postmann:



It would have been more honourable stepping out from the shadows and make your entreaties in the open rather than employing your lousy reserve psychology.

I'm not here to revive/or satisfy the unlived cravings of old bitties like you, but to point them to where they once lost track.

Moving on. . . .

The fallout. . . .

The pain lingers on. . . .THE WOMEN ALWAYS EXPRESS THEIR HURT more than the MEN.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/pagesix.com/2019/06/29/arnold-schwarzeneggers-kids-turn-their-backs-on-dads-love-child/amp/

There may be MORE love children from “ARNIE by ARNIE”!

Is this A MAN any woman can forgive?

Yet the revelation that he has fathered a love child barely scrapes the surface of the real Schwarzenegger — an immoral, arrogantly reckless man with a monstrous attitude to women and a propensity for having unprotected sex.

Actress Jane Seymour claimed this weekend that Schwarzenegger has two other secret love children. The 60-year-old told American TV station CNN that she was ‘not remotely surprised’ by news that he and his wife Maria have separated.

'His fondness for sadistic practical jokes, his delight in humiliating women and his belief that he is so physically blessed that the rules of normal morality don’t apply to him has been known to me since 1988'

‘He was obviously jumping the gun before everyone else told the world the news. And from what I gather there will be lots of information coming people’s way. I heard about two more children. I met someone who knows him well.’

KanwuliaExtra:
The pain lingers on. . . .THE WOMEN ALWAYS EXPRESS THEIR HURT more than the MEN.

That’s what I think about when considering leaving or staying. I dislike living in rancor and bitterness so if I say I’m going to stay, there’s has to be acceptance and it has to be from the depths of my heart.

How does that work out? Invite the kid for thanksgiving and Christmas? Big happy family? Make conversation with the other woman?
“So tell me Lisa, how did you meet my husband?”

Surreal

KanwuliaExtra:


This is the year of Vision-2020!
Like I stated earlier, this is not 2008-2018.
I only post when I am off from work
Depending on the time-zone difference, I will only post when little boys and girls like you are out CORONA-job-hunting or asleep!

I worked yesterday and had ZERO time for you and NL! Off the next 2 days and I don’t have the slightest desire to devote all my time “cyber-phocking” you on this thread or any other to cure your spiritual ED!

I have had enough of your needless banter.
Please, carry on with your so-called “jabs”. I have more to ruminate with on this thread. If you cannot desist from constituting a nuisance to yourself o all over NL, I can’t help you.

BYE!

VISION 2020? Inspired by the late General Abacha, are you? Huahahaha!

Alas! It's 5 months gone already in 2020 and it seems like it's the same sad old story --- your VISIONs are still a mirage. Nothing has changed much. Your confidence is still built around "having a job" and dwelling in a different time zone. That should have been the expectation from the first couple of years after you and your roaches-infested undies escaped poverty by migrating overseas after selling the last ancestral piece of land that should have been inherited amongst your 6 male siblings.

Your personal routine/job is of no relevance to anyone. It beats me how you're quick to divulge little personal details on the internet.

Between your brain and your cùnt, i can't tell which is softer.

Hathor5:


How anyone can reconcile the thought that the supposed "weaker vessel" and "more emotional gender" should be better at handling emotional pain and justify the exposure of the "weaker one" to hurt in the name of culture should be subject of scientific research. You can't say women are weaker and "more emotional" and then put all your effort to protect the stronger. It just does not make sense for the representatives of the "logical gender" to say so.

Other facts as "women are weaker vessels" or "emotional being" how doez it discredit the main fact that women handle pain better than men.
we are talking of creatures that bleed for seven days n still stay up,weaker vessel indeed ...how many men can stand menstra cramp not to talk of pains that comes with child birth.
The most powerful man can defend himself physically buh when love n emotion strikes he falls yakata, vice versa when it comes to women.
Therefore, a man needs protection from emotional strikes just as much as a woman need more protection from physical strikes,my opinion

cococandy:


That’s what I think about when considering leaving or staying. I dislike living in rancor and bitterness so if I say I’m going to stay, there’s has to be acceptance and it has to be from the depths of my heart.

