020
To cure an addiction you need to replace it with another addiction, but a lesser addiction. There are some youthful addiction he can be helped to develop passion for as a way of letting him quit the current drug addiction.


One of them is womanising or even gambling wink

That is also applicable to masturbation, to cure that addiction, the person need to replace it with another addiction to get their brain occupied with another exciting stuff during the time they fall back to their main addiction.

I need to be paid to continue shocked shocked

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Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by star4ever: 11:19pm On May 18, 2020
hpk:
Hard Drugs, Hard Drugs, OP what exact substance is he addicted to?

Please specify if it's marijuana, tramadol, rophenol, heroine or cocaine. This would go a long way in identifying the best cause of action to implore as all the above stated substances react differently and are combated differently.

From the last test conducted when was admitted at the psychiatric hospital in 2017, they confirmed only marijuana. However, from what we are experiencing of late, there seems to be more to that.
Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by Bankyt90: 11:21pm On May 18, 2020
adontcare:
God is not mocked. What a man/ woman sow, that they will reap. Ask ur mum and dad what they did wrong. There must be something evil they had done that is affecting ur 42 yr brother. The bible said, train up a child in d way that he should grow and when he is old he will not depart from it. They where sparing the rod on him and now spoilt

Who be this guy?? Wetin you dy talk?? Comot for my front
Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by seanchuks: 11:21pm On May 18, 2020
star4ever:
I have a 42 year old brother who for over 18 years has been on hard drugs. He started this habit while in secondary school and couldn't finish tertiary education for same reason. Efforts made by the family to stop him from substance abuse and rehabilitate him at several occasions failed. Each time such effort is made, he recovers after a while but returns to the habit. Currently, he has become mentally deranged and there seems to be no solution at sight.

He has been admitted to different psychiatric hospitals on two occasions. At both times, he was treated and confirmed fit and sound to return to the society. The moment he was discharged, he quickly went back to his old ways and all the resources spent went into the drain. In one of the occasions, we were strongly advised to engage him as joblessness was one of the greatest problem causing the abuse. We got him engaged by securing a fantastic job which he also left after a week of working there. Other meaningful efforts geared towards engaging him to enable him to become occupied and start earning a living as a man also didn’t work out.

We have organised prayer sessions by powerful men of God, nothing has happened yet. I do want to sound like someone without faith. I strongly believe that our able God will make things beautiful at His time. However, the situation has gone out of control and we need to act fast.

These, amongst many, are some of the interventions already done by the family and we cannot fold our arms and watch people mock us in shame every day due to his abnormal activities in the community.

Now what he does is forcefully, take money from our aged mum, sell any family property at sight in exchange for money to buy his drugs. Beat my mum up at any slightest refusal to give him money. He has been jailed many times for committing several offences related to this habit, yet the problem persists. Maybe we have not applied the best approach?

I am calling on fellow Nairalanders to assist with solutions. I believe there are some of us here who may have experienced this problem in one way or the other, or have an advise to give to solve this lingering painful situation. Your personal or professional experience (s) may go a long way in salvaging this situation for us.

I believe a problem shared is a problem solved.
take him to TB Joshua...my advise.
Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by SeriouslySense(m): 11:21pm On May 18, 2020
Also could you access his level of maturity, is he childlike, or behaves like he is not present, is his mind always wondering about, what is his traits like

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