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EVILFOREST:
He really messed up.
How could he have brought in such a Lady..?
The MOMENT a lady starts showing such TRAITS in NIGERIA, Please and Please keep her in Nigeria...
Even if The Roman Catholic POPE tells you how transformed your partner is, please keep her there
Don't ever BRING such a WOMAN into the UNITED STATES.
People keep saying this.
They are not FOOLS.
The disgrace we get from them on daily basis is becoming unbecoming....
KEEP them in AFRICA and send cash across to them.
If they want to Phuck in Africa, let them Phuck there.
The MOMENT a Jezebel escapes into the United States you are Finished...

LinLinGentle:
Disclaimer: I AM NOT A SAINT AND MY WIFE IS NOT THE DEVIL. I HAVE JUST BEEN UNFORTUNATE TO BECOME A VICTIM OF MATRIARCHY WHICH MANY MEN SUFFER ABROAD...

I have been hustling abroad for a few years while wifey was working in Nigeria and living with children. Marriage has always been turbulent and we even almost got divorced after I travelled out. We somehow worked on our issues with the help of pastors, family and friends, and after a few years of ''roughing'' it abroad to pave way for them, I finally succeeded and my family arrived a few months ago.

I used to be hot tempered, but I have had enough time to gain insight into my inadequacies and reflect on them. I am now significantly calmer due to the determination to make my marriage better and as per ''abroad levels''. My wife on the other hand is fully taking advantage of me and the environment we find ourselves in. First thing she did on getting here was to cut of my entire family. She said she doesn't want to have anything to do with any of them anymore. She has also not been too keen to kickstart her career, as all she does is endless picture taking and editing for social media hyping. I know this might be due to the initial ''euphoria'' phase cos she is coming abroad to a big house, big car and having no limits on most things we used to manage back in Nigeria, and she thinks things are bread and butter. You would never think for a second that she is a married woman if you check her profiles on social media!

She has become even more toxic person than she ever was in Naija. Now very bossy, never backs down, always the attacker, ever ready for a fight, lazier, always on social media, communicates with me as little as possible, embarrasses me in the neighbourhood with the constant noises from our house, and finally her threats have now tripled! Madam is now so fierce that I have become the house chicken. Just within a few months of being here o! She tells me that she will show me for all the ''gra gra'' I used to do back in Nigeria. Friends advised me against bringing this woman here but I no wan hear word as per responsible family man wey I dey claim to be.

The popular threat is usually ''I will end your career''. I wasn't taking this too seriously initially, but she then started following through with the threats by constant calls to the police and other services, making spooky and baseless career ending accusations and allegations against me.

I have never been the one to first lay my hands on her, but I have spilled drinks on her before when she attacked me. My wife now gets very physical without having any element of self control, fear or restraint after the simplest argument and sometimes, she damages things out of anger. She does this so often and never hesitates to dare me to do my worst.

I discovered that she has signed up on dating sites and when I even caught her chatting about sex to a particular guy in our area, she said that it was all my fault. She did not apologise for this. She even referred to it one time after an argument that if I am convulsing like this over just a sex chat, she's waiting to see what I'd do when I see a man on top of her.

My productivity at work has declined significantly and I am now on the verge of depression. Neighbours called the police on us one time after a lot of noise from out house. She accused me of domestic violence. The police had to separate us and I was stuck at home for an extended period and could not go to work due to this. I am now being investigated for domestic violence, which is a serious crime as madam wants it and I have had to report the situation to my company! The whole thing is so messy that I am scared that I have not seen the worst yet.

I am so afraid of losing it all and returning to Nigeria broke cos I spent my last card and even racked credit card debt to bring them here hoping to pay off gradually. I still have a few years to get my citizenship and if I lose my job now, that is the end for all of us!

For now, I don't know what is going to happen to us, as this woman is so determined to cause great and irreparable damage that could ruin our lives, just to get back at me and she is being cheered on by her family and friends.

THE SITUATION IS SO MESSED UP!