How does that work out? Invite the kid for thanksgiving and Christmas? Big happy family? Make conversation with the other woman?
“So tell me Lisa, how did you meet my husband?”

Surreal

Dear CoCo!
You are too much. Wise beyond your years.
It looks like you are expressing exactly how I feel on this matter. I am YET to disagree with any of your input here and in NL.

Very realistic, LOGICAL and intellectually sound!

I am loving YOU and YOUR COMMENTS every moment and to eternity!

Kudos!

I am now a NL “Cococandy MINION”!

Means we are not weaker then

ericsmith:



Other facts as "women are weaker vessels" or "emotional being" how doez it discredit the main fact that women handle pain better than men.
we are talking of creatures that bleed for seven days n still stay up,weaker vessel indeed ...how many men can stand menstra cramp not to talk of pains that comes with child birth.
The most powerful man can defend himself physically buh when love n emotion strikes he falls yakata, vice versa when it comes to women.
Therefore, a man needs protection from emotional strikes just as much as a woman need more protection from physical strikes,my opinion

Why thank you!


Laughing at the minion part.

KanwuliaExtra:


Dear CoCo!
You are too much. Wise beyond your years.
It looks like you are expressing exactly how I feel on this matter. I am YET to disagree with any of your input here and in NL.

Very realistic, LOGICAL and intellectually sound!

I am loving YOU and YOUR COMMENTS every moment and to eternity!

Kudos!

I am now a NL “Cococandy MINION”!

cococandy:




Why thank you!


Laughing at the minion part.

Reaaaally! You always approach topics and conflict with a superior level of maturity, consideration and balance. Very refreshing on and offline. You are always welcome.❤️

Let’s take it a little further.

How will you handle this?
At what point do you call it QUITS with a chronic, sadistic philanderer who is a master of “skin-to-skin extramarital escapades?

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1389861/amp/Arnold-Schwarzenegger-love-child-Biographer-says-dark-truth-emerge.html?ico=amp_articleRelated

This extraordinary snapshot is the most startling illustration yet of the brazen manner in which Schwarzenegger betrayed his wife, Maria Shriver, who had no idea that the former governor had fathered the child during an affair that saw him and the housekeeper regularly making love in the marital bed.

After sleeping with her boss, Patty would even dress in Maria’s high-priced designer gowns, decorating the outfits with pieces from her employer’s cherished jewellery collection.

The revelation that Patty, a trusted housekeeper and friend to whom Maria confided her distress at Arnold’s philandering, not only made love to Schwarzenegger almost on a daily basis, but also gave birth to their son Joseph, now 13, has made headlines around the world. But as the former muscleman’s biographer, I am not in the least bit surprised.

ericsmith:



[s] Other facts as "women are weaker vessels" or "emotional being" how doez it discredit the main fact that women handle pain better than men.
we are talking of creatures that bleed for seven days n still stay up,weaker vessel indeed ...how many men can stand menstra cramp not to talk of pains that comes with child birth.
The most powerful man can defend himself physically buh when love n emotion strikes he falls yakata, vice versa when it comes to women.
Therefore, a man needs protection from emotional strikes just as much as a woman need more protection from physical strikes,my opinion [/s]

Stop using this myth to make yourselves feel better about doing the very same thing most of you admit you can't handle.

'Women handle pain better than men', what does that even mean? Are we inherently predisposed to handling emotional/mental pain more than men? How come this only applies when you want to justify cheating?

Women do not naturally feel any less hurt than a man would. They're just raised to accept it more.

The menstrual example is just...ridiculous lol

Just do your cheating and go, without all the mental gymnastics to justify it and make yourselves feel better

sisisioge:
Hmmmm...it will be strong o. No thank you!


Arnold's sin here is more than the original sin

1. Cheated on his wife.
2. With their maid right under his wife's nose
3. Forrrking her without protection thus exposing his wife to diseases.
4. Knocked them up at the same time
5. Had is illegitimate child under their roof without disclosure.
6. The maid too was a married woman while the affair lasted.

Na real wa o. No forgiving pls!

This life eh......

KanwuliaExtra:


Reaaaally! You always approach topics and conflict with a superior level of maturity, consideration and balance. Very refreshing on and offline. You are always welcome.❤️

Let’s take it a little further.

