hopefulLandlord:

This parenting style would most likely not work on your children as they may know you wouldn't carry out the threat. that's where everything starts falling like a pack of cards.

Are you sure you understood what I wrote here before quoting that portion?

My mum wasn't threatening us. She only scared us by saying the men will tear our private parts not she.

It will work on my children because I grew up in this century therefore i know what's up and would know how to handle them accordingly by the grace of God.

GrammarNazi1:
...have run...

Run, come etc are a problem for people.

Internet and Social media is part of the causes

jakD:


Go and study these two words thoroughly.

THEY and THERE

You really need to.

THERE should have been used in your sentence instead of THEY in both paragraphs.

THEY is a pronoun used instead of noun.

Rich4god:
To me, a chunk of the blame goes to religious organizations another goes to social media exposure.

These days, in a bid to garner members and make more money, pastors/priest hardly preach against sexual immoralities. Church members involve in sex openly these days, funny thing is, even head of groups in churches are fully aware, but no one condemns it.

Then on the other hand, exposure to internet have given young people information that they won't be privy to at that young age. This info have exposed and corrupted their mind right from an early age.

These days, if you are above 25 and you are still a virgin, people look at you awkwardly as if you are not a human being.

I still advocate for people to remain a virgin till marriage.

Devil virgin advocate, wa sere!

Fabulouzjoseph:
intresting i wish you could clarify me on this.

Its basically the idea that knowing more does not make people better. That we are becoming worse people in spite of knowledge and that what is needed is not so much more knowledge than a rethink of our social structures do that it is in peoples interests to do what is just and fair. There is a good book on the subject which I have attached here as an image.

Take the US in spite of the tech advantages it has, is it a fairer society than it was 100 years ago? Racism may have moved from public lynching to an institutional one that ensures that more blacks die of covid 19

We need to review the nature of relationship rather than the sole pursuit of knowledge and technological advance. I subscribe to the idea that knowledge does not only bring good but it increases the scale and visibility of evil. Building a just society means knowing how to create interdependence not individualism.

But let me stop, I am rabbiting on..

Eulalia:


Are you sure you understood what I wrote here before quoting that portion?

My mum wasn't threatening us. She only scared us by saying the men will tear our private parts not she.

It will work on my children because I grew up in this century therefore i know what's up and would know how to handle them accordingly by the grace of God.

Fair enough I misread it as her tearing your vag but even if we go by him tearing it, all it'd take is peer pressure and she'd discover many of her mates are doing it with no "tear". this could backfire. I just feel that style of parenting worked because you lacked access to information that can counter it in your time. these information are accessible to adolescents and teenagers of today. I was told when I knew nothing that licking salts would cut my tongue. one day out of angered rebellion I licked a large amount of salt, while the result wasn't pleasurable in any way, my tongue refused to fall off. this led to me experimenting against the other "myths" like whistling when the sun is hot to see if a snake would suddenly appear. These myths fast tracked my becoming an atheist as I extended the questioning of their truth to religion and god. if they discover you're scaring them with lies they'd start questioning the other things you're telling them which could lead to loss of control over them.

BreconHills:


Its basically the idea that knowing more does not make people better. That we are becoming worse people in spite of knowledge and that what is needed is not so much more knowledge than a rethink of our social structures do that it is in peoples interests to do what is just and fair. There is a good book on the subject which I have attached here as an image.

Take the US in spite of the tech advantages it has, is it a fairer society than it was 100 years ago? Racism may have moved from public lynching to an institutional one that ensures that more blacks die of covid 19

We need to review the nature of relationship rather than the sole pursuit of knowledge and technological advance. I subscribe to the idea that knowledge does not only bring good but it increases the scale and visibility of evil. Building a just society means knowing how to create interdependence not individualism.

But let me stop, I am rabbiting on..

Amazing

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xendra:
parent of those days caused it, they wanted to preach decency to children but they couldn't be decent themselves to set example

And they were educating a girl child about sex they refused to scold the Male child. ignoring the fact that it takes 2 to tango and the Male child should have got more education because he has the upper hand.

Parents failed. Now?
If the foundation be destroyed what can anyone do?