UPDATE:

Divorce has now been filed. I also recently got lucky as I was able to secure a restraining order when she messed up again and hit me daring me to do my worst. I called the police and made a proper case and she was arrested. She has been banned from the house for a month. The police advised me to talk to my lawyer and extend indefinitely if I want to. I hope to get this done ASAP. The law here does not only protect women but also protects innocent men. All you need is patience and wisdom. Thank you all for your ideas. Still several hurdles to cross but I am on the winning side for now.

Spanishmilf:
They are both illegal, they can't travel back to Nigeria. If they do bye bye to Nigeria.
They are on visit visa not immigrants visa.

flyingdutchman:
Oga, SOME women, not all. I've been living overseas with my wife for a very long time now, I no get wahala. We are even more in love. When I was sick, na she dey work dey feed family and kids. Tenkiu.

Mcslize:
How can illegal person go back to Nigeria to bring the full family abroad? Say what you know.

Shinny1:
I understand everything you said but if you really want peace to reign in your home ask her for forgiveness...even for the things you don't know you did..most ladies are like that
Then make her understand that you most things available are yet to be paid for and that if you mistakenly are sent back to Nigeria that she with the children will suffer cos they have not mastered how things work over there...
Most importantly is prayer never relent in praying for your family and everything

LinLinGentle:
Divorce has been filed. I got lucky as I was able to secure a restraining order when she messed up again and hit me daring me to do my worst. I called the police and made a proper case and she was arrested. She has been banned from the house for a month. The police advised me to talk to my lawyer and extend indefinitely if I want to. I hope to get this done ASAP. The law here does not only protect women but also protects innocent men. All you need is patience and wisdom. Thank you all for your ideas. Still several hurdles to cross but I am on the winning side for now.

Spanishmilf:
asper visit visa no dey. Think twice

Mcslize:
You are lucky. We all pray to have good wives some days. This is a serious issue that requires God intervention. Getting that cool wife who is not there to destroy you is not a day job.

How did you meet your wife? Did you ask God for a good wife when you were looking for a partner or you simply met your wife by luck?

flyingdutchman:
Thanks.
Met my lady when I was extremely lonely and sad. Heard a sermon in church that said if I wanted a good wife, I should start becoming a good man. So, tried to make my ways right with God. And asked him for a friend and a wife.

Met her, she was not perfect. I helped build her up emotionally, psychologically- thought I was, didnt realized she was building me up in the process! We have been open with eachother ever since and fight our battles together with God in control.

Mcslize:
That's great. You are quite lucky. All we see these days are tyrants parading themselves as wives while still commiting adultery behind their men. Women no longer see adultery as anything these days. They can even chatting immorally online with naughty guys all with the excuse that they are looking for fun. A married woman looking for fun aside her husband. You can imagine that.

Whoever is lucky to have a well mannered, discipline and a caring wife like yours should treat her right.

LinLinGentle:
In your opinion, it takes only one person's actions and inactions to sustain a marriage

flyingdutchman:
Met her, she was not perfect. I helped build her up emotionally, psychologically- thought I was, didnt realized she was building me up in the process! We have been open with eachother ever since and fight our battles together with God in control.

Luckymama:
God bless you real good sir. Your kind of man is rare. At Oga OP with the Jezebel wife. Check yourself by yourself. Can you honestly say you treated your wife like this gentleman?

Instead of exercising genuine headship and leadership in the home by [/b] building your wife up emotionally and psychologically [b] you were busy doing gragra.

Thank God you have gotten rid of this Jezebel wife you have. When you marry the perfect abroad angel, please continue doing gragra with her Nigerian style. You will always get the result of what you sow.

Luckymama:
God bless you real good sir. Your kind of man is rare. At Oga OP with the Jezebel wife. Check yourself by yourself. Can you honestly say you treated your wife like this gentleman?

Instead of exercising genuine headship and leadership in the home by [/b] building your wife up emotionally and psychologically [b] you were busy doing gragra.

Thank God you have gotten rid of this Jezebel wife you have. When you marry the perfect abroad angel, please continue doing gragra with her Nigerian style. You will always get the result of what you sow.

Luckymama:
All marriages have a rocky start. There will definitely be issues and personality clashes. But when a man exercises self control and displays real leadership in the home, he earns the deep respect of his wife. A woman who deeply respects her husband is fiercely loyal.

