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Re: My Dead Uncle's Wife Needs Children From Me by Burgerlomo: 8:56pm On May 22, 2020
Modesthy:
I had a good uncle who passed away three years ago. His wife morned him for one year. I lived with that my uncle until I got married and parked to my own house.

I use to visit the house sometimes. After the mourning, his wife called me and told me that I should give her more children. She has only one male child. I refused. But She said I should do it for her because she doesn't want children outside the family because she loved my uncle and our family and that she can't continue to stay with only one child.

I'm completely confused. First I'm married doing that is infidelity, sencondly, the uncle was like a father to me before his death. And I see it as a big sin.

Please somebody should help me, what do I do here? How do I handle this issue? Thanks for your candid advice.

Re: My Dead Uncle's Wife Needs Children From Me by ArcSEMPECJ(m): 8:56pm On May 22, 2020
I pity the lady anyway, she needs care or missing some touches, approaching the nephew seems to her easy than requesting to remarry but whichever way, the lady is wrong, .but handle her with care anyway
Re: My Dead Uncle's Wife Needs Children From Me by Elsaluus14(m): 8:56pm On May 22, 2020
NockMedia:
Please DON'T.
Even if she requests for your sperm without you having to sleep with her... never give in to her demand because it is morally wrong and it can cause chaos in the near future amongst yourselves, especially with your nuclear family.
Have you informed your wife about her ungodly demand?
indeed
Re: My Dead Uncle's Wife Needs Children From Me by Judolisco(m): 8:56pm On May 22, 2020
If you don't call family meeting on her head ASAP, she'll tell family members u made advances at her
Re: My Dead Uncle's Wife Needs Children From Me by Nobody: 8:57pm On May 22, 2020
promotervickky:
I have been noticing some activities here, most post that has been hitting front page are from accounts that has been opened within the week, last two days or today.

This one was opened today

Seun

Oga don't let me deceive you, these post are paid for before they get to the front page. Anyone who wants to argue should do that with his/her keypads

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Re: My Dead Uncle's Wife Needs Children From Me by Nobody: 8:57pm On May 22, 2020
clintz:
In the Bible book of genesis 38 God kill Onan for refusing to impregnate his late brothers wife. Nigerian Christians and hypocrisy we select only what we think is right in the Bible.


Bros I beg you don't interpret the Bible upside-down


Genesis 38:9 KJV
And Onan knew that the seed should not be his; and it came to pass, when he went in unto his brother's wife, that he spilled it on the ground, lest that he should give seed to his brother.


Onan was spilling the seed on the ground and that was why God killed him.

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Re: My Dead Uncle's Wife Needs Children From Me by rolams(m): 8:58pm On May 22, 2020
Modesthy:
I had a good uncle who passed away three years ago. His wife morned him for one year. I lived with that my uncle until I got married and parked to my own house.

I use to visit the house sometimes. After the mourning, his wife called me and told me that I should give her more children. She has only one male child. I refused. But She said I should do it for her because she doesn't want children outside the family because she loved my uncle and our family and that she can't continue to stay with only one child.

I'm completely confused. First I'm married doing that is infidelity, sencondly, the uncle was like a father to me before his death. And I see it as a big sin.

Please somebody should help me, what do I do here? How do I handle this issue? Thanks for your candid advice.

That is 'opo ṣiṣu' in yoruba language nothing is wrong with it if you like her. The family will legally marry her for you.

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Re: My Dead Uncle's Wife Needs Children From Me by Macphenson: 8:58pm On May 22, 2020
clintz:
In the Bible book of genesis 38 God kill Onan for refusing to impregnate his late brothers wife. Nigerian Christians and hypocrisy we select only what we think is right in the Bible.

Stop passing wrong information, Onan was killed because after having sex with the brother's wife, he refused to ejaculate inside her, pouring the semen outside.