How will you handle this?

Thanks

This extraordinary snapshot is the most startling illustration yet of the brazen manner in which Schwarzenegger betrayed his wife, Maria Shriver, who had no idea that the former governor had fathered the child during an affair that saw him and the housekeeper regularly making love in the marital bed.

After sleeping with her boss, Patty would even dress in Maria’s high-priced designer gowns, decorating the outfits with pieces from her employer’s cherished jewellery collection.

The revelation that Patty, a trusted housekeeper and friend to whom Maria confided her distress at Arnold’s philandering, not only made love to Schwarzenegger almost on a daily basis, but also gave birth to their son Joseph, now 13, has made headlines around the world. But as the former muscleman’s biographer, I am not in the least bit surprised.

As for this bit,
I’m offended for her. Gosh.

Let me say first of all I never knew Arnold did this. Now that’s out of the way.

It wasn’t a one time thing.
He did it in their home.
He fathered a child with the lady.
He helped the lady disrespect his wife in addition to his own disrespect. Actually it was more like a mockery of her (if he’s letting her dress in the wife’s clothes).

I don’t blame her. With all these put together, I think I’d leave too.

ibkayee:

Stop using this myth to make yourselves feel better about doing the very same thing most of you admit you can't handle.

Women handle pain more than men', what does that even mean? Are we inherently predisposed to handling emotional/mental pain more than men? How come this only applies when you want to justify cheating?
Women do not naturally feel any less hurt than a man would. They're just raised to accept it more.

The menstrual example is just...ridiculous lol

Just do your cheating and go, without all the mental gymnastics to justify it and make yourselves feel better

And are way more expressive of their emotions.✔️

ibkayee:

No one can really know what they’d do in the moment unless they’re actually faced with the situation, true. What we did know however was that comments like yours were inevitable, you clearly came to antagonise so even if someone truly wouldn’t/didn’t accept a cheat, it wouldn’t matter. I’m not even necessarily looking for the comments to stop, it was just a funny observation (to me) and I genuinely was impressed lol

That's not the issue. Better women than you have faced such challenges and have accepted it as one of those things. What irritates the shit out of me is when singles talk about marriage. I've been there and I realise I was actually foolish talking about things I didn't understand.

KanwuliaExtra:



And are way more expressive of their emotions.✔️

I agree that women are more encouraged to be expressive with their emotions.

By the way, I had a typo, it should have been 'Women handle pain better than men', not 'more', just to clarify

Whenever they say women handle pain better, they're usually trying to say it stings women less 'naturally'. They're aware of the pain it can cause, but they use it to justify the impact on men vs women cheating.

First of all it can be argued that no matter how much we are raised to accept/process certain things, a natural emotional response oftentimes outweighs the 'logic' forced upon us, even if your feelings are masked..or 'rationalized' in your 'own way', you still feel it.

Secondly, not everyone is the same, so it's impractical to paint all women with this brush. Same way not all men that cheat do it solely because of physical desire, it can be emotional too, and vice versa for women. At the end of the day, it still hurts the same way, but they know this, it's all mental gymnastics

Gaggi:

That's not the issue. Better women than you have faced such challenges and have accepted it as one of those things. What irritates the shit out of me is when singles talk about marriage. I've been there and I realise I was actually foolish talking about things I didn't understand.

Lol you don't actually know any concrete information about me or most of the people here so you're working with assumptions at best.

Also, there are a lot of factors to consider when discussing marriage challenges and the way people deal with them, things are often situational/individual dependant and subjective so this is a pretty simplistic way of thinking. One of those things ko lol

ibkayee:

Lol you don't actually know any concrete information about me or most of the people here so you're working with assumptions at best.

Also, there are a lot of factors to consider when discussing marriage challenges and the way people deal with them, things are often situational and individual dependant, so this is a pretty simplistic way of thinking. One of those things ko lol

No need for the back and forth. If your husband does have a love child in future, come and share with us how you handled it.

Gaggi:

No need for the back and forth. If your husband does have a love child in future, come and share with us how you handled it.

No need. I've already acknowledged that no one can really know what they’d do in the moment unless they’re actually faced with the situation, but naturally your agenda could not help but divert past that part lol

postmann:


VISION 2020? Inspired by the late General Abacha, are you? Huahahaha!