But instead of earning respect, you men strut around demanding respect and doing things to your wife that you would never accept in a million years.

You know yourself that if she had dared to lift her hand against you in Nigeria, you would have panel beated her sotay her mother will not recognize her.

I am in no way justifying your wife’s actions, but they sound like the actions of a very bitter woman. All I am saying is something must have caused that bitterness. I don’t think any sane woman gets married in order to destroy a man’s life. Something(s) happen to make women become vindictive.

LinLinGentle:
Divorce has been filed. I got lucky as I was able to secure a restraining order when she messed up again and hit me daring me to do my worst. I called the police and made a proper case and she was arrested. She has been banned from the house for a month. The police advised me to talk to my lawyer and extend indefinitely if I want to. I hope to get this done ASAP. The law here does not only protect women but also protects innocent men. All you need is patience and wisdom. Thank you all for your ideas. Still several hurdles to cross but I am on the winning side for now.

myles16:
You're just going left and right, stay one place let us know which one you're doing, he already told you he didn't maltreat her, cause you can't do something doesn't mean another can't.... you've not seen pure evil women abi, did Adam do any bad thing to Eve before she went and collect the forbidden fruit from Satan?

LinLinGentle:
Again, in your opinion, you observed my marriage from the comfort of your keyboard and saw that I did not demonstrate self control and leadership. You are also quite sure that women never have bad attitude and whatever wrong they do could only be caused by men. Its always men, isn't it? Anyways your opinion is yours alone and only reflects your values.

Luckymama:
I am just quoting him. He said he was “doing gragra” in Nigeria. Wise people know that when listening to only one side of the story it’s likely to be half of the story.
Nobody here has heard his wife’s part of the story. I have asked repeatedly what he meant by “gragra” but nobody, not even him has explained it. Many women endure “gragra” because they have no choice. That does not mean they have no feelings or they’re happy with it.

Unfortunately his wife is the type that doesn’t forgive and has decided to repay him. It’s just too bad but it’s what it is. To all the men calling Nigerian women Jezebel and all what not, I repeat, when you marry the foreign “angels” just make sure you treat them exactly as you treat your Nigerian Jezebel. Then come to Nairaland and gist us your experience.

larryking540:
Nice one bro ,u did the needful ,that serves her right,,abeg don't forget to advise your other 9ja brothers trying to make such mistake of going to bring their woman to the state o,,,,u are not the first to make such a mistake and I pray u should be the last ,,,,,

I keep telling guys out 9ja don't ever make the mistake of bring your woman to Yankees,,,it's better you send her over for a visit, school way u want make she go ,make she go d school for 9ja ,make she day 9ja they look your business ...thank God for him fighting for you

Luckymama:
I am just quoting him. He said he was “doing gragra” in Nigeria. Wise people know that when listening to only one side of the story it’s likely to be half of the story.
Nobody here has heard his wife’s part of the story. I have asked repeatedly what he meant by “gragra” but nobody, not even him has explained it. Many women endure “gragra” because they have no choice. That does not mean they have no feelings or they’re happy with it.

Unfortunately his wife is the type that doesn’t forgive and has decided to repay him. It’s just too bad but it’s what it is. To all the men calling Nigerian women Jezebel and all what not, I repeat, when you marry the foreign “angels” just make sure you treat them exactly as you treat your Nigerian Jezebel. Then come to Nairaland and gist us your experience.

UKmigrant:
You're beginning to sound like a troll.

LinLinGentle:
Disclaimer: I AM NOT A SAINT AND MY WIFE IS NOT THE DEVIL. I HAVE JUST BEEN UNFORTUNATE TO BECOME A VICTIM OF MATRIARCHY WHICH MANY MEN SUFFER ABROAD...

I have been hustling abroad for a few years while wifey was working in Nigeria and living with children. Marriage has always been turbulent and we even almost got divorced after I travelled out. We somehow worked on our issues with the help of pastors, family and friends, and after a few years of ''roughing'' it abroad to pave way for them, I finally succeeded and my family arrived a few months ago.