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Re: My Dead Uncle's Wife Needs Children From Me by GuestLog: 8:58pm On May 22, 2020
Lionessza6:
Don't complicate your life,respect your wife & your marriage, and you shall have peace of mind. What she is suggesting does happen in some cultures, but the woman usually talks to the elders 1st,and they are the ones that will recommend her the right* sperm donor in the family. What she is doing is creepy,sneaky and suspicious. One is left to think she was lusting over you all this while,& your uncle was a deterrent cry. Maybe she wants a younger man to awaken her senses wink,and her need for another child is just an excuse to lure you into her web of deceit. Becareful with such people.
Flesh and blood did not reveal this to you!

I concor 100%.

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Re: My Dead Uncle's Wife Needs Children From Me by ariefadenco: 8:59pm On May 22, 2020
Modesthy:
I had a good uncle who passed away three years ago. His wife morned him for one year. I lived with that my uncle until I got married and parked to my own house.

I use to visit the house sometimes. After the mourning, his wife called me and told me that I should give her more children. She has only one male child. I refused. But She said I should do it for her because she doesn't want children outside the family because she loved my uncle and our family and that she can't continue to stay with only one child.

I'm completely confused. First I'm married doing that is infidelity, sencondly, the uncle was like a father to me before his death. And I see it as a big sin.

Please somebody should help me, what do I do here? How do I handle this issue? Thanks for your candid advice.

All those people saying dont do are not true Africans. O.P it really depend on your custom. In my custom and mostly in many traditional African Societies, when a husband is deceased one of the brother inherits the wife.

Traditionally, I do not think there is anything wrong with yoi inheriting your brothers wife and continue doing so for your brothet or uncle

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Re: My Dead Uncle's Wife Needs Children From Me by stormborn28(m): 8:59pm On May 22, 2020
Lionessza6:
Don't complicate your life,respect your wife & your marriage, and you shall have peace of mind. What she is suggesting does happen in some cultures, but the woman usually talks to the elders 1st,and they are the ones that will recommend her the right* sperm donor in the family. What she is doing is creepy,sneaky and suspicious. One is left to think she was lusting over you all this while,& your uncle was a deterrent cry. Maybe she wants a younger man to awaken her senses wink,and her need for another child is just an excuse to lure you into her web of deceit. Becareful with such people.
hmmmmmm..."may be she wants a younger man to awaken her senses "
Re: My Dead Uncle's Wife Needs Children From Me by MrBrownJay1(m): 8:59pm On May 22, 2020
Modesthy:
I had a good uncle who passed away three years ago. His wife morned him for one year. I lived with that my uncle until I got married and parked to my own house.

I use to visit the house sometimes. After the mourning, his wife called me and told me that I should give her more children. She has only one male child. I refused. But She said I should do it for her because she doesn't want children outside the family because she loved my uncle and our family and that she can't continue to stay with only one child.

I'm completely confused. First I'm married doing that is infidelity, sencondly, the uncle was like a father to me before his death. And I see it as a big sin.

Please somebody should help me, what do I do here? How do I handle this issue? Thanks for your candid advice.

the fact that you even ask what you should do, is the funny bits here... so you are even contemplating this nonsense?! if you want to know what to do, GO ASK YOUR WIFE

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Re: My Dead Uncle's Wife Needs Children From Me by Damseldammie(f): 8:59pm On May 22, 2020
Pls don't try it, let her marry someone else out there if truly she needs more kids

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Re: My Dead Uncle's Wife Needs Children From Me by Ningen(m): 9:00pm On May 22, 2020
scoundrel:
Creative writer of the week.