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hopefulLandlord:


Fair enough I misread it as her tearing your vag but even if we go by him tearing it, all it'd take is peer pressure and she'd discover many of her mates are doing it with no "tear". this could backfire. I just feel that style of parenting worked because you lacked access to information that can counter it in your time. these information are accessible to adolescents and teenagers of today. I was told when I knew nothing that licking salts would cut my tongue. one day out of angered rebellion I licked a large amount of salt, while the result wasn't pleasurable in any way, my tongue refused to fall off. this led to me experimenting against the other "myths" like whistling when the sun is hot to see if a snake would suddenly appear. These myths fast tracked my becoming an atheist as I extended the questioning of their truth to religion and god. if they discover you're scaring them with lies they'd start questioning the other things you're telling them which could lead to loss of control over them.

Misleading them with lies? What lies? Is it not true that if a man touches a girl childs private part it will tear? Haven't you read cases of such in recent times? For your info, during my time (growing up) I was exposed to all sorts of info ranging from sex, romance, adventure and what have you but because of what has been instilled in me, I didn't let those things derail me. Do you remember the "mummy and daddy" game children used to play those days? I knew it was bad/wrong so I never joined those children whenever we are acting a drama. I'll rather chose to be "Cynthia" the daughter fetching water cos I couldn't lie under the wrapper /cover with those small bad boys of my age then. Why? Mum has taught me the right way and for me it was always fear even up till now, I still can't invite a guy to my house. Never!

Another thing I observed is, if a parent is not spoilt or wayward, theres no way the children will be wayward. Its Mostly children of wayward parents that are always wayward.
So i don't see my children going wayward because its not in my genes. Reasons one has to be careful the spouse they chose in life. Because children exibit 80% traits of their parents behavior.

Bacteriologist:
Whatever happened in the past should stay there. So does sex automatically and suddenly become something sacred and accepted because of marriage (which is merely a certificate with two names and signature and few people invited to a feast)?,

The idea of premarital sex was to reduce the rate of unwanted pregnancies and to guilt trip people into getting married before having sex. Unwanted pregnancies can be abolished by using contraceptives and adequate sexual education. And marriage in all sincerity has outlived it's usefulness.

So "premarital sex" doesn't have command much fear as it used to. And this may not change soon. Sorry.

What makes a body lifeless? Why is a man certified dead, what happened? If you know the answer, then you know why certain things are kept for its time.

Calabar1stSon:
Back in those days, parents would always advised their female daughters that talking to boy who get them pregnant.

Infact religious organizations preach against it even more but you find many of their members involved in the act.

Do you know even at 18 I still thought that kissing a girl would get her pregnant?

What went wrong with the society of today? Why is Pre-marital sex a norm in the society today?

its majorly because we're distancing ourselves from our morals and religion guidelines, we deem it normal nowadays to Bleep girls around but we don't want our sisters, daughters and relatives to be bleeped around. Average person now sleeps with six different partners b4 settling down, the worst is that very few don't fornicate even after marriage. Perhaps we need our religious guidelines.

Bacteriologist:
Whatever happened in the past should stay there. So does sex automatically and suddenly become something sacred and accepted because of marriage (which is merely a certificate with two names and signature and few people invited to a feast)?,

The idea of premarital sex was to reduce the rate of unwanted pregnancies and to guilt trip people into getting married before having sex. Unwanted pregnancies can be abolished by using contraceptives and adequate sexual education. And marriage in all sincerity has outlived it's usefulness.

So "premarital sex" doesn't have command much fear as it used to. And this may not change soon. Sorry.

Remember that you shall be judged by every idle word you speak. Matthew 12 :36

Kobojunkie:

Wiser? According to a report I read not too long ago, wisdom is something we have not gotten more of in the last 150 years. People aren't wiser..

lol. When fornication is the new wisdom. We're doomed!

Calabar1stSon:
Back in those days, parents would always advised their female daughters that talking to boy who get them pregnant.

Infact religious organizations preach against it even more but you find many of their members involved in the act.

Do you know even at 18 I still thought that kissing a girl would get her pregnant?

What went wrong with the society of today? Why is Pre-marital sex a norm in the society today?

The truth is dat family value doesn't longer matter again. And d religion leaders (christian & muslim) are making things worst. Do u knw that even as a guy of about 30 years, i am still a virgin.

Anyways am just here to motivate you all T G I S

lailo:
watch ur comments on this topic bcs Jesus is on this platform and whatever u say will stand against u on the judgement day.#nosayinowarnu

Jesus is on this forum? How?

Another instance... Technology

KelejoS:


Then YAH should give power to the so called religious leaders.
Or does God love the immorality going?

YAH did not create religion. Satan did. When we opened ourselves to the various religions, we opened ourselves to all forms of abominations, including including the worship of the Sungod.