I used to be hot tempered, but I have had enough time to gain insight into my inadequacies and reflect on them. I am now significantly calmer due to the determination to make my marriage better and as per ''abroad levels''. My wife on the other hand is fully taking advantage of me and the environment we find ourselves in. First thing she did on getting here was to cut of my entire family. She said she doesn't want to have anything to do with any of them anymore. She has also not been too keen to kickstart her career, as all she does is endless picture taking and editing for social media hyping. I know this might be due to the initial ''euphoria'' phase cos she is coming abroad to a big house, big car and having no limits on most things we used to manage back in Nigeria, and she thinks things are bread and butter. You would never think for a second that she is a married woman if you check her profiles on social media!

She has become even more toxic person than she ever was in Naija. Now very bossy, never backs down, always the attacker, ever ready for a fight, lazier, always on social media, communicates with me as little as possible, embarrasses me in the neighbourhood with the constant noises from our house, and finally her threats have now tripled! Madam is now so fierce that I have become the house chicken. Just within a few months of being here o! She tells me that she will show me for all the ''gra gra'' I used to do back in Nigeria. Friends advised me against bringing this woman here but I no wan hear word as per responsible family man wey I dey claim to be.

The popular threat is usually ''I will end your career''. I wasn't taking this too seriously initially, but she then started following through with the threats by constant calls to the police and other services, making spooky and baseless career ending accusations and allegations against me.

I have never been the one to first lay my hands on her, but I have spilled drinks on her before when she attacked me. My wife now gets very physical without having any element of self control, fear or restraint after the simplest argument and sometimes, she damages things out of anger. She does this so often and never hesitates to dare me to do my worst.

I discovered that she has signed up on dating sites and when I even caught her chatting about sex to a particular guy in our area, she said that it was all my fault. She did not apologise for this. She even referred to it one time after an argument that if I am convulsing like this over just a sex chat, she's waiting to see what I'd do when I see a man on top of her.

My productivity at work has declined significantly and I am now on the verge of depression. Neighbours called the police on us one time after a lot of noise from out house. She accused me of domestic violence. The police had to separate us and I was stuck at home for an extended period and could not go to work due to this. I am now being investigated for domestic violence, which is a serious crime as madam wants it and I have had to report the situation to my company! The whole thing is so messy that I am scared that I have not seen the worst yet.

I am so afraid of losing it all and returning to Nigeria broke cos I spent my last card and even racked credit card debt to bring them here hoping to pay off gradually. I still have a few years to get my citizenship and if I lose my job now, that is the end for all of us!

For now, I don't know what is going to happen to us, as this woman is so determined to cause great and irreparable damage that could ruin our lives, just to get back at me and she is being cheered on by her family and friends.

THE SITUATION IS SO MESSED UP!

UPDATE:

Divorce has now been filed. I also recently got lucky as I was able to secure a restraining order when she messed up again and hit me daring me to do my worst. I called the police and made a proper case and she was arrested. She has been banned from the house for a month. The police advised me to talk to my lawyer and extend indefinitely if I want to. I hope to get this done ASAP. The law here does not only protect women but also protects innocent men. All you need is patience and wisdom. Thank you all for your ideas. Still several hurdles to cross but I am on the winning side for now.

Mcslize:
Congratulation! One thing people don't know is that no one can change anyone if the person solely refused to change. She is not a wise woman. Permit me to use that expression. How can a woman who have already had children with a man not even have the thought of working things out with her man for the sake of the children rather her thought is to destroy the man? She believes she won't be affected.

Please, don't make the mistake of not extending that restrain. Talk to your lawyer and put an indefinitely restrain on her so she can't have access to you.

She is simply a typical foolish woman. No woman with sense will work against the father of her own children. She needs to be sent back to Nigeria if it is possible so she can go marry another man she will destroy.

LinLinGentle:
Disclaimer: I AM NOT A SAINT AND MY WIFE IS NOT THE DEVIL. I HAVE JUST BEEN UNFORTUNATE TO BECOME A VICTIM OF MATRIARCHY WHICH MANY MEN SUFFER ABROAD...