Really? cheesy
Lol. I've read better “scripts” this week.
Re: My Dead Uncle's Wife Needs Children From Me by ibkayee(f): 9:00pm On May 22, 2020
Disturbing

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Re: My Dead Uncle's Wife Needs Children From Me by Elsaluus14(m): 9:00pm On May 22, 2020
Say no, its ok, oya said it, I say said it, what are you waiting
Re: My Dead Uncle's Wife Needs Children From Me by nwadiuko1(m): 9:00pm On May 22, 2020
seeek counsel from elderly people
Re: My Dead Uncle's Wife Needs Children From Me by olokolekan: 9:01pm On May 22, 2020
You dont need to worry or get confused,
Dont Do it....

i dont think the family should hold her for getting re-marry,,,, tell her she ll found love from someone else....

and if she persist Call the Family attention to this,,,,

and talk to your wife about this, if she does not mind it....

My Brother whatever your wife say follow
Re: My Dead Uncle's Wife Needs Children From Me by GerogeI(m): 9:02pm On May 22, 2020
mamaafrik:
It will end in tears,satani don enter that woman,flee.






I sell foreign( long grain) #25000,#24000(short grain),#21000(local) Naira per bag(50kg) .(discount if you are buying more than 20bags.

Pork at 1,500 per kilogram.

High quality Benin republic palm oil at 35,000 Naira per drum(212litres) .
If you are interested(serious buyers only) reach me on 08137297425.
We can help you deliver at an affordable price within lagos and environment.

.

Foreign is inferrior to our local rice. We do not want.
You will leave all the palms in Nigeria, and go to Benin to buy palm oil. Am sure you have
Cousin, nieces and nephews that are unemployed. Remember to tell them how you are part of the problem.

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Re: My Dead Uncle's Wife Needs Children From Me by PoliticallyInco: 9:02pm On May 22, 2020
Modesthy:
I had a good uncle who passed away three years ago. His wife morned him for one year. I lived with that my uncle until I got married and parked to my own house.

I use to visit the house sometimes. After the mourning, his wife called me and told me that I should give her more children. She has only one male child. I refused. But She said I should do it for her because she doesn't want children outside the family because she loved my uncle and our family and that she can't continue to stay with only one child.

I'm completely confused. First I'm married doing that is infidelity, sencondly, the uncle was like a father to me before his death. And I see it as a big sin.

Please somebody should help me, what do I do here? How do I handle this issue? Thanks for your candid advice.


If you don't want to do it, simply don't.


If you cannot stand the emotional issues and societal backlash that comes with it. Then don't.
The only thing there could be the excitement.

But if to you, it is wrong and repulsive. Then don't do it. Flee from it. Don't get into what will give you emotional and psychological stress and guilt.

Tell her you can't. Better still. Don't see her face to face to avoid temptation.


Men too disturb the spouses of their late brothers or uncles. Happens both ways. Many times the men even disturb the widows more than the women disturb then widowers.

If you don't like it. Don't do it. It isn't something to be confused about.

If it I am in your shoes and I think I like her and find her sexually attractive and feel I can bare whatever outcome arises from such a union, I'll do it and enjoy it.

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Re: My Dead Uncle's Wife Needs Children From Me by Nobody: 9:03pm On May 22, 2020
Run o, she is in love with you and wants to sleep with you.
Re: My Dead Uncle's Wife Needs Children From Me by Benferdy(m): 9:03pm On May 22, 2020
Mutemenot:
This is a traditional issue, too many young men and women here 're advising you without considering the motive behind this. Remove this thread, better meet 1 or 2 elderly men probably from a far, who doesn't know you but shares the same culture with you. Seek their words!

Nice talk: surely, you have spoken the words of the gods

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Re: My Dead Uncle's Wife Needs Children From Me by NaijadrivaCars: 9:03pm On May 22, 2020
clintz:
In the Bible book of genesis 38 God kill Onan for refusing to impregnate his late brothers wife. Nigerian Christians and hypocrisy we select only what we think is right in the Bible.

This is because ONAN SLEPT (had sex) with the widow of his brother but didn't release his seed in HER. That was selfishness and wickedness. If Onan didn't agree to sleep with her nko
Re: My Dead Uncle's Wife Needs Children From Me by Nobody: 9:03pm On May 22, 2020
simple250:
Are you the only male in your family? Advice her to re marry,but try and support her .. after all the media drama Stella Damascus is still married to her new hubby . smiley
What did Stella Damascus do?