YAH called Israel as a nation to he Holy and separate unto him and he gave them commandments to keep. Dassol.

MajorOvakporaye:


na weak man u be
legbere like u!

Tell yaa you women are one complex human being. The man acted as a gentleman and you call the man names.

Omo everybody gat opinions like asshole. For me i must teaste my package to avoid cheating & stories that touch

The answer is that our sense of morality has been decaying over the years. But anyone who is born again knows that premarital sex is not normal; it is a sin against God.

For those who say that premarital sex is okay because of civilization, my answer to them is that civilization is not the same thing as promiscuity.

kikero:


1.It was always there mind you. People did not talk much about it back then, but it was there.

2.Delay in getting married and long life. In the good old days, a child went straight to adulthood. Nothing like adolescence (even in Europe up to the 1950's children left school between 14-16 and started working. University was for the very intelligent minority, and was not a must). And also, a while ago, you could be dead by the time you were 50. So, you got married when a teenager, and libido was satisfied.

3.Until the 1950's in my opinion, most Nigerians lived in small villages. Everyone knew everyone's business. You sleep around, you got easily shamed. Now, many of us live in urban areas. You sleep around, no one is going to come and shame you. For what? Do your aged parents living in the village know what you are up to every day??

This view is correct but we have ourselves to blame. A lady should be married at 20 and a man at 25, latest. But bad economy and values emanating from ignorance that we promote don't help.

Even with all development we have around today, I don't think we are happier than our ancestors were.

Pre marital sex means NO FEAR OF GOD

infogenius:
Let me answer the op here.

1.The truth is that Iniquity abounds.

2. The fear of God is far from men.
3. Technology and the media have escalated it.
4. Poverty and poor parenting
5. Internet (free porn sites to view)
Just to mention a few

Well said.

Calabar1stSon:
Back in those days, parents would always advised their female daughters that talking to boy who get them pregnant.

Infact religious organizations preach against it even more but you find many of their members involved in the act.

Do you know even at 18 I still thought that kissing a girl would get her pregnant?

What went wrong with the society of today? Why is Pre-marital sex a norm in the society today?

cos marriage is not natural

The truth remains that no matter how the world packages premarital sex or trivialize it, noteworthy still it is that the standard of the Most High God remains UNCHANGED! His standard will not bend for no one. The earlier the world realizes this the better. Wrong will always be wrong! Irrespective of time and technology

Eulalia:


Misleading them with lies? What lies? Is it not true that if a man touches a girl childs private part it will tear? Haven't you read cases of such in recent times? For your info, during my time (growing up) I was exposed to all sorts of info ranging from sex, romance, adventure and what have you but because of what has been instilled in me, I didn't let those things derail me. Do you remember the "mummy and daddy" game children used to play those days? I knew it was bad/wrong so I never joined those children whenever we are acting a drama. I'll rather chose to be "Cynthia" the daughter fetching water cos I couldn't lie under the wrapper /cover with those small bad boys of my age then. Why? Mum has taught me the right way and for me it was always fear even up till now, I still can't invite a guy to my house. Never!

Another thing I observed is, if a parent is not spoilt or wayward, theres no way the children will be wayward. Its Mostly children of wayward parents that are always wayward.
So i don't see my children going wayward because its not in my genes. Reasons one has to be careful the spouse they chose in life. Because children exibit 80% traits of their parents behavior.

interesting. Who were the parents of the first wayward parent then?

...even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient.

Premarital sex is rampant because that is what the society celebrates.

Parents now ask a girl of 16 years to introduce her boyfriend to them.

But the word of God says, though hand join in hand, the sinner shall not go unpunished.

For the unmarried reading this, the word of God says thou shall not follow a multitude to do evil.

Have your own conviction and do not live by other immature youth's conviction.

Fabulouzjoseph:
The world has changed.

So don't expect things to remain thesame. Kids are now smarter and there is easy access to information.

There is also contraceptive and birth control which is easily available so you can have sex without getting pregnant.

so were they preaching against it to avoid pregnancy or to keep the bed holy before marriage?

Benprass:
so were they preaching against it to avoid pregnancy or to keep the bed holy before marriage?

It was just to avoid unwanted pregnancy and illegitimate children.

Calabar1stSon:
Back in those days, parents would always advised their female daughters that talking to boy who get them pregnant.

Infact religious organizations preach against it even more but you find many of their members involved in the act.

Do you know even at 18 I still thought that kissing a girl would get her pregnant?

What went wrong with the society of today? Why is Pre-marital sex a norm in the society today?

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