Alas! It's 5 months gone already in 2020 and it seems like it's the same sad old story --- your VISIONs are still a mirage. Nothing has changed much. Your confidence is still built around "having a job" and dwelling in a different time zone. That should have been the expectation from the first couple of years after you and your roaches-infested undies escaped poverty by migrating overseas after selling the last ancestral piece of land that should have been inherited amongst your 6 male siblings.

Your personal routine/job is of no relevance to anyone. It beats me how you're quick to divulge little personal details on the internet.

Between your brain and your cùnt, i can't tell which is softer.

Ehn-heeehn? See obsession with this my “old cun.t” o! You even KNOW that it is SOFT too?
This MUST be COUGAR THE SCAMMER I swear!

ibkayee:

I agree that women are more encouraged to be expressive with their emotions.

By the way, I had a typo, it should have been 'Women handle pain better than men', not 'more', just to clarify

Whenever they say women handle pain better, they're usually trying to say it stings women less 'naturally'. They're aware of the pain it can cause, but they use it to justify the impact on men vs women cheating.

First of all it can be argued that no matter how much we are raised to accept/process certain things, a natural emotional response oftentimes outweighs the 'logic' forced upon us, even if your feelings are masked..or 'rationalized' in your 'own way', you still feel it.

Secondly, not everyone is the same, so it's impractical to paint all women with this brush. Same way not all men that cheat do it solely because of physical desire, it can be emotional too, and vice versa for women. At the end of the day, it still hurts the same way, but they know this, it's all mental gymnastics

There are brilliant gals on this NL sha!
I looooooove this.❤️

ibkayee:

Stop using this myth to make yourselves feel better about doing the very same thing most of you admit you can't handle.

'Women handle pain better than men', what does that even mean? Are we inherently predisposed to handling emotional/mental pain more than men? How come this only applies when you want to justify cheating?

Women do not naturally feel any less hurt than a man would. They're just raised to accept it more.

The menstrual example is just...ridiculous lol

Just do your cheating and go, without all the mental gymnastics to justify it and make yourselves feel better

since when did " facts & truth " need to have "meaning" you're just been emotional, it might as well sound awful to say women were predisposed to handle pain buh it doesnt discredit the fact that women were cursed with pain, try genesis.
I am surprise you did not notice the big picture "cheating" is a sub here, lets talk about who we are;
men & women feel the same pain from betrayal, infidelity or cheating buh we don't hurt d same way neither do we handle or heal the same way. I am not saying these to justify or promote cheating .. truth is just what it is
You are deliberately forgetting something, men cheat with women, which means for every one count for a man there is a corresponding count for a woman ... if men & women are to submit there whatsapp msgs lots of main boyfriends wil jus commit suicide an average naija gurl has main boyfriend, assistant bf, flings bf,unrelated uncles, sugar dad, even lecturer/boss @ the office join nairaland bf is null & void

ericsmith:



[s] since when did " facts & truth " need to have "meaning" you're just been emotional, it might as well sound awful to say women were predisposed to handle pain buh it doesnt discredit the fact that women were cursed with pain, try genesis.
I am surprise you did not notice the big picture "cheating" is a sub here, lets talk about who we are;
men & women feel the same pain from betrayal, infidelity or cheating buh we don't hurt d same way neither do we handle or heal the same way. I am not saying these to justify or promote cheating .. truth is just what it is
You are deliberately forgetting something, men cheat with women, which means for every one count for a man there is a corresponding count for a woman ... if men & women are to submit there whatsapp msgs lots of main boyfriends wil jus commit suicide an average naija gurl has main boyfriend, assistant bf, flings bf,unrelated uncles, sugar dad, even lecturer/boss @ the office join nairaland bf is null & void [/s]

You claimed that

‘a man needs protection from emotional strikes just as much as a woman need more protection from physical strikes’

This is you essentially saying that men are more emotionally vulnerable right?

And then in the same breath, you’ve said that they feel the same pain. So how exactly, is one more vulnerable than the other?

Hurting ‘differently’ is not necessarily hurting ‘better’ or being any less or more vulnerable.