I have been hustling abroad for a few years while wifey was working in Nigeria and living with children. Marriage has always been turbulent and we even almost got divorced after I travelled out. We somehow worked on our issues with the help of pastors, family and friends, and after a few years of ''roughing'' it abroad to pave way for them, I finally succeeded and my family arrived a few months ago.

I used to be hot tempered, but I have had enough time to gain insight into my inadequacies and reflect on them. I am now significantly calmer due to the determination to make my marriage better and as per ''abroad levels''. My wife on the other hand is fully taking advantage of me and the environment we find ourselves in. First thing she did on getting here was to cut of my entire family. She said she doesn't want to have anything to do with any of them anymore. She has also not been too keen to kickstart her career, as all she does is endless picture taking and editing for social media hyping. I know this might be due to the initial ''euphoria'' phase cos she is coming abroad to a big house, big car and having no limits on most things we used to manage back in Nigeria, and she thinks things are bread and butter. You would never think for a second that she is a married woman if you check her profiles on social media!

She has become even more toxic person than she ever was in Naija. Now very bossy, never backs down, always the attacker, ever ready for a fight, lazier, always on social media, communicates with me as little as possible, embarrasses me in the neighbourhood with the constant noises from our house, and finally her threats have now tripled! Madam is now so fierce that I have become the house chicken. Just within a few months of being here o! She tells me that she will show me for all the ''gra gra'' I used to do back in Nigeria. Friends advised me against bringing this woman here but I no wan hear word as per responsible family man wey I dey claim to be.

The popular threat is usually ''I will end your career''. I wasn't taking this too seriously initially, but she then started following through with the threats by constant calls to the police and other services, making spooky and baseless career ending accusations and allegations against me.

I have never been the one to first lay my hands on her, but I have spilled drinks on her before when she attacked me. My wife now gets very physical without having any element of self control, fear or restraint after the simplest argument and sometimes, she damages things out of anger. She does this so often and never hesitates to dare me to do my worst.

I discovered that she has signed up on dating sites and when I even caught her chatting about sex to a particular guy in our area, she said that it was all my fault. She did not apologise for this. She even referred to it one time after an argument that if I am convulsing like this over just a sex chat, she's waiting to see what I'd do when I see a man on top of her.

My productivity at work has declined significantly and I am now on the verge of depression. Neighbours called the police on us one time after a lot of noise from out house. She accused me of domestic violence. The police had to separate us and I was stuck at home for an extended period and could not go to work due to this. I am now being investigated for domestic violence, which is a serious crime as madam wants it and I have had to report the situation to my company! The whole thing is so messy that I am scared that I have not seen the worst yet.

I am so afraid of losing it all and returning to Nigeria broke cos I spent my last card and even racked credit card debt to bring them here hoping to pay off gradually. I still have a few years to get my citizenship and if I lose my job now, that is the end for all of us!

For now, I don't know what is going to happen to us, as this woman is so determined to cause great and irreparable damage that could ruin our lives, just to get back at me and she is being cheered on by her family and friends.

THE SITUATION IS SO MESSED UP!

UPDATE:

Divorce has now been filed. I also recently got lucky as I was able to secure a restraining order when she messed up again and hit me daring me to do my worst. I called the police and made a proper case and she was arrested. She has been banned from the house for a month. The police advised me to talk to my lawyer and extend indefinitely if I want to. I hope to get this done ASAP. The law here does not only protect women but also protects innocent men. All you need is patience and wisdom. Thank you all for your ideas. Still several hurdles to cross but I am on the winning side for now.

etrange:
Saying 'I am not a saint. I was hot tempered but I have changed' is you first trying to put yourself in a good light before the audience. You then went ahead to spend time describing your wife as complete devil. And then I wonder what the point of creating this thread is. You want us to help you call your wife names and encourage you to do the things you want to do anyway? You're the one telling the story; of course, she'll be the villain/protagonist in it.

Lol... I smell fake story biko. A man, even though a loggerheads with his wife, won't come online to write such a long epistle without any reminiscence of good old times. You can't tell me you married a witch from the onset.

Ok... you've gotten us to comment. Lol