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Re: My Dead Uncle's Wife Needs Children From Me by SavageResponse(m): 9:04pm On May 22, 2020
Her request is understandable...
Re: My Dead Uncle's Wife Needs Children From Me by toprealman: 9:05pm On May 22, 2020
Incomplete story
Re: My Dead Uncle's Wife Needs Children From Me by Nobody: 9:05pm On May 22, 2020
I know how this community thinks. They are all hypocrite.

Oga, see advice from your wife and parents. I like that woman. She is morally sound. Follow your kinsmen advice. Just your wife and your parents o.

Follow whatever they say.

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Re: My Dead Uncle's Wife Needs Children From Me by hollywater: 9:06pm On May 22, 2020
mamaafrik:
It will end in tears,satani don enter that woman,flee.






I sell foreign( long grain) #25000,#24000(short grain),#21000(local) Naira per bag(50kg) .(discount if you are buying more than 20bags.

Pork at 1,500 per kilogram.

High quality Benin republic palm oil at 35,000 Naira per drum(212litres) .
If you are interested(serious buyers only) reach me on 08137297425.
We can help you deliver at an affordable price within lagos and environment.

Aren't You ashamed? Selling a Benin Republic oil in Nigeria? You are disgusting.

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Re: My Dead Uncle's Wife Needs Children From Me by Fredoallan: 9:06pm On May 22, 2020
Bringing your problem to NL is like telling aboki to teach you how to prepare oatmeal�� . Seek advice from matured people not from all des jobless kids here

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Re: My Dead Uncle's Wife Needs Children From Me by Giftedgabi: 9:07pm On May 22, 2020
My brother, you will be breaking your marriage vow if you dare to sleep with uncle's wife and that will be the beginning of your sorrow.
Also, conscience has already condemned you know that God HIMSELF hates it for it is not legal. The Bible said you should remain and enjoy the wife of your youth and to drink from your own vessel (Poverbs 5:15 - 20). Please don't destroy yourself through the subtle enticement of satan. The woman is a widow and has the right to remarry so my dear don't into that trap.

DON'T sell your destiny nor exchange it for sexual pleasure because when you will realize it will too late and your life, soul and earthly peace would have been gone. Be wise

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Re: My Dead Uncle's Wife Needs Children From Me by SyndyB(m): 9:07pm On May 22, 2020
Why are you disturbing us when you already know its infidelity, are you looking for who will
ginger you to do the wrong thing? Nawa for you ooo. If you need advice then go and meet your wife at home. All I see is someone who had made-up his mind to live wrong then he goes around looking for who will tap him on the back and say "ride on".

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Re: My Dead Uncle's Wife Needs Children From Me by stagger: 9:09pm On May 22, 2020
Modesthy:
I had a good uncle who passed away three years ago. His wife morned him for one year. I lived with that my uncle until I got married and parked to my own house.

I use to visit the house sometimes. After the mourning, his wife called me and told me that I should give her more children. She has only one male child. I refused. But She said I should do it for her because she doesn't want children outside the family because she loved my uncle and our family and that she can't continue to stay with only one child.

I'm completely confused. First I'm married doing that is infidelity, sencondly, the uncle was like a father to me before his death. And I see it as a big sin.

Please somebody should help me, what do I do here? How do I handle this issue? Thanks for your candid advice.

Adam decided to listen to the voice of Eve rather than the strict commandment God gave him. The rest is history.

You already know what infidelity is. You know what constitutes sin. You know what betrayal of marriage vows you made to your wife is.

But here you are, giving ear to the emotional speech of a lonely woman against all you know to be the right thing. You can decide to dig your pit and jump in. I will not be there to bring you out. That's for sure.

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