Handling it ‘differently’ is not necessarily hurting ‘better’ or being any less or more vulnerable.

You also can't compare and just 'flip'over' the difference between genders experiencing physical pain and genders experiencing emotional pain, it is not that straightforward. Emotional pain is not as 'quantifiable' as physical pain, it is not based on the very tangible, physical differences between both genders, differences which are rooted in fact...and not someone's social construct on how they 'think' they should be.

No one is saying women don’t cheat, the difference is that there isn’t a trend of women claiming that men are somehow less hurt by their actions.

KanwuliaExtra:



Ehn-heeehn? See obsession with this my “old cun.t” o! You even KNOW that it is SOFT too?
This MUST be COUGAR THE SCAMMER I swear!

It's so difficult for you to honour your own "BYE" that you have responded twice to my posts afterwards. I'm afraid I must have strummed the 6 strings of your emotional guitar, leaving you breathless and incapable of self-honour.

COUGAR? Heard about him and how he smashed the hearts of you wanderlust-ful and wayward women in the family section .

I'll let you run free with the cùnt self-flattery.

KanwuliaExtra:
Case study:Joseph Beana.

This was the ULTIMATE BETRAYAL!

Kobojunki is back

ibkayee:


You claimed that


This is you essentially saying that men are more emotionally vulnerable right?

And then in the same breath, you’ve said that they feel the same pain. So how exactly, is one more vulnerable than the other?

Hurting ‘differently’ is not necessarily hurting ‘better’ or being any less or more vulnerable.

Handling it ‘differently’ is not necessarily hurting ‘better’ or being any less or more vulnerable.

You also can't compare and just 'flip'over' the difference between genders experiencing physical pain and genders experiencing emotional pain, it is not that straightforward. Emotional pain is not as 'quantifiable' as physical pain, it is not based on the very tangible, physical differences between both genders, differences which are rooted in fact...and not someone's social construct on how they 'think' they should be.

No one is saying women don’t cheat, the difference is that there isn’t a trend of women claiming that men are somehow less hurt by their actions.

Men are more vulnerable because men don't understand "emotion" when it cums to affair of the heart, women understands emotion & love which makes it easy for a 18yrs gurl to manipulate a grandpa of 60yrs, playing emotional cards men only understand power & respect.
Men & women feel pain buh we process cheat differently .. to women sex means nada, society is what makes women play hardrock its alway easier for a woman to 4giv a cheating man cos she value d "heart" buh it is hard for men 2 forgive cos women cheat with pvssy unfortunately men value pvssy .. so a cheating wife must go
I did not say women hurt less, my point remains women handle pain well & move on faster ... it justifies nothing tho.

KanwuliaExtra:


Why do married people cheat?
Your guess is as good as mine.

After a while your spouse becomes “un-sexxxxy”. Nothing sexxy about “agape-love” o! Let’s face it. After sleeping with one man or woman for MANY HOURS OR DAYS. . . . Not even for weeks, months, or years. . . . Na sexual frustration get am o. The love remains, but the sex na by force o. After seeing how your partner farts all over his or her sleep?

You forget these are not “religious” peeps, who have no power to control their extramarital urges.

Time to spice it up with some “sweet, ghetto love” with housekeepers and butlers!

You gat me laughing so loud, infact if your spouse does not fart careless around d house & you guys make a joke about it, there is no love.

postmann:


It's so difficult for you to honour your own "BYE" that you have responded twice to my posts afterwards. I'm afraid I must have strummed the 6 strings of your emotional guitar, leaving you breathless and incapable of self-honour.

COUGAR? Heard about him and how he smashed the hearts of you wanderlust-ful and wayward women in the family section .

I'll let you run free with the cùnt self-flattery.

You are just toooooo hilarious.
I can’t resist I swear!

BYE!

ericsmith:




You gat me laughing so loud, infact if your spouse does not fart careless around d house & you guys make a joke about it, there is no love.

Love is always there. But the “sexiness”? GONE! Extreme familiarity between couples brings them closer, but at the expense of romance.

1Sharon:


Kobojunki is back

Did he/she ever leave?

“You must fight me...”

“I know I am vibrating your cunt guitar saxophone intricately inadvertently krinkrun krankum”


When it is not that you are